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Looking for love or just burnt out?
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over a year ago
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It seems a lot of forum regulars are currently on a totally different buzz than Fab, seeking something more meaningful in their eyes, many with their profiles hidden like myself.
So are we all looking for love now? That's certainly where I'm at. If so, it would be fun to hear how you're planning to try and find that elusive spark and nurture it
Or is this mass waneing of appetites just an annual feature of having had too indulgent a summer or something... and do you anticipate your thirst for Fab will soon return as the chilly nights set in? |
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"It seems a lot of forum regulars are currently on a totally different buzz than Fab, seeking something more meaningful in their eyes, many with their profiles hidden like myself.
So are we all looking for love now? That's certainly where I'm at. If so, it would be fun to hear how you're planning to try and find that elusive spark and nurture it
Or is this mass waneing of appetites just an annual feature of having had too indulgent a summer or something... and do you anticipate your thirst for Fab will soon return as the chilly nights set in? "
It's always been cyclical on the forums, many people come and play for a while then want more and sometimes leave.
I don't think you can plan to find love, just get out there and see what turns up.  |
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I was totally burned out. Too many meets and the novelty had worn off. Met a great guy on here and we've been just dating and hanging out for the past 3 months... Im delighted  |
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"Neither looking for love or burnt out thanks.
Mind you, I have been here nearly 10 years!
You would think I would be jaded no?"
not really. Its taken me 30 odd years to get to this point still some life in you yet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's always been cyclical on the forums, many people come and play for a while then want more and sometimes leave.
I don't think you can plan to find love, just get out there and see what turns up. "
Without naming names there do seem to be a lot of forumites who I remember from over the years I've been on and off this site now talking about either being here only for the forums or ready to leave perhaps for the last time. In that same time I've seen dating, as an issue, go from something you'd be heckled for if you brought it up, to more and more singles talking openly about looking to date or to find love. I don't know... it just feels like a bigger group are either outgrowing Fab all at the same time or there's just a lull and we'll all soon be back at it fucking like rabbits haha  |
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"It's always been cyclical on the forums, many people come and play for a while then want more and sometimes leave.
I don't think you can plan to find love, just get out there and see what turns up.
Without naming names there do seem to be a lot of forumites who I remember from over the years I've been on and off this site now talking about either being here only for the forums or ready to leave perhaps for the last time. In that same time I've seen dating, as an issue, go from something you'd be heckled for if you brought it up, to more and more singles talking openly about looking to date or to find love. I don't know... it just feels like a bigger group are either outgrowing Fab all at the same time or there's just a lull and we'll all soon be back at it fucking like rabbits haha "
More like the dynamic of the site has changed since it became "mainstream". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's always been cyclical on the forums, many people come and play for a while then want more and sometimes leave.
I don't think you can plan to find love, just get out there and see what turns up.
Without naming names there do seem to be a lot of forumites who I remember from over the years I've been on and off this site now talking about either being here only for the forums or ready to leave perhaps for the last time. In that same time I've seen dating, as an issue, go from something you'd be heckled for if you brought it up, to more and more singles talking openly about looking to date or to find love. I don't know... it just feels like a bigger group are either outgrowing Fab all at the same time or there's just a lull and we'll all soon be back at it fucking like rabbits haha
More like the dynamic of the site has changed since it became "mainstream"."
 at a quick glance of the thread I agree.
If you take the forums as a sample of fabs, people come / go and the dynamics are forever changing. Some people will admit they’re looking for more, others will keep their ideal close to their chest. |
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"Not remotely burned out on Fab, hard to burn out doing nothing. I've been looking for love elsewhere, with just as little success. "
is that the speed dating events? What are they like id love to go to one |
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"Not remotely burned out on Fab, hard to burn out doing nothing. I've been looking for love elsewhere, with just as little success. is that the speed dating events? What are they like id love to go to one "
It's an interesting way to spend an evening. On the other hand, I've been to three so far and been rejected by 46 women in less than 6 total hours, so not good for the self-confidence. |
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There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx |
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"Not remotely burned out on Fab, hard to burn out doing nothing. I've been looking for love elsewhere, with just as little success. is that the speed dating events? What are they like id love to go to one
It's an interesting way to spend an evening. On the other hand, I've been to three so far and been rejected by 46 women in less than 6 total hours, so not good for the self-confidence."
are they held regular in your area. 46 women isnt a lot in the grand scheme of things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was totally burned out. Too many meets and the novelty had worn off. Met a great guy on here and we've been just dating and hanging out for the past 3 months... Im delighted "
Thanks for this Ginger I'd love something like that to happen to me. That's lifted my spirits to know Fab is capable of that xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not remotely burned out on Fab, hard to burn out doing nothing. I've been looking for love elsewhere, with just as little success. is that the speed dating events? What are they like id love to go to one
It's an interesting way to spend an evening. On the other hand, I've been to three so far and been rejected by 46 women in less than 6 total hours, so not good for the self-confidence.are they held regular in your area. 46 women isnt a lot in the grand scheme of things"
It's a lot in 6 hours.
There's about one a month for the right age group. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It seems a lot of forum regulars are currently on a totally different buzz than Fab, seeking something more meaningful in their eyes, many with their profiles hidden like myself.
