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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It's not necessarily the terms themselves that I think people find offensive more the context and timing of their use - if someone referred to me as "babe" or "hun" in a first message, or after we'd only just met, I'd find it completely shallow and insincere - if however it was someone I'd built a connection with it would be different  |
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over a year ago
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I quite like babe if you've chatted a while... it's bbe that irritates me. Hun from a stranger, or beautiful when they have no idea what my face looks like  |
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"It's not necessarily the terms themselves that I think people find offensive more the context and timing of their use - if someone referred to me as "babe" or "hun" in a first message, or after we'd only just met, I'd find it completely shallow and insincere - if however it was someone I'd built a connection with it would be different "
This. Different when there's a connection but not in a first message x |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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‘Slut’ as in ‘so you like being used like the slut you are, do you?’.
Nope, I like engaging in mutually rewarding sexual shenanigans with guys who aren’t scared to take charge in the bedroom. Dipstick. |
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"It's not necessarily the terms themselves that I think people find offensive more the context and timing of their use - if someone referred to me as "babe" or "hun" in a first message, or after we'd only just met, I'd find it completely shallow and insincere - if however it was someone I'd built a connection with it would be different "
Definitely context and intonation dependent....
Shop assistant on handing you what you asked for 'Yes Okay Love' ..... FINE
Man on listening to your opinion ....... 'Yeah okay Luv'........... NOT FINE. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"‘Slut’ as in ‘so you like being used like the slut you are, do you?’.
Nope, I like engaging in mutually rewarding sexual shenanigans with guys who aren’t scared to take charge in the bedroom. Dipstick."
Shenanigans! Tally ho, Old girl! Anyone for 1950s role play? |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"‘Slut’ as in ‘so you like being used like the slut you are, do you?’.
Nope, I like engaging in mutually rewarding sexual shenanigans with guys who aren’t scared to take charge in the bedroom. Dipstick."
Shenanigans is such a good word!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like a thread where they talk about what terms they like to be called 
Don't you dare hijack my thread haha "
New thread coming soon... all milfs/cougars stay here please  |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt "
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x "
Slut is not a derogatory term |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term "
Yes it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is"
How is it a derogatory term? |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term "
It has been used to describe women in a derogatory way for a very long time, women are taking it back and using it as a form of empowerment which is brilliant.
Personally it still offends. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? "
That's a tough sell that one haha even for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? "
Of course it can be. You wouldn’t call a stranger one without offending them. I don’t even like being called it by someone I know well. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term?
Of course it can be. You wouldn’t call a stranger one without offending them. I don’t even like being called it by someone I know well. "
This
If you actually look up the definition it is listed as "noun: derogatory" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? "
It's like calling someone a tramp. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term "
Yes. Yes it is  |
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The ones that grind my gears most are female or girl. Less if it's accompanied by male or boy, but it's so often not. Female and man, girl and man. Is the word "woman" so hard?
Also hate pet names of most descriptions, and words like slut. The latter I'll accept in controlled circumstances from close friends in a reclaiming sense, but from most it's a slur. |
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Being called a girl! Erm I’m a grown ass woman ffs
I have one customer at work that’s a patronising dick when serving he’s like “I want x more pints when you’re ready girl” he knows my name but he refuses to use it |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? "
so you'd happily calk your mum, sister or nan a slut, or lisyev to others do it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? so you'd happily calk your mum, sister or nan a slut, or lisyev to others do it? "
Well of course not, it’s like you calling your dad your lover.. what a stupid question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term?
It's like calling someone a tramp."
Tramp is but slut isn’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term?
That's a tough sell that one haha even for me "
I like challenges and breaking the boundaries |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
It has been used to describe women in a derogatory way for a very long time, women are taking it back and using it as a form of empowerment which is brilliant.
Personally it still offends. "
Like you said, ‘used to’ not anymore.. modern feminist claim that Slut is a woman who enjoys sex.. hope this helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term?
It's like calling someone a tramp.
Tramp is but slut isn’t "
It is very derogatory unless someone has asked to be called it. |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term?
It's like calling someone a tramp.
