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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Read on some profiles, stimulate my mind and my body will follow, is this true or does it have to be a combination of looks, body type and ability to hold a conversation???
What’s your thoughts |
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"Read on some profiles, stimulate my mind and my body will follow, is this true or does it have to be a combination of looks, body type and ability to hold a conversation???
What’s your thoughts"
It is a mind fuck lol  |
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"Read on some profiles, stimulate my mind and my body will follow, is this true or does it have to be a combination of looks, body type and ability to hold a conversation???
What’s your thoughts"
Normally a combination, but I have been really turned onto someone who I said 'Never in a million years' about, so it can happen. |
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To me it's the whole lot. I was out last night and noticed a handsome guy. Wasn't going to do anything anyway but the realised he was acting like an attention seeking teenager. Massive turn off. I am fussy but it doesn't mean I want someone who looks perfect. |
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So if a slightly chubby man, balding head but had great banter and chat (not me I’m describing) obviously. Would you consider them or if a female was less attractive, no so good figure but fantastic to talk with would you?? |
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They need to be able to converse and string more than a couple words reply to messages or they won't get past this first hurdle.
Second hurdle is the content. Does it engage me or just leave me wondering what to say next. That's an interesting hurdle that trips a few. |
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Body type in the first instance. If you don't appeal to me physically we're not going to get naked together. Of course if you have the personality of an amoeba I won't be interested either. Realistically given that I'm not looking for a long term romantic relationship as long as someone's attractive *to me* and can be personable for the time we're together, its game on. |
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For me there has to be a mental connection.
I work in an industry totaly focused on looks, appearances, physical beauty. 99% of the guys I know have the personality of a tin of baked beans.
Obviously there needs to be a physical attraction to someone, yes I have preferences but they need to make me laugh, engage my brain, it wouldn't matter how good looking someone was if they don't get in my head, they ain't getting in my bed.
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"So if a slightly chubby man, balding head but had great banter and chat (not me I’m describing) obviously. Would you consider them or if a female was less attractive, no so good figure but fantastic to talk with would you??"
It’s not a case of looking at someone and thinking that, I could be working with a guy you described above and not fancy him initially but after a while I could end up feeling a big attraction to him if we connect and there’s chemistry building.
If I fancy a guy to look at immediately, it doesn’t mean I will want to sleep with him. More work needs to be done and my mind still needs stimulating in other ways to turn me on. |
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"For me there has to be a mental connection.
I work in an industry totaly focused on looks, appearances, physical beauty. 99% of the guys I know have the personality of a tin of baked beans.
Obviously there needs to be a physical attraction to someone, yes I have preferences but they need to make me laugh, engage my brain, it wouldn't matter how good looking someone was if they don't get in my head, they ain't getting in my bed.
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By (user no longer on site)
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100% if you dont have any social skills i honesly dont want to know you humour is key dont care if you look like a supermodel lets have banter first i want to be able to talk to them too
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"So if a slightly chubby man, balding head but had great banter and chat (not me I’m describing) obviously. Would you consider them or if a female was less attractive, no so good figure but fantastic to talk with would you??
It’s not a case of looking at someone and thinking that, I could be working with a guy you described above and not fancy him initially but after a while I could end up feeling a big attraction to him if we connect and there’s chemistry building.
If I fancy a guy to look at immediately, it doesn’t mean I will want to sleep with him. More work needs to be done and my mind still needs stimulating in other ways to turn me on. "
Any job vacancies where you work Xxx |
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"Read on some profiles, stimulate my mind and my body will follow, is this true or does it have to be a combination of looks, body type and ability to hold a conversation???
What’s your thoughts"
It's very important to me that my mind's stimulated, though physical attraction almost always has to be there too. I remember chatting to a guy in a club once, he was good looking and the conversation was enjoyable … until he asked me something which I felt was intrusive, irrelevant to our interaction and arguably racist too. In that instant I was turned off, despite getting on until then. Conversely, I've very occasionally experienced the situation Poochie described where there's no obvious initial attraction but one has built as I've got to know someone over a period of time and discovered I really liked their personality - and then as I started to look forward to seeing them found I was looking at them aesthetically in a whole new light! This is very rare though and has only happened in a work situation where 'enforced' contact over several months has allowed someone's character to shine through. I guess something similar *could* in theory happen on Fab but would need you to 'give a chance' to people you don't fancy and frankly, most people just don't have the time to take that gamble when the chances of sparking off someone you *do* like the look of are much higher than if things are the other way round. |
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From the response to my question, I’m more confident that if I attend some social events with the aim of talking and getting to know females and couples it’s very possible I will get some meets X |
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