So are we all looking for love now? That's certainly where I'm at. If so, it would be fun to hear how you're planning to try and find that elusive spark and nurture it
Or is this mass waneing of appetites just an annual feature of having had too indulgent a summer or something... and do you anticipate your thirst for Fab will soon return as the chilly nights set in? "
Love is a beautiful thing Soulful....i hope you find it |
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"Not remotely burned out on Fab, hard to burn out doing nothing. I've been looking for love elsewhere, with just as little success. is that the speed dating events? What are they like id love to go to one
It's an interesting way to spend an evening. On the other hand, I've been to three so far and been rejected by 46 women in less than 6 total hours, so not good for the self-confidence.are they held regular in your area. 46 women isnt a lot in the grand scheme of things
It's a lot in 6 hours.
There's about one a month for the right age group."
well it is if you break it down like that but if we look at the positives your getting a good night out and chatting to new people and if something comes of it great
Look at our mate seeside he waited and waited and got what he wanted |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not remotely burned out on Fab, hard to burn out doing nothing. I've been looking for love elsewhere, with just as little success. is that the speed dating events? What are they like id love to go to one
It's an interesting way to spend an evening. On the other hand, I've been to three so far and been rejected by 46 women in less than 6 total hours, so not good for the self-confidence.are they held regular in your area. 46 women isnt a lot in the grand scheme of things
It's a lot in 6 hours.
There's about one a month for the right age group.well it is if you break it down like that but if we look at the positives your getting a good night out and chatting to new people and if something comes of it great
Look at our mate seeside he waited and waited and got what he wanted"
And isnt that such a gloriously wonderful story?
I do so hope it is amazing for him |
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Neither of us are looking for love. We're just quietly getting on with what we do, not expecting commitment, intimacy or anything deeper.
We're realistic, some say cynical. Meet infrequently and don't have expectations that can't be met
It works for us and causes no angst |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx"
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me "
What's keeping you here then Mr Soulful? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Neither of us are looking for love. We're just quietly getting on with what we do, not expecting commitment, intimacy or anything deeper.
We're realistic, some say cynical. Meet infrequently and don't have expectations that can't be met
It works for us and causes no angst"
I think you're right. Sometimes I'm on this site so much chatting about all kinds of stuff on the forums that I forget that it's just a sex site. If you want sex it's here. If you don't... then don't. It really is nothing more than that |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me "
so what brought you here to this site. What was it that made you actively seek out a swingers site if you werent looking to swing |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me
What's keeping you here then Mr Soulful?"
The forums... and the possibility of love defying logic |
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"Neither of us are looking for love. We're just quietly getting on with what we do, not expecting commitment, intimacy or anything deeper.
We're realistic, some say cynical. Meet infrequently and don't have expectations that can't be met
It works for us and causes no angst
I think you're right. Sometimes I'm on this site so much chatting about all kinds of stuff on the forums that I forget that it's just a sex site. If you want sex it's here. If you don't... then don't. It really is nothing more than that "
Yes. It's about managing expectations. So many times single men are told to manage their expectations when they think they'll get sex on a plate. Nobody tells the people who expect full on relationship commitment from casual meets that. Both are possible but not likely. |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me so what brought you here to this site. What was it that made you actively seek out a swingers site if you werent looking to swing"
I came on here with my ex a few years back and we tried swinging. I knew it from then and rejoined when I became single. Why? Because I personally don't have any stigma about it all... Fab drummed that out of me many moons ago. But it still stands that just about the least representative thing you could possibly know about me is that I'm on a sex site. |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me so what brought you here to this site. What was it that made you actively seek out a swingers site if you werent looking to swing
I came on here with my ex a few years back and we tried swinging. I knew it from then and rejoined when I became single. Why? Because I personally don't have any stigma about it all... Fab drummed that out of me many moons ago. But it still stands that just about the least representative thing you could possibly know about me is that I'm on a sex site. "
you keep saying sex site when its a swingers site. Sex site makes it sound as though everyone is just having random robotic sex with strangers when for the majority its not anything like that |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me so what brought you here to this site. What was it that made you actively seek out a swingers site if you werent looking to swing
I came on here with my ex a few years back and we tried swinging. I knew it from then and rejoined when I became single. Why? Because I personally don't have any stigma about it all... Fab drummed that out of me many moons ago. But it still stands that just about the least representative thing you could possibly know about me is that I'm on a sex site.
you keep saying sex site when its a swingers site. Sex site makes it sound as though everyone is just having random robotic sex with strangers when for the majority its not anything like that"
Yeah you're right. The vast majority aren't having sex at all |
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"There are times when we enjoy fab then times when you just think to yourself what am I doing here. Ive thought that often lately. Fabs not really lead me into the direction I wanted to travel not sure if thats fab or me. Its a rollercoaster ride xx
I think I now what you mean. It's just a sex site and you use it when you want sex and you should really leave it when you don't but something keeps you here.
