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People who won't meet or never meet

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because they enjoy the banter

We all have are own reasons

Maybe they dont have the confidence or are in happy relationships

Or there keeping in touch with friends or maybe they just like to virtual tbag people

But mainly cos they can

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

Why do they spoil it?

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

How do they spoil it? If you have 100 people who want to meet, and 10 who don't, you still have 100 open to meeting whether those 10 are on the site or not.

Some people simply enjoy the forums, some are dipping their toes into the lifestyle and plucking up the courage to get involved, some are on site to keep in touch with friends, some are here to look at pics. So long as the 10 make it clear they're not meeting and don't string people along I don't see what difference it makes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs and Facebook is for all that other stuff i understand where your coming from and there are other sites to banter and chat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How do they spoil it? Just move on past their profile if they don’t want to meet. Pretty simple

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I live in a small town so it's different for me not many locals but some of these have been on here yrs and won't meet I don't mind if profile said not meeting but lots don't say that and their are other sites for that most who know fab and have been on here long time know it's changed into a social media site rather than what is meant for

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

I think you're mossing the point of being on here and the general spirit of this site. Fab is a celebration of all things sexual that brings together people from all walks of life, many of whom have little in common in the real world, but all united in their appreciation of sex and its myriad facets. That doesn't include just meeting for it, but can be perving, socialising and include aspects such as photography (for the pic lovers) or just intense discussion about its nature.

I honestly can't understand how someone's personal choice of not meeting can hurt your chances here. If you're struggling to meet, you should look more to factors related to yourself and your profile first and foremost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's only my opinion I wear my heart on my sleeve and say it how it is and I think it's the best way to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."
How do they spoil it loads of people here pick somebody that does

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you mean they're not meeting you OP, or they're not meeting full stop?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I live in a small town so it's different for me not many locals but some of these have been on here yrs and won't meet I don't mind if profile said not meeting but lots don't say that and their are other sites for that most who know fab and have been on here long time know it's changed into a social media site rather than what is meant for "

Maybe they are meeting...they just don’t want to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do you mean they're not meeting you OP, or they're not meeting full stop?

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not me just in general I'm meeting at clubs soon where all the fun is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs and Facebook is for all that other stuff i understand where your coming from and there are other sites to banter and chat "

Who told you it was 'a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs'?

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If it's not on their profile, and they tell you they're not meeting, it's perhaps just a gentle way of saying they don't want to meet YOU in particular. Look further afield rather than just your limited local area.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't understand how I spoil it for anyone.

I'm honest, I don't lead people on and you're free to pass me by.

I'm not bothering anyone.

Lots of people use this site for various reasons and some of us have for years.

Your post suggests you're perhaps not having the experiences you hoped for?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you mean they're not meeting you OP, or they're not meeting full stop?

not me just in general I'm meeting at clubs soon where all the fun is "

Do that then.

But I don’t think people who don't really meet ruin it for others. I won't meet anyone local to me at all, that's not ruining it for people I live near.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Maybe they are meeting...they just don’t want to meet you?

And people can use fab how they see fit. There isn’t any rules to state that if you’re not meeting, you cannot be a member. I go through stages where I can’t be bothered meeting, so don’t. But I’m still a member. "
I haven't asked any one to meet I had my regular playmate I was on here a couple of yrs ago and it's changed so much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your logic makes no sense. If they arent meeting and shouldnt be on here, it wouldnt change the amount of people on here that are meeting if they werent on here. So why does it matter if they are here or not :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm only here to spoil it for others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs and Facebook is for all that other stuff i understand where your coming from and there are other sites to banter and chat "

Why are you dictating how the site should be used? I have no interest in going to a club and i dont class myself as a swinger.

I like this site as i can find the nsa fun that im looking for. Also just because im on here doesnt mean im up for shagging anyone in site

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

We just like teasing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your logic makes no sense. If they arent meeting and shouldnt be on here, it wouldnt change the amount of people on here that are meeting if they werent on here. So why does it matter if they are here or not :/"
it would actually because there would be less people on site and they would want to meet it was only my opinion and everyone in the forum is miles away so makes no odds to me there are way to many people on fab now I'm nice polite and not rude and put some effort in on profile so I do just fine thankyou

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

"It's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs and Facebook is for all that other stuff i understand where your coming from and there are other sites to banter and chat "

Maybe the people they want to banter and chat with *aren't* on other sites. Maybe they like perving over the pics *here*. Maybe they like the vibe of Fab in particular. I still don't see how this impacts on your chances of meeting unless those who don't want to meet - at all - are blatantly saying otherwise. I hope you're not confusing the non-meeters with people who decide at any stage they don't want to meet *you*? No-one here is actually *entitled* to meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they are meeting...they just don’t want to meet you?

