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I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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No I wouldn’t, I don’t meet at my home at all.
I’ve had a bit of a situation recently with someone turning up and just parking outside where I live after he dropped me home after a social 9 months ago  I won’t be so foolish again! |
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol  "
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
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i remember that quite clearly |
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over a year ago
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
i remember that quite clearly"
How could we forget! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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Some women have suggested this yes I've politely declined mind although having said that I'm a really nice chatty guy and I'm great with all people including kids |
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We once went to a guys house but didn’t know his three kids where asleep upstairs until I asked to go to the bathroom and he told me to be really quiet
We ended up NOT playing as I was really annoyed
That’s just a no no for me |
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
Some women have suggested this yes I've politely declined mind although having said that I'm a really nice chatty guy and I'm great with all people including kids "
I wouldn't want strange men around my kids: period. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I wouldn’t, I don’t meet at my home at all.
I’ve had a bit of a situation recently with someone turning up and just parking outside where I live after he dropped me home after a social 9 months ago I won’t be so foolish again!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I wouldnt. I met a laddy in the daytime when her child was at school. She kept messaging me at night asking me to go round hers. Her boy was asleep and wont wake up. Tempting but my morals said no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
Some women have suggested this yes I've politely declined mind although having said that I'm a really nice chatty guy and I'm great with all people including kids
I wouldn't want strange men around my kids: period. "
I wouldn't be strange to anyone I was involved with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
i remember that quite clearly
How could we forget!"
Wait hold up? Was posted on the forum? or just a news story you all remember? Because fucking hell I think I prefer people playing to the crowds thank hearing that stuff going on |
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It's not just around kids.....we can be out with friends or family and guys say..."that's ok, I'm happy to join you " or ask you to slip away for half an hour. I've learned that for a lot of people on here it's just about them getting a shag and who it's with and under what circumstances is irrelevant sadly. |
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"It's not just around kids.....we can be out with friends or family and guys say..."that's ok, I'm happy to join you " or ask you to slip away for half an hour. I've learned that for a lot of people on here it's just about them getting a shag and who it's with and under what circumstances is irrelevant sadly."
really....... People here just want a shag........ Well I never, flabbergasted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
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Sounds familiar to me to. There was also the woman who picked up the guy whilst her baby was asleep in back of the car. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
Sounds familiar to me to. There was also the woman who picked up the guy whilst her baby was asleep in back of the car."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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Absolutely not. We were pestered by a couple (now blocked) for a while after cancelling a meet. After arranging, they told us they had kids (about the same age as your) at home, so we would have to wait until they’d put them to bed and be quiet. They couldn’t grasp why we felt it necessary to cancel, even got quite abusive over it. We put that one down to a lucky escape.
Enjoy your holiday. Looks like you’ve timed it perfectly. It’s turned cold and raining here in Leeds
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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Just hide your profile while your away. Job done x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol "
Absolutely no way would I play in a situation where kids were likely to disturb matters - but there was a thread not that long ago that got quite heated where people were saying they didn't see the problem and had lockable rooms they used, or didn't allow visitors upstairs etc.
Let me see if I can find it - was a very worrying read |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
Absolutely no way would I play in a situation where kids were likely to disturb matters - but there was a thread not that long ago that got quite heated where people were saying they didn't see the problem and had lockable rooms they used, or didn't allow visitors upstairs etc.
Let me see if I can find it - was a very worrying read"
Found it: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/768559#message_16708478
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ummmmmm; hell no way would I meet up with someone and their kids are in the next room.
So sorry that you’re getting crappy messages whilst you are trying to relax xx |
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We had a few messages like this when we were away. We clearly stated on profile & in updates we were not meeting & with children.
Some people are just ignorant.
There was 1 forumite who very politely messaged though & was gutted not to be able to meet them as they have been very helpful with tourist advice in the past
B x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The sad thing is as highlighted by one poster above is some people don't give a fuck about their kids ... Usually chavs who breed for benefits.
