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over a year ago
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If your spouse or significant other told you that you could go out with other guys (or girls) and have all the sex you wanted to with them, but he/she would also do the same. Would you be okay with it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure. It would depend on the relationship. If I had a partner open to swinging then I would be happy to experiment and see what feels right for us both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your spouse or significant other told you that you could go out with other guys (or girls) and have all the sex you wanted to with them, but he/she would also do the same. Would you be okay with it?"
No.
It’s not something either of us would want to consider anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your spouse or significant other told you that you could go out with other guys (or girls) and have all the sex you wanted to with them, but he/she would also do the same. Would you be okay with it?"
Here it goes lol...
No.
Just over a year ago my husband told me the thought of other men fucking me turned him on, and would I be interested at all. I said I’d think about it, and made a fab profile just to ease myself into it. Eventually I agreed. I asked if he wanted to sleep with anyone else and was glad when he said no. We have this conversation every month or so - I’ve told him he can if he wants, but he doesn’t.
And yes, I’m glad. Currently, I’m not confident in myself for him to sleep with anyone else. However, I’m more open minded about it than I was a year ago. So maybe one day I’ll encourage it. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"And yes, I’m glad. Currently, I’m not confident in myself for him to sleep with anyone else. However, I’m more open minded about it than I was a year ago. So maybe one day I’ll encourage it. "
So you tell him he can if he wants to but you're glad when he doesn't? And you're not confident in yourself for him to but you still say he can? What a mindfuck. Women! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And yes, I’m glad. Currently, I’m not confident in myself for him to sleep with anyone else. However, I’m more open minded about it than I was a year ago. So maybe one day I’ll encourage it.
So you tell him he can if he wants to but you're glad when he doesn't? And you're not confident in yourself for him to but you still say he can? What a mindfuck. Women!
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If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes,done that,my wife had one guy that she saw regularly,I had a couple of ladies that I would see. The man my wife was seeing ended it & the two ladies I was seeing both stopped due to health problems. My wife is no longer looking. I'm still embracing the open marriage thing. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t "
My point was more - why say he can do something like fuck others when you're not fully behind it? I wouldn't consider it my partner's blessing if he was umming and not confident with it - I'd tell him to stop asking something he is uncomfortable with and own his feelings.
Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t
My point was more - why say he can do something like fuck others when you're not fully behind it? I wouldn't consider it my partner's blessing if he was umming and not confident with it - I'd tell him to stop asking something he is uncomfortable with and own his feelings.
Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.
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Yes, complicated and individual - it’s not as if I’ve said ‘go and fuck someone if you want but I’m not 100% sure how I’d feel about it’. The conversations have been a lot more in depth  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could never be okay for me the thought of it makes me sick to the core - unfortunately or fortunately depends how you see it i could never be in a relationship where that would be acceptable |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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"If he was to do it, he has my blessing. I’d rather he came out and said he wanted to do it, than go behind my back. Not that I ever think he’d go behind my back, but seems hypocritical of me to tell him no, let me fuck other men, but you can’t
My point was more - why say he can do something like fuck others when you're not fully behind it? I wouldn't consider it my partner's blessing if he was umming and not confident with it - I'd tell him to stop asking something he is uncomfortable with and own his feelings.
Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.
Yes, complicated and individual - it’s not as if I’ve said ‘go and fuck someone if you want but I’m not 100% sure how I’d feel about it’. The conversations have been a lot more in depth "
Everyone’s own personal circumstances are just that. Very personal to them and something that suits their dynamics. It’s not always something that is easy to explain to another person, nor something we should feel we have to. If it works for us then that’s what counts. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Meh. Relationship dynamics are complicated and individual.
Everyone’s own personal circumstances are just that. Very personal to them and something that suits their dynamics. It’s not always something that is easy to explain to another person, nor something we should feel we have to. If it works for us then that’s what counts."
Agreed - relationships are complicated and individual as I typed up ^ there. No one has to explain anything ever really - on the same hand, sometimes on a thread a person may comment on a post. I think when you post on a forum, you realise there might be interaction, no? I was interested in the post and thought I'd comment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Queen Leviosa’s husband here to confirm and explain...
I asked her how she’d feel about sleeping with other men. My decision.
Nope, I don’t want to sleep with anyone else. I have my wife’s blessing but nope, I still don’t want too.
If I ever wanted to, it’s not as if I’d go on a night out, fuck someone then tell her the next day. We would discuss it, take things slow, and I’d start actively using fab (I use it to lurk the forums really). And if she didn’t feel comfortable, it wouldn’t go ahead. Same as if I said I no longer liked her sleeping with other men, she’d stop.
All about communication, respect and understanding
And it’s not as if anyone can truly understand anyone else’s relationship anyway 
Would I like this situation in the future, where we both sleep with other people, but not as a couple? Probably not. I’m not a ‘cuck’ but Queen Leviosa fucking other men and telling me about it/sending me videos is what does it for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Given it messed up my last relationship, I'd never do that again.
I guess if you're both 100% sure then fine, it could work for you but as long as I'm in a relationship, I'll never go through that again. It was too painful for me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Queen Leviosa’s husband here to confirm and explain...
I asked her how she’d feel about sleeping with other men. My decision.
Nope, I don’t want to sleep with anyone else. I have my wife’s blessing but nope, I still don’t want too.
If I ever wanted to, it’s not as if I’d go on a night out, fuck someone then tell her the next day. We would discuss it, take things slow, and I’d start actively using fab (I use it to lurk the forums really). And if she didn’t feel comfortable, it wouldn’t go ahead. Same as if I said I no longer liked her sleeping with other men, she’d stop.
All about communication, respect and understanding
And it’s not as if anyone can truly understand anyone else’s relationship anyway
Would I like this situation in the future, where we both sleep with other people, but not as a couple? Probably not. I’m not a ‘cuck’ but Queen Leviosa fucking other men and telling me about it/sending me videos is what does it for me. "
Wow. Whatever makes me happy. It's not anyone else's business at all. |
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