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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its definetly been one of those days. Im still raging about one of those things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv only seen one of them but i thought it was a wierd joke thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Its definetly been one of those days. Im still raging about one of those things"

You arent the only one

An all time low!!

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By *verageguy123Man over a year ago

Selby

I just scroll passed anything I don’t agree with, it would be a strange world if everyone thought the same way. Leave them to it, there’s plenty worth reading on here

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I missed the first three entirely!

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s so difficult just not replying to these threads. Awful stuff

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I only saw one in which the male involved just made himself look an absolute arse, but it was enough to catch your general feeling of the day!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

So, we make like sheep?

And ignore?

So it becomes acceptable?

Or worse, buy into it?

Because we dont have the backbone to challenge it?

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By *eeBee67Man over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Unfortunately Fab has a wide cross section of people and posters, just like the real world.

However in the real world we don't see everything that's out there.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so. "

I second that sentiment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve only just come online so haven’t read many threads today, but I know what it can be like when it’s one of those days...

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I only saw one if those threads and I do believe it's a case if crossed wires.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Which threads? Or have they been removed?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a positive note , pooch and I had two simply beautiful walks

The first we saw and met the new foals for wild ponies in the hills near by

The second we witnessed a beautiful sunset

Some people will always be or mistakenly will be controversial, intentional or accidental

Best avoid them and get out and see the good stuff out there

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

"
and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

So, we make like sheep?

And ignore?

So it becomes acceptable?

Or worse, buy into it?

Because we dont have the backbone to challenge it?"

I’ve learnt to choose my battles, otherwise it becomes an exhausting and often futile struggle to challenge everything I don’t agree with.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

So, we make like sheep?

And ignore?

So it becomes acceptable?

Or worse, buy into it?

Because we dont have the backbone to challenge it?"

I've found challenging things I disagree intently with changes nothing and just frustrates me more.

I'm here to be happy, not permanently distressed at narrow minded or bigoted opinions.

Perhaps ignoring certain subjects appears to make them acceptable. I sincerely hope not.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've only seen the serial killer thread. But i dont think anyone on that thread actually condones murder.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I presumed the ‘killer’ thread was about fictional ones ... think people liking various actual murderers was a tad strange , however real life crimes fascinate people. There’s a line between the psychology and liking their crime

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written"

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

Best advice I was given, you shouldn't wrestle a swine, you'll both get covered in muck but the swine enjoys it.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

So, we make like sheep?

And ignore?

So it becomes acceptable?

Or worse, buy into it?

Because we dont have the backbone to challenge it?

I’ve learnt to choose my battles, otherwise it becomes an exhausting and often futile struggle to challenge everything I don’t agree with."

^this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a positive note , pooch and I had two simply beautiful walks

The first we saw and met the new foals for wild ponies in the hills near by

The second we witnessed a beautiful sunset

Some people will always be or mistakenly will be controversial, intentional or accidental

Best avoid them and get out and see the good stuff out there

Saw three seperate little herds of ponies and foals today on our journey. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so. "

Of course it's futile

Cunts will always be cunts

It just alarms me that so few challenge the cunty behaviour

Have we really become such a nation of spineless sheep, that we just say " Oh, I just ignore?"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

Best advice I was given, you shouldn't wrestle a swine, you'll both get covered in muck but the swine enjoys it."
i dont see why it should go unchallenged its a hell of a long while since ive been as angry as i was today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im glad I havn't been here today then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't seen any of that today m. Don't think I'll bother going looking for it either.

Why can't people just keep things fun.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so. "

But it was a thread we did like, we all had something in common, until some people just wanted to spoil what was a lovely thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

Best advice I was given, you shouldn't wrestle a swine, you'll both get covered in muck but the swine enjoys it.i dont see why it should go unchallenged its a hell of a long while since ive been as angry as i was today"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't seen any of that today m. Don't think I'll bother going looking for it either.

Why can't people just keep things fun."

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I haven't seen any of that today m. Don't think I'll bother going looking for it either.

Why can't people just keep things fun."

Exactly my view

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only saw one in which the male involved just made himself look an absolute arse, but it was enough to catch your general feeling of the day!"

Indeed and agree

Rebecca has had arse holes in my messages and meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It gets tiring and a waste of time when those who hold particular views create certain threads and try to provoke certain reactions to respond to all of them.

