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Does true love exist?
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over a year ago
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I'd say it does, but I don't think it's this thing that just happens. It requires a little bit of effort, and a bit of investment on both sides. Feels are definitely real, and anyone who has been through a breakup they didn't want can tell you exactly how it feels when your stomach feels empty. |
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."
The ONE can happen several times. I’ve found it with two people, it wasn’t forever but it happened and it was great. |
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.
The ONE can happen several times. I’ve found it with two people, it wasn’t forever but it happened and it was great. "
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."
You can have true love for someone. It’s the reciprocation that causes the problem.
If you both have an instant attraction an want the same thing. I think true love will follow. It’s no walk in the park though. An I think it’s on its way out. So many older generation, have been together 60 years. Your lucky if couples make 10 years today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.
I fall in love with her more and more each day |
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I believe in true love,absolutely, but I don't think it's limited to a one time offer in your life.
I think people sometimes miss someone lovely while they search for "the one" as there's no perfect fit we all have to wiggle and adjust a bit to make a life together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I believe in true love,absolutely, but I don't think it's limited to a one time offer in your life.
I think people sometimes miss someone lovely while they search for "the one" as there's no perfect fit we all have to wiggle and adjust a bit to make a life together."
I never look for the next one, I look for the ‘one’ it may come along a few times but I grab it with both hands and enjoy it while it lasts. |
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Yes without a doubt. And at different levels.
I've found it twice, but the intensity of the two times is shockingly different.
And been in lust loads of times, and when younger mistook that for love, it wears off though. |
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True love does exist but in my experience it is transient, it is very hard to capture and hold a feeling like that over a long period of time. People change over time both physically and emotionally and the light that burns twice as bright only burns half as long . |
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"Don't think it exists in the form it has been sold to us through myths, old tales and Hollywood. "
Wait so I've been climbing towers, slaying dragons for nothing?! (Throws shield, goes to pub)
One of the problems when you're younger is definitly seperating lust from love. It's like years later, you think about past relationships and try to work out if you did love them or simply lusted after them, then try to work out if it was a shared feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think it exists in the form it has been sold to us through myths, old tales and Hollywood.
Wait so I've been climbing towers, slaying dragons for nothing?! (Throws shield, goes to pub)
One of the problems when you're younger is definitly seperating lust from love. It's like years later, you think about past relationships and try to work out if you did love them or simply lusted after them, then try to work out if it was a shared feeling. "
Haha I am afraid so pal !
But yes, totally agree with you there. With time you realise or at least start to question that 'love' you had for your exes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would like to think so but for me it has not been found yet. I've been in long relationships where i thought from my side at least it was a genuine love only to find it was one sided.
One day maybe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have definitely been in love... a profound love. There is something timeless and more real than real about it. Like that moment is a beacon in time which still exists out there resonating and will do so forever more. And yet it is over now. Some people would dismiss this as an illogical impossibility. I think the nature of existence is more complex and poetic than our ape minds can ascertain. So maybe it's like Interstellar or something.
It sounds bizarre saying that I'm looking for "the one" again. But, again, there is maybe something of the dream about all this and maybe something extraordinary is true... a lover behind the fabric of reality calling to me to find her... like a cosmic game of hide and seek. I believe she's there. She was always there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry if this derails the thread op (I hope it doesn't) but finding love is like finding god. You need to be open to falling in love. You need to be open and willing to have the experience. And if you are... and you're lucky. You *will* have that experience and it *will* be so extraordinary and recognisably different from anything else you experienced before that you'll immediately think "wow! so this is love!" or "wow! so this is god!"
As such, it is a real thing. It does exist. It can be replicated and is enough of a widespread phenomenon that the cultural "myths" about it aren't actually myths at all to many people.
Science will try to explain what it is in terms of the physical reactions that go off in the brain when you feel love. But what incites those reactions? And are those reactions creating the feeling of being in love or is the feeling of being in love creating those reactions?