Kids are a blessing that not everyone receives and those who treat their kids with such utter contempt simply don't deserve to have them - and quite frankly - should have them taken away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been offered this, but it's a no from us. Last thing we want to worry about is keeping the noise down or exposing the kids to adult play. Fab fucking has a time and a place, and it's not at ours whilst the kids are sleeping! |
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"The sad thing is as highlighted by one poster above is some people don't give a fuck about their kids ... Usually chavs who breed for benefits.
Kids are a blessing that not everyone receives and those who treat their kids with such utter contempt simply don't deserve to have them - and quite frankly - should have them taken away"
There's people of all walks of life who don't care, and some are totally misguided as to what caring entails.
Highly inappropriate and could have profound impact on the child if they ventured in and saw what was going on. |
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By *arehamMan
over a year ago
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I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!. |
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!."
Stories like this really worry me. How can any adult think it's OK to padlock their children into their room?
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!."
So you still stayed? |
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!."
I'd have ripped the padlocks off.....selfish and irresponsible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were told we were timewasters and got blocked as we wouldnt go round theres due to them having children in the house.
They didnt even ask for a social meet first. Just straight to come round and full swap.
Needless to say it was no loss to us at all.
And its not that we dont meet people with children. Just not at the childrens home when they are there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't have people to my house at all, let alone if my children were there.
I can't believe people's mentality on here. Some are just sad and desperate for a shag.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!."
Christ on a bike
You didn’t see the lock and decide to leave? |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!.
So you still stayed? "
That's what I was thinking |
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Never when my kids might be here 
That's why weekends are pretty much a no play zone for me and I only meet during the week 
Fab life and real life are two different things entirely and I keep the two separate, with rl being the most important |
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!.
Stories like this really worry me. How can any adult think it's OK to padlock their children into their room?
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And yet his morals allowed him to still stay and the next morning meet the kids! Makes him as bad in my eyes. I’d of reported them to social services no question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's sad that some people would put sex first over their own kids and stoop to doing stupid things like locking their kids in their bedrooms so they don't get out if they wake up at night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't meet anyone at their home if kids are around. It just wouldn't feel right having kids see their mum bringing strangers into their home.
That's why I prefer to meet either at a hotel or at a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't allow anyone i didn't know very well in my house even when no one else home. Years ago I used to see a guy who i did bring in after midnight and kick out at 4am occasionally. I felt guilty at first,but then felt more comfortable as time went on. Going out wasnt an option. My children have always and will always come first.
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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I was once with a guy years back who as I started to cum he muffled me and said his kids were upstairs in bed.
I got dressed and left immediately!
I also had a friend who I introduced to swinging. Her and her husband were a busy part of the scene for some time (still could be for all I know, we are no longer in contact) and she started holding parties at home. I was round having a brew when she invited me to her next one.
I asked what she did with her 3kids (between 8&12yrs old) whilst the parties were on and was horrified when she said they were in bed and the guests all just stayed downstairs.
Can you imagine if one of them woke up and came down for a drink, and walked in to see mum getting banged by Rod, Jane n Freddy, and Dad banging Zippy n George!?
Scar them for life! Hence we are no longer in contact |
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
i remember that quite clearly"
Was there not also one who "quite proudly" stated putting Vaseline on the door handles so the kids couldn't open the doors... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s complete lack of respect and quite weird!
I had one guy on here want to arrange a meet and stated his kids are over for the weekend but he will turn the TV up in their room. He was soon blocked! |
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!."
You stayed?!
I'd have left and seriously considered calling Social Services.
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"I once went too one couples house they had a pad lock on the kids door so they could not get out god knows what would have happened if they had a fire not nice at all,met the kids next morning really nice kids!.
You stayed?!
I'd have left and seriously considered calling Social Services.
Nita"
I said this also! His morals are just as bad imo |
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Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all . |
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all . "
I agree with so much of this. |
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all . "
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together. |
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together."
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home ! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together."
This
And obviously circumstances do come into play as well - there's a deal of difference between two adults playing in an adults bedroom or even the lounge and the potential for a child stumbling across them (although having done just that as a child it's not something I'd like to want my kids to see even in that circumstance) and them stumbling into a room with more than two people at it which is just something kids should never be put in a position to even think about let alone see.
