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not quite a pity shag

By *good-being-bad OP Man over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh if I got on well with that person, and there was that cognitive connection then hell yeah.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I’ve been kind one time to often. Won’t be anymore.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It hasn't happened yet. By the time I'm at the point of meeting someone, unless it's a big whopper of a lie, them not being exactly as I expect wouldn't bother me.

I do think however if someone has stated a specific physical preference and the person they meet has lied about that, they are doing nothing wrong by walking away and telling them why they are doing so.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"

Depends..... If he told me he had a six incher and it turned out to be a 15 inch lethal weapon that I could only grab with two hands I might just ask for no penetration meet..........

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

He could tenderise my steak tho ...... so still a handy man to have around

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By *ara JTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol East

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you mean?

They have a penis where you thought the vagina would be?

One leg turns out to be a prosthetic limb?

That slightly overweight belly look turns out to be a colostomy bag?

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"

I’m trying to work out in what way they wouldn’t be as they described? If you’ve met them and got on really well. Surely you would have a pretty good idea before the clothes come off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you mean they drop their panties and a 10 inch throbber drops out?

Would be a no from us, we would want at least a 12 incher

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By *good-being-bad OP Man over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening

I’m trying to work out in what way they wouldn’t be as they described? If you’ve met them and got on really well. Surely you would have a pretty good idea before the clothes come off.

guys might fibt about their penis size.. ladies might fib or enhance their boob's with padding.. there was a comment on the other thread from a couple who said and when the lady undressed everything went south..

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By *good-being-bad OP Man over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you mean?

They have a penis where you thought the vagina would be?

One leg turns out to be a prosthetic limb?

That slightly overweight belly look turns out to be a colostomy bag?

No specifics from me ..just not as described so in that sense yes to all of the points above.

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By *arnayguyMan over a year ago

Durham Tees

If someone blatantly lies about something you have every right to be annoyed. If they ignore something you specify, they shouldn't complain if you raise an issue.

BUT if you assume and do not ask, it doesn't make them a liar.

Things often look bigger in a photo if they are closer to the camera lens, so cocks and tits often look bigger than they are. (Noses too, a common problem with selfies!) Some men and women know this; cocks look bigger at certain angles, breasts pushed together can look much bigger, some women only have breasts showing when their arms are up so they don't sag. Most people are happy with a photo if it flatters them, who wouldn't be. But that doesn't give anyone the right to call them a liar or complain they aren't as big or perky as the photo indicated. Clothed or unclothed people try to get the position which they think makes them look best. Quite a few people openly admit their tits/cock look bigger than they actually are in a photo.

So if you have a minimum or maximum size, make sure you ask or spend enough time working out whether you want to meet. If it is so important ask for full body shots. But don't label someone a liar if you took things for granted and didn't ask.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Talking from a guys point of view it depends really if I could get aroused or not. If I wasn’t physically attracted to them as a result of a lie then nothing would happen anyway. Not sure if women feel the same way but men rely on a physical reaction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seeing them in person is all I need to know.

I'm not sure what you mean by unexpected. As long as I find them attractive, the rest is fine by me.

If you mean size of attributes then that's irrelevant. If he's got my mind - which would have happened way before any meet - then whatever he is like anywhere on his body will be attractive regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had that experience before. I tend to rely on photos rather than how they describe themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh if I got on well with that person, and there was that cognitive connection then hell yeah. "

Personality and connection is the key to great sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening

Depends..... If he told me he had a six incher and it turned out to be a 15 inch lethal weapon that I could only grab with two hands I might just ask for no penetration meet.......... "

There’s a lot of that about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By the time I get to the actual meet I know that mentally we've connected and that's key for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m telling them.

If they’ve lied that is, as I would not be having sex with someone who wants to deceive people.

If it’s just that it wasn’t what I was expecting as they didn’t have enough photos or I just expected something else then that’s different!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"

I'm confused. Did you have your eyes closed until they started undressing? I'm sure you'd have noticed before if they weren't as they described... Or is it physical marks or tats were talking about here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"
I'd ask myself am I really that rotten and I'd always get the answer no I'm not

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Think if I had got as far as the bedroom it would have to be a serious lie for me to walk out, the only situation I can think of would be a woman turning out to be a man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening

Depends..... If he told me he had a six incher and it turned out to be a 15 inch lethal weapon that I could only grab with two hands I might just ask for no penetration meet.......... "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think in any situation it’s entirely possible for either party to say ‘ok, that’s me out’ and leave. Consent can be with drawn at any point and should be if either party isn’t 100% happy with what’s going on or with the other person.