And people can use fab how they see fit. There isn’t any rules to state that if you’re not meeting, you cannot be a member. I go through stages where I can’t be bothered meeting, so don’t. But I’m still a member. I haven't asked any one to meet I had my regular playmate I was on here a couple of yrs ago and it's changed so much "

Then how is them not meeting ruining the site? If you’re not meeting either and only go to clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How exactly is soneone not meeting ruining the site for other people?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your logic makes no sense. If they arent meeting and shouldnt be on here, it wouldnt change the amount of people on here that are meeting if they werent on here. So why does it matter if they are here or not :/ it would actually because there would be less people on site and they would want to meet it was only my opinion and everyone in the forum is miles away so makes no odds to me there are way to many people on fab now I'm nice polite and not rude and put some effort in on profile so I do just fine thankyou "

Travel i do

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How do they spoil it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

He hasn't been to a club either so in breach of the terms of his contract here!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"It's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs and Facebook is for all that other stuff i understand where your coming from and there are other sites to banter and chat "

I can't show my tits on Facebook though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Travel i do"

Yoda, you've changed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your logic makes no sense. If they arent meeting and shouldnt be on here, it wouldnt change the amount of people on here that are meeting if they werent on here. So why does it matter if they are here or not :/ it would actually because there would be less people on site and they would want to meet it was only my opinion and everyone in the forum is miles away so makes no odds to me there are way to many people on fab now I'm nice polite and not rude and put some effort in on profile so I do just fine thankyou "

Less people on the site.. what difference would that make? Doesnt mean you would be their type and you cant message cos of filters, so there will always be profiles that arent going to be interested in you same as someone who isnt meeting.. so again what does it matter if they are meeting or not, there will always be profiles not wanting to meet you.. so just another you would need to skip past...

Its like saying as a female then gay guys shouldnt be on here as they have no interest in meeting me

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

Even if absolutely *everyone* on Fab definitely wanted to meet, it'd still invariably mean that *some* Fabsters 'missed out' ...

... because we can't all be universally attractive to everyone, because of distance, because of availability, because of individual kinks, because of age limits, because of real life getting in the way etc etc etc

Yet in theory every last person on Fab wanted to meet! Do you see where I'm coming from? It all comes back to individual attraction and everything else aligning regardless of anything else. A number of non-meeters doesn't alter that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah... bloody people doing their own thing, living their lives how they see fit and doing what they want. How dare they affect you with their personal life choices, it’s almost like they’ve never met you and have no thought for how you would feel about how they run their profiles...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People can use the site however they like. I’m not meeting currently as I haven’t been very well. I enjoy the forums though so I stayed for that.

Not meeting and time wasting are not the same thing.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How do they spoil it? I’m not meeting and haven’t met for years and I can assure you I’m not spoiling anything for anyone

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By *verageguy123Man over a year ago

Selby

Surely it’s better for someone to say they’re not meeting than to arrange a meet and not show up like I’ve read so many times on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Maybe they are meeting...they just don’t want to meet you?

And people can use fab how they see fit. There isn’t any rules to state that if you’re not meeting, you cannot be a member. I go through stages where I can’t be bothered meeting, so don’t. But I’m still a member. I haven't asked any one to meet I had my regular playmate I was on here a couple of yrs ago and it's changed so much

I meet and always will and I'm going to clubs soon aswell that's what I thought the site was for and again it was only my opinion

Then how is them not meeting ruining the site? If you’re not meeting either and only go to clubs?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People have choices OP.

And if you don't like their choices...

I don't see how anyone here spoils it for another by the choices they make.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Are you saying it's too much hassle trawling through profiles of people who won't meet, so wouldn't the site be better if everyone wanted to meet you?

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By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

We have been on here for years and met some lovely people but at the moment we don’t want to meet anyone cos we are taking a break for ourselves does that mean we are spoiling it for others by being here

We still like to keep in touch with people and love the forums

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"Are you saying it's too much hassle trawling through profiles of people who won't meet, so wouldn't the site be better if everyone wanted to meet you?

