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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both? |
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Id stop meeting them. As said on previous thread i prefer married men. It says on my profile i dont mind married men so if they still feel the need to lie they can fuck off i like to make my own judgement calls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I’d be up and off.. if they lie to you right from the very start then it’s a no from me.
Knowing the score from the start is important I think.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did they lie or just not divulge that they were married?
Divulge, as they knew you probably wouldn’t meet them if you knew "
That is sneaky snake. If someone can't be up front and honest with wifey, someone he's meant to love, then odds are he won't be up front and honest with someone he's cheating with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Id stop meeting them. As said on previous thread i prefer married men. It says on my profile i dont mind married men so if they still feel the need to lie they can fuck off i like to make my own judgement calls"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To keep meeting someone the sex would have to be great and they would have to be available weekends and evenings.
If I was still seeing him after the first time, and it was regular, I might stick around. But, I would be tempted to talk to him about his marriage.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To keep meeting someone the sex would have to be great and they would have to be available weekends and evenings.
If I was still seeing him after the first time, and it was regular, I might stick around. But, I would be tempted to talk to him about his marriage.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would anyone try tell the partner?
No.
In our experience most allegedly single men are here are attached. So its best to start with the assumption they probably are... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've said it before, but expecting people who lie to their partners to be honest with people they talk to on a swingers site is a bit optimistic... "
Massive doses of salt required. |
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?"
I'd stop meeting them. I don't want any shit or shits in my life |
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As I've made a conscious decision to not get involved in such things ( learned it wasn't for me from previous mistake) I'd stop seeing them and be very annoyed they'd put me in that position, and I'd probably feel terrible for a very long time. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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Cheffy was very openly FabSingle when we met. I was far from his first meet... He'd been playing away 2 or 3 years by then.
It suited us both. I wasn't looking for a relationship, just someone to fuck as and when and fitting around others I was just FWB with.
We've ended up together and neither of us plays away any more.
Took a year to realise that gradually we stopped seeing others and had fallen in love. He left his wife and we are happy as pigs in shit.
A friend asked how I know he's not doing to me what he done to his wife? I don't... just as he doesn't know if I'm still seeing old FWBs... we have trust though. Simple as that. |
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?"
As already said on the other thread, yes I'd meet a married man...knowingly.
But wouldn't matter how great the sex was, how much I liked them.
If I found out later, they'd lied to me about that, I would immediately question everything they'd told me.
The door would be well & truly closed as I walked out of it.
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?"
The lying part would be the dealbreaker.
The married part I'd not really take a particular stance on, although I might be a little hesitant to get involved up front just because of the potential for drama, but the lying bit would be the betrayal of trust.
Although, as others have said - if they're willing to betray the person they're married to, why would you expect them to give a stuff about you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had this happen a couple of times on my last profile. One even popped up on a pregnancy announcement from someone i went to school with facebook!
I hate being lied to. It makes me feel stupid when the truth comes out. So I would stop seeing them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had this happen a couple of times on my last profile. One even popped up on a pregnancy announcement from someone i went to school with facebook!
I hate being lied to. It makes me feel stupid when the truth comes out. So I would stop seeing them. "
I’m the same. I was sitting in a car with a man when he started complaining about his pregnant girlfriend 
Fun car journey home... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?
Did they lie or just not tell you?
Playing the  here ...  "
Just didn’t tell you as they wanted to meet you and knew you probably wouldn’t meet them if you knew |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?
Did they lie or just not tell you?
Playing the here ...
Just didn’t tell you as they wanted to meet you and knew you probably wouldn’t meet them if you knew"
Good job you quoted I just deleted by mistake 
So...it wasn't lies then, just deception
Sorry, just being mischievous |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?
Did they lie or just not tell you?
Playing the here ...
Just didn’t tell you as they wanted to meet you and knew you probably wouldn’t meet them if you knew
Good job you quoted I just deleted by mistake
So...it wasn't lies then, just deception
Sorry, just being mischievous "
Yes, maybe I shouldn’t have said ‘lied to you’ but, yes |
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?
Did they lie or just not tell you?
Playing the here ...
Just didn’t tell you as they wanted to meet you and knew you probably wouldn’t meet them if you knew
Good job you quoted I just deleted by mistake
So...it wasn't lies then, just deception
Sorry, just being mischievous "
the correct term for it is called lying by omission. Where someone falsly represents themselves by leaving out a key piece of information |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?
Did they lie or just not tell you?
Playing the here ...
Just didn’t tell you as they wanted to meet you and knew you probably wouldn’t meet them if you knew
Good job you quoted I just deleted by mistake
So...it wasn't lies then, just deception
Sorry, just being mischievous
Yes, maybe I shouldn’t have said ‘lied to you’ but, yes "
Hmmmmm, I think it would.depend on the size of his cock, or wallet 
Actually..... seriously, I don't know what I would do, luckily not been there ... Yet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because honesty is important how?
If they meet your needs and it works, go with the sex.
This ain't pof."
I expect honesty from ALL my friends regardless of how we met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well my profile says I'm married.
My profile doesn't explain my circumstance.
People will make an informed decision based on that. If I didn't declare I was married, people would assume I was because I don't accommodate. It wouldn't change my circumstances though.
It would make the other party feel better about themselves if they didn't know I was married, up to the point they found out.
People seem less inclined to question in a club for some reason. |
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"You’ve been sleeping with someone for a while. Met on fab, get on well and the sex is amazing.
You then find out they’re in a relationship/married. They tell you this after many meets.
Do you keep meeting? Or think no, fuck that. Would you stop meeting because they lied, or because they’re not single? Or both?"
Been in this exact situation. Your head tells you that you should walk away but by the time you find out you're desperately in love with them and believe all they tell you so you don't do anything.
You struggle on knowing you're at best 2nd in the line or lower if they have kids and work.
It's not always as cut and dry as people think once your down the rabbit hole. |
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Won’t meet someone who’s lied to me, and if I knew they weren’t single. That would be no too. Blocked some idiot the weekend who was bragging his GF didn’t know he was on here. Not interested wrecking other people’s relationships.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Here are several hypothetical scenario's.
My wife is on here but we have agreed to live seperate lives and never discuss what we get up to. I respect her privacy and her mine.
I am divorced but I still consider myself married and can't let go of her wedding ring. I say I'm married as it is easier to explain so I don't sound like a stalker.
I have a disabled chikd and a fulll time carer for them. Fab is the only free time I get. I'd rather you thought me a cheat than a shit dad that put his own needs first.
I have tried explaining to my wife that I am bi, but she refuses point blank to accept it is how I feel. I love her but cannot cope with the unfulfilled life.
And so on....
Do we need to share that level of detail?
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"Been in this exact situation. Your head tells you that you should walk away but by the time you find out you're desperately in love with them and believe all they tell you so you don't do anything.
You struggle on knowing you're at best 2nd in the line or lower if they have kids and work.
It's not always as cut and dry as people think once your down the rabbit hole. "
Exactly this... and then dumped with no explanation after 15 months of being the 'good mistress' . More fool me I know, but some men wouldn't know the truth if it got up and slapped them in the face. |
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