For me, I feel there's a strong amount of tainted by association going on too. Am I really the kind of guy who joins sex sites? No. I'm definitely not. Are my kind of women the kind of women who would date a guy who joins sex sites. I shouldn't imagine so. So it's probably the single worst way for me to introduce myself to someone and the single worst place to look. I don't know if that's what you meant by the direction it headed you in. But that's how I feel in terms of projecting the wrong me so what brought you here to this site. What was it that made you actively seek out a swingers site if you werent looking to swing
I came on here with my ex a few years back and we tried swinging. I knew it from then and rejoined when I became single. Why? Because I personally don't have any stigma about it all... Fab drummed that out of me many moons ago. But it still stands that just about the least representative thing you could possibly know about me is that I'm on a sex site.
you keep saying sex site when its a swingers site. Sex site makes it sound as though everyone is just having random robotic sex with strangers when for the majority its not anything like that
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Yeah you're right. The vast majority aren't having sex at all "
they are just not with you |
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I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us |
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"you keep saying sex site when its a swingers site. Sex site makes it sound as though everyone is just having random robotic sex with strangers when for the majority its not anything like that
Yeah you're right. The vast majority aren't having sex at all
they are just not with you "
Thank goodness!  I'd be a used up husk of a man if the majority of people on this site were fucking me haha |
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Me and my partner of 15 years wanted a little spice in our lives and it’s certainly done that and we are more in love now than before can’t leep our hands off each other so it’s helped us bring back the sparkle |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us "
They are possible and sometimes when you least expect (or want) it.
Happened to me on here.
I was at odds with why I was on fab, the real reason not really important. What it did give me back then was a confidence in myself that had been lacking for years, a place I could come to (the forums) and chat to people about subjects I could never talk about in the 'real' world and finally meet other like minded people who I saw as compatible.
I'm no swinger, in the true sense, but I've enjoyed my fab experience.
I hope you find what you seek |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
They are possible and sometimes when you least expect (or want) it.
Happened to me on here.
I was at odds with why I was on fab, the real reason not really important. What it did give me back then was a confidence in myself that had been lacking for years, a place I could come to (the forums) and chat to people about subjects I could never talk about in the 'real' world and finally meet other like minded people who I saw as compatible.
I'm no swinger, in the true sense, but I've enjoyed my fab experience.
I hope you find what you seek "
Well said but everyone that comes on here have there own reasons |
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I’m totally looking to settle down with a lovely lady and feel ‘this is it’. I suppose I’m looking to replicate what I had before with my ex during happy days when we dabbled and went to clubs which all added to our relationship. I’m not that optimistic about finding the solution here though. |
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The eternal struggle. I'm on a few dating sites becuase I'm actually looking for a relationship but I'd like you meet someone who is opened to the idea of swinging. I daren't put that on my dating profile though. So for the last year I've just been bouncing back And forth on Fab and dating sites. |
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I think this place can be a bit soul destroying if you’re a romantic at heart.
I want a real committed relationship, I didn’t join here for that, i joined Fab for the sex until I found that.
And then you meet someone on here who you like, it gets regular and you allow yourself to hope that maybe it could go somewhere, only to discover that actually, you were wrong.
And although that is a shame, as I really would have liked to have seen where it could have gone, I know I want to be with someone who is at a point in their life where they want a more serious and consistent relationship (with me).
I don’t have the time or energy for something that looks like it has no future, so for now I am going to focus my dating efforts on someone who has that time and energy for me, and that person, I now realise, won’t be found on FAB.
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It's not doing the rounds at present, but 'The Rocky horror show' is a good buffer zone to find folk who are intrigued in something else, but doesn't involve diving into the deep end.
This seems a sensible meeting point for the adventurous. Where you could find a real partner and go on to advanced stuff. Or retreat into the conventional happy ever after, without feeling you'd overstepped your own boundaries. ( Jeez cheesy sayings!)
And it's deffo a fun night out! |
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"I’m totally looking to settle down with a lovely lady and feel ‘this is it’. I suppose I’m looking to replicate what I had before with my ex during happy days when we dabbled and went to clubs which all added to our relationship. I’m not that optimistic about finding the solution here though. "
How thought provoking early in the morning when i'm normally pondering "earl grey or assam ?".
This is just a website, with a pretty broad section of the community frequenting it. I always imagine websites being analogous the "real world" ...some are like a busy town centre bar on a friday night...people go there for their own reasons and each are different...some for company and social interaction with friends, some to meet strangers, some to chat, some to drink, some to stand, some to sit...some to get fucked...some to show off and validate their existence....a quiet country pub might be a different website where the same person might go to have a more intimate encounter...a wine bar may be different again...a noisy music venue for something different....yet the same person can go to different places for different experiences...some new ones ,some old ones...depending on their moods and what they are after at that point in time.
In the same way someone can use multiple websites..to have interaction with similarly minded people...
This place seems a bit like a department store...there's something here for everybody...just have to keep looking to find it...
Now can anybody direct me to the perverts department !? |
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"OP, if you found love on here do you think you would become exclusive or would you want to continue this lifestyle together? "
That would depend totally on my lover. If it was something they wanted to try I'd be open to it. But I'd like to imagine we might be enough for each other... at least for the first few years.
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I would love to fall in love again and am very open to it now. I make no secret about it but I’m not desperate either. I’m just taking things in my stride and going with the flow. I have a few interesting things going on right now, we shall see. |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us "
So your problem with fab is that it's a website?