I’ve been on the receiving end and so have those who have been on my veri’s and friends list of a particular kind of abuse. I’ve got a thick skin anyway and nothing really affects me on here. But, if they were to see my face picture now, oh gawwwwd. They’ll have a field day

The term ‘keyboard warrior’ comes to mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

But it was a thread we did like, we all had something in common, until some people just wanted to spoil what was a lovely thread

Keyboard warriors

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

Oh blimey what have I missed :O obviously not reading the right threads.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

But it was a thread we did like, we all had something in common, until some people just wanted to spoil what was a lovely thread

Keyboard warriors "

Anyway, it was dealt with, thank goodness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

No one is saying you can’t challenge it, if you feel better for doing so then crack on.

I heeded the advice I was given a few years ago about stepping away when it becomes not enjoyable. Of course I’m still in the thick of it giving my twopence worth but I will never alllow myself to become emotionally involved like I was back then, all over a thread I found completely distasteful and upsetting.

In my opinion, it’s not worth it as nothing changes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

But it was a thread we did like, we all had something in common, until some people just wanted to spoil what was a lovely thread

Keyboard warriors

Anyway, it was dealt with, thank goodness

Have all the threads gone now?

I noticed one where a load of women were bashing a vulnerable man and it got closed.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

I shut my letterbox eye covers and missed everything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So... just another day on Fab then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

But it was a thread we did like, we all had something in common, until some people just wanted to spoil what was a lovely thread

Keyboard warriors

Anyway, it was dealt with, thank goodness

Have all the threads gone now?

I noticed one where a load of women were bashing a vulnerable man and it got closed. "

It did border on being mean, but that guy needed some perspective IMO; he needed to chill out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

No one is saying you can’t challenge it, if you feel better for doing so then crack on.

In my opinion, it’s not worth it as nothing changes."

But thats my point

That seems to be a stance that many take.

" I can do nothing, therefore I will do nothing"

And we all trot along sucking all the vileness up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

But it was a thread we did like, we all had something in common, until some people just wanted to spoil what was a lovely thread

Keyboard warriors

Anyway, it was dealt with, thank goodness

Have all the threads gone now?

I noticed one where a load of women were bashing a vulnerable man and it got closed.

It did border on being mean, but that guy needed some perspective IMO; he needed to chill out."

I agree but there's ways to help people and ways to make them feel a million times worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

No one is saying you can’t challenge it, if you feel better for doing so then crack on.

In my opinion, it’s not worth it as nothing changes.

But thats my point

That seems to be a stance that many take.

" I can do nothing, therefore I will do nothing"

And we all trot along sucking all the vileness up."

Just report it like most people do and breathe out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree but there's ways to help people and ways to make them feel a million times worse. "

Of course you're totally right, but I think shocking him out of that mindset is probably the best course of action - he seemed to have a really shitty perspective on things.

The volume of it (and tone of some)is what made it seem bullying; the message was on point though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

I agree about most but I do have a weird fascination with serial killers. It’s their mind that I’m interested in and love documentaries. Obviously I don’t agree with what they do, it’s what drives someone to do the things they do. The other topics were an eye opener and not right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv only seen one of them but i thought it was a wierd joke thread"

Which one ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written

Then it's time to step away from the computer.

We can't control what other people write or think.

Frequently expressing an alternative view or opinion turns into overly aggressive grandstanding.

No one is saying you can’t challenge it, if you feel better for doing so then crack on.

In my opinion, it’s not worth it as nothing changes.

But thats my point

That seems to be a stance that many take.

" I can do nothing, therefore I will do nothing"

And we all trot along sucking all the vileness up.

Just report it like most people do and breathe out."

Until the perpetrators come back and do it again

And we all suck it up because we have no bollocks?

I am truly ashamed of my fellow humans today.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

You should have been on the boat trip I did today, off the coast of Gran Canaria, searching for dolphins. Which we found, loads of them! It was fantastic! All the bs in here would have melted away! I’m sending happy thoughts your way

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

Of course it's futile

Cunts will always be cunts

It just alarms me that so few challenge the cunty behaviour

Have we really become such a nation of spineless sheep, that we just say " Oh, I just ignore?""

You're right, cunts will always be cunts. Trouble is, they frequently can't see their own cuntiness, they're not reasonable rational people, not inwardly facing.

Add in that one persons cuntiness is another persons perfectly reasonable behaviour, the whole thing really does become futile and frustrating.

You simply cannot change some people or their opinions.

There's enough of that type of behaviour in the real world. I come here to escape that shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree but there's ways to help people and ways to make them feel a million times worse.