Sounds like a small site. Variety is the spice of life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How?

Why?

Just ignore them and find someone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

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I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you saying it's too much hassle trawling through profiles of people who won't meet, so wouldn't the site be better if everyone wanted to meet you?

Sounds like a small site. Variety is the spice of life. "
i wouldn't meet anyone and there had to be attraction and chemistry and I'm not looking to fuck the whole site just a select few

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah... bloody people doing their own thing, living their lives how they see fit and doing what they want. How dare they affect you with their personal life choices, it’s almost like they’ve never met you and have no thought for how you would feel about how they run their profiles..."

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

"Are you saying it's too much hassle trawling through profiles of people who won't meet, so wouldn't the site be better if everyone wanted to meet you?

Sounds like a small site. Variety is the spice of life. i wouldn't meet anyone and there had to be attraction and chemistry and I'm not looking to fuck the whole site just a select few "

Soooooo cliche

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why "

But you arent debating as you havent answered anyone with an alternative view. All you have said is there would be less people not explained in anyway how that would benefit those on the site

It seems to me you didnt fully think through what youre saying and everyone has pointed out the flaw in your thinking. Now you have had your mind opened to how things really are on here, instead of saying something like.. yeah ok guess i wasnt fully thinking it through.. you blame the forums lol

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

A lot of us have been on the site for years and real life comes first. The site allows people to stay in contact with others during the times they are unable to meet, others use the chat rooms, alot of people now meet at clubs. That is was is great about the site, it covers all options for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why "
Ha hey theirs always two sides to every theory and you will get both sides full barrel ha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't meet and will probably never meet you #youknowwhoyouare but I never had any reason for it. But now I know that I'm spoiling it for you and other it gives me an hard on and give me the strength to keep going my quest of not meeting to spoil it for people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs and Facebook is for all that other stuff i understand where your coming from and there are other sites to banter and chat

I can't show my tits on Facebook though "
you did make me laugh and that is so true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ya big spoiler bugger off before u get tbagged by 15 midgets

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't meet and will probably never meet you #youknowwhoyouare but I never had any reason for it. But now I know that I'm spoiling it for you and other it gives me an hard on and give me the strength to keep going my quest of not meeting to spoil it for people. "
i don't meet men I had to block then you can do what ever you want it was a good debate and it was only my opinion have a good day

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By *uscious_Lady1Woman over a year ago

Norwich

I'm just here to ruin it for you

I'm sorry I missed the bit in the rules that said I must leave when I stop meeting

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

#weknowwhoweare

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm just here to ruin it for you

I'm sorry I missed the bit in the rules that said I must leave when I stop meeting

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It's under the bit that says you must reply to all messages with a positive reply and face and body pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't meet and will probably never meet you #youknowwhoyouare but I never had any reason for it. But now I know that I'm spoiling it for you and other it gives me an hard on and give me the strength to keep going my quest of not meeting to spoil it for people. i don't meet men I had to block then you can do what ever you want it was a good debate and it was only my opinion have a good day "

now I know that you don't meet men, it makes me want to meet you. Your reverse psychology worked on me Stallion.

*wanking over your profile pic as I type this lovely message*

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why "

You’re not debating anything though. You've stated an opinion that you believe to be true and ignored every posters comment about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you mean they're not meeting you OP, or they're not meeting full stop?

not me just in general I'm meeting at clubs soon where all the fun is "

But you've only ever met one person and the last time was 3 months ago....are you not creeping into that category?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm just here to ruin it for you

I'm sorry I missed the bit in the rules that said I must leave when I stop meeting

Come out the blooming way im trying to put my hardon in that girl behing you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

You’re not debating anything though. You've stated an opinion that you believe to be true and ignored every posters comment about it.