So many of your contributions to the fora are concerned with pointing out that you're not the type of person to use websites for sex, that you seek more in terms of a spiritual and emotional connection than some of us and seem to be suggesting that sex for it's own sake is somehow base and soul destroying. Personally I think that what you're looking for is a romantic dream. The deep connections you seek aren't possible with a stranger whether you meet them on the net, in Wetherspoons or running in slow motion through a field of corn. I know many people believe, including you, that it is possible but I suggest that it's not and ultimately leads to disappointment and an unrealistic view of relationships. It takes a long time to build a deep and spiritual connection and having sex with a stranger won't achieve more than an illusion of that.
Every time you post threads like this though lots of people seem to agree that they're looking for the same as you. Maybe I'm wrong and you and those who seek what you do are right. If that's so, you are in the right place to find what you're after. |
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Everything changes over time and Fab is no exception. Maybe due to the increase of singles on the site (which I see as no bad thing, after all I am one of them)! There should be an opportunity for everyone to find what they want on here, apart from a very conventional, monogamous situation possibly |
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Anyone fancy anyone for starters
Sex with swinging is meant to be cold calling.
Swinging is for couples the man consents to sharing his wife.
Singles. Great. Awesome... Enough of me
Met a few on here only one I really fancied. I don't go looking for anything but sexy guys with it dribbling out their... Oh lots here only want fucks.
I've seen couples meet on here single at first and get married.
Anything is possible
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us "
It so rarely happens anywhere like that, though.
But connections can happen online. A casual message that suddenly has you messaging all night covering all things. And can happen through fab too.
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"Everything changes over time and Fab is no exception. Maybe due to the increase of singles on the site (which I see as no bad thing, after all I am one of them)! There should be an opportunity for everyone to find what they want on here, apart from a very conventional, monogamous situation possibly"
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I've been looking for something a little different for a while now. A good example of that would be how I recently fell in love with my umbrella collection. It actually got pretty serious at one point and I ended up in a brollyamorous relationship with a couple of them. It only ended when one of them without warning just up and took off (quite literally) during high winds. |
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"I've been looking for something a little different for a while now. A good example of that would be how I recently fell in love with my umbrella collection. It actually got pretty serious at one point and I ended up in a brollyamorous relationship with a couple of them. It only ended when one of them without warning just up and took off (quite literally) during high winds."
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"I would love to fall in love again and am very open to it now. I make no secret about it but I’m not desperate either. I’m just taking things in my stride and going with the flow. I have a few interesting things going on right now, we shall see. "
I like that attitude Poochie But I suspect I'm likely to get there through dating not Fab. Some forumites may recall that I got somewhat snowed under by dates in spring. So much so that I had to stop. From that month on the dating sites I ended up making a friend who's happy being a friend with benefits. Meanwhile, people on here actively looking for such a thing can hold out for years without finding it.
But I do want more. So, like you, I'm happy to have adventures whilst I seek my love |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
It so rarely happens anywhere like that, though.
But connections can happen online. A casual message that suddenly has you messaging all night covering all things. And can happen through fab too.
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That's lovely. Yes I've had a couple of moments on Fab where my heart has skipped a beat whilst messaging... getting excited... thinking about the possibilities between us. Thanks for reminding me of that xxx |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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"It seems a lot of forum regulars are currently on a totally different buzz than Fab, seeking something more meaningful in their eyes, many with their profiles hidden like myself.
So are we all looking for love now? That's certainly where I'm at. If so, it would be fun to hear how you're planning to try and find that elusive spark and nurture it
Or is this mass waneing of appetites just an annual feature of having had too indulgent a summer or something... and do you anticipate your thirst for Fab will soon return as the chilly nights set in? "
I'm not looking for but am receptive to as a kind of last chance saloon type deal.
Having been single so long and burnt repeatedly I just want something with someone real. That connection with someone that contents, satisfies and ignites you |
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I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking. |
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A year ago I had completely given up on the idea of love I didn't think love and I were compatible and thought to myself I was better being on my own but I still had my sexual needs hence fab. I made some good friends here too. Then boom I started chatting to a wonderful women and fell for her so hard that the distance and circumstances were no issue at all. A year on our relationship has grown and grown. So even on fab love is out there
She is the woman I love
She is my best friend
She is everything to me
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"I've been looking for something a little different for a while now. A good example of that would be how I recently fell in love with my umbrella collection. It actually got pretty serious at one point and I ended up in a brollyamorous relationship with a couple of them. It only ended when one of them without warning just up and took off (quite literally) during high winds."
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking. "
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
So your problem with fab is that it's a website?
So many of your contributions to the fora are concerned with pointing out that you're not the type of person to use websites for sex, that you seek more in terms of a spiritual and emotional connection than some of us and seem to be suggesting that sex for it's own sake is somehow base and soul destroying. Personally I think that what you're looking for is a romantic dream. The deep connections you seek aren't possible with a stranger whether you meet them on the net, in Wetherspoons or running in slow motion through a field of corn. I know many people believe, including you, that it is possible but I suggest that it's not and ultimately leads to disappointment and an unrealistic view of relationships. It takes a long time to build a deep and spiritual connection and having sex with a stranger won't achieve more than an illusion of that.
