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Apparently im not a swinger
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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1st i wouldnt know iv only tried the tradition sence once
But is that a bad thing i like sex best if i have some kind of spark with the woman or is it just sex and matters not. I dont want a relationship been there done that and like fucking different women
But is not being a swinger a bad thing even what is a swinger
Does anyone have the answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's many definitions of what a swinger is. You fit some of the definitions OP.
Some elitist Swingers look down on non-swingers and see them as bad or lesser beings.
Some swingers are lovely people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t feel like a swinger as a single, it’s very different to playing as a swinging couple. It’s just casual one on one sex."
But not all singles on the site just have one to one sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure it really matters does it? So long as everyone is enjoying themselves?
I think the term came originally from the US to describe 'wife-swapping' so was about couples exchanging sex.
But times have moved on and society is much more diverse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldnt say many on here are true swingers.. im not, im here for the forums and social side, ill go to clubs... as a social. And agree sex without a connection is empty for me no matter how gorgeous she is and this is somthing ive come to realise after a fair few meets on here. I have a fwb (not met on here) and sex just gets better and better, we are soul mates.
names/badges/ labels.... f#ck them its all about everyone having fun right? Regardless of lables.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t feel like a swinger as a single, it’s very different to playing as a swinging couple. It’s just casual one on one sex.
But not all singles on the site just have one to one sex."
But before I got into swinging I was having 3somes, I didn’t consider that swinging. I only really see it as swapping partners etc as a couple, the traditional swinging. I just see myself the same as my non swinging friends as just having casual sex with other singles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t feel like a swinger as a single, it’s very different to playing as a swinging couple. It’s just casual one on one sex.
But not all singles on the site just have one to one sex.
But before I got into swinging I was having 3somes, I didn’t consider that swinging. I only really see it as swapping partners etc as a couple, the traditional swinging. I just see myself the same as my non swinging friends as just having casual sex with other singles. "
Fair point, but singles on fab also have moresomes, orgies, attend and play at sex parties and sex clubs etc. I think of those things as swinging activities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the traditional definition of a swinger has been considerably expanded..
It used to be all about couples swapping with each other now its 3somes, and moresomes as well as one to one meets
But there are still the old school couples who are only here to meet couples which i think is a bit outdated...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the traditional definition of a swinger has been considerably expanded..
It used to be all about couples swapping with each other now its 3somes, and moresomes as well as one to one meets
But there are still the old school couples who are only here to meet couples which i think is a bit outdated...
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But if they're happy and it works for them it's good?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1st i wouldnt know iv only tried the tradition sence once
But is that a bad thing i like sex best if i have some kind of spark with the woman or is it just sex and matters not. I dont want a relationship been there done that and like fucking different women
But is not being a swinger a bad thing even what is a swinger
Does anyone have the answer"
Swinging sadly isn't about fucking any fucking thing that says oi want to fuck me. I get many single guys who think it's a fuck and go.
Swinging was created in the 17th century when two married couples agreed to wife swap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you took all the things that people moan about on here and those people left there’d be about 6 miserable couples left wondering what the fuck happened.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you took all the things that people moan about on here and those people left there’d be about 6 miserable couples left wondering what the fuck happened. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the traditional definition of a swinger has been considerably expanded..
It used to be all about couples swapping with each other now its 3somes, and moresomes as well as one to one meets
But there are still the old school couples who are only here to meet couples which i think is a bit outdated...
But if they're happy and it works for them it's good? "
Yes its good for them but they are often the ones looking down on us single folk and declaring that we shouldn't be on a swinger site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the traditional definition of a swinger has been considerably expanded..
It used to be all about couples swapping with each other now its 3somes, and moresomes as well as one to one meets
But there are still the old school couples who are only here to meet couples which i think is a bit outdated...
But if they're happy and it works for them it's good?
Yes its good for them but they are often the ones looking down on us single folk and declaring that we shouldn't be on a swinger site "
I see what you mean now. I agree! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely it doesn't matter what you call yourself. As long as it's fun for all involved and everyone is happy, that's all that matters."
I’d agree, but I do object to being told I don’t belong on a site to which, frankly, I think me and my kind make a big contribution (see all the unicorn threads). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most will have different defitions of what makes someone a swinger. Some will stick with the old age tradition of the meaning, though the term has now expanded to include those who are promiscuous in general. Be it one to one or moresomes. There is no right or wrong answer. Just do what you enjoy and don't worry about what others think. This is your journey and one that you should do in the way that you are most comfortable with . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most will have different defitions of what makes someone a swinger. Some will stick with the old age tradition of the meaning, though the term has now expanded to include those who are promiscuous in general. Be it one to one or moresomes. There is no right or wrong answer. Just do what you enjoy and don't worry about what others think. This is your journey and one that you should do in the way that you are most comfortable with . "
See, I always knew that you spoke sense ...  |
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"1st i wouldnt know iv only tried the tradition sence once
But is that a bad thing i like sex best if i have some kind of spark with the woman or is it just sex and matters not. I dont want a relationship been there done that and like fucking different women
But is not being a swinger a bad thing even what is a swinger
Does anyone have the answer"
I really don’t like it when men say they are just here ‘to fuck different women’ but I suppose we are all here for our own reasons. I think ‘swinging’ is couples meeting couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1st i wouldnt know iv only tried the tradition sence once
But is that a bad thing i like sex best if i have some kind of spark with the woman or is it just sex and matters not. I dont want a relationship been there done that and like fucking different women
But is not being a swinger a bad thing even what is a swinger
Does anyone have the answer
I really don’t like it when men say they are just here ‘to fuck different women’ but I suppose we are all here for our own reasons. I think ‘swinging’ is couples meeting couples. "
Textbook definition “sexually liberated or promiscuous.” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm single, I don't label myself as anything. I just know what I like and go with it.
Although I get loads of nasty comments from guys I won't drop pants for after 2/3 messages. I like to feel a bit of something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've not read any of the posts above (sorry, tired eyes), but don't get bogged down in the detail of what you are and what you aren't, OP.
Focus on finding people who are looking for the same as you. What you are, in terms of a tag or label, swinger or not, it doesn't really matter, does it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1st i wouldnt know iv only tried the tradition sence once
But is that a bad thing i like sex best if i have some kind of spark with the woman or is it just sex and matters not. I dont want a relationship been there done that and like fucking different women
But is not being a swinger a bad thing even what is a swinger
Does anyone have the answer"
Are you saying swingers don't need a "spark"? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"1st i wouldnt know iv only tried the tradition sence once
But is that a bad thing i like sex best if i have some kind of spark with the woman or is it just sex and matters not. I dont want a relationship been there done that and like fucking different women
But is not being a swinger a bad thing even what is a swinger
Does anyone have the answer
Are you saying swingers don't need a "spark"?"
No i dont know what a swinger is just saying i do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’m a swinger, but I’m frequently told I can’t be unless I’m one half of a couple."
But you quickly become a swinger when a couple want you to join them  I’ve meet couples swinging whereby one of them doesn’t play... what are they?!
I’m a swingle and I’m here to swing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion know you aren't, but doesn't matter does it? As long as you aren't telling swingers how to swing there's nothing wrong with not being one. In my opinion the majority of forum posters aren't swingers based on their responses to various opinions and posts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not a swinger either....
Im only here to find men to have sex with
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Same here, only with women. If I was in a relationship I wouldn’t be sharing so I’m not a swinger either. |
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