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I would to if they didn't fall into a category I liked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't meet and will probably never meet you #youknowwhoyouare but I never had any reason for it. But now I know that I'm spoiling it for you and other it gives me an hard on and give me the strength to keep going my quest of not meeting to spoil it for people. i don't meet men I had to block then you can do what ever you want it was a good debate and it was only my opinion have a good day "

Where was the debate?? I havent seen you defend your view with an answer that puts another reflection on the others view

You havent once explained how less people on the site would make it better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

You’re not debating anything though. You've stated an opinion that you believe to be true and ignored every posters comment about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So the op likes a mass debate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't meet and will probably never meet you #youknowwhoyouare but I never had any reason for it. But now I know that I'm spoiling it for you and other it gives me an hard on and give me the strength to keep going my quest of not meeting to spoil it for people. i don't meet men I had to block then you can do what ever you want it was a good debate and it was only my opinion have a good day

Where was the debate?? I havent seen you defend your view with an answer that puts another reflection on the others view

You havent once explained how less people on the site would make it better

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less men would definitely make it better and the ones left if they were bald with comb overs and hairy beer bellies even better

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By *retty womanWoman over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

Maybe they don't want to meet someone being on their doorstep, with you being from a small town and all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We r some of the ones not meeting ... still dipping our toes in seeing what swinging is all about ... still plucking up the courage to meet someone ... i like the forums n we both like the chatrooms now and again , doesnt mean we wont meet eventually

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you look across from Dover you can see F and B on a clear day !

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Your logic makes no sense. If they arent meeting and shouldnt be on here, it wouldnt change the amount of people on here that are meeting if they werent on here. So why does it matter if they are here or not :/ it would actually because there would be less people on site and they would want to meet it was only my opinion and everyone in the forum is miles away so makes no odds to me there are way to many people on fab now I'm nice polite and not rude and put some effort in on profile so I do just fine thankyou "

If you're doing "just fine" why are you so concerned about people who aren't meeting?

I'm confused......

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By *retty womanWoman over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

"I'm only here to spoil it for others

Same here apparently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you look across from Dover you can see F and B on a clear day ! "
food and beverage ah that's why the French come here nouveau cuisine my arse

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Goodnitegirl spoiling fab since 2008.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Goodnitegirl spoiling fab since 2008.

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omg that's terrible

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you look across from Dover you can see F and B on a clear day ! food and beverage ah that's why the French come here nouveau cuisine my arse"

No, we come here to fuck your wives and steal your jobs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You should try living in the arse end of nowhere!

But fab is about what you want out of it and it's not going to be the same for everyone ... best just to bypass those and carry on tbh!

It's not saying it as it is, it's saying it as you see it!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

If you look across from Dover you can see F and B on a clear day ! food and beverage ah that's why the French come here nouveau cuisine my arse

No, we come here to fuck your wives and steal your jobs"

Obviously not the wives on fab though as none of them are meeting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you look across from Dover you can see F and B on a clear day ! food and beverage ah that's why the French come here nouveau cuisine my arse

No, we come here to fuck your wives and steal your jobs"

They use baguettes to woo the women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you look across from Dover you can see F and B on a clear day ! food and beverage ah that's why the French come here nouveau cuisine my arse

No, we come here to fuck your wives and steal your jobs"
barsteward ha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I right royally couldn't give a shit how other people go about their business on here, it doesn't affect me.

Years ago I chatted to a disabled guy who didn't meet. He just liked chatting to like minded people and swapping photos and fantasies. He is just as entitled to be here as anyone.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How do they spoil it?

If you know from the off you look elsewhere surely? Not seeing your problem.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"How do they spoil it? If you have 100 people who want to meet, and 10 who don't, you still have 100 open to meeting whether those 10 are on the site or not.

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How do they spoil it?

If you know from the off you look elsewhere surely? Not seeing your problem. "
he wants to meet and they don't meet its quite simple really

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

*Standing ova*

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

How? I don’t see a direct correlation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How? I don’t see a direct correlation. "
you're not looking hard enough

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How? I don’t see a direct correlation. you're not looking hard enough "

I’m not loooking at all. I wanted someone to spoon feed me the answer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How? I don’t see a direct correlation. you're not looking hard enough

I’m not loooking at all. I wanted someone to spoon feed me the answer. "
Hey you know and I know we make it up as we go along

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

Impeccable logic, I love it.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How? I don’t see a direct correlation. you're not looking hard enough

I’m not loooking at all. I wanted someone to spoon feed me the answer. Hey you know and I know we make it up as we go along "

Ok, we shall test it out. I’m not meeting. Will you get a fuck today?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How do they spoil it?

If you know from the off you look elsewhere surely? Not seeing your problem. he wants to meet and they don't meet its quite simple really "

Doh!!! Now you've pointed it out...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How? I don’t see a direct correlation. you're not looking hard enough

I’m not loooking at all. I wanted someone to spoon feed me the answer. Hey you know and I know we make it up as we go along

Ok, we shall test it out. I’m not meeting. Will you get a fuck today?"
I will nur nur nur nur nur

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

How do they spoil it?

