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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So heres the dilemma
You just found out that your partner has been texting a meet you had recently, it has been getting quite intimate, and find out that there was discussion about a one on one meeting between the two.
What would you do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So heres the dilemma
You just found out that your partner has been texting a meet you had recently, it has been getting quite intimate, and find out that there was discussion about a one on one meeting between the two.
What would you do?"
put the house in your oldest sons name |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.
 Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx"
Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. |
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The whole point of a 'swinging relationship' is the openness & honesty.
There shouldn't need to secrets or sneaking round.
If there is, then I'd be wondering what else thst person had kept secret from me, and whether they were the right person for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s an interesting question and one that happens surprisingly often!
It’s why I often smile when in the regular cheater-tarring threads all the couples say how loved up they are and how disgusting cheaters are and how they’d happily give up swinging if their partner wanted to stop etc, when I know full well from direct personal experience and those of very trusted friends that the ‘let’s meet 1 on 1 but don’t tell my other half’ thing happens very frequently!!
I don’t know if this is a ‘real’ scenario or just a hypothetical situation to stimulate debate but I guess all you can do is have an adult to adult talk and discuss it through, understand where each is coming from, reset boundaries and hope you can move forward from there! |
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"The whole point of a 'swinging relationship' is the openness & honesty.
There shouldn't need to secrets or sneaking round.
If there is, then I'd be wondering what else thst person had kept secret from me, and whether they were the right person for me "
This all the way |
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"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.
Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx
Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. "
whats strong about a relationship when ones being dishonest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.
Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx
Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. whats strong about a relationship when ones being dishonest"
People make mistakes. We're all only human. Nothing is black and white. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.
Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx
Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. "
This is very true, but trust is so important. |
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"It was not a social, and it was done secretly.
Hope you can talk and sort this... I'm not sure I could get over a breech in trust like that. Good luck xx
Strong relationships survive all sorts if both partners believe it's worth it. whats strong about a relationship when ones being dishonest
People make mistakes. We're all only human. Nothing is black and white. "
i agree nothing is black and white. There is absolutly know reason for my partner to break my trust as we do have a strong relationship. If they couldnt be honest the relationship is broken and id be gone |
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"So heres the dilemma
You just found out that your partner has been texting a meet you had recently, it has been getting quite intimate, and find out that there was discussion about a one on one meeting between the two.
What would you do?"
Depends on what 'rules' you guys laid out at the start. Either way you need to confront them about it. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Secret messages are not part of a swinging relationship. It's all about trust an honesty. When my fiance and swinging partner met someone behind my back.. ..i gave him chance to explain and then booted him out.
If it is not what you agreed, then think if you could ever trust them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How did you find out? Did they tell you about it? If it’s all been done in secret and it’s not what you agreed between yourselves for your swinging life, then I’d ask them outright. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How did you find out? Did they tell you about it? If it’s all been done in secret and it’s not what you agreed between yourselves for your swinging life, then I’d ask them outright. "
Casually looking at their texts perhaps? |
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