Personally I’d be mortified if I felt that my partner wasn’t totally into me and was wanting to make me feel better, I had that from my ex on occasion and it devastated me, to me it feels a little like r@pe.

I don’t want to be pitied, I want the desire to be equal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a little affirmation is needed here!

Repeat to yourself.

grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

and the Wisdom to know the difference.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"

Tell them the truth. I met them based on what they look like,if they don't look like that way then why would i sleep with them. Would expect the same of someone thought that about men. Best ting to do is be truthful with your photos.

While we all look for the best angles when taking and uploading pictures. Do they really do us justice?. Hmmmm

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

If they'd lied, upon aspects of themselves that were important to me, potentially just the act of telling lies would do it too, then I would stop the meet. Depending upon my mental connection with the person, how I'd explain the stop could vary. I would hope that they'd invested lots of time and effort into the meet and I'd invested minimally.

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By *umpsimusMan over a year ago

Camberley

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening

Depends..... If he told me he had a six incher and it turned out to be a 15 inch lethal weapon that I could only grab with two hands I might just ask for no penetration meet.......... "

15 inches .... 2 hander !

Jesus, you've got big hands

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By *ymaleMan over a year ago

nr Bradford

Not really sure I'm understanding the point here, because unless as others have mentioned, the meet in question turns out to be a completely different gender, how much physical difference could someone hide with clothes that it would be such a deal breaker at the point of having sex? We might all get a slightly idealised image of people at times fuelled by smart photos, but really, how shallow would you have to be to say no, you're not absolutely how I pictured you so get yer coat and do one!? Certainly not worth fucking, unless it's with a big stick!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happened twice, different men. Had sex both times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seeing them in person is all I need to know.

I'm not sure what you mean by unexpected. As long as I find them attractive, the rest is fine by me.

Totally this for me too. Imagine dropping my knickers and a man saying "oh sorry, your labia isn't the size I was hoping for". Are people really this shallow?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no comment on a weird threat as none of it works for me loll

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"
in what way not as described. Im assuming you mean not having a perfect body?its never happened and never will. Im not into body perfect or those that describe themselves as perfect. The only thing that would put me off when someone undressed would be if they stank and then id be running

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seeing them in person is all I need to know.

I'm not sure what you mean by unexpected. As long as I find them attractive, the rest is fine by me.

Totally this for me too. Imagine dropping my knickers and a man saying "oh sorry, your labia isn't the size I was hoping for". Are people really this shallow?

Sadly this site is full of Shallow people.

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By *good-being-bad OP Man over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happeningin what way not as described. Im assuming you mean not having a perfect body?its never happened and never will. Im not into body perfect or those that describe themselves as perfect. The only thing that would put me off when someone undressed would be if they stank and then id be running

It followed on from another thread a lady had posted where a guy claimed he was bigger ..when they got down to it he wasn't as described .. the lady had sex with the guy but posted a thread

I thought it interesting that a lady had sex (given her preference was for a certain size) even though she thought he'd lied

I wondered if others might also go through with it even though the other person has been a little untruthful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can’t believe the size of someone’s cock is actually a specification lol! Not even something I’d ask but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The connection has to be there ... if I find them attractive then that’s all I need

Appendage size , body , scars etc means zero to me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

It followed on from another thread a lady had posted where a guy claimed he was bigger ..when they got down to it he wasn't as described .. the lady had sex with the guy but posted a thread

I thought it interesting that a lady had sex (given her preference was for a certain size) even though she thought he'd lied

I wondered if others might also go through with it even though the other person has been a little untruthful"
more fool her if he had actually lied to get her into bed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would still fuck them, as it is another tick of the old bed post

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By *arnayguyMan over a year ago

Durham Tees

" Imagine dropping my knickers and a man saying "oh sorry, your labia isn't the size I was hoping for". Are people really this shallow?

Unfortunately yes, some guys might get into a flap about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm terrible at hurting people's feelings! So if there was at least some connection I'd probably do it! #notmyfirsttime

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's really 'shallow' to need to be attracted to - and not turned off by- the person I'm fucking then I'm shallow and proud of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's really 'shallow' to need to be attracted to - and not turned off by- the person I'm fucking then I'm shallow and proud of it.