If you know from the off you look elsewhere surely? Not seeing your problem. he wants to meet and they don't meet its quite simple really "

So it boils down to entitlement?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people put not meeting in their profiles so they are free to roam the site without being bombarded with messages

I'm sure if someone's profile appeals to them that much and they message and click they would be happy to meet, and if people are telling you once you message that they aren't meeting then it's you not them i would think, your verifications would be a warning flag to us, the same person 4 times and 3 days apart

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Oh dear. I’ve closed my profile to new meets. I didn’t realise that meeting was the only point of this site...I thought I was here for the giggles and forum sparkles, a bit of flirtation and a good debate amongst people I respect, overall. And to perve, natch.

But if it is fab law that I have to meet right now *sighs* I’d better get to it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people put not meeting in their profiles so they are free to roam the site without being bombarded with messages

"
poirot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am speaking and sharing naughty thoughts with a girl at the moment that does not want to meet. That's cool... I respect her choice... she is using the site for her own reasons and I am happy to help with that... with no add drama...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why "

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Some people put not meeting in their profiles so they are free to roam the site without being bombarded with messages

Jonathan and Jennifer Hart...is that you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people put not meeting in their profiles so they are free to roam the site without being bombarded with messages

Why on earth would that be a warning flag?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

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By *heeseandcucumberCouple over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

It was years before we met someone and that was socialy. This year we broke our duck and started to play .

So everyone to their own!

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

Some would ask why you’re on here - you’re single so not technically a swinger and it’s a swingers site - just playing devils advocate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab."

Yeah, I agree.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/"

That's how I see it too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting'

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab."

Exactly. Hardly 'hounding'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' "
was it you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

Some would ask why you’re on here - you’re single so not technically a swinger and it’s a swingers site - just playing devils advocate

Hahaha very true!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' "
did you start all this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' was it you?

That's a NO lol

He's not my type, moans too much!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' was it you?

That's a NO lol

He's not my type, moans too much! "
I thought you liked a moaner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' did you start all this? "

I meet, just fussy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' was it you?

That's a NO lol

He's not my type, moans too much! I thought you liked a moaner"

In private, yes!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' did you start all this?

I meet, just fussy!

"
omg another fussy one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab."

Over 100 posts all saying the same thing to him. He has a right to his opinion the same as anyone. Very few have replied in a positive way. Most are just taking the piss out of him, being sarcastic or putting words into his mouth that he never said.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

there is a thread for you Steelheels

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

That's the forum for you, you've been here long enough to know this is the norm!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/"

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh you're pissed off with one particular person/s, who you really liked and they've said 'not meeting' did you start all this?

I meet, just fussy!

omg another fussy one "

So sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

there is a thread for you Steelheels"

What thread?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

there is a thread for you Steelheels

What thread?"

You could start one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him. "

No, he stated an opinion based on no facts and people have provided their alternative opinions.

He could defend his opinion by explaining how it spoils the site for others?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him. "

Why are we wolves?

He has an opinion we have ours!

Moaning on the forum about other peoples freedom of choice is pointless. Can't he contain his disappointment at the lack of people in his area? Couldn't he have put it another way and asked for ideas rather than MOAN about others and what they have a right to do here! I'd love to see your advice for the poor chap, instead of giving him a busom mummy hug!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

Yep another couple who don't meet from fab. Hey ho

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

'Most' responses have NOT been sarcastic or piss taking and the fact we are all 'saying the same thing' suggests that his way of thinking is mistaken ...

... which is exactly what people are trying to politely point out to him. That his opinion doesn't make logical sense! And many respondents have tried to explain why.

The OP is of course welcome to come back and explain in more depth why he feels the way he does but he hasn't really because what he's saying just doesn't add up.

I guess we could have showered him with false sympathy and agreed that all non-meeters should be kicked off the site with immediate effect but although that might have made him feel happier for all of two minutes, it wouldn't actually alter the state of affairs he perceives - mistakenly - as placing him at a disadvantage. Far kinder that his misconceptions are pointed out to him so he might just look at the situation afresh and actually acquire greater peace of mind and enjoyment of the site from being more objective.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I oftenhave nice chats with people who do not want to meet ME.

It works the other way too. No compulsion for anyone to shag everyone.

