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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I received a message from a guy yesterday .
His interests didn't match mine ,i didn't find him physically attractive either so replied politely / "Thankyou for your message but your not for me ."
Since ,iv had untold messages asking "WHY"?
Should i have to explain to him ,i dont think i should .
Any thoughts has this happened to you ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It never used to happen but it's getting ridiculous. I used to reply to almost all messages. But the abuse I've had back well now I just delete whatever. After someone messaged me numerous times I went back with no thank you and got fuck you then as a reply. If I don't thank someone for complementing me then apparently I'm a stuck up bitch. You can't win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Has he paid his site supporter fee?
If he’s a Gold member he should get a detailed explanation outlining helpful areas for improvement.
If he’s a silver member, a more punctual explanation should be provided, without the helpful improvement tips.
If he’s not a site supporter, tell him to fuck off  |
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I gave up a long time ago replying to messages, from people who's interests didn't match mine, I didn't find attractive or who's profile contained something that put me off.
I simply ignore & delete.
If they message again, I block.
I have very little free time, and I'm not wasting what I do have chatting to people who I have absolutely zero interest in.
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"I received a message from a guy yesterday .
His interests didn't match mine ,i didn't find him physically attractive either so replied politely / "Thankyou for your message but your not for me ."
Since ,iv had untold messages asking "WHY"?
Should i have to explain to him ,i dont think i should .
Any thoughts has this happened to you ?"
Why was he not for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It never used to happen but it's getting ridiculous. I used to reply to almost all messages. But the abuse I've had back well now I just delete whatever. After someone messaged me numerous times I went back with no thank you and got fuck you then as a reply. If I don't thank someone for complementing me then apparently I'm a stuck up bitch. You can't win. "
You replied to mine politely, which was much appreciated. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate this.. or when they reply "I forgot to mention, I have my own house"
Like that changes the fact they weren't attractive to us in the first place 
Adam  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This happens all the time. I try to answer all of my messages though sometimes it's absolutely impossible because of the quantity, but then some men just can't accept it and come back with the 'why'. I reply with "because it's my decision". If they keep asking me then I just delete. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It never used to happen but it's getting ridiculous. I used to reply to almost all messages. But the abuse I've had back well now I just delete whatever. After someone messaged me numerous times I went back with no thank you and got fuck you then as a reply. If I don't thank someone for complementing me then apparently I'm a stuck up bitch. You can't win.
You replied to mine politely, which was much appreciated. X"
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I have had this happen to me and always reply. Its similar to going for an interview, not getting the job and asking for feedback. I actually admire men who ask why as they maybe want advice on future messages they send women or profile advice. I always give them an honest answer and they usually thank me. Its nice to be nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This happens all the time. I try to answer all of my messages though sometimes it's absolutely impossible because of the quantity, but then some men just can't accept it and come back with the 'why'. I reply with "because it's my decision". If they keep asking me then I just delete. "
God woman I can't keep up with your messages
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It's really arrogant to question whether or not someone knows their own mind, and to think so much of yourself that you fail to grasp not everyone's going to find you attractive. Which is another good reason 'why' !!
Not that anyone should have to justify their response. |
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over a year ago
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"Has he paid his site supporter fee?
If he’s a Gold member he should get a detailed explanation outlining helpful areas for improvement.
If he’s a silver member, a more punctual explanation should be provided, without the helpful improvement tips.
If he’s not a site supporter, tell him to fuck off "
Fuck off it is then !he's not even verified. .nothing ,nil,zero on his profile
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has he paid his site supporter fee?
If he’s a Gold member he should get a detailed explanation outlining helpful areas for improvement.
If he’s a silver member, a more punctual explanation should be provided, without the helpful improvement tips.
If he’s not a site supporter, tell him to fuck off
Fuck off it is then !he's not even verified. .nothing ,nil,zero on his profile
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awwww give him a break he's probably lovely, he's just annoyed you, we all get annoyed sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Has he paid his site supporter fee?
If he’s a Gold member he should get a detailed explanation outlining helpful areas for improvement.
If he’s a silver member, a more punctual explanation should be provided, without the helpful improvement tips.
If he’s not a site supporter, tell him to fuck off
Fuck off it is then !he's not even verified. .nothing ,nil,zero on his profile
awwww give him a break he's probably lovely, he's just annoyed you, we all get annoyed sometimes "
He's possibly is lovely ...just not lovely enough for me . Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has he paid his site supporter fee?
If he’s a Gold member he should get a detailed explanation outlining helpful areas for improvement.
If he’s a silver member, a more punctual explanation should be provided, without the helpful improvement tips.
