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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite depends on the situation, doesnt it?
I think most people feel the most uncomfortable is when they’re being themself since the beginning
And at some point their partner declares to separate ways
That’s the most frustrating part of the unknown.
Unknown is what keeps us thinking.
Over the years what I’ve learnt is, fuck off.
Different opinion, different this, don’t agree with whatever, fuck off.
Got no time to waste.
Move on, seek better experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It takes me a little while to get over it - but I get over it eventually 
I had a really shit day today and
I need a break from one of the women I work with!
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Well it depends on who and what it’s about.
Some are easier to forgive but hell hath no fury as they say and if you cross me then I’ll block from every app I have them on.
I’m not an ice queen and I have been known to unblock as well. |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on"
I just roll my eyes, shake my head, shrug my shoulders and move on. You had me. Now you don't.
Que Sera Sera. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on"
The amount of people who have blocked me and troll me everytime is post something is alarming!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't hold grudges- itshe a negative emotion. I prefer to move forward and live my life well x"
Exactly this life's too short to keep looking back on the bad stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will hold out for a little while until I know I've got my point across, but not one to hold a grudge for long.
Life is too short for grudges, anger and bad feelings.
Best to draw a line and move on. Depending on the person, sometimes things can't go back to how they were and you need to move forwards without them, but you can let go of any negative feelings regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't bear grudges and forgive easily. Everyone gets a second chance but no one gets a third. After that I'm done with you and moving on but with no bitterness. That just damages your soul and I won't let anyone do that to me.
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On here, nah. Might point out discrepancies in people's posts but that's not holding a grudge.
On real life I don't tend to either. Have forgiven some pretty shitty behaviour. Not forgotten just forgiven. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A finger a grudge is good enough to eat lol
Hold ballroom.
If I held grudges then I would always be stuck. Sure enough life is a bitch and no... I don't
I am fuckwithable it's means nothing people say or do bothers me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on
I just roll my eyes, shake my head, shrug my shoulders and move on. You had me. Now you don't.
Que Sara Sara."
FTFY |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't hold a grudge per say. But if someone were to betray or hurt me, i would likely consider them toxic to me and cut them out of my life. It's not about being a bitch, but valuing myself enough to understand that i deserve better than to be treated like that. |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on
I just roll my eyes, shake my head, shrug my shoulders and move on. You had me. Now you don't.
Que Sara Sara.
FTFY"
lolol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't hold a grudge per say. But if someone were to betray or hurt me, i would likely consider them toxic to me and cut them out of my life. It's not about being a bitch, but valuing myself enough to understand that i deserve better than to be treated like that. "
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"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on"
I depends on what happened and why.
I flit between all three. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think many can just move on and pretend it didn't happen without some distance of time OP.
Otherwise how do you recognise the pain or hurt,and process it.
But grudges. They are more long term and all that negativity only hurts you not those you may hold a grudge against.
Why let the actions of others cause you ongoing pain....
Tomorrow will always be a new day
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on"
I tend to bide my time and choose my moment. Revenge would have to be in balance an appropriate or not at all. |
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
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Don't bother with grudges, depending on level of betrayal either cut them out completely , or face them about it . If I am the one betrayed why should I be the only one feeling like shit , share the pain . Don't allow it to fester though . |
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Depends on the seriousness. Lucky to have a lot of friends and lucky enough to have only felt betrayal a couple of times. People I don't like better beware but I try to build bridges with people I care about. Doesn't mean relationship will be exactly the same after though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh yes I do. I haven't spoken to my sister since 1999 because she said she put one sugar in my coffee while she has actually put two !
The worst in it is that I don't drink coffee |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh yes I do. I haven't spoken to my sister since 1999 because she said she put one sugar in my coffee while she has actually put two !
The worst in it is that I don't drink coffee "
That my friend is crossing the line and pre millenium too she should know better to do that before all technology failed
Dont blame you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh yes I do. I haven't spoken to my sister since 1999 because she said she put one sugar in my coffee while she has actually put two !
The worst in it is that I don't drink coffee
That my friend is crossing the line and pre millenium too she should know better to do that before all technology failed
Dont blame you"
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I don’t hold grudges. If someone does something that is going to lead me to holding a grudge I simply cut them out of my life and that way the grudge goes with them and I move on, life is too short for that shit as I was reminded only this week at a very unexpected funeral. |
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?"
Simple, for me personally, I cannot speak for others, to actively hold an ongoing grudge against someone that person has to be active in my life. If they leave my life they take the grudge with them thus relieving me of the grudge simples. People try and make life out to be a lot more complicated than it is, it’s not, unless you let it be. |
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?
Simple, for me personally, I cannot speak for others, to actively hold an ongoing grudge against someone that person has to be active in my life. If they leave my life they take the grudge with them thus relieving me of the grudge simples. People try and make life out to be a lot more complicated than it is, it’s not, unless you let it be."
Is it that they leave your life, or you cut them out of it? To cut someone out, is an action on your behalf which you have to maintain. There must surely be the worry that they would try an worm their way back with an apology? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?"
It depends on what has happened. I can only relate to one scenario personal to me where a friendship broke down over a period of time, I think we both held onto our own beliefs of eBay was happening which turned into a bit of a grudge match between us, became hardwork.
Wasn’t an easy decision to make, but I let go of the friendship and I have to say I have no regrets, it was like a weight had been lifted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?
It depends on what has happened. I can only relate to one scenario personal to me where a friendship broke down over a period of time, I think we both held onto our own beliefs of eBay was happening which turned into a bit of a grudge match between us, became hardwork.
Wasn’t an easy decision to make, but I let go of the friendship and I have to say I have no regrets, it was like a weight had been lifted."
*eBay wtf = What.
bloody phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?"
Holding a grudge means you still have feelings involved. Cutting someone out means you are moving on and letting all feelings go. |
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?
Holding a grudge means you still have feelings involved. Cutting someone out means you are moving on and letting all feelings go."
Thanks (and sorry for adding a sub question) |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I don't hold grudges as its a waste of my time and energy. Although sometimes it's difficult not to especially if you are stood up 3 times in one evening which happened to me.
Despite the usual first thoughts of revenge and payback I move on. I don't forget people though if they've messed me around, depending on the severity of the issue they become a smaller part of my life and I'm more careful with them in the future. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Do u hold a grudge when someone upsets or hurts or betrays you u or just draw a line under it and move on as if it never happened
Or do u change between the 2 untill u can get it out of your head and move on"
I hold all grudges and I cash them in and I get my vengeance
I will never forget nor will I forgive |
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"A question for those who are saying that they don't hold a grudge, but would cut people out of their lives instead.
How is that different from holding a grudge?"
It depends on why actions were taken and what feelings were involved.
e.g. I could no longer be interested in having a person in my life as I don't want their company or I don't like what happens when they are around.
That doesn't mean I bear them ill will after I have made the decision to split. It doesn't mean I am harmed emotionally by them or that I seek revenge for something.
There are no grudges just reasoned beliefs and actions. Self preservation or planning for happy futures if you like. |
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