Every time you post threads like this though lots of people seem to agree that they're looking for the same as you. Maybe I'm wrong and you and those who seek what you do are right. If that's so, you are in the right place to find what you're after. "
Sorry Nice I must be exasperating I know. I've been a bit of an odd fit from day one. But you must have cottoned on by now that I'm on here to meet others who think they're a bit of an odd fit too. So sometimes these threads exploring outside the edges of Fab are ways to reach out to them
I've been told loads of things in my life were impossible. And you know what... I have a pretty good track record of defying those expectations. As with Fab too... the numbers don't paint a pretty picture of me having any luck on here. You could say the odds are so dismal that I shouldn't bother. But then you look at the competition and you realise how rubbish 95% of them are... So I take to the forums to try and better convey that I'm perhaps a more interesting proposition than the next guy and so far I've enjoyed two lovely misadventures with two lovely women. Yay!!
So I try to make my own luck in life and so far that's worked quite well for me... with those things I have control over. So I sense that I can go out into the world, away from the usual contrived fuck off a website, and make my own luck. I may use Fab differently to try and help with that, just meeting people on it in a social capacity and then seeing if something else comes from that further down the line. But I haven't quite made my mind up yet. Hence the hidden profile. But thanks for the thoughtful reply xx |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
I completely agree."
I'm so in the same place Well said Ms Wilkes But (and it's a big but) don't you think that if you coincidentally met someone on here like me who felt the same way then it could work? For me, I may not be so interested in a woman who thrives on Fab (purely because I think Fab's a bit Jeremy Kyle and I'm not sure someone who fits well with that is gonna be my spiritual free loving hippy chick who's gonna gel with me). But I'd definitely entertain dating one who, like you, ignite, or me, had conflicted feelings about it |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
It so rarely happens anywhere like that, though.
But connections can happen online. A casual message that suddenly has you messaging all night covering all things. And can happen through fab too.
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Someone I met on here in February has become very special in my life, we talk or message every single day but I don't see it as a relationship but he is a bloody good friend and now always will be (and yes, he's verrry good in bed too  ) x |
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"I would love to fall in love again and am very open to it now. I make no secret about it but I’m not desperate either. I’m just taking things in my stride and going with the flow. I have a few interesting things going on right now, we shall see.
I like that attitude Poochie But I suspect I'm likely to get there through dating not Fab. Some forumites may recall that I got somewhat snowed under by dates in spring. So much so that I had to stop. From that month on the dating sites I ended up making a friend who's happy being a friend with benefits. Meanwhile, people on here actively looking for such a thing can hold out for years without finding it.
But I do want more. So, like you, I'm happy to have adventures whilst I seek my love "
I had a pretty amazing time the other week with someone on here. I invited him over for dinner and drinks on the Thursday and sent him home very d*unk and frustrated. He then invited me over to his for dinner the next night. I stayed until the Sunday. I didn’t want to leave and he felt the same. I had other plans I couldn’t get out of. We have chatted all week since and trying to match diaries for our next date. He wants to explore like me but we have a love of music, gin and other things. It’s s little exciting. I do have a few others I’m getting to know also. We shall see. Getting the best of both worlds, dating and kinky sex in one. |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
It so rarely happens anywhere like that, though.
But connections can happen online. A casual message that suddenly has you messaging all night covering all things. And can happen through fab too.
Someone I met on here in February has become very special in my life, we talk or message every single day but I don't see it as a relationship but he is a bloody good friend and now always will be (and yes, he's verrry good in bed too ) x"
I have a few like that from here and killing kittens. It’s lovely to have that kind of friendship. |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking. "
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ? |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
It so rarely happens anywhere like that, though.
But connections can happen online. A casual message that suddenly has you messaging all night covering all things. And can happen through fab too.
Someone I met on here in February has become very special in my life, we talk or message every single day but I don't see it as a relationship but he is a bloody good friend and now always will be (and yes, he's verrry good in bed too ) x
I have a few like that from here and killing kittens. It’s lovely to have that kind of friendship. "
It is, I never thought I would become so close to someone on here but he now knows more about me than some of my (not so close) friends... And he is very open with me too which I love and respect x |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
I completely agree.
I'm so in the same place Well said Ms Wilkes But (and it's a big but) don't you think that if you coincidentally met someone on here like me who felt the same way then it could work? For me, I may not be so interested in a woman who thrives on Fab (purely because I think Fab's a bit Jeremy Kyle and I'm not sure someone who fits well with that is gonna be my spiritual free loving hippy chick who's gonna gel with me). But I'd definitely entertain dating one who, like you, ignite, or me, had conflicted feelings about it "
I judge people by my own standards, I know I'm on here and genuinely not arsed about fucking loads of different people. I know that I want someone to have an exclusive loving relationship with so if I'm on here wanting those things there's every chance there could be a guy on here wanting the same. I'd have to look at his actions and not just listen to his words, a lot of men on here will kiss your cheek to finger your arse and tell you what they *think* you want to hear just to have sex with you.
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ? "
Well it's not happened in 8 years. I've only met a handful of men off here but each person I've slept with many times. The last guy I met between Nov and January this year he even said if he'd met me on a night out it would've been different and his parting statement, if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of your fanny out love!