People who have experienced profound love, as well as people who have experienced god, both describe these experiences as life changing and more real than real; that the rest of what life has to offer pales into insignificance; that the whole purpose of life is for those things; that they would happily give themselves over entirely to those things.
Again, I hope this doesn't derail your thread op but I felt this was an interesting comparison to make |
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."
Oh this one will run and run.
There'll be bucket loads of cynical, bitter comments rolling forth, many bitching that those who say it does exist are just kidding themselves.
Well we've managed many decades and it ain't dead yet. But then we've fought our way through good times, bad times, bereavements and loss together and come out the other side of it all stronger. comrades in arms as well as lovers. It will be so until death. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.
Oh this one will run and run.
There'll be bucket loads of cynical, bitter comments rolling forth, many bitching that those who say it does exist are just kidding themselves.
Well we've managed many decades and it ain't dead yet. But then we've fought our way through good times, bad times, bereavements and loss together and come out the other side of it all stronger. comrades in arms as well as lovers. It will be so until death."
It just doesn't get laid out on plate |
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.
It just doesn't get laid out on plate "
Exactly. Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy-peasy fairyland and unicorns.
If it's worthwhile you put in the effort and you fight for it tooth and nail.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was in love once.
Don't remember her name.
She was Brazilian; or Chinese, something weird.
I met her in the toilet of a Tesco Extra and we snogged for hours.
Then we parted ways, never to see each other again.
That's it right? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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I didn't believe in love for a very long time. It always felt like an unchievable goal that fools chased.
Then we met and over time things slotted into place and it was like finding my missing piece.
Now, yes I absolutely believe it's real. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.
I fall in love with her more and more each day "
So nice to read! Congratulations, lucky both of you  |
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Yes it does. Well my definition. I had no clue what it was or if it existed until i found it. 13 years on and when i think i cant love him anymore he says or does something and a new wave of love comes flooding through |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes it does. Well my definition. I had no clue what it was or if it existed until i found it. 13 years on and when i think i cant love him anymore he says or does something and a new wave of love comes flooding through"
That's beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes it does. Well my definition. I had no clue what it was or if it existed until i found it. 13 years on and when i think i cant love him anymore he says or does something and a new wave of love comes flooding through"
That’s beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry if this derails the thread op (I hope it doesn't) but finding love is like finding god. You need to be open to falling in love. You need to be open and willing to have the experience. And if you are... and you're lucky. You *will* have that experience and it *will* be so extraordinary and recognisably different from anything else you experienced before that you'll immediately think "wow! so this is love!" or "wow! so this is god!"
As such, it is a real thing. It does exist. It can be replicated and is enough of a widespread phenomenon that the cultural "myths" about it aren't actually myths at all to many people.
Science will try to explain what it is in terms of the physical reactions that go off in the brain when you feel love. But what incites those reactions? And are those reactions creating the feeling of being in love or is the feeling of being in love creating those reactions?
People who have experienced profound love, as well as people who have experienced god, both describe these experiences as life changing and more real than real; that the rest of what life has to offer pales into insignificance; that the whole purpose of life is for those things; that they would happily give themselves over entirely to those things.
Again, I hope this doesn't derail your thread op but I felt this was an interesting comparison to make "
Is that love or some sort of obsession though, sounds like a brainwashing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.
I fall in love with her more and more each day "
Aww how lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.
It just doesn't get laid out on plate
Exactly. Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy-peasy fairyland and unicorns.
If it's worthwhile you put in the effort and you fight for it tooth and nail.
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Very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.
I fall in love with her more and more each day "
You charmer you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is that love or some sort of obsession though, sounds like a brainwashing. "
Western education and reasoning tutors us over many years to approach the world with a certain mindset. That's a form of brainwashing. But we can unlearn it. For example, if you practice meditation it is possible to train your mind to silence the dvd commentary in it and experience the now with a profound hitherto unexperienced directness. From this can come a much more holistic experience of everything being interconnected that kind of flies in the face of much western thinking yet feels much truer to those who have had that experience.