Not everyone fancies everyone and easier to be nice and say not meeting than ‘sorry I don’t fancy you’.

Sometimes I get the odd meet. I don’t think it spoils it for others as there has to be an attraction

Most new a get cold feet and lead to nothing. That is more annoying but life does get in the way

Some lovely people on here and i love conversing. If it leads to sexy fun thats great. If not then at least I have someone to have a laugh with at a club or party meet.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

'Most' responses have NOT been sarcastic or piss taking and the fact we are all 'saying the same thing' suggests that his way of thinking is mistaken ...

... which is exactly what people are trying to politely point out to him. That his opinion doesn't make logical sense! And many respondents have tried to explain why.

The OP is of course welcome to come back and explain in more depth why he feels the way he does but he hasn't really because what he's saying just doesn't add up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I oftenhave nice chats with people who do not want to meet ME.

It works the other way too. No compulsion for anyone to shag everyone.

Not everyone fancies everyone and easier to be nice and say not meeting than ‘sorry I don’t fancy you’.

Sometimes I get the odd meet. I don’t think it spoils it for others as there has to be an attraction

Most new a get cold feet and lead to nothing. That is more annoying but life does get in the way

Some lovely people on here and i love conversing. If it leads to sexy fun thats great. If not then at least I have someone to have a laugh with at a club or party meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

'Most' responses have NOT been sarcastic or piss taking and the fact we are all 'saying the same thing' suggests that his way of thinking is mistaken ...

... which is exactly what people are trying to politely point out to him. That his opinion doesn't make logical sense! And many respondents have tried to explain why.

The OP is of course welcome to come back and explain in more depth why he feels the way he does but he hasn't really because what he's saying just doesn't add up.

If it was a popular forumite single male posting, or a woman posting, things would be different.

I do agree with what you're saying.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

As long as someone who isn't meeting is upfront about it,I don't see what the problem is.

We can all use fab how we wish,some use the forums,others the chat rooms etc. As long as they don't lead people on,let people get on with it.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

Oh Gee I am so sorry I’m spoiling it for you

or perhaps Not!

How my presence affects anything the OP does I cannot quite work out.

Get a grip man .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He just has to travel further afield for quality meets...

That's not SARCASM that's the truth! Most have had to do this, including me.....

Moan on your status, if you don't want a wolf response! Nobody reads those!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

Nobodys said anything inapropriate so he stated hos oppinion does that mean we cant regardless weather its the same as others its still our own

And a bit of sarcasm never hurt anybody he said himself he wamted it to be a debate wich means others are able to put there point accross also no harm in that at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him. "

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

This site is dead easy.

Concentrate on those who might possibly meet you... not those who won't. There is no point complaining about things beyond your control.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

there is a thread for you Steelheels

What thread?"

You could always report the post you think are “picking on him” and see if the mods agree with what you say.

He stated opinion so did many others, all of them are entitled to.

What he said in my opinion doesn’t make much sense. I can’t see how some people not wanting to meet would spoil the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

Just goes to show how people view things differently.

Nowhere can I see hounding. The op has by his own admission stated he meets at clubs but states those that don't meet via fab should be on Facebook.

People are pointing out the various ways others use fab.

It's like watching a schoolyard full of kids all turning on a boy because he said something they didn't like.

'Most' responses have NOT been sarcastic or piss taking and the fact we are all 'saying the same thing' suggests that his way of thinking is mistaken ...

... which is exactly what people are trying to politely point out to him. That his opinion doesn't make logical sense! And many respondents have tried to explain why.

The OP is of course welcome to come back and explain in more depth why he feels the way he does but he hasn't really because what he's saying just doesn't add up.

If it was a popular forumite single male posting, or a woman posting, things would be different.

I do agree with what you're saying.

I really don't think it would have made a difference *who* started a thread like this where the negative opinion expressed simply wasn't logical. In fact, I suspect a 'popular male forumite' would have probably had the piss taken out of him big style precisely because he was popular. Sure, a woman starting a 'look at me' type thread would usually get more positive responses than a guy doing the same, but in this particular instance, on this particular topic, my response to them would be a logical one no matter who had posted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."
why do we? We like to keep in touch with people we know. It's not compulsory to meet. We don't waste people's time.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

So maybe this site isn't for you. People use the site however they want to, no one is forced to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

This site is dead easy.

Concentrate on those who might possibly meet you... not those who won't. There is no point complaining about things beyond your control.