Of course you're totally right, but I think shocking him out of that mindset is probably the best course of action - he seemed to have a really shitty perspective on things.

The volume of it (and tone of some)is what made it seem bullying; the message was on point though."

He opened up about how he was feeling. Anxiety issues. Yet they carried on. I very much doubt they were thinking of- or caring about- his mental health when they were attacking him.

I think their overall point was valid (yet far too brutal) but so was his.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

An eye opener?

Blatant disgusting homophobia?

Its about time Fab put an end to filth like that!!

And ejected these horrible people!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

I think this whole site is going down hill used to be so much more friendlier 7 years ago #justsaying

See you after my ban

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

Of course it's futile

Cunts will always be cunts

It just alarms me that so few challenge the cunty behaviour

Have we really become such a nation of spineless sheep, that we just say " Oh, I just ignore?"

You're right, cunts will always be cunts. Trouble is, they frequently can't see their own cuntiness, they're not reasonable rational people, not inwardly facing.

Add in that one persons cuntiness is another persons perfectly reasonable behaviour, the whole thing really does become futile and frustrating.

You simply cannot change some people or their opinions.

There's enough of that type of behaviour in the real world. I come here to escape that shit.

And guess what? You dont escape it

Because it is allowed to happen!!

Because no fucker challenges it!!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Fucks sake, I miss all the good ones. We were shit talking about dinosaurs, i think. Can't see any of the racist, homophobic, sexist threads otherwise I could have joined in and white knighted for the black lesbian.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree but there's ways to help people and ways to make them feel a million times worse.

Of course you're totally right, but I think shocking him out of that mindset is probably the best course of action - he seemed to have a really shitty perspective on things.

The volume of it (and tone of some)is what made it seem bullying; the message was on point though.

He opened up about how he was feeling. Anxiety issues. Yet they carried on. I very much doubt they were thinking of- or caring about- his mental health when they were attacking him.

I think their overall point was valid (yet far too brutal) but so was his.

He was a bit angry to be honest. I’ve been ghosted after many many dates. I think it was a little scary that his reaction was the way it was and to put it on a forum. I read it early on and walked away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Until the perpetrators come back and do it again

And we all suck it up because we have no bollocks?

I am truly ashamed of my fellow humans today."

It's not about having bollocks though, is it?

It's just a few voices on a very large landscape. They're there to amuse themselves (including agitating people). There is no reasoning with some. Report and don't get upset. It's the unfortunate nature of the internet and forums.

If you have a a stronger view email the site owners (they seem like good people), but don't let it get it you...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fucks sake, I miss all the good ones. We were shit talking about dinosaurs, i think. Can't see any of the racist, homophobic, sexist threads otherwise I could have joined in and white knighted for the black lesbian. "

You were too busy talking about Tess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fucks sake, I miss all the good ones. We were shit talking about dinosaur"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

An eye opener?

Blatant disgusting homophobia?

Its about time Fab put an end to filth like that!!

And ejected these horrible people!"

I reported the comments and people I know well got upset about it. So I was more personal than just reading it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

An eye opener?

Blatant disgusting homophobia?

Its about time Fab put an end to filth like that!!

And ejected these horrible people!

I reported the comments and people I know well got upset about it. So I was more personal than just reading it. "

*it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

An eye opener?

Blatant disgusting homophobia?

Its about time Fab put an end to filth like that!!

And ejected these horrible people!

I reported the comments and people I know well got upset about it. So I was more personal than just reading it. "

Have the threads been deleted?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

You were too busy talking about Tess

Yup, dinosaurs and a woman who hasn't smiled in 40 years. That's as serious as my day got. Fab should really have push notifications for when the forum really gets interesting, like a message that pops up "hey login, shits going down in the lounge"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Until the perpetrators come back and do it again

And we all suck it up because we have no bollocks?

I am truly ashamed of my fellow humans today.

It's not about having bollocks though, is it?

If you have a a stronger view email the site owners (they seem like good people), but don't let it get it you..."

I have emailed them

And will do so again

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Does anyone remember that time there was a thread so contraversial that it got deleted and all the threads that referenced it got deleted?

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

I get told if something bothers me I must skip over it and avoid controversy

Dont want trouble..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couldn't believe the "killer" thread when I first saw it, haven't checked it out, not really a thread for Fab I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*pulls into thread on little scooter*

Ffs

*toots my little horn*

He’ll be gone in a minute

*trys to do a wheelie to impress the ladies, but nearly comes off*

Idiot

*wheelies out of thread, into ‘Hot or Not’ one*

Okay, he’s gone now !