Tramp is but slut isn’t "
It's quite surprising that you wouldn't have heard it used in that way at some point in your life. Oxford Dictionary has it listed as derogatory, Urban Dictionary might not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt "
That’s me most days at work then!!
I’ll embrace the word slut then! Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm, almost all the replies on here are from women saying what they don't like to be called - are women more sensitive about this than men?
Personally, I dislike being called mate or pal - buddy's ok. I also dislike being called "Sir" - if anyone does, I tell them to call me by my first name, which I vary for a laugh. |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
It has been used to describe women in a derogatory way for a very long time, women are taking it back and using it as a form of empowerment which is brilliant.
Personally it still offends.
Like you said, ‘used to’ not anymore.. modern feminist claim that Slut is a woman who enjoys sex.. hope this helps "
From my experience it isn't just used as you've described. So I've formed an opinion, which I don't seem to be alone in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term?
It's like calling someone a tramp.
Tramp is but slut isn’t
It is very derogatory unless someone has asked to be called it. "
Of course you won’t go around calling people intimate words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
It has been used to describe women in a derogatory way for a very long time, women are taking it back and using it as a form of empowerment which is brilliant.
Personally it still offends.
Like you said, ‘used to’ not anymore.. modern feminist claim that Slut is a woman who enjoys sex.. hope this helps
From my experience it isn't just used as you've described. So I've formed an opinion, which I don't seem to be alone in. "
Because, it is what you make of it  |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
It has been used to describe women in a derogatory way for a very long time, women are taking it back and using it as a form of empowerment which is brilliant.
Personally it still offends.
Like you said, ‘used to’ not anymore.. modern feminist claim that Slut is a woman who enjoys sex.. hope this helps
From my experience it isn't just used as you've described. So I've formed an opinion, which I don't seem to be alone in.
Because, it is what you make of it "
Absolutely true, and to me it's an insult. Each to their own x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
It has been used to describe women in a derogatory way for a very long time, women are taking it back and using it as a form of empowerment which is brilliant.
Personally it still offends.
Like you said, ‘used to’ not anymore.. modern feminist claim that Slut is a woman who enjoys sex.. hope this helps
From my experience it isn't just used as you've described. So I've formed an opinion, which I don't seem to be alone in.
Because, it is what you make of it
Absolutely true, and to me it's an insult. Each to their own x "
I like slutty ladies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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]‘Slut’ as in ‘so you like being used like the slut you are, do you?’.
Nope, I like engaging in mutually rewarding sexual shenanigans with guys who aren’t scared to take charge in the bedroom. Dipstick.
couldn’t have said it better myself! |
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? so you'd happily calk your mum, sister or nan a slut, or lisyev to others do it?
Well of course not, it’s like you calling your dad your lover.. what a stupid question "
You'd certainly recognise one, your speciality, now I'm embarrassed asking similar questions to you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate the word slut.
I don't use the word hate lightly either.
The word slut was originally used in the Canterbury tales to describe a man who was unkempt
It's funny how word meanings can change over the centuries, I just see it as a derogatory term I'm afraid x
Slut is not a derogatory term
Yes it is
How is it a derogatory term? so you'd happily calk your mum, sister or nan a slut, or lisyev to others do it?
Well of course not, it’s like you calling your dad your lover.. what a stupid question
You'd certainly recognise one, your speciality, now I'm embarrassed asking similar questions to you.
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You beat me to it |
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"Hey Sugar Tits... Oh god that irritates me so much. "
I used to have a friend in work that I called sugar tits, and she did the same. But from a stranger it’d be a bit....
I suppose just anything overfamiliar. My mum gave me a ridiculous name that has spawned a mass of nicknames, I don’t even like anyone using those until I know them better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey Sugar Tits... Oh god that irritates me so much.
How about Sucrose tits or Sweetener tits?
 Yeah terrific"
Yay!
I don't like sweetie myself. Way too saccharin and mawkish. |
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over a year ago
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute "
I never knew if that means women want to fuck you, or just squeeze your cheeks when they say that. |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute
I never knew if that means women want to fuck you, or just squeeze your cheeks when they say that."