Cal"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

This site is dead easy.

Concentrate on those who might possibly meet you... not those who won't. There is no point complaining about things beyond your control.

Cal

Exactly this. "

Amen to that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet.

Why do they spoil it?

"
well said. Do we spoil it for anyone? I doubt it very much lol. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Quite simple in our case. We met on fab and fell in love neither of us were swingers in the true sense and we both found in each other what we were looking for however along the way we made friends that we like to keep in touch with and enjoyed the forums so we are back with no intention of meeting that's how we wish to use fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him. "

All most people have done is point out the truth. He hasnt debunked what people have said cos he cant. He clearly wasnt thinking with an open mind, he was thinking with his own frustration of trying to get a meet. He isnt getting a meet so it must be everyone elses fault.. a typical attitude of those who expect a shag from everyone as thats how they think. Zero respect for others choices.

You arent helping him by assisting him to blame everyone else and not his attitude. If he wants success on this site, then he needs a good attitude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So maybe this site isn't for you. People use the site however they want to, no one is forced to meet

"
I think people should be forced to meet for their own good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

You arent helping him by assisting him to blame everyone else and not his attitude. If he wants success on this site, then he needs a good attitude"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

Some people are just her for the forums or they already have people they interact with, I know a few who are just here for club stuff.

Everyone has their own reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite simple in our case. We met on fab and fell in love neither of us were swingers in the true sense and we both found in each other what we were looking for however along the way we made friends that we like to keep in touch with and enjoyed the forums so we are back with no intention of meeting that's how we wish to use fab

Oh wow good and luck all the best x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As long as someone who isn't meeting is upfront about it,I don't see what the problem is.

We can all use fab how we wish,some use the forums,others the chat rooms etc. As long as they don't lead people on,let people get on with it."

OP probably meant this but didn't explain himself properly....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see this as a filter

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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Time wasting sluts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Time wasting sluts"
this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He's gone AWOL..

Two hours missing.....

Talk amongst yourselfs!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He's gone AWOL..

Two hours missing.....

Talk amongst yourselfs! "
we were anyway...... Talk about stating the obvious he's left this site and gone to meatsRus dot com

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He's gone AWOL..

Two hours missing.....

Talk amongst yourselfs! "

Are you just spamming to close the thread?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish. "

It happens all the time. Like people goading someone to jump off a bridge. There was a young lad on here not long ago and people did that to him. Thankfully some people realised what was happening and offered him support.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are they on fab if you don't meet and have no intention of meeting they also spoil it for the ones who want to meet."

Maybe they just don’t want to meet you perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish.

Well no one is goading him. This is totally different to someone saying they want to jump off a bridge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish.

If its the guy i think u meen he came back and said it was all a joke he was pretending

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By *bonynivoryCouple over a year ago

market harborough

Talk about attack a guy, he, didn't put himself that well, but he does have a point.

Doesn't bother me but I don't understand if you just want social chat you would join fabswingers, of course the site is for meeting people and sex, the definition of swinging

It does come a roos as funny when people say why should I meet and have sex with strangers, that isn't just what this site is for,

well actually yes it is.

You can't and shouldn't be forced to but the fact is that IS what the site is for, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He's gone AWOL..

Two hours missing.....

Talk amongst yourselfs!

Are you just spamming to close the thread?"

Do I have that power?

WOW I must be someone!

..... But he's still missing at sea - I wonder if he'll have the time to read the huge thread!

I'll keep my fingers crossed!

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish.

It happens usually when someone comes on with a completely negative attitude, won't listen to what they are being told reasonably and politely - I saw the thread earlier in the week and that's exactly what happened - usual story of guy coming on with a negative attitude, unrealistic expectations and a sense of entitlement and was rightly told that he needed to change his attitude.

Same thing with this thread and despite your claims above - no-one has "hounded" or "picked at the OP" simply pointed out why his opinion is wide of the mark.

And before you say it - yes it would have panned out the same way if it were a popular person or a woman - there's absolutely no validity or logic in what the OP has said and ALL people have done is pointed that out quite reasonably.

Just because the weight of valid opinion is against someone doesn't mean they are being hounded or picked on at all - so really not sure why you feel the need to go into bat when people point that out.

Or can you come up with a possible logical argument to back up what the OP has said? Because I'm blowed if I can see one!!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

How am I spoiling it for others ....I dont meet very often as I work shifts and its not always easy to arrange .....I like a social now and again .

