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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that, it’s not good and I can understand the frustration.
What due diligence do you do before a meeting though? Once is unfortunate, twice is unlucky .. but 3 or 4 sounds like possibly your quality control up front isn’t strong enough?
I hope future meets are more successful for you!  |
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If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet |
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"If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet "
Thars great but you still need to make sure the people you are selecting for meets are genuine (or as genuine as you can ascertain). Age ranges, location and accommodating don't equate to reliable.
Do you message, cam, have socials etc.
I can honestly count on one hand the number of times I've been let down in almost 10 years on here. |
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Sorry to hear that.
I know you haven't asked for profile advice but virtually everything on there is a negative.
Maybe try rewordng what you want to say and throw some positive
vibes out there.
The photos are good. You've got veries.Now tweak that text.
Good luck x |
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"Sorry to hear that.
I know you haven't asked for profile advice but virtually everything on there is a negative.
Maybe try rewordng what you want to say and throw some positive
vibes out there.
The photos are good. You've got veries.Now tweak that text.
Good luck x"
Thanks for advice but if I don’t put that in then when I reply about certain things guys get nasty, so putting in certain things saves time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that.
I know you haven't asked for profile advice but virtually everything on there is a negative.
Maybe try rewordng what you want to say and throw some positive
vibes out there.
The photos are good. You've got veries.Now tweak that text.
Good luck x"
This^^
And what Evie said.
"Choose Wisely, young Padawan!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that.
I know you haven't asked for profile advice but virtually everything on there is a negative.
Maybe try rewordng what you want to say and throw some positive
vibes out there.
The photos are good. You've got veries.Now tweak that text.
Good luck x
Thanks for advice but if I don’t put that in then when I reply about certain things guys get nasty, so putting in certain things saves time "
If they get nasty, report block and move on. |
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"If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet
Thars great but you still need to make sure the people you are selecting for meets are genuine (or as genuine as you can ascertain). Age ranges, location and accommodating don't equate to reliable.
Do you message, cam, have socials etc.
I can honestly count on one hand the number of times I've been let down in almost 10 years on here. "
Yes of course I message and chat before hand and I check out their veris as I only meet guys with public veris and public pics |
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By *umpsMan
over a year ago
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"If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet
Thars great but you still need to make sure the people you are selecting for meets are genuine (or as genuine as you can ascertain). Age ranges, location and accommodating don't equate to reliable.
Do you message, cam, have socials etc.
I can honestly count on one hand the number of times I've been let down in almost 10 years on here.
Yes of course I message and chat before hand and I check out their veris as I only meet guys with public veris and public pics "
I'm not in your area... but if I was I would definitely turn up... couldn't understand why any guy would want to miss the opportunity of meeting you with pictures like that..
With compliments |
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By *tatMan
over a year ago
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"If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet
Thars great but you still need to make sure the people you are selecting for meets are genuine (or as genuine as you can ascertain). Age ranges, location and accommodating don't equate to reliable.
Do you message, cam, have socials etc.
I can honestly count on one hand the number of times I've been let down in almost 10 years on here.
Yes of course I message and chat before hand and I check out their veris as I only meet guys with public veris and public pics "
It may just be bad luck or it may be sheer rudeness. I am surprised that men don't turn up at a meet, it may be chiche and naive, but I'd expect that more from a woman.
Unfortunately I'm just outside your range to have a chance to restore faith in males  |
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"If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet
Thars great but you still need to make sure the people you are selecting for meets are genuine (or as genuine as you can ascertain). Age ranges, location and accommodating don't equate to reliable.
Do you message, cam, have socials etc.
I can honestly count on one hand the number of times I've been let down in almost 10 years on here.
Yes of course I message and chat before hand and I check out their veris as I only meet guys with public veris and public pics "
Then they're probably just dicks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rite if updated the writing on my profile,so let’s see if it works ,plus a name change as suggested lol xx"
Sorry to hear it its a horrible low thing to do to someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry to hear that OP and hope you get a meet soon.
Sadly this site has more than its fair share of people who are fantasists, time wasters, selfish and outright liars. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had 4 meets cancel on me in 2 weeks,getting very disappointed with this site and the male population lol."
I can give you 2 good reasons why they must be raving mad.
Actually 3...they're probably married and cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things? "
How do u mean white knight? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
How do u mean white knight?"
You don't know what white knight means?
Hang around in the forums a bit longer, you'll learn |
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things? "
Meow !!! No need for bitchiness was just posting something on here ,I don’t need a white knight thanx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
How do u mean white knight?
You don't know what white knight means?
Hang around in the forums a bit longer, you'll learn "
Iv been here 6 months no explinations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had 4 meets cancel on me in 2 weeks,getting very disappointed with this site and the male population lol."
First off, wow! Stunning!!
Secondly, I wouldn’t get annoyed at the site, there are many that ruin it for the few.