Cheek squeezing. Unless they’ve said something sweet, and I call them cute. If I call their appearance cute...I probably don’t want to fuck them |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute "
Meh, I don't mind. I'm fucking adorable. |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute
Meh, I don't mind. I'm fucking adorable. "
I call you bab, which is equally adorable. |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute
I never knew if that means women want to fuck you, or just squeeze your cheeks when they say that."
I want to do both usually |
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By (user no longer on site)
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While some terms are clearly used by some men to somehow establish precedence over others (its the old Alpha Male trick) most are actually too familiar and downright insulting in say a chatroom or early messages - Babe, Hun, Sweetie etc wind me up let alone the poor lady being disrespected.
But some mentioned in posts are actually colloquial - '"Me Duck" is distinctly Notts and Leics, "Luvver" is very South Western, "My Lovely" (I am guilty of this) is also found in the West. So maybe it is who is using the term and in what context its used that should be considered?
Someone mentioned 'Girl' as annoying? I do use this when complimenting a lady as in:
"Now you Girl are bloody lovely!"
Its something from way back when and is just a turn of phrase. Never had any complaints but I will be more careful from now on ...  |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute
Meh, I don't mind. I'm fucking adorable.
I call you bab, which is equally adorable. "
I like bab, I use it often myself. But only in Birmingham. You get funny looks elsewhere. |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute
Meh, I don't mind. I'm fucking adorable.
I call you bab, which is equally adorable.
I like bab, I use it often myself. But only in Birmingham. You get funny looks elsewhere. "
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"While some terms are clearly used by some men to somehow establish precedence over others (its the old Alpha Male trick) most are actually too familiar and downright insulting in say a chatroom or early messages - Babe, Hun, Sweetie etc wind me up let alone the poor lady being disrespected.
But some mentioned in posts are actually colloquial - '"Me Duck" is distinctly Notts and Leics, "Luvver" is very South Western, "My Lovely" (I am guilty of this) is also found in the West. So maybe it is who is using the term and in what context its used that should be considered?
Someone mentioned 'Girl' as annoying? I do use this when complimenting a lady as in:
"Now you Girl are bloody lovely!"
Its something from way back when and is just a turn of phrase. Never had any complaints but I will be more careful from now on ... "
It's contextual, as most things are. But it can come off condescending or infantilising. |
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"Being called cute... puppies and babies are cute, a 48 year old woman is way past cute (well, I am anyway)
Men hate it when I call them cute "
I don’t mind being called cute (not that it ever happens) when it’s from an older (than me) woman, but from someone younger I find it quite patronising. Not quite sure why |
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C#nt,Sl#g,Sl#t,Hun,Babe,Luv,Hunni, sweetheart, darlin,c#ntsl#t,wh#re.
Just to name a few
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"It's not necessarily the terms themselves that I think people find offensive more the context and timing of their use - if someone referred to me as "babe" or "hun" in a first message, or after we'd only just met, I'd find it completely shallow and insincere - if however it was someone I'd built a connection with it would be different
Definitely context and intonation dependent....
Shop assistant on handing you what you asked for 'Yes Okay Love' ..... FINE
Man on listening to your opinion ....... 'Yeah okay Luv'........... NOT FINE. "
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"C#nt,Sl#g,Sl#t,Hun,Babe,Luv,Hunni, sweetheart, darlin,c#ntsl#t,wh#re.
Just to name a few
Ss
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Luv you hunni |
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over a year ago
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"Pet" no matter who calls me it.
No mate im not your pet i dont have four legs so fuck off !!
Other than that i suppose it depends who is saying what.
Someone younger than me calling me "kid" as "in alright kid". |
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"What terms does the other sex say that annoys you? Apparently cougar/milf is not a compliment. What else? I hate being called babe
Hate babe!! "
This & hun |
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"Any message that starts "I've always fantasised about African girls" or black girls.
Well good for you."
Agreed.
The other one that irks me is 'nubian princess'
To use your phrase, well good for you. |
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