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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness? |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
I try to see what could have possibly motivated them. A lot of the time, if you can work that out, you can understand them and hope that they get past whatever pushed them to do it.
If I conclude that what motivated them was just pure meanspiritedness, then I make sure that they can’t have what they want most. I’m pretty sure that is files under revenge  |
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I don’t believe anything that is motivated by revenge is a good thing. Success can be bitter if it doesn’t bring you pleasure. The best thing to do is process the anger. Move on. Find something worthwhile.
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By *MP3Man
over a year ago
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"Confucius said,before embarking on a journey of revenge dig two graves.
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Confucius also say - Man with hand in pocket feel cocky but man with two hands in pockets not feel too cocky  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I step away, metaphorically and sometimes physically. I’m not into revenge or retaliation. One way or another people will know that I’ve moved on and that’s all I need to do really.
That’s not to say that I don’t have those thoughts about ‘you could have said’ etc because I have but it’s wasted energy and causes angst. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cut contact. Remain dignified and move on with your life. Works for me"
life’s a book, if you get stuck on one page you’ll never find out what happens next; turn the page!
As a yogi: release is the best tonic |
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I can't be bothered with revenge but as I've grown older I find I have no hesitation in cutting certain people out of my life. If those people were ever to be in a position where they needed my help I would give it with a smile while appreciating the discomfort they must surely be feeling.
A woman I used to work with caused me a huge problem at work. I could barely look at her for a while because the fallout was traumatic.
A few years later we found ourselves sitting next to each other at a conference. She looked horribly embarrassed (good) and I enjoyed that for a minute before smiling at her and asking after her family. Watching her squirm as she realised that I was being the bigger person was revenge enough for me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best revenge is to be happy...
Revenge, it's just anger dressed up in hurt.
If you go out of your way to hurt another then are we any better than those who hurt us... |
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
Do me wrong and can comfortably let it go.
Do my loved ones wrong and I might just fuck you up. Depending on what it was obviously.
I believe in proportionality. |
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
I walk away and leave it - Revenge is a dish best served cold! |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Leave them to it and get on with your own life. Karma will always have the last word whether it be days, weeks, months or years. "
Absolutely, although I’ve noticed some people call on karma when someone’s upset them but seem to forget about it when they are doing spiteful and nasty things to other people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave them to it and get on with your own life. Karma will always have the last word whether it be days, weeks, months or years.
Absolutely, although I’ve noticed some people call on karma when someone’s upset them but seem to forget about it when they are doing spiteful and nasty things to other people "
so very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cut ties, wish them well, have a word with Karma on the way out and then get busy with being fucking awesome!
Revenge is for the bitter and being bitter just gives you wrinkles and heartburn |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The best revenge is to be happy...
Revenge, it's just anger dressed up in hurt.
If you go out of your way to hurt another then are we any better than those who hurt us..."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm sure there's some self-help phrase (but that doesn't mean it's invalid) along the lines of:
"Holding onto resentment is like drinking rat-poison and expecting the rat to die""
I like that. |
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I've wanted revenge, but never followed through with it. Once the anger and upset has faded away, I hold my head up high, come back stronger and moved on.
Cutting all contact is a must and keeping busy so as not to dwell on things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even the ‘dish served cold’ and Karma mindset is one that still hold grudge; waiting for the revenge to be delivered.
Letting going, and finding peace with what has happened is the only way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Confucius said,before embarking on a journey of revenge dig two graves.
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I prefer the Louis Mazzini's quote in the movie "Kind Hearts and Coronets": revenge is the dish people taste prefer to eat cold... that's me! |
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Revenge, like jealousy is a wasted emotion.
Neither of which are things I waste my time & energy on..
But I do believe in 'what goes around, comes around'
If people live a certain way, they will eventually meet someone the same as themselves & eventually be on the receiving end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a good song exploring anger and revenge called you will see me, by Dan le sacv scroobius pip
I  that track. Might have something to do with my all encompassing lust for Pip
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He's my man crush ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
I know the best revenge is success, but when I caught my ex cheating (using her job as a cover) I emailed her bosses and asked if it was company policy to sponsor adultery.... She was mortified to say the least.... |
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"Revenge, like jealousy is a wasted emotion.
Neither of which are things I waste my time & energy on..
But I do believe in 'what goes around, comes around'
If people live a certain way, they will eventually meet someone the same as themselves & eventually be on the receiving end. "
I like to think the same. I do wonder if it ever happens though.  |
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in
sadness?"