I'm not including the op in this cos I know he's on the same wavelength but a lot of men will use this place as a stop gap between dating in the real world. A lot of men will only consider women on this site as good enough to fuck but not date. A lot of men want their girlfriends to be pure and wouldn't like the thought of them ever being on here. It's massive double standards but that's how some men think. |
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I’ve been pondering about this a lot, I’ve had a summer of love and felt totally burnt out last week, considered deleting etc..
However, I think it’s perfectly possible to make deep meaningful connections and have relationships with people via sites like this or dating/chat/chat sites, often I think the fact that they’re in your phone amplifies that relationship because you can talk anywhere at any time which is not something that would happen in my youth. The downside of this is that the disposable nature of virtual reality and the expectations we build of that other person and emotional investment. It can be all consuming trying to establish a friendship, the temptation to reply to a message straight away, then the anxiety as to why you’re not getting one back straightaway. They say something you don’t agree with or respond and you delete and move on, they don’t tick a box and you move on.. what am I saying, I don’t preclude sites like this for meeting someone it can happen anywhere if our minds are open. Just because you’re here doesn’t make you worth any less than someone you or I would meet in the real world |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ?
Well it's not happened in 8 years. I've only met a handful of men off here but each person I've slept with many times. The last guy I met between Nov and January this year he even said if he'd met me on a night out it would've been different and his parting statement, if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of your fanny out love!
I'm not including the op in this cos I know he's on the same wavelength but a lot of men will use this place as a stop gap between dating in the real world. A lot of men will only consider women on this site as good enough to fuck but not date. A lot of men want their girlfriends to be pure and wouldn't like the thought of them ever being on here. It's massive double standards but that's how some men think. "
That guy you met was judgmental and not right for you. I have met guys like that and I would never have a relationship with someone so narrow minded. |
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"I hold on to the fantasy that deeply romantic and erotic encounters with strangers are possible. I just think that what makes them romantic and erotic is that they weren't contrived on a website. They occur in the real world when two people with open minds and a burning attraction cross paths. I'm one such man... looking for my female counter.
I've always been more continental lover, soft focused vaselined lens, in my view of eroticism ever since I first joined here. But Fab is more sped up, hanky panky, slap and tickle. That never was me. It still isn't. But the people on the forums put up with my ramblings
...and every once in a while I get a lovely message or wink from a gorgeous women who gets where I'm coming from, feels equally at odds with being on here, and off we go, exploring if there's something that needs exploring between us
So your problem with fab is that it's a website?
So many of your contributions to the fora are concerned with pointing out that you're not the type of person to use websites for sex, that you seek more in terms of a spiritual and emotional connection than some of us and seem to be suggesting that sex for it's own sake is somehow base and soul destroying. Personally I think that what you're looking for is a romantic dream. The deep connections you seek aren't possible with a stranger whether you meet them on the net, in Wetherspoons or running in slow motion through a field of corn. I know many people believe, including you, that it is possible but I suggest that it's not and ultimately leads to disappointment and an unrealistic view of relationships. It takes a long time to build a deep and spiritual connection and having sex with a stranger won't achieve more than an illusion of that.
Every time you post threads like this though lots of people seem to agree that they're looking for the same as you. Maybe I'm wrong and you and those who seek what you do are right. If that's so, you are in the right place to find what you're after.
Sorry Nice I must be exasperating I know. I've been a bit of an odd fit from day one. But you must have cottoned on by now that I'm on here to meet others who think they're a bit of an odd fit too. So sometimes these threads exploring outside the edges of Fab are ways to reach out to them
I've been told loads of things in my life were impossible. And you know what... I have a pretty good track record of defying those expectations. As with Fab too... the numbers don't paint a pretty picture of me having any luck on here. You could say the odds are so dismal that I shouldn't bother. But then you look at the competition and you realise how rubbish 95% of them are... So I take to the forums to try and better convey that I'm perhaps a more interesting proposition than the next guy and so far I've enjoyed two lovely misadventures with two lovely women. Yay!!
So I try to make my own luck in life and so far that's worked quite well for me... with those things I have control over. So I sense that I can go out into the world, away from the usual contrived fuck off a website, and make my own luck. I may use Fab differently to try and help with that, just meeting people on it in a social capacity and then seeing if something else comes from that further down the line. But I haven't quite made my mind up yet. Hence the hidden profile. But thanks for the thoughtful reply xx"
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I dont think you hold the monopoly on being a deep thinking romantic hippy on here. Comparisons to real world people versus those on fab annoy me a bit. Everyone on fab is someone from the real world, and has the whole range of human emotions, yes including the whole running off hand in hand romance business. To suggest we are all just waiting for our turn on JK is a bit 
Just a sex site. Sex binds everyone whether you would like to admit it or not, and free thinking hippy ladies are just as likely to be on here, looking for other free spirits that have no such contrived ideas on the nature of a 'sex site', that you say you dont, but you obviously do.
Hell, Im on here, and could recite deep poetry at you whilst whipping up a daisy chain, and considering the meaning of life no bother at all
Fab can be just a tiny part of our lives, but why close a door on the chance of so many interesting people being available to you, albeit 'the one' is likely to be 200 miles away.
