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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So am I THAT bad???
Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.
The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply 
Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?
My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?
I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’
Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So am I THAT bad???
Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.
The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply
Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?
My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?
I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’
Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong "
You’re trying to cheat in the game of connect 4  |
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By *ur1ou2Man
over a year ago
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Don’t take it personally - I get that too as I suspect do a loy if people - especially single guys.
Might be worth looking a bit closer on their profiles
Yes some are quite active and maybe just pickie - but some I have found don’t meet often at all and last verification was months ago
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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What you're doing wrong is expecting Fab to deliver more than just chat and profiles; it ain't Ronseal, it doesn't do what (you think) it says on the tin.
Have absolutely no expectations of Fab and you'll not be disappointed. If you really want to meet people then go to the socials and the clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a numbers game buddy! We as blokes are completely out numbered. Don’t take it personally, I hardly get any replies. Messages get deleted without being read all the time. Move on and keep trying  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What you're doing wrong is expecting Fab to deliver more than just chat and profiles; it ain't Ronseal, it doesn't do what (you think) it says on the tin.
Have absolutely no expectations of Fab and you'll not be disappointed. If you really want to meet people then go to the socials and the clubs."
Erm.... thanks for the pointless advise there, as you can see I visit a club (with my wife) every weekend... and have no trouble making friends there.
I don’t expect this site to be instashag like a majority of men... just don’t seem to get any replies from the ladies or couples within my local area |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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If you're messaging and asking for a social in the first message I'd say that's where you're going wrong. Well, it would put me off, I don't know if I'd want to meet someone for a social until we exchange a few messages and face pics first at least. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're messaging and asking for a social in the first message I'd say that's where you're going wrong. Well, it would put me off, I don't know if I'd want to meet someone for a social until we exchange a few messages and face pics first at least. "
The profiles I message are all asking for socials first.... I don’t just jump in and ask straight away, I compliment their profile and pictures, try and initiate a chat and then if all goes well... a social coffee.
The first messages are not getting replies for me to initiate anything else though haha |
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My advise would be forget sending messages and stick to clubs and social events,
For most people if there isn't a instant attraction when viewing a profile they wont reply, Its easier to get that feeling when meeting in person then reading a profile or looking at their photos |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My advise would be forget sending messages and stick to clubs and social events,
For most people if there isn't a instant attraction when viewing a profile they wont reply, Its easier to get that feeling when meeting in person then reading a profile or looking at their photos "
Leave them all for you then eh? Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think you are doing anything wrong. As someone said above, it is a numbers game. 15 messages is not a lot. Though it does show you are selective in your choices which is always good, the fact that there are so little who fit your criteria (and you feel you fit theirs) could be the reason behind not getting replies.
Hopefully someone will reply to you and I'm pleased you have fun away from your singles profile, which hopefully takes the sting away a little, whilst you continue searching . |
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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago
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As said before don't take it
personally OP as its just a numbers game
as most of the ladies on here get tons of msgs to deal with and they often just don't have time to reply to all of them.
One woman i met recently said she was trying to deal with 500 msgs a day on here.
Maybe try and make your msgs stand out a bit more and having a funny subject headline to your msg can often help to stand out.
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"My advise would be forget sending messages and stick to clubs and social events,
For most people if there isn't a instant attraction when viewing a profile they wont reply, Its easier to get that feeling when meeting in person then reading a profile or looking at their photos
Leave them all for you then eh? Haha"
I rarely send messages, If that approach isn't working for you stick to what is |
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"What you're doing wrong is expecting Fab to deliver more than just chat and profiles; it ain't Ronseal, it doesn't do what (you think) it says on the tin.
Have absolutely no expectations of Fab and you'll not be disappointed. If you really want to meet people then go to the socials and the clubs.
Erm.... thanks for the pointless advise there, as you can see I visit a club (with my wife) every weekend... and have no trouble making friends there.