I believe in Karma.
Plus I have seen it in action so it does work sometimes unfortunately not all the time |
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"Revenge, like jealousy is a wasted emotion.
Neither of which are things I waste my time & energy on..
But I do believe in 'what goes around, comes around'
If people live a certain way, they will eventually meet someone the same as themselves & eventually be on the receiving end.
I like to think the same. I do wonder if it ever happens though. "
In my experience..
It always does.
It may not be swift, but it always happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
Block and move on, retaining the hurt only hurts you they arnt really bothered  |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
killing with kindness is my motto! |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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For myself it would depend on what injustice I thought was involved. I would fight the injustice to the end. But I never act out of spite, bitterness, pettiness or revenge or to "do one over" someone. |
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Depends really sometime doing nothing at all can say a lot more. But if someone has made your life harder or turned people against you or even just made people think that you have done something that you haven't. Then a little revenge is always nice. When someone does you wrong the first thing you think is how can I get them back. We are all in the same boat but wouldn't it be nice if everyone could be them self and not have to be the person that we think people want us to be. What you really should do is what you have joined this site for. Anything and everything you want. As we are all here for the same reason, we like sex flirting getting the excitement back and enjoying being made to cum. |
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Totally depends on the gin intake n the crazy mates you recant you revenge to in my view with the right crew behind you it wasnt wrong to buy full grain bread wipe it round the cats litter tray take the ham n wipe the dogs arse on it then add mustard for taste coz yeh dignified walk away would have cost 1. 79 less
Than it did in aldi lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
When you find the answers, please let me know. |
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
...revenge best served cold. Give people enough rope and they will fuck up again and again. Be happy you are no longer part of their drama. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""The best revenge is massive success"- Frank Sinatra
If someone has 'done you wrong' do you turn the other cheek or get revenge?
Do you tell them what you think of them or maintain a dignified silence?
Do you better yourself and hold your head high or wallow in sadness?"
I actually believe that people who deliberately treat others badly are sad, sorry little individuals who have huge issues of their own that they are too weak to deal with so decide to take it out on others.
I don't have sympathy for them, I feel pity because to go through life like that must be pretty horrible, especially as they tend to only associate with others like themselves and must spend life in a horrible bubble, often mistakenly thinking that people really like them when, in fact, very few do.
Never want to get revenge from this kind of individual because they have issues that they alone can resolve, and if they're not willing to try they are not worth any kind of emotion at all from me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best revenge is living well and being happy in spite of others. You are responsible for your own actions and happiness not those of others. Move on, learn by the hurts and live your life to its fullest.
You will find those that have wounded you generally don't care either way about you, it is all about them. You have no control over what they think and feel so no point even trying to do something to change it. Pointless waste of energy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to cut off all contact and then spend time bettering myself. Usually for a short time I allow 'revenge' (making them regret missing out) to motivate me, but that always fades and I end up doing it just for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is indeed a dilemma I am currently facing!
I have tried to turn the other cheek, I'm bored waiting for karma and I genuinely feel I can't heal until I know the other party has got what they deserve.....
And yes I am bitter, I am angry and I am hurt. We talk about these emotions like they are a bad thing, I don't necessarily agree, they are simply emotions in response to something traumatic in your life.
Other than this, I'm sweetness and light  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The best revenge is living well and being happy in spite of others. You are responsible for your own actions and happiness not those of others. Move on, learn by the hurts and live your life to its fullest.
You will find those that have wounded you generally don't care either way about you, it is all about them. You have no control over what they think and feel so no point even trying to do something to change it. Pointless waste of energy. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The best revenge is living well and being happy in spite of others. You are responsible for your own actions and happiness not those of others. Move on, learn by the hurts and live your life to its fullest.
You will find those that have wounded you generally don't care either way about you, it is all about them. You have no control over what they think and feel so no point even trying to do something to change it. Pointless waste of energy. "
So true, and to dwell on past hurts is to allow them control over you. |
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"Revenge, like jealousy is a wasted emotion.
Neither of which are things I waste my time & energy on..
But I do believe in 'what goes around, comes around'
If people live a certain way, they will eventually meet someone the same as themselves & eventually be on the receiving end.
I like to think the same. I do wonder if it ever happens though.
In my experience..
It always does.
It may not be swift, but it always happens "
Good to know, I have a long list....  |
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