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"I dont think you hold the monopoly on being a deep thinking romantic hippy on here. Comparisons to real world people versus those on fab annoy me a bit. Everyone on fab is someone from the real world, and has the whole range of human emotions, yes including the whole running off hand in hand romance business. To suggest we are all just waiting for our turn on JK is a bit
Just a sex site. Sex binds everyone whether you would like to admit it or not, and free thinking hippy ladies are just as likely to be on here, looking for other free spirits that have no such contrived ideas on the nature of a 'sex site', that you say you dont, but you obviously do.
Hell, Im on here, and could recite deep poetry at you whilst whipping up a daisy chain, and considering the meaning of life no bother at all
Fab can be just a tiny part of our lives, but why close a door on the chance of so many interesting people being available to you, albeit 'the one' is likely to be 200 miles away.
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I agree 95% with you but with one difference. The ‘one’ might be only a few miles away but instead of meeting to see how you click we go by a few photos, a brief profile and maybe verifications. It’s not until you actually meet that you know ....
I’m available for drinks btw |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think you hold the monopoly on being a deep thinking romantic hippy on here. Comparisons to real world people versus those on fab annoy me a bit. Everyone on fab is someone from the real world, and has the whole range of human emotions, yes including the whole running off hand in hand romance business. To suggest we are all just waiting for our turn on JK is a bit
Just a sex site. Sex binds everyone whether you would like to admit it or not, and free thinking hippy ladies are just as likely to be on here, looking for other free spirits that have no such contrived ideas on the nature of a 'sex site', that you say you dont, but you obviously do.
Hell, Im on here, and could recite deep poetry at you whilst whipping up a daisy chain, and considering the meaning of life no bother at all
Fab can be just a tiny part of our lives, but why close a door on the chance of so many interesting people being available to you, albeit 'the one' is likely to be 200 miles away.
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This I agree with 100%
I can even make daisy chains too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think you hold the monopoly on being a deep thinking romantic hippy on here. Comparisons to real world people versus those on fab annoy me a bit. Everyone on fab is someone from the real world, and has the whole range of human emotions, yes including the whole running off hand in hand romance business. To suggest we are all just waiting for our turn on JK is a bit
Just a sex site. Sex binds everyone whether you would like to admit it or not, and free thinking hippy ladies are just as likely to be on here, looking for other free spirits that have no such contrived ideas on the nature of a 'sex site', that you say you dont, but you obviously do.
Hell, Im on here, and could recite deep poetry at you whilst whipping up a daisy chain, and considering the meaning of life no bother at all
Fab can be just a tiny part of our lives, but why close a door on the chance of so many interesting people being available to you, albeit 'the one' is likely to be 200 miles away.
This I agree with 100%
I can even make daisy chains too "
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I first joined Fab in 2013 and had a whale of a time with fabulous people, but it was during a big change in my life, so it was a diversion - something else to focus on. After 12 months, life moved on, swinging lost it's appeal and I hid my profile.
In the past 3 years I've only had 2 meets, but have popped back on here a few times, posted on forums for a few weeks and then kind of drifted off again.
I think I associate Fab with good times and a bit of fantasy, and I use it when I'm having a real life "what's next?" moment. Right now, life isn't being overly directional on the what's next front  , so here I am again... |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ?
Well it's not happened in 8 years. I've only met a handful of men off here but each person I've slept with many times. The last guy I met between Nov and January this year he even said if he'd met me on a night out it would've been different and his parting statement, if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of your fanny out love!
I'm not including the op in this cos I know he's on the same wavelength but a lot of men will use this place as a stop gap between dating in the real world. A lot of men will only consider women on this site as good enough to fuck but not date. A lot of men want their girlfriends to be pure and wouldn't like the thought of them ever being on here. It's massive double standards but that's how some men think. "
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ?
Well it's not happened in 8 years. I've only met a handful of men off here but each person I've slept with many times. The last guy I met between Nov and January this year he even said if he'd met me on a night out it would've been different and his parting statement, if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of your fanny out love!
I'm not including the op in this cos I know he's on the same wavelength but a lot of men will use this place as a stop gap between dating in the real world. A lot of men will only consider women on this site as good enough to fuck but not date. A lot of men want their girlfriends to be pure and wouldn't like the thought of them ever being on here. It's massive double standards but that's how some men think. "
thats fucking terrible him saying that. But what id like to ask you is. Why did you join a dating site looking for "the one" when its mostly swingers and people looking for stop gaps. It would be like me joining a christian website looking for gangbangs |
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"I dont think you hold the monopoly on being a deep thinking romantic hippy on here. Comparisons to real world people versus those on fab annoy me a bit. Everyone on fab is someone from the real world, and has the whole range of human emotions, yes including the whole running off hand in hand romance business. To suggest we are all just waiting for our turn on JK is a bit
Just a sex site. Sex binds everyone whether you would like to admit it or not, and free thinking hippy ladies are just as likely to be on here, looking for other free spirits that have no such contrived ideas on the nature of a 'sex site', that you say you dont, but you obviously do.
Hell, Im on here, and could recite deep poetry at you whilst whipping up a daisy chain, and considering the meaning of life no bother at all
Fab can be just a tiny part of our lives, but why close a door on the chance of so many interesting people being available to you, albeit 'the one' is likely to be 200 miles away.
