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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi Fabbers
I am curious where everyone stands on adultery? My ex did it, and now I have a friend that's doing on their partner but saying she's just enjoying nsa fun... I don't agree with her because of my ex and what she did being very similar..
Should I tell her partner or stay out of it...
And a fun fact about adultery, only one person in a relationship can do it. If you are the person that didn't cheat, you can not be charged with adultery even if you go shag hundreds of people's, so long as you do not reconcile  |
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The world is not a black and white place and every situation is different. But I genrally take a negative veiw as whole. My ex wife had cheated on me with another relationship and it nearly destroyed me and it broke three other familes (including kids). I feel that a lot of adualtery is probably down to our lack of experiance, communication and self understanding. Often leading to poorly chosen matches, unsuitable relationship models and people ending up sort of oppressed within the relationship. So there is definatly to my mind an argument to be a bit more understanding and open to why we end up in these situations. I think there would be far less adultery if all people involved where totally self aware and honest with each other going into a realtionship. Unfortunately this self aweness and communication skills often come with experiance and age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave them alone they'll get caught eventually , then you can't get blamed for causing trouble"
100% this. Was in a similar situation years ago with my best friend and told her because I cared and our friendship was a bit strained for a while |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Depends how close you are to your mate.If it was my bestie,id deffo tell them .Its bad enough being cheated on,but you would feel even more betrayed if your mate knew ans said nothing.well I would. |
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I caught my ex wife with a good friend at a party apparently they had been seeing each other for a couple of months I was broken so I messaged his girlfriend who was not at the party and told her she went ballistic with him but stayed with him.so he got his fun broke my marriage up and lives happily ever after with his gf |
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I'm not a fan of adultery. I think people should try and sort things out with their partner. I think "I'm just enjoying nsa sex" is a selfish and lame excuse.
If I were you I would stay out of your friend's marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I think you’re projecting your situation onto hers. Yes she’s your friend but you only get one side of things from her, you’re not in their relationship and you don’t know the whole story.
If you feel disquiet about the situation then have a full and frank conversation about how you feel about it, but be prepared for negative fallout.
Bear in mind that any ‘meddling’ that you do will have lasting repercussions on their lives and your friendship though.
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