Agreed.

All this “shallow” talk is absolute rubbish.

Most sane people wouldn’t fuck someone they didn’t fancy or like the look of so that makes them shallow too by their own words.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's really 'shallow' to need to be attracted to - and not turned off by- the person I'm fucking then I'm shallow and proud of it.

Agreed.

All this “shallow” talk is absolute rubbish.

Most sane people wouldn’t fuck someone they didn’t fancy or like the look of so that makes them shallow too by their own words. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seeing them in person is all I need to know.

I'm not sure what you mean by unexpected. As long as I find them attractive, the rest is fine by me.

Totally this for me too. Imagine dropping my knickers and a man saying "oh sorry, your labia isn't the size I was hoping for". Are people really this shallow?

Sadly this site is full of Shallow people."

I don’t think it’s shallow to want what you want. People are here to indulge sexual fantasies and to look for specific things. People won’t just fuck anyone, there has to be attraction and if that includes a large penis then that’s up to them.

Far be it from me to tell someone else how to run their profile or judge them for their choices.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's really 'shallow' to need to be attracted to - and not turned off by- the person I'm fucking then I'm shallow and proud of it.

Agreed.

All this “shallow” talk is absolute rubbish.

Total Bollocks.

Most sane people wouldn’t fuck someone they didn’t fancy or like the look of so that makes them shallow too by their own words. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im normally in the midst of pur passion before clothes are removed so i prob wouldnt notice any flaws

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By *oshker71Man over a year ago

Cardiff

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"

I’d Tell them the truth there's is no sex happening....I’ve done it once.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% You have nothing to worry about on that front

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

I guess that's why it's best to be upfront and honest x

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

I guess that's why it's best to be upfront and honest x "

I am always honest both in profile and emails, but I needn’t worry as I haven’t found anyone to have sex with in over a year so not an issue atm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

I guess that's why it's best to be upfront and honest x

I am always honest both in profile and emails, but I needn’t worry as I haven’t found anyone to have sex with in over a year so not an issue atm "

No need to worry so

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By *good-being-bad OP Man over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"If it's really 'shallow' to need to be attracted to - and not turned off by- the person I'm fucking then I'm shallow and proud of it.

Agreed.

All this “shallow” talk is absolute rubbish.

Most sane people wouldn’t fuck someone they didn’t fancy or like the look of so that makes them shallow too by their own words. "

I'm in agreement with you.. my only surprise was the lady who had a particular preference and didn't say no thanks..made me think why have a preference if you're not going to stick to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's really 'shallow' to need to be attracted to - and not turned off by- the person I'm fucking then I'm shallow and proud of it.

Agreed.

All this “shallow” talk is absolute rubbish.

Most sane people wouldn’t fuck someone they didn’t fancy or like the look of so that makes them shallow too by their own words.

I'm in agreement with you.. my only surprise was the lady who had a particular preference and didn't say no thanks..made me think why have a preference if you're not going to stick to it. "

I agree!

If I have a preference I’m certainly not going to “settle” or just have sex with them because I’m there, as I wouldn’t enjoy it. Much rather stick to my preference, if that narrows down the people who are into me then so be it.

Much rather be honest & take the wasted journey as a lesson!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

I guess that's why it's best to be upfront and honest x

I am always honest both in profile and emails, but I needn’t worry as I haven’t found anyone to have sex with in over a year so not an issue atm

No need to worry so

Btw I wasn't trying to infer that you aren't honest. Only that it stands to reason that if people are honest then they don't have any reason to be worried

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

I guess that's why it's best to be upfront and honest x "
being honest and upfront gets you no were on here as i found out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I can see her face and I am attracted to her face, get on well with her... Her body (assuming it is different from the pictures) wouldn't be an obstacle for me to enjoy her naked company

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This worries me slightly as in cloths I am a next size 6, but in the last year middle aged spread has hit and gone straight to my stomach

So whilst I look great dressed I do worry about when the clothes come off

I guess that's why it's best to be upfront and honest x being honest and upfront gets you no were on here as i found out"

Meaning what?!

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"But following on from another thread..

You meet someone get on well enjoy their company you go back to a bedroom..as the other person starts to undress you realise they're not as they'd described themselves..

What do you do..

Make excuses.

Have Sex anyway

Tell them the truth why there's no sex happening"

You usually know within the first 5 minutes whether you'll be heading for the bedroom (or arranging a play meet if this is a social).

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