I don’t expect this site to be instashag like a majority of men... just don’t seem to get any replies from the ladies or couples within my local area "
maybe sticking to clubs is the way to go if your having success there but not here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe I’m too picky? 
The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.
theres your answer stick to clubs"
Miss smiles.... why don’t you just say what you mean? Haha
I’m not going UNLOS ... sorry to disappoint you |
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"Maybe I’m too picky?
The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.
theres your answer stick to clubs
Miss smiles.... why don’t you just say what you mean? Haha
I’m not going UNLOS ... sorry to disappoint you "
thats not what i ment at all . You can use the forums and site as you wish but if your getting all your action in clubs and not from here then surely thats what you would do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe I’m too picky?
The funny approach works sometimes, well it works better in the club scene, just not so much on here.
theres your answer stick to clubs
Miss smiles.... why don’t you just say what you mean? Haha
I’m not going UNLOS ... sorry to disappoint you thats not what i ment at all . You can use the forums and site as you wish but if your getting all your action in clubs and not from here then surely thats what you would do"
Oh thank you very much haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don’t recal asking for a profile review
Although I have been told by several people it’s a good write up, and my pics are ok too... not got a dozen of my cock at different angles... men seem to think that will gain the interest, it according to the forum replies that method is a fail at the first hurdle.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t recal asking for a profile review
Although I have been told by several people it’s a good write up, and my pics are ok too... not got a dozen of my cock at different angles... men seem to think that will gain the interest, it according to the forum replies that method is a fail at the first hurdle.
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I don't see the poster above as actually reviewing your profile. Just pointing out the different factors that need to take place, to garner a positive response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t recal asking for a profile review
Although I have been told by several people it’s a good write up, and my pics are ok too... not got a dozen of my cock at different angles... men seem to think that will gain the interest, it according to the forum replies that method is a fail at the first hurdle.
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You asked why you maybe aren’t getting messages....I gave a response as to maybe why you don’t.
I’ve deleted my post, if you felt I was giving profile advice.
Good luck with everything... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry.... maybe I read your last post wrongly 
It did look to me that you was being a profile critique.
Ok.... so will ask about that then... what could do with changing ?
Now I’m open for the critiques  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So am I THAT bad???
Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.
The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply
Happens to me all the time. Use to it now lol.
Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?
My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?
I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’
Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong "
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"A follow up... it’s only the knickers Mrs smiles, not a full cross dresser "
wearing womens lingerie is a cross dresser. I personally love a hard cock through womens silk knickers but not everyone is into it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A follow up... it’s only the knickers Mrs smiles, not a full cross dresser wearing womens lingerie is a cross dresser. I personally love a hard cock through womens silk knickers but not everyone is into it. "
Silk or satin bring my favourite to wear
As you say, plenty don’t like it, so I just stick to the ones that have it as an interest... or they message me first (doubtful) haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months..."
Unsurprising.... maybe look closer to home for the reason why you don’t get any mate |
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"So am I THAT bad???
Over the last month I have sent out approx 15 messages to females or couples that tick everything that I am looking for, and also i am what they are looking for too.
The messages get read, some deleted straight away, others left with no reply
Maybe people don’t want to meet socially first?
My preferred method of finding out if there’s any attraction and also to see if we all get along... no point in meeting for fun of your not attracted to each other?
I’m not into meeting and fucking instantly, I like to get to know the person(s) I may be getting intimate with.... not just one off ‘bedpost ticks’
Come on guys n girls, tell me where I’m going wrong "
If you’re not into meeting and fucking instantly would you maybe be better on a dating site like pof? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months...
Unsurprising.... maybe look closer to home for the reason why you don’t get any mate "
Ey my profile is top dollar. Put plenty of thought into my profile text. And I always upload new photos... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No... I have a wife at home that I’m more than happy with, I’m not looking for a relationship, just people who I can become friends with too.... not interested in ticks on bedposts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dude. I haven't had a meet off here in one year and nine months...well i can pinpoint your problem
He’s a young kid... he may learn one day lol "
We're deviating from the point here I feel  |
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