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !"
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I’ve been whitnes to kids seeing various men come in and out of their mums life she is a friend and I personally think it’s unhealthy and wrong and I’ve told her. I just don’t understand why you have to do that. But hey ho"
its not about them being a secret or hidden it’s about not introducing them to a guy or a succession of men I’m just dating. |
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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Absolute no no from us. We are amazed by how many people don't seem to see a problem with it tho x |
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I’ve been whitnes to kids seeing various men come in and out of their mums life she is a friend and I personally think it’s unhealthy and wrong and I’ve told her. I just don’t understand why you have to do that. But hey ho
its not about them being a secret or hidden it’s about not introducing them to a guy or a succession of men I’m just dating."
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I’ve been whitnes to kids seeing various men come in and out of their mums life she is a friend and I personally think it’s unhealthy and wrong and I’ve told her. I just don’t understand why you have to do that. But hey ho
its not about them being a secret or hidden it’s about not introducing them to a guy or a succession of men I’m just dating."
I also want my kids to respect me and vice versa. I’d also question any mans morals if he would casually think it’s ok to meet a dates kids very early on |
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I’ve been whitnes to kids seeing various men come in and out of their mums life she is a friend and I personally think it’s unhealthy and wrong and I’ve told her. I just don’t understand why you have to do that. But hey ho
its not about them being a secret or hidden it’s about not introducing them to a guy or a succession of men I’m just dating."
absolutly. Having a succession of "uncles" in and out their life. My son was introduced to two reasonably long term boyfriends after a hell of a long while |
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I’ve been whitnes to kids seeing various men come in and out of their mums life she is a friend and I personally think it’s unhealthy and wrong and I’ve told her. I just don’t understand why you have to do that. But hey ho
its not about them being a secret or hidden it’s about not introducing them to a guy or a succession of men I’m just dating.
I also want my kids to respect me and vice versa. I’d also question any mans morals if he would casually think it’s ok to meet a dates kids very early on "
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
I've been here long enough to remember when people were honest and didn’t play to the crowd. One woman had strangers in her house when her kids were home. She even drugged them and locked them in their room so she could fuck undisturbed.
My children were away at uni when I met at home...struggle to understand why people would but hey...Each to their own.
i remember that quite clearly
How could we forget!
Wait hold up? Was posted on the forum? or just a news story you all remember? Because fucking hell I think I prefer people playing to the crowds thank hearing that stuff going on"
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
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I've had friends over, never felt the need to drug and lock my kids in their room.
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I’ve been whitnes to kids seeing various men come in and out of their mums life she is a friend and I personally think it’s unhealthy and wrong and I’ve told her. I just don’t understand why you have to do that. But hey ho
its not about them being a secret or hidden it’s about not introducing them to a guy or a succession of men I’m just dating."
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I've had friends over, never felt the need to drug and lock my kids in their room.
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I've had friends over, never felt the need to drug and lock my kids in their room.
Where have I said anything at all about the need to drug and lock the kids in their room ? "
You didn't! You asked what was wrong with a mum having fella over...Nothing, but I was talking about the member who posted on the forums that she drugged and locked her kids in their room so she could fuck strangers.
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"Playing with kids in the house goes on all the time , fact .
Do we condone it ? No .
Do we understand why some people do it ? Yes .
Have we done it ? Yes , one time when we first started . It was in fact our first ever meet over seven years ago . We didn’t know they had kids in the house and we travelled over thirty miles late at night . Got there at eleven thirty , started playing at one thirty in the morning . It turned out the kids were stirring and we were kinda worried but very new . Left at three in the morning and figured it was a strange thing to play with kids in the house , but must be normal as the couple were very well verified with all meets happening at theirs .
We never did again , and even though we made some good friends over the years in the scene , we never had anyone over to ours for fun .
This forum loves to judge , and sometimes rightly so . On this one I’m undecided .
If a single mum wants to meet a guy and have him over in a normal rather than a swinging sense , no one bats an eyelid .