I dont have face book , but enjoy the banter and topics discussed on the forums .....what harm am I doing

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

I can see how it can be perceived as that but that perception is incorrect. Most posted to the OP, without reading other posts. Posting independently is not hounding. We don't all have a vote and agree we'll all post exactly the same question to the OP. Framing it as hounding is unfair, at best, and actually presents the forum as a co-ordinated bear pit at worst.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish.

Same thing with this thread and despite your claims above - no-one has "hounded" or "picked at the OP" simply pointed out why his opinion is wide of the mark.

Or can you come up with a possible logical argument to back up what the OP has said? Because I'm blowed if I can see one!!"

Why bother? Pretty much no-one gives a shit. People are treated like pieces of meat.

He made a comment about the forum being an unfriendly place so I stuck up for him. Yes people gave their opinions, that's not the issue.

Some people still have profiles 'looking for' men when they have no intention of meeting. Usually long profiles and lots of pics to entice people in, then a tiny 'not meeting' comment in the middle of the reams of text. That is wasting people's time.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Talk about attack a guy, he, didn't put himself that well, but he does have a point.

Doesn't bother me but I don't understand if you just want social chat you would join fabswingers, of course the site is for meeting people and sex, the definition of swinging

It does come a roos as funny when people say why should I meet and have sex with strangers, that isn't just what this site is for,

well actually yes it is.

You can't and shouldn't be forced to but the fact is that IS what the site is for, lol.

It's ONE of the things the site is used for - as has been pointed out several times everyone has their own reasons for being here and some of those don't include meeting and if that's what those people choose to do then what skin off our nose is it?

Why concern yourself with people who's approach to the site doesn't match yours?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

And now I see others have posted about the hounding comments so my entirely independent comment appears as hounding the person who stated we'd all hounded the OP.

Is the answer to only ever read an entire thread before posting? Deleting if you've said the same as someone else? Have a group huddle and elect a spokesperson to answer an OP?

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

This

Of course *genuine* bullying is always unacceptable and should be challenged. Simple disagreement however is NOT the same as 'hounding', bullying and so forth (and more so when the majority of posters have taken the time and trouble to explain *why* they disagree) and I actually find it quite offensive to be collectively accused of such.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Also OP, if it's a swinging site for meeting and going to clubs then why are you on the forums? That's neither meeting or going to clubs.

I'm at work and like a debate about stuff like lots do and just killing a bit of time I meet and always turn u to

Meet when I've got one planned and I very rarely go in forums and I can see why

Hello OP. They can't see how the thread has turned into some kind of hounding competition. It's really not nice when they all turn on you.

Hope you have a good day.

No ones turned on him :/ they have just pointed out the flaws in his thinking and he isnt even able to defend his view :/

He's given his opinion. What else is he supposed to say? Why should he have to 'defend' himself from the forum wolves?

They are picking at him trying to make him angry so they can all sit back and laugh at him.

That’s rubbish, absolute rubbish.

Same thing with this thread and despite your claims above - no-one has "hounded" or "picked at the OP" simply pointed out why his opinion is wide of the mark.

Or can you come up with a possible logical argument to back up what the OP has said? Because I'm blowed if I can see one!!

Why bother? Pretty much no-one gives a shit. People are treated like pieces of meat.

He made a comment about the forum being an unfriendly place so I stuck up for him. Yes people gave their opinions, that's not the issue.

None of which actually does a single thing to justify either the OPs original illogical comment which has absolutely no bearing or validity, or your comments about him being hounded, which are frankly completely wide of the mark!!

As for the forum being an unfriendly place - I think it can be incredibly friendly and supportive, and is also a great place to express and discuss opinions - but if you express and opinion that has little validity or relevance then you have to be prepared to have it shot down - especially if it is expressed negatively in the first place (which I'm not saying this one was but it WAS lacking in logic or any particular relevance)

And frankly, so what if people run their profiles a particular way? It's their profile they can run it how they like!! And your example is hardly "wasting people's time" - it takes all of 30 seconds to read most profiles and if that profile says somewhere in it that the person is not meeting then it's down to the reader to pick up on that not the writer to put it in neon lights!!

I really don't understand why people get so hung up on how others choose to use the site - if someone doesn't match what they are looking for, surely the best thing to do is move on to someone that does without a second thought?

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