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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Am I the only one who doesn't like receiving "xxx" on here?
I find it rather weird especially on a sex site.
Kiss as a message subject, kiss at the end of each sentence, or "Wanna shag? X" type of text..
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love a proper one to one kissing or understand getting kisses from someone I know.. But to get them from total strangers, I can't stand it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never actually thought about it until now, but depending on who it's from, I may or may not mind!
Someone I met through here who I speak to or message daily always puts kisses ... As do I.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am absolutely with you! I find it so weird getting kisses from strangers. I never return them... I don’t ever even put them at the end of messages to my friends."
Thank you. That made me feel better  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It doesn't bother me to much but I never send one, I'd rather end a message with a smiley face (see?) "
Exactly. This is what I do, too. But hate seeing XXX from men who send them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I the only one who doesn't like receiving "xxx" on here?
I find it rather weird especially on a sex site.
Kiss as a message subject, kiss at the end of each sentence, or "Wanna shag? X" type of text..
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love a proper one to one kissing or understand getting kisses from someone I know.. But to get them from total strangers, I can't stand it."
I'd normally put a "x" at the end of a message replying to lady as most of them will put one at the end of a message to myself and it's nice to respond in kind?
Don't view it as weird per se, it just seems acceptable ettiquette nowadays between opposite sexes messaging outside of professional matters or women messaging each other?
Though blokes don't tend to end messages to each other with kisses to the best of my knowledge ha! |
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I personally think it's the least thing to worry about in a message. I'd much prefer kisses at the end and have a respectful thought out message than a copy and paste or not thought out message without them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't use kisses in texts with anyone. I have a few people I send kiss emojis to but they are few n far between. I think it is a bit weird tbh. Although it is funny as fuck when my fwb, who often signs off texts with "xxx" sends them to one if his mates  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally think it's the least thing to worry about in a message. I'd much prefer kisses at the end and have a respectful thought out message than a copy and paste or not thought out message without them "
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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The only time I mind is when it’s preceded by some complete stranger’s graphic and crude list of things they want to do to me but then it’s not really the kisses that are the issue in that case. I find it rather an odd end to that sort of message though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't use kisses in texts with anyone. I have a few people I send kiss emojis to but they are few n far between. I think it is a bit weird tbh. Although it is funny as fuck when my fwb, who often signs off texts with "xxx" sends them to one if his mates "
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I’ve always seen it as one is just being friendly, two is more friendly with someone that you have leased with a little more but three or more is more meaningful and for a partner or relative only. I dare say that some may disagree with me but that’s how I interpret kisses on messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never put kisses on my first message. On the rare occasion when I get a reply I take my cue from the woman. If she wants to continue the conversation and puts a kiss at the end I do likewise when I reply. |
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Yes I know what you mean,I'm very sparing with my x's and only generally do it to women on here. I used to have an ex who when he was happy with me would put two kisses generally,then when we'd fallen out would put none. It used to piss me off,yeah we're having an argument but where's my kisses you bloody idiot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I know what you mean,I'm very sparing with my x's and only generally do it to women on here. I used to have an ex who when he was happy with me would put two kisses generally,then when we'd fallen out would put none. It used to piss me off,yeah we're having an argument but where's my kisses you bloody idiot."
I get it when it comes from a partner, relative, mate etc.. or FWB who you already had some real kisses with.. but not from strangers on fab (or any meeting/dating site) |
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"Yes I know what you mean,I'm very sparing with my x's and only generally do it to women on here. I used to have an ex who when he was happy with me would put two kisses generally,then when we'd fallen out would put none. It used to piss me off,yeah we're having an argument but where's my kisses you bloody idiot.
I get it when it comes from a partner, relative, mate etc.. or FWB who you already had some real kisses with.. but not from strangers on fab (or any meeting/dating site)"
Yep,my way of thinking is you can have a kiss in messages when we've kissed for real. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I know what you mean,I'm very sparing with my x's and only generally do it to women on here. I used to have an ex who when he was happy with me would put two kisses generally,then when we'd fallen out would put none. It used to piss me off,yeah we're having an argument but where's my kisses you bloody idiot.
I get it when it comes from a partner, relative, mate etc.. or FWB who you already had some real kisses with.. but not from strangers on fab (or any meeting/dating site)
Yep,my way of thinking is you can have a kiss in messages when we've kissed for real."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kisses Emoji's?? Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? You either like the message sent or not! If thats all you have to worry about then things aint too bad XXX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I already said I don't worry about it.. Some people are too serious on here. I'm simply sharing my experience on fab asking if anyone else dislikes kisses in messages from strangers. That's all. Glad I found out I wasn't the only one. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I’d put kisses on a Happy Birthday or a thank you if someone’s been nice or to show empathy if someone is sad or ill etc but that wouldn’t be a first message to a complete stranger. I’d do it on a forum post for the same reasons. |
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I end my messages with a kiss in private messages to let them know its the Mrs they are talking to since we are a couple. They find it helpful and they send one back. But once they know it's the Mr they are talking to, the kisses end.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind one or two and only return them with someone I know and have met ...rarely put them to anyone else. But I hate it when someone I don't know sends me loads at the end of a message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’d put kisses on a Happy Birthday or a thank you if someone’s been nice or to show empathy if someone is sad or ill etc but that wouldn’t be a first message to a complete stranger. I’d do it on a forum post for the same reasons. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't mind one or two and only return them with someone I know and have met ...rarely put them to anyone else. But I hate it when someone I don't know sends me loads at the end of a message "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I already said I don't worry about it.. Some people are too serious on here. I'm simply sharing my experience on fab asking if anyone else dislikes kisses in messages from strangers. That's all. Glad I found out I wasn't the only one."