If she’s a swinger , doesn’t want a relationship , has a guy over she’s a bad mum ? I don’t think so at all .
But that’s just my opinion , and our experience of swinging and fab is that the forum is not a true reflection of what happens at all .
You make some valid points
The only thing I would say differently is ~ no man (in a dating capacity) would be coming into my home until I was sure the relationship was going well. If that meant meeting him at his or in a hotel then that’s what I would do.
I guess we all have our own code regarding when it’s suitable to merge the two together.
If I dated a guy he never gets near my house while my kids are here only ever if their in their dads. It would take a lot for me to have a man in my children’s home !
And that’s your choice , and what you feel is right .
All good .
But there are many other single mums who would feel comfortable having a guy they date over . It’s actually a very normal and acceptable occurrence , and would surely let the kids see that mum has a normal life like other mums .
Kids are remarkably intelligent , and I can’t see why kids shouldn’t know that mum has adult friends / relationships . Why should the fact that mum has a fella in her life be a secret and hidden ?
I've had friends over, never felt the need to drug and lock my kids in their room.
Where have I said anything at all about the need to drug and lock the kids in their room ?
You didn't! You asked what was wrong with a mum having fella over...Nothing, but I was talking about the member who posted on the forums that she drugged and locked her kids in their room so she could fuck strangers.
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
Absolutely no way would I play in a situation where kids were likely to disturb matters - but there was a thread not that long ago that got quite heated where people were saying they didn't see the problem and had lockable rooms they used, or didn't allow visitors upstairs etc.
Let me see if I can find it - was a very worrying read
Found it: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/768559#message_16708478
Might have known "
That was an interesting read. |
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By *WKinkMan
over a year ago
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One thing having kids in the house it’s another explaining to a 10 y/o why daddy was being fucked from behind by a woman with a fake penis, whilst wearing a gas mask and a dress in an inflatable pool of swarfega.
So it’s a no from me.
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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Certainly not. That's why I don't accommodate despite being single. Even if my child's staying elsewhere (family etc) it's a no from me! |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x"
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow ! |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow !"
We do! We aim to be stealth like but I'm rubbish at controlling volume! Pillow over my head usually 
Peach x |
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"I’m in Spain. with two kids aged 10 &13.
I’ve had a billion messages from men ‘why you say you’re not meeting?
(Cos I’m here with my kids)... what shocks me most is 90% say... I can come to your apartment or you can come meet me whilst the kids in bed.
WOOAAHHHHH.... They don’t call me Gerry McCann.
I wouldn’t even let a man round if the kids were in my house In Leeds.
Does this kinda thing go off often?
WOULD YOU MEET WITH KIDS PRESENT?
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Absolutely not! But I get asked to way too much! |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow !
We do! We aim to be stealth like but I'm rubbish at controlling volume! Pillow over my head usually
Peach x"
Ah , I misunderstood your previous post  |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow !
We do! We aim to be stealth like but I'm rubbish at controlling volume! Cock in my mouth usually
Peach x"
Fuzz |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow !
We do! We aim to be stealth like but I'm rubbish at controlling volume! Cock in my mouth usually
Peach x
Fuzz"
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol "
agree totally.. how many men would actually think twice about whether there was kids in the house or not if one of these lovely fab ladies invited them round |
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"Tbf I don’t think anyone’s gonna come on and genuinely say ‘aye. I’m not arsed tbf’ lol
agree totally.. how many men would actually think twice about whether there was kids in the house or not if one of these lovely fab ladies invited them round "
Any man with morals would think twice! |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow !"
when my son was three my son spied through the keyhole and saw me and my exhusband. Far easier to explain than if hed have caught me being gangbanded by a group of guys |
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"Good grief no! We don't even get 'playtime' for ourselves with the kids home! We haven't completely mastered the art of stealth sex ourselves!
Peach x
Seriously ?
You don’t have sex with each other if the kids are at home ?
Wow !when my son was three my son spied through the keyhole and saw me and my exhusband. Far easier to explain than if hed have caught me being gangbanded by a group of guys"
Absolutely |
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