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What is it with some ladie's on fab, that once you are busy working at weekend they go quiet

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I know I'm not the only one on fab that works a lot I have lots of free time after work, and as soon as you mention you have to work at weekend they go quiet I have a life outside of fab and lots of us work hard and play harder, and I also know there are lots on here that don't work at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They may think that you are married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been accused of not being single before because I have a family and mega hobbies that take up all my weekends!! Personally can live happily without fab but totally love my life!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe their only free time is at weekends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

If a man won't jump through hoops to please them they just move on to a new one.

They don't like it if men do the same to them, so the man must always be available 24/ 7.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe their only free time is at weekends. "

This. Maybe put on your profile that you’re not free at weekends to avoid this happening again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

If a man won't jump through hoops to please them they just move on to a new one.

They don't like it if men do the same to them, so the man must always be available 24/ 7."

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been accused of not being single before because I have a family and mega hobbies that take up all my weekends!! Personally can live happily without fab but totally love my life! "
I never get accused of being married or attached I can accommodate and travel and also have two lovely boys who come first

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

If a man won't jump through hoops to please them they just move on to a new one.

They don't like it if men do the same to them, so the man must always be available 24/ 7."
that is a very true statement too and I'm certainly not going to jump through hoops on here and I like the comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe their only free time is at weekends.

This. Maybe put on your profile that you’re not free at weekends to avoid this happening again. "
im free after work I do a lot of hours and can accommodate or travel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been accused of not being single before because I have a family and mega hobbies that take up all my weekends!! Personally can live happily without fab but totally love my life! I never get accused of being married or attached I can accommodate and travel and also have two lovely boys who come first "

I can accommodate and travel lol just don't meet at weekends! Men can get rude after a no thanks unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Other way round for us. We only meet on a weekend due to work through the week. It can be just as difficult to arrange a meet without the other losing interest when you say you cannt meet through the week.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Other way round for us. We only meet on a weekend due to work through the week. It can be just as difficult to arrange a meet without the other losing interest when you say you cannt meet through the week. "
us that work find it harder to arrange a meet and one lady hit the nail on the head with a perfect awnser but there are lots of reasons on here and sometimes if you can't meet when the other person can they get funny or rude or go quiet it's not my loss either just take it with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

State that you don't meet on a weekend on your profile op

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know I'm not the only one on fab that works a lot I have lots of free time after work, and as soon as you mention you have to work at weekend they go quiet I have a life outside of fab and lots of us work hard and play harder, and I also know there are lots on here that don't work at all.you can't win if you say you can accom but you're not available at weekends, certain things get their antennas up, we all work unusual hours shouldn't really matter but communicating why you do things helps I think "
i never said I can't meet weekends I can meet after work but I see that a lot of cheats on here so they can only play at certain times

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

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Its called real life. People have kids and family that come first before a random meet with a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know I'm not the only one on fab that works a lot I have lots of free time after work, and as soon as you mention you have to work at weekend they go quiet I have a life outside of fab and lots of us work hard and play harder, and I also know there are lots on here that don't work at all.you can't win if you say you can accom but you're not available at weekends, certain things get their antennas up, we all work unusual hours shouldn't really matter but communicating why you do things helps I think i never said I can't meet weekends I can meet after work but I see that a lot of cheats on here so they can only play at certain times "
Well its always a good thing not to make the assumptions of others that you don't like them to make of you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's rough when you find someone you like but the times don't line up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

If a man won't jump through hoops to please them they just move on to a new one.

They don't like it if men do the same to them, so the man must always be available 24/ 7."

This is so true but would you REALLY want to meet people with this kind of attitude?

It strikes me that this kind of person feels the fab world owes them something because they're so "special" and it's often the complete opposite and they just aren't nice people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

If a man won't jump through hoops to please them they just move on to a new one.

They don't like it if men do the same to them, so the man must always be available 24/ 7.

This is so true but would you REALLY want to meet people with this kind of attitude?

It strikes me that this kind of person feels the fab world owes them something because they're so "special" and it's often the complete opposite and they just aren't nice people "

I see it as a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can only meet on weekends so if a guy said he couldn't meet on a weekend then he wouldn't be suitable for me.