This I agree with 100%
I can even make daisy chains too "
You know... it would be so much easier than having to pout and strop on the forums in order to flush out you deep thinking poetry reciting daisy wearing romantic hippies if there was a check box for it on the search options
I will gladly abdicate my monopoly and offer it up as a collectivist open source organic slow movement chakra inducing raw juice love in xxxxx |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ?
Well it's not happened in 8 years. I've only met a handful of men off here but each person I've slept with many times. The last guy I met between Nov and January this year he even said if he'd met me on a night out it would've been different and his parting statement, if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of your fanny out love!
I'm not including the op in this cos I know he's on the same wavelength but a lot of men will use this place as a stop gap between dating in the real world. A lot of men will only consider women on this site as good enough to fuck but not date. A lot of men want their girlfriends to be pure and wouldn't like the thought of them ever being on here. It's massive double standards but that's how some men think. thats fucking terrible him saying that. But what id like to ask you is. Why did you join a dating site looking for "the one" when its mostly swingers and people looking for stop gaps. It would be like me joining a christian website looking for gangbangs"
Did you find any takers for your Christian gang bang yet? |
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"You consider 95% of your "competition" to be rubbish. Interesting. You seem to hold quite a low opinion of the rest of us lowly mortals. "
You're not my competition. You're a couple. My competition is the seething mass of other "single" men on this site... 95% of which (I'm told by reputable sources) send out facepalmingly bad "your fanny, my cock" one liners under the misguided apprehension of being a 21st century Casanova.
I don't know if this is a "thing" but I wouldn't be surprised if most people massively overestimate the quality of their competition. I once worked in a very small prestigious creative company in the centre of London. The place was continually inundated by people sending in examples of their work in the hope of getting in. I always assumed I was extremely lucky to work there, considering the pile of applications, until I was given the task of going through them and ing out some possible new hires. I was shocked at the sheer level of crap that'd been sent in by utterly delusional hacks. I honestly went through about 150 applicants and found maybe 2 or 3 even worth interviewing. I took from that the lesson that, in many instances, the illusion of competition is just that... an illusion |
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By *oseredWoman
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"The eternal struggle. I'm on a few dating sites becuase I'm actually looking for a relationship but I'd like you meet someone who is opened to the idea of swinging. I daren't put that on my dating profile though. So for the last year I've just been bouncing back And forth on Fab and dating sites. "
This is my reason too, but finding it harder than I thought to find people open to the possiblity if a real relationship with a love of the lifestyle  |
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"I've always been looking for love and something more meaningful on here, it's just taken me 8 years to finally realise I won't find that on here. Even if a guy was looking for a girlfriend, I genuinely believe that even if he liked me and got on with me, the fact that I'm on here would put him off.
My mojo or desire to meet guys from here won't ever return because I simply do not want a one off encounter or sex for the sake of sex. Real world guys are where I need to be looking.
Sorry I hope I am not being rude but how can you categorically say you won't find it on here ?
Well it's not happened in 8 years. I've only met a handful of men off here but each person I've slept with many times. The last guy I met between Nov and January this year he even said if he'd met me on a night out it would've been different and his parting statement, if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of your fanny out love!
I'm not including the op in this cos I know he's on the same wavelength but a lot of men will use this place as a stop gap between dating in the real world. A lot of men will only consider women on this site as good enough to fuck but not date. A lot of men want their girlfriends to be pure and wouldn't like the thought of them ever being on here. It's massive double standards but that's how some men think. thats fucking terrible him saying that. But what id like to ask you is. Why did you join a dating site looking for "the one" when its mostly swingers and people looking for stop gaps. It would be like me joining a christian website looking for gangbangs
Did you find any takers for your Christian gang bang yet? "
ha i wouldnt have even looked for a gangbang on here |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"A year ago I had completely given up on the idea of love I didn't think love and I were compatible and thought to myself I was better being on my own but I still had my sexual needs hence fab. I made some good friends here too. Then boom I started chatting to a wonderful women and fell for her so hard that the distance and circumstances were no issue at all. A year on our relationship has grown and grown. So even on fab love is out there
She is the woman I love
She is my best friend
She is everything to me
When the love is right it's very simple "
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"You consider 95% of your "competition" to be rubbish. Interesting. You seem to hold quite a low opinion of the rest of us lowly mortals.
You're not my competition. You're a couple. My competition is the seething mass of other "single" men on this site... 95% of which (I'm told by reputable sources) send out facepalmingly bad "your fanny, my cock" one liners under the misguided apprehension of being a 21st century Casanova.
I don't know if this is a "thing" but I wouldn't be surprised if most people massively overestimate the quality of their competition. I once worked in a very small prestigious creative company in the centre of London. The place was continually inundated by people sending in examples of their work in the hope of getting in. I always assumed I was extremely lucky to work there, considering the pile of applications, until I was given the task of going through them and ing out some possible new hires. I was shocked at the sheer level of crap that'd been sent in by utterly delusional hacks. I honestly went through about 150 applicants and found maybe 2 or 3 even worth interviewing. I took from that the lesson that, in many instances, the illusion of competition is just that... an illusion "
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