If he’s not a site supporter, tell him to fuck off
Fuck off it is then !he's not even verified. .nothing ,nil,zero on his profile
awwww give him a break he's probably lovely, he's just annoyed you, we all get annoyed sometimes
He's possibly is lovely ...just not lovely enough for me . Xx
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Well that's fine it really is........ That's it it's fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I received a message from a guy yesterday .
His interests didn't match mine ,i didn't find him physically attractive either so replied politely / "Thankyou for your message but your not for me ."
Since ,iv had untold messages asking "WHY"?
Should i have to explain to him ,i dont think i should .
Any thoughts has this happened to you ?"
That's our standard answer and we haven't had the "why" question yet..if it felt belligerent, I'd be tempted to spell it out for them though... |
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"I have had this happen to me and always reply. Its similar to going for an interview, not getting the job and asking for feedback. I actually admire men who ask why as they maybe want advice on future messages they send women or profile advice. I always give them an honest answer and they usually thank me. Its nice to be nice."
Gosh, I think you're being very generous (that's not a criticism, just an observation). I did reply a few times and tried to explain 'why' when I first started here but was put off doing so when either I got hurt feelings abuse by return, or when guys would desperately try to change my mind with several subsequent messages that I didn't have the time for. It's really hard to remain nice when that happens, and of course a tactful honest answer to the 'why' which doesn't offend isn't always easy either. |
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"Has he paid his site supporter fee?
If he’s a Gold member he should get a detailed explanation outlining helpful areas for improvement.
If he’s a silver member, a more punctual explanation should be provided, without the helpful improvement tips.
If he’s not a site supporter, tell him to fuck off
Fuck off it is then !he's not even verified. .nothing ,nil,zero on his profile
awwww give him a break he's probably lovely, he's just annoyed you, we all get annoyed sometimes
He's possibly is lovely ...just not lovely enough for me . Xx
Well that's fine it really is........ That's it it's fine "
Are you giving me shit  lol x |
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"I received a message from a guy yesterday .
His interests didn't match mine ,i didn't find him physically attractive either so replied politely / "Thankyou for your message but your not for me ."
Since ,iv had untold messages asking "WHY"?
Should i have to explain to him ,i dont think i should .
Any thoughts has this happened to you ?
Why was he not for you?"
You missed my question OP. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I received a message from a guy yesterday .
His interests didn't match mine ,i didn't find him physically attractive either so replied politely / "Thankyou for your message but your not for me ."
Since ,iv had untold messages asking "WHY"?
Should i have to explain to him ,i dont think i should .
Any thoughts has this happened to you ?
Why was he not for you?
You missed my question OP."
Did you fully read my post. ..i think not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said "
Where's he gone now...... More like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like "
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I received a message from a guy yesterday .
His interests didn't match mine ,i didn't find him physically attractive either so replied politely / "Thankyou for your message but your not for me ."
Since ,iv had untold messages asking "WHY"?
Should i have to explain to him ,i dont think i should .
Any thoughts has this happened to you ?"
To be honest OP, you have already done more than most by replying with a friendly no, you do not need to explain yourself, if he persists with messages just report and block him. |
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We used to try and reply to most, then had one very persistent guy who was more of a man child, would not stop bleating wbout need ing to know why after about the 10th message I told him then he reported us for being nasty to him and we were advised not to post for a period of time.
SO I would strongly advise against explaining why, no we instantly block and don't reply to anybody who isn't of interest that messages. Saves us hassle and inconvenience. |
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me "
Some people can be so shallow  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We used to try and reply to most, then had one very persistent guy who was more of a man child, would not stop bleating wbout need ing to know why after about the 10th message I told him then he reported us for being nasty to him and we were advised not to post for a period of time.
SO I would strongly advise against explaining why, no we instantly block and don't reply to anybody who isn't of interest that messages. Saves us hassle and inconvenience."
I don't like hurting people's feelings by saying no ...but no it had to be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me "
why did she leave you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?"
I don’t know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?"
Hey,this is my post lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?
I don’t know "
She started arguing then said I said something so I said sorry but then she said it’s not what you said it’s how you said it.. then she was seen with another guy and that was it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't ever have this problem. I don't reply if I'm not interested. It saves all the agro and leads to a happier fab experience. "
I get it when i dont reply too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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“Why”
“But you haven’t even got to know me”
“You haven’t even saw my cock”
“I’m better in person”
“What a stick up bitch you are”
Just some of them! The list goes on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?
Hey,this is my post lol "
I know but he loves it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this "
awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?
Hey,this is my post lol I know but he loves it "
The more the merrier |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things "
I can see who's side your on lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this "
Just delete and block and save everyone's time. Unless you thrive in the drama then batter in x |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol "
why? |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol "
How can you? |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol How can you? "
Sometimes you have to be brutal to get it through people's thick heads ! |
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?