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By *an_LexaCouple over a year ago

Sunderland

For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

I’m not looking for any special kind if anything. The slightest problem or difficulty is just hassle I don’t need. This is extra fun. And really just that. Fun, no hassles. If it’s gonna put me at a disadvantage or out of my comfort zone I’m out of there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

I don’t view it as a loss. I never had it, it’s no big deal, I’m married, I’ve got my husband, as far as I’m concerned I’ve already got the best. This is just a splash of hp on the side of the plate"
yes this exemplifies my thought of couples, they don't need you but if it suits them and it's fun and on their terms it happens

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

Reverse the gender and has that not been the case for decades or longer with some..

Agree that there is an aspect of pick n mix with some in this lifestyle or hobby or whatever its called but that's been the way some of both genders have lived since year dot..

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By *an_LexaCouple over a year ago

Sunderland

"For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

I don’t view it as a loss. I never had it, it’s no big deal, I’m married, I’ve got my husband, as far as I’m concerned I’ve already got the best. This is just a splash of hp on the side of the plateyes this exemplifies my thought of couples, they don't need you but if it suits them and it's fun and on their terms it happens "

This is me playing as a single. And if I cannot meet someone else’s criteria without hassle. I wouldn’t be expecting them to change their expectations for me either.

Personally that’s not what this is about for me. It’s not dating, it’s not long term. It’s always just a one off bit of sauce

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

I don’t view it as a loss. I never had it, it’s no big deal, I’m married, I’ve got my husband, as far as I’m concerned I’ve already got the best. This is just a splash of hp on the side of the plateyes this exemplifies my thought of couples, they don't need you but if it suits them and it's fun and on their terms it happens

This is me playing as a single. And if I cannot meet someone else’s criteria without hassle. I wouldn’t be expecting them to change their expectations for me either.

Personally that’s not what this is about for me. It’s not dating, it’s not long term. It’s always just a one off bit of sauce

"
exactly we all have a different criteria and expectations and as long as we all appreciate the desires and frustrations of others we will be fine

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By *an_LexaCouple over a year ago

Sunderland

"For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

I don’t view it as a loss. I never had it, it’s no big deal, I’m married, I’ve got my husband, as far as I’m concerned I’ve already got the best. This is just a splash of hp on the side of the plateyes this exemplifies my thought of couples, they don't need you but if it suits them and it's fun and on their terms it happens

This is me playing as a single. And if I cannot meet someone else’s criteria without hassle. I wouldn’t be expecting them to change their expectations for me either.

Personally that’s not what this is about for me. It’s not dating, it’s not long term. It’s always just a one off bit of sauce

exactly we all have a different criteria and expectations and as long as we all appreciate the desires and frustrations of others we will be fine "

Agreed. I think we’re all here as adults and should act as such. If for whatever reason, or even no reason, someone decides we’re not for them, that’s their perogative and we can do the same. Just move on and fine someone else.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Hmmm here is some irony

"What is it with some men on fab, that once you are busy parenting at weekend they go quiet.

I know I'm not the only one on fab that is a parent. I don't have lots of free time after parenting, and as soon as you mention you have to be a parent at weekend they go quiet I have a life outside of fab and lots of us are parents and parent hard and play harder, and I also know there are lots on here that don't parent at all"

See what I did lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

If a man won't jump through hoops to please them they just move on to a new one.

They don't like it if men do the same to them, so the man must always be available 24/ 7.

This is so true but would you REALLY want to meet people with this kind of attitude?

It strikes me that this kind of person feels the fab world owes them something because they're so "special" and it's often the complete opposite and they just aren't nice people

I see it as a lucky escape.

100% correct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

yes this exemplifies my thought of couples, they don't need you but if it suits them and it's fun and on their terms it happens "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From what they say on the forums, many women and couples see men as disposable and replaceable. Not humans with feelings.

Reverse the gender and has that not been the case for decades or longer with some..

Agree that there is an aspect of pick n mix with some in this lifestyle or hobby or whatever its called but that's been the way some of both genders have lived since year dot..

I do agree. That doesn't make it right though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For some people this isn’t a dating site though.

If things don’t align easily they are happy to just move along to the next person.

This.

They may just see it as extra hassle that they can’t be bothered with and so find it easier to move on.

If my dates don’t match up with someone I’m interested in it’s shitty, but I move on, as I don’t want it to become a chore trying to arrange a meet and check out dairies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t concern yourself with those that don’t want to talk to you, concern yourself with those that do and you’ll be much happier.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I say on my profile that I only meet at weekends, which unfortunately it is rarely read.

So I would or should expect people to only make contact with me if they meet the same criteria.

Unfortunately most don't, but if you have definitive times you can't meet, I'd stick it on your profile.

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