Falling in love is, in a sense, like this. It's about allowing your mind to approach reality with a different mindset. Love is hidden from you. But you take that leap of faith that it will catch your fall. And it does. But if you don't leap it'll never catch you. It does exist. But you have to allow your mind the freedom to seek it out or you may not find it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is that love or some sort of obsession though, sounds like a brainwashing.
Western education and reasoning tutors us over many years to approach the world with a certain mindset. That's a form of brainwashing. But we can unlearn it. For example, if you practice meditation it is possible to train your mind to silence the dvd commentary in it and experience the now with a profound hitherto unexperienced directness. From this can come a much more holistic experience of everything being interconnected that kind of flies in the face of much western thinking yet feels much truer to those who have had that experience.
Falling in love is, in a sense, like this. It's about allowing your mind to approach reality with a different mindset. Love is hidden from you. But you take that leap of faith that it will catch your fall. And it does. But if you don't leap it'll never catch you. It does exist. But you have to allow your mind the freedom to seek it out or you may not find it. "
You been watching Jordan Peterson videos on You Tube again ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one."
I don’t believe I have ever been truly in love, so for me I struggle to accept it exists |
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By *renshiiCouple
over a year ago
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"I read something about it here on the forum yesterday, sounded interesting, what is your view, does it exist? I think it does, if you find the one.
The ONE can happen several times. I’ve found it with two people, it wasn’t forever but it happened and it was great.
I like this "
Me too |
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By *renshiiCouple
over a year ago
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"In my eyes I have found the one. As long as she feels the same I will do everything to ensure we remain together.
I fall in love with her more and more each day "
Awww that made me smile SO much. |
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I believe it does.
I’ve been in love several times before, but not like I have with Mr P.
Maybe age, wisdom, security in oneself , changes how your relationships work.
But he’s my best friend, my confidant and my lover.
There’s no jealousy or possessiveness. Just a deep mutual respect and adoration for each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We believe it does we been together 25 years,been through life’s tuff times supported each other in difficult times and couldn’t live without each other ,love one another’s company |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I believe in true love,absolutely, but I don't think it's limited to a one time offer in your life.
I think people sometimes miss someone lovely while they search for "the one" as there's no perfect fit we all have to wiggle and adjust a bit to make a life together."
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By (user no longer on site)
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It happens, when it is reciprocated it is the best thing and it can last a lifetime, unfortunately some peoples lives are shorter than others and then it turns into the worst thing. I now understand how some die of a broken heart, it is actually quite difficult not to. Now I am just trying very hard to avoid ever feeling it again. |
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"I love my mum and dad to bits, but sometimes I could str*ngle them!!.
Maybe it's true love when they really fucking annoy you at the same time "
I am the same my mum drives me insane i love her totally but lately i could happily never see her again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive always thought if there is such thing as "the one" why would they live near you? They could live in timbuktu for all we know.
I personally think there are lots of people out there that are a good match so its not really the 1 its more like theres about 50,000 and hopefully you meet 1 of them out of the 7 billion on earth.
I think a lot of people settle aswell. Kind of take anyone an put up with all kind of shit but thats not living thats just existing |
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i think by saying the 1 aswell. people convince thenselves that they cant live without a person or they will never love anyone the same again. So in a way you can be trapped in a relationship with "the 1" when there could be a better match out there. |
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"Yes. But it’s not like it is in the movies. "
Yes it's a lot better, there aren't weird staged obstacles and everything else blocking it.
Sometimes you can't actually live with somebody you are truly in love with. That's sad, and happened to me once, I have also lived with somebody I loved, but in a different way a lot easier and for a long time.
But this time as well as true love, and yes of course I would give my life for her without doubt, as I would my daughter, living with her is 100* better than when we were in love and apart. That has been a revelation, we are a much better whole than we were two parts. And I genuinely think only death could now part us. |
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"Yes, but it's a lot messier than Hollywood portrays it."
Seriously, not for me either time.
All Hollywood love stories just jump from disaster to misery to disaster then eventually end up OK. I couldnt live like that! |
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