I just find the dislike part a bit strange. Each to there own though. Personally i pay no attention. Its whats said that counts |
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"I sometimes accidentally do it without thinking and have that “lump in my throat” reaction afterwards. Even worse when I do it with the ex when messaging to arrange seeing my daughter  "
Ooh that's not good. |
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"I sometimes accidentally do it without thinking and have that “lump in my throat” reaction afterwards. Even worse when I do it with the ex when messaging to arrange seeing my daughter
Ooh that's not good."
It goes beyond a lump in the the throat when I realise I’ve done that. More like the whole room closed in on me and my ears start ringing and vision goes blurry lol |
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"I sometimes accidentally do it without thinking and have that “lump in my throat” reaction afterwards. Even worse when I do it with the ex when messaging to arrange seeing my daughter
Ooh that's not good.
It goes beyond a lump in the the throat when I realise I’ve done that. More like the whole room closed in on me and my ears start ringing and vision goes blurry lol "
Quickly throwing your phone down the loo would have stopped the message from going you know. |
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"I sometimes accidentally do it without thinking and have that “lump in my throat” reaction afterwards. Even worse when I do it with the ex when messaging to arrange seeing my daughter
Ooh that's not good.
It goes beyond a lump in the the throat when I realise I’ve done that. More like the whole room closed in on me and my ears start ringing and vision goes blurry lol
Quickly throwing your phone down the loo would have stopped the message from going you know."
Hmmmmm I think I’d rather keep my phone and just send another quick “ooops” message haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Obviously a giveaway trait for a shallow,insincere and insecure personality xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx....Er but not including me, honest X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I end my messages with a kiss in private messages to let them know its the Mrs they are talking to since we are a couple. They find it helpful and they send one back. But once they know it's the Mr they are talking to, the kisses end.
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This is what we do. She sends kisses I don't. People usually know which one they're talking to then without stating it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't and like so many said previous can't understand when men punctuate messages with kisses all the way through it.. Buy I don't get annoyed just don't return with a kiss.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always put an 'x' at the end of a message or post. Habit now when I write that an 'x' is put there x"
Me too. I don’t really read much into it tbh. It’s automatic for me. I never think ooooh he put a kiss or why didn’t he put a kiss. |
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"I nearly sent ‘xx’ to my boss the other day
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Lol , yep.. and still do, but he gets me, and knows there is nothing behind it.
We’ve even started saying ‘love you honey, bye’ really fast! Unless in meetings lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a way to end a message without a blunt end, a bit like DJ'ing rather than letting a song end with a pause. I think ppl get too hung up on styles of texting and forget what the person is actually saying or what they might learn from the other person or their style. Do we all really already know everything there is to know about life already, alot if ppl seem to act like it in here...??? 
Chill out and if you don't like kisses then just ignore... ....theyre not actually real kisses, no saliva or breath in your face, just a gesture on a text....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got a member of staff who always puts x's on the end of texts to me. Think it's just subconscious. It certainly doesn't mean anything.
I'm guilty of it sometimes on here but never professionally
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use it to show affection. I don’t do it all the time but do when the mood takes me.
I sometimes do it just to match the communication style of a woman I am chatting to. However I only do it if I wish to genuinely show affection and appreciation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not really a kisses person but sometimes slip one in without realising.. not bothered if I do and others do really.. it's not exactly declaring love it's just a little gesture.. x |
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I'd rather not use a kiss until the messages have progressed and even then not in every message it depends what I've said. I am not much good with emojis either. I have often contributed to a thread and hot the wrong one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really a kisses person but sometimes slip one in without realising.. not bothered if I do and others do really.. it's not exactly declaring love it's just a little gesture.. x"
Kisses, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I put one if I don't know them and lots if I do and more if we've shagged x
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We're all gonna work out who you've shagged now.....
XxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really a kisses person but sometimes slip one in without realising.. not bothered if I do and others do really.. it's not exactly declaring love it's just a little gesture.. x
Kisses, right? "
Shit was that about kisses??? |
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"Am I the only one who doesn't like receiving "xxx" on here?
I find it rather weird especially on a sex site.
Kiss as a message subject, kiss at the end of each sentence, or "Wanna shag? X" type of text..
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love a proper one to one kissing or understand getting kisses from someone I know.. But to get them from total strangers, I can't stand it."
It's even worse when you get them in emails from work colleagues who use it almost as a form of punctuation! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s an eye-opener - I had no idea.
My standard sign-off is “Nxxx” with the x’s simply hiding the other letters of my name, rather than as kisses.
