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over a year ago
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"How empathetic are you?
Why?  
Reading some of the threads this evening made me think how some posters would score on an empathy test. "
I completely empathise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
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Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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If I have experienced the same situation as someone, I can empathise with them.
If I haven’t, then I’ll try to put myself in their shoes and sympathise with them.
Unless I think they’re being a tool, in which case I’ll call them a twat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not very. I dont get why people get upset with stuff like death, especially pets.
Is that because you think of death as just a simple part of life and happens to all of us?
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Maybe, ive seen family, friends visably upset by death or a situation and im just not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
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It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.
Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!) |
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
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For me, with humans especially, it depends on the relationship, I have learned of necessity to block. With animals I am far less able to do that, and animals I love I have no defence against, I cannot disconnect and they feel that. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Not very. I dont get why people get upset with stuff like death, especially pets.
Is that because you think of death as just a simple part of life and happens to all of us?
Maybe, ive seen family, friends visably upset by death or a situation and im just not. "
What, if anything, would move you to tears?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Honestly I'm very empathetic but if I'm in bad form then I can be very dismissive. Depends too on the situation. "
I think it's healthy to be able to tune out the empathy sometimes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My good lady is very empathetic and compassionate and always try’s to see the best in people. I’m slightly more hard bitten and cynical so I think we compliment one another very well. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.
Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)"
I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.
Signed *Old and Very Single*
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
For me, with humans especially, it depends on the relationship, I have learned of necessity to block. With animals I am far less able to do that, and animals I love I have no defence against, I cannot disconnect and they feel that. "
Isn't it that very connection that enables the work with them?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.
Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)
I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.
Signed *Old and Very Single*
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I’m still going to organise that session I was mooting with you btw. He and I were in discussion earlier this week!  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.
Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)
I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.
Signed *Old and Very Single*
I’m still going to organise that session I was mooting with you btw. He and I were in discussion earlier this week! "
Over fried egg sandwiches.  |
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I can't empathise with most people, I just think differently and I'm not very emotional.
To me most things are very much matter of fact things of life and I struggle to understand what people are getting emotional over. |
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
For me, with humans especially, it depends on the relationship, I have learned of necessity to block. With animals I am far less able to do that, and animals I love I have no defence against, I cannot disconnect and they feel that.
Isn't it that very connection that enables the work with them?
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It is for the kind of work I like to do yes, you'd be amazed how many people cannot connect with the horses they ride though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends on how overwhelmed I am. I absorb others’ emotions quite easily and am hypersensitive to them, it is what helps me do my job. But I have also learned to put boundaries in place to help me not get overburdened and lose sight of me. Sometimes these don’t work when I’m tired, or poorly or just there’s a lot of conflicting pulls on me and I get overwhelmed. When that happens I cut off until I’ve managed to get back on an even keel.
Being an emotional sponge must be exhausting.
It is also wonderfully fascinating, but frustrating when you feel something but can’t express it in words.
Also, it’s just a “read” on emotions and sensing stuff. Not knowing exactly what someone thinks etc (I wish I did, I might be luckier in love!)
I think the lust/love signals we send out block the accuracy of the "reads". They are there but we add caveats to them.
Signed *Old and Very Single*
I’m still going to organise that session I was mooting with you btw. He and I were in discussion earlier this week!
Over fried egg sandwiches. "
Hahahahaha yes! Exactly!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Generally I'm very empathetic, it's a natural state of being for me, and I've developed it even more over 5 years of working in care or patient facing NHS jobs. That being said, if you catch me off work in a foul mood, it's like a different person  |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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Going by the dictionary definition of empathetic, I'm 50% there. I can understand people's emotions very well. I just don't feel it emotionally. I'm still seeing a therapist about it as it seems to be very deep seated. Trying to expand my emotional repertoire.
I was gutted to find out cheesy garlic bread wasn't an emotion..
This doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. It just means that when I do something nice it's because I have made a conscious decision to do it. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Terrible at it.
Combination of work and aspergers has made it quite a challenge. It’s not that I don’t feel it I just don’t what to do with it. Overwhelms "
Even without Asperger's it's not easy to know what to do with it and it can be overwhelming. It's something we learn.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Going by the dictionary definition of empathetic, I'm 50% there. I can understand people's emotions very well. I just don't feel it emotionally. I'm still seeing a therapist about it as it seems to be very deep seated. Trying to expand my emotional repertoire.
I was gutted to find out cheesy garlic bread wasn't an emotion..
This doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. It just means that when I do something nice it's because I have made a conscious decision to do it."
What do you mean cheesy garlic bread isn't an emotion? I'm devastated.
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"Going by the dictionary definition of empathetic, I'm 50% there. I can understand people's emotions very well. I just don't feel it emotionally. I'm still seeing a therapist about it as it seems to be very deep seated. Trying to expand my emotional repertoire.
I was gutted to find out cheesy garlic bread wasn't an emotion..
This doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. It just means that when I do something nice it's because I have made a conscious decision to do it.
What do you mean cheesy garlic bread isn't an emotion? I'm devastated.
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That was a very traumatic session. Worse than when recounting that my second cousin's neighbours' plumbers' friends cat was poorly. There were real tears that day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Empathy goes hand in hand with my job, I finished my shift last night emotionally and physically exhausted. Whilst I was waiting for the lift, I noticed a lady, I ended up giving her a hug that she so desperately needed, she was so grateful that I understood her. I felt every emotion she felt, the grief, the sadness and the worry and had tears in my eyes afterwards. You know they don’t call us angels for no reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sry empathetic, to my own downfall at times. I have been taken advantage of because I do care too much. Plus emotionally I find it hard to take a step back and I want to solve everyone’s problems x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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True empathy is impossible, a persons perception of everything they witness is shaped by many things in their life and all we can ever do to try and understand it, is build a crude replica from pieces from are own experiences. |
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