Hey,this is my post lol I know but he loves it "
Our post now |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol How can you?
Sometimes you have to be brutal to get it through people's thick heads ! "
but why? They're always going to be thick it won't change anything |
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We get so many and it baffles me every time!
We literally reply to every message we get and send a very nice 'no thanks' message to anyone who doesn't tickle our fancy. Not everyone does that.
So it annoys me when they want to know why, isn't it obvious? We don't want to share sexual activities with you.. no other answer needed.
However, one day, I had received rather a few of these questions and got fed up. So, I was very honest with the last guy and told him I didn't like his dick. I felt really harsh after but then he replied and asked me what it was that I didn't like about it!? 
I deleted the message at that point and gave up.
Eve. x |
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"We get so many and it baffles me every time!
We literally reply to every message we get and send a very nice 'no thanks' message to anyone who doesn't tickle our fancy. Not everyone does that.
So it annoys me when they want to know why, isn't it obvious? We don't want to share sexual activities with you.. no other answer needed.
However, one day, I had received rather a few of these questions and got fed up. So, I was very honest with the last guy and told him I didn't like his dick. I felt really harsh after but then he replied and asked me what it was that I didn't like about it!?
I deleted the message at that point and gave up.
Eve. x"
Some men are thick skinned. ..surely by asking why not it's going to open up the flood gates as to what your not attracted to.
I just had a guy tell me im only showing my boobs as im probably too ugly to show my face ! X |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol How can you?
Sometimes you have to be brutal to get it through people's thick heads ! but why? They're always going to be thick it won't change anything "
I rest my case |
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"We get so many and it baffles me every time!
We literally reply to every message we get and send a very nice 'no thanks' message to anyone who doesn't tickle our fancy. Not everyone does that.
So it annoys me when they want to know why, isn't it obvious? We don't want to share sexual activities with you.. no other answer needed.
However, one day, I had received rather a few of these questions and got fed up. So, I was very honest with the last guy and told him I didn't like his dick. I felt really harsh after but then he replied and asked me what it was that I didn't like about it!?
I deleted the message at that point and gave up.
Eve. x
Some men are thick skinned. ..surely by asking why not it's going to open up the flood gates as to what your not attracted to.
I just had a guy tell me im only showing my boobs as im probably too ugly to show my face ! X"
How awful!! This is a site in which 90% or more profiles don't show their face! Common sense really, we just have too many tattoos to hide anyway ha ha.
Most men only show their willies so what's that say about them? 
Eve. x |
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"Why omg better late than never second or third post
Persistence pays hunny awwww hey its maybe the way he said it
That’s what my ex said Where's he gone now...... More like
She.. must have found a guy with a bigger dick and more money than me why did she leave you?
Hey,this is my post lol I know but he loves it
Our post now "
Men ! Tut tut, it's yours x |
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"We get so many and it baffles me every time!
We literally reply to every message we get and send a very nice 'no thanks' message to anyone who doesn't tickle our fancy. Not everyone does that.
So it annoys me when they want to know why, isn't it obvious? We don't want to share sexual activities with you.. no other answer needed.
However, one day, I had received rather a few of these questions and got fed up. So, I was very honest with the last guy and told him I didn't like his dick. I felt really harsh after but then he replied and asked me what it was that I didn't like about it!?
I deleted the message at that point and gave up.
Eve. x
Some men are thick skinned. ..surely by asking why not it's going to open up the flood gates as to what your not attracted to.
I just had a guy tell me im only showing my boobs as im probably too ugly to show my face ! X
How awful!! This is a site in which 90% or more profiles don't show their face! Common sense really, we just have too many tattoos to hide anyway ha ha.
Most men only show their willies so what's that say about them?
Eve. x"
That's for another days discussion lol x |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol How can you?
Sometimes you have to be brutal to get it through people's thick heads ! but why? They're always going to be thick it won't change anything
I rest my case "
I rest my laurels |
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"There's really no need to be brutal. Just ignore or block. No need for drama or being mean. "
I haven't been brutal or mean yet,tho will if i get another insult as i just have .
I reply they give me grief
I ignore they do the same
Block is the only option left ...all im saying is its not the way it should be. |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol How can you?
Sometimes you have to be brutal to get it through people's thick heads ! but why? They're always going to be thick it won't change anything
I rest my case I rest my laurels "
Coffee n cake ?x |
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"I have had this as well. In the end I have been brutal
I will be doing this awwww don't be brutal it's a sign of intelligence to always question things
I can see who's side your on lol How can you?
Sometimes you have to be brutal to get it through people's thick heads ! but why? They're always going to be thick it won't change anything
I rest my case I rest my laurels
Coffee n cake ?x "
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