I’d better change that immediately - I don’t want to appeal only to the women that like a lot of kisses on the bottom! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really a kisses person but sometimes slip one in without realising.. not bothered if I do and others do really.. it's not exactly declaring love it's just a little gesture.. x
Kisses, right?
Shit was that about kisses???"
Slip whatever you like in wherever you fancy, I'm not gonna judge.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really a kisses person but sometimes slip one in without realising.. not bothered if I do and others do really.. it's not exactly declaring love it's just a little gesture.. x
Kisses, right?
Shit was that about kisses???
Slip whatever you like in wherever you fancy, I'm not gonna judge.... "
Careful with those hearts though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has anyone else accidentally sent kisses to someone they shouldn’t have? I get it of a few people I shouldn’t when they message and I’ve sent a few out by mistake myself, can be awkward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else accidentally sent kisses to someone they shouldn’t have? I get it of a few people I shouldn’t when they message and I’ve sent a few out by mistake myself, can be awkward "
I kissed my boss before, but I think she liked it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really a kisses person but sometimes slip one in without realising.. not bothered if I do and others do really.. it's not exactly declaring love it's just a little gesture.. x
Kisses, right?
Shit was that about kisses???
Slip whatever you like in wherever you fancy, I'm not gonna judge....
Careful with those hearts though "
Still trying to find mine.. this bin is huge!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else accidentally sent kisses to someone they shouldn’t have? I get it of a few people I shouldn’t when they message and I’ve sent a few out by mistake myself, can be awkward "
I've done that quite a few times, it's a reflex adding a kiss sometimes and it depends who I have been messaging most at that time. Sent a few kisses to a work group message the other day and got a grilling for it lol. |
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"Am I the only one who doesn't like receiving "xxx" on here?
I find it rather weird especially on a sex site.
Kiss as a message subject, kiss at the end of each sentence, or "Wanna shag? X" type of text..
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love a proper one to one kissing or understand getting kisses from someone I know.. But to get them from total strangers, I can't stand it.
It's even worse when you get them in emails from work colleagues who use it almost as a form of punctuation!"
Work colleagues sending kisses is just weird !  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else accidentally sent kisses to someone they shouldn’t have? I get it of a few people I shouldn’t when they message and I’ve sent a few out by mistake myself, can be awkward "
Yes I have and then I had that awkward moment of ‘do I apologise or just pretend it didn’t happen?’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am I the only one who doesn't like receiving "xxx" on here?
I find it rather weird especially on a sex site.
Kiss as a message subject, kiss at the end of each sentence, or "Wanna shag? X" type of text..
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love a proper one to one kissing or understand getting kisses from someone I know.. But to get them from total strangers, I can't stand it.
It's even worse when you get them in emails from work colleagues who use it almost as a form of punctuation!
Work colleagues sending kisses is just weird ! "
Not with my work colleagues. We get d*unk together, shopping, sightseeing, room parties, so a kiss from them is pretty normal in my job. I even get kisses on the cheek. |
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I once heard that some one put lol in a message to a relative who’s partner had just died he thought it meant lots of love it was many years ago when text speak just started talk about getting out of that one and the xx thing would not offend me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh I put one if I don't know them and lots if I do and more if we've shagged x
We're all gonna work out who you've shagged now.....
XxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXxXx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I found it odd at first that guys nearly always end messages with a kiss as i saw it as something a lot of women so. I just take it as someone being friendly these days, but leaving kisses at the end of messages was never something I used to do unless chatting with friends. |
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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago
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I think it’s just become a social norm to be honest. It’s become so normal, that’s it’s almost a kind of full stop for the end of any piece of text. I literally know someone who uses them as a full stop for every sentence, and he’s in his 60s!
I don’t think people see them as a “kiss” in that they aren’t saying, oh she gave me a kiss, she must want to kiss me in real life. I think they use it as a nice way to signify the end of a message. It’s better that “LOL”
LOL XX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love hugs and kisses ..... x x o o
I don't get the real things that often. 
Now that surprises me "
It's hard for me to get out and about as i don't drive soI don't encounter that many people. I'm sure most would take one look and want to avoid though!
Naked hugs are great with the right people |
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"I love hugs and kisses ..... x x o o
I don't get the real things that often.
Now that surprises me
It's hard for me to get out and about as i don't drive soI don't encounter that many people. I'm sure most would take one look and want to avoid though!
Naked hugs are great with the right people "
I wouldn't not a chance I'd give you some naked hugs and kisses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really like em from people I know either, because I don't send them, so it makes me wonder if they think I am just being a cow or sumin... Doesn't make me send em tho... I don't kiss anyone after every sentence, stop it! I send the kiss emoji on kik etc, if I want to, but other than that.... No Xs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I the only one who doesn't like receiving "xxx" on here?
I find it rather weird especially on a sex site.
Kiss as a message subject, kiss at the end of each sentence, or "Wanna shag? X" type of text..
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love a proper one to one kissing or understand getting kisses from someone I know.. But to get them from total strangers, I can't stand it."
Thank god it’s not just me!!! |
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