Fantasisers and dreamers ruin it for both the females on here and us males, it happens to us too! |
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
Meow !!! No need for bitchiness was just posting something on here ,I don’t need a white knight thanx "
She wasn't being bitchy that I can see - It's a valid point, getting let down twice a week suggests a change of strategy may be required. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not the male population. It's your choice of potential meets. 4 is a pattern. Perhaps a rethink of your approach and who you choose to interact with is needed, rather than blaming the men of fab. Good luck OP  |
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"If u care to look at my profile I’ve got an age range preference and I also state I can’t accommodate and I’m only interested in meeting guys that live in Plymouth.So I’m pretty choosy I’m who I want to meet "
People are only trying to help, no need to get spikey.
We have never been stood up in 10 years of swinging.
The one common denominator in your situation is you, so you do need to look at your selection process. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
Meow !!! No need for bitchiness was just posting something on here ,I don’t need a white knight thanx
She wasn't being bitchy that I can see - It's a valid point, getting let down twice a week suggests a change of strategy may be required. "
Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
How do u mean white knight?
You don't know what white knight means?
Hang around in the forums a bit longer, you'll learn
Iv been here 6 months no explinations"
U know the ones who come on and say things like ' with pics like that its their loss ' etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
Meow !!! No need for bitchiness was just posting something on here ,I don’t need a white knight thanx "
If that's your reaction to constructive criticism it might be the reason your not getting meets x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
How do u mean white knight?
You don't know what white knight means?
Hang around in the forums a bit longer, you'll learn
Iv been here 6 months no explinations
U know the ones who come on and say things like ' with pics like that its their loss ' etc etc "
That's not a white knight. That's someone flattering, to see if it gets them sex.
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"Hey, OP has taken constructive criticism on board and has rewritten her profile. You wouldn't be aware if that as you've just joined the thread...."
Thank I have rewritten after your advice,but I’m not getting into s slanging match with everyone on here .Thank you again for your advice it was much appreciated x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
How do u mean white knight?
You don't know what white knight means?
Hang around in the forums a bit longer, you'll learn
Iv been here 6 months no explinations
U know the ones who come on and say things like ' with pics like that its their loss ' etc etc
That's not a white knight. That's someone flattering, to see if it gets them sex.
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Isnt that what a white knight is ?  |
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to be fair not all of us men do that every meet i've had i've always turn up but some of the men on here are not like myself and I understand your picky it makes sense on here. I would definitely follow some on the advice about change tactics and 4 in 2 weeks definitely is showing a pattern starting to form so nip it in the bud. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The white Knights are out in force tonight!!!
If it's a frequent occurrence then maybe you need to totally rethink the way you do things?
How do u mean white knight?
You don't know what white knight means?
Hang around in the forums a bit longer, you'll learn
Iv been here 6 months no explinations
U know the ones who come on and say things like ' with pics like that its their loss ' etc etc
That's not a white knight. That's someone flattering, to see if it gets them sex.
Isnt that what a white knight is ? "
A white knight comes to the rescue of a damsel in distress.
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Death to the time wasters and, frimnthis end of thencountry to yours, good luck to you!
You look great and there’s some sound advice for you in this thread.
The only thing I would add is to trust your instincts and act on them.
Have lots of fun xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK l am going to be blunt. Many on here have tried to offer advice and all you have done is get the arse and be disrespectful back. They weren't being 'bitchy'. So maybe there is a clue right there why guys are having second thoughts?
I am just a single guy. Two a penny on here but l have never been let down ever in over 10 years. I have also never let anyone down. However you have had 4 no shows.
Try taking advice because you clearly don't know as much as you think you do.
I do wish you all success and much fun though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure about how you communicate with them but my rule is no sexy chat before meeting. They're usually bashing the bishop, have no intention in meeting and just want wank chat "
Haha great way with words. Love it  |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
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Op dont change a thing, your profile is amazing, to the point and so are your pics. You wont be everyones cupper tea but i dont think you want to be! Clearly this is just my opinion but you rock! Not everyone is a total moron but the non-morons are worth the fight thru generic! Stay strong x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure about how you communicate with them but my rule is no sexy chat before meeting. They're usually bashing the bishop, have no intention in meeting and just want wank chat "
So eloquent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't get discouraged, I'm still working on a first friend. The site is very down to earth, to me, and I am enjoying it. Like you said, you are not into the club thing, which would be a 'duck shoot' for you, so a bit of letdown is tolerable. I would imagine that a few people were shocked that you agreed to meet, as you are pretty stunning and they just chickened out. If you weren't so far away, I would have checked an interest, so that is a compliment. |
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Only advice as 30 yr vetran of swing i can offer hun is club meet only n then fuk um your on your night out n they dont turn their loss coz your bloody lovely n always use your report porfile button so admin get the message they are a timewaster n loser xxxc |
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