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

Of course it's futile

Cunts will always be cunts

It just alarms me that so few challenge the cunty behaviour

Have we really become such a nation of spineless sheep, that we just say " Oh, I just ignore?"

You're right, cunts will always be cunts. Trouble is, they frequently can't see their own cuntiness, they're not reasonable rational people, not inwardly facing.

Add in that one persons cuntiness is another persons perfectly reasonable behaviour, the whole thing really does become futile and frustrating.

You simply cannot change some people or their opinions.

There's enough of that type of behaviour in the real world. I come here to escape that shit.

And guess what? You dont escape it

Because it is allowed to happen!!

Because no fucker challenges it!!"

Answer me this, one person posts something inflammatory insulting and outright offensive.

The next 174 posters rightly rip them a new one.

Do you think anything will change?

And I know what you're saying, if we just ignore it, it'll continue.

I simply don't feel it's worth fighting every single thing that grinds my gears.

As another poster said, it's about picking your battles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You were too busy talking about Tess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

An eye opener?

Blatant disgusting homophobia?

Its about time Fab put an end to filth like that!!

And ejected these horrible people!

I reported the comments and people I know well got upset about it. So I was more personal than just reading it.

Have the threads been deleted?"

I think so. Probably got lots of complaints.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

This thread is getting as annoying as the BBC when it reports "x celebrity is in hot water for making an offensive joke in a tweet" and they never tell you what the fucking tweet said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

Not sure what I missed. Was busy realising the person I was meeting tomorrow blew me out.

On a lighter note I am going out at 12oam this morning to try and give our animals mainly sheep a voice. Sadly they will be transported live through our port in Ramsgate. Yes live to be slaughtered but I and others will protest x

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Until the perpetrators come back and do it again

And we all suck it up because we have no bollocks?

I am truly ashamed of my fellow humans today.

It's not about having bollocks though, is it?

If you have a a stronger view email the site owners (they seem like good people), but don't let it get it you..."

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By *elloIntrigueMan over a year ago

North West UK

There have been some weird thread titles posted today. I tend to scroll past lots in truth and can usually be found on singleton, film or music threads in the main.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I can see both sides here to be honest - just accepting and ignoring isn't the way to go otherwise it lets people say what they want regardless of how vile they are - sometimes you have to take a stance and challenge opinions that fly against your own, or information you think is misleading.

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

That said - there are times that you can only take it so far before realising that you may as well bang your head against a brick wall rather than carry on trying to show someone just how wrong they are in what they are saying. It's times like those, which sadly are becoming all the more frequent on here where you sometimes just need to walk away and resort to the report button and deal with it that way.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

You were too busy talking about Tess

I wish that did happen ..

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By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I've missed them all... But on the positive side Seesides got a date!

Ignore the nonsense, or report it if it breaks site rules, concentrate on the good stuff

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I can see both sides here to be honest - just accepting and ignoring isn't the way to go otherwise it lets people say what they want regardless of how vile they are - sometimes you have to take a stance and challenge opinions that fly against your own, or information you think is misleading.

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Wise words.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've missed them all... But on the positive side Seesides got a date!

Ignore the nonsense, or report it if it breaks site rules, concentrate on the good stuff"

That’s amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?"

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously? "

I'll remind you that you said that when they come back and spout their filth again

And no one challenges them

Because they will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously?

I'll remind you that you said that when they come back and spout their filth again

And no one challenges them

Because they will"

I don't think they particularly listen to people shouting back or creating threads about them, is all I'm saying.

If you think this is bad you should try out the rest of the internet which isn't moderated.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?"

Even within this thread you seem to be getting more and more irate.

See how easy it is to get sucked in, angry and frustrated. And yet nothings changing.....

I'm not having a dig or belittling your efforts. It's laudible that you're so passionate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It sounds like far too many days on fab recently.

For a site that's supposed to be liberal about choice personal freedom and mutual pleasure so often the pleasure appears to be in bullying goading and going out of the way to hurt others.

Never quite been my idea of what this lifestyle is about.

But I've learned from past holidays it's often those who stand up to the bullying tendency who get the trips to the naughty step.

It's a question I have asked before...

Where is the

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?"

That's not what I'm saying at all Sappster and you know I'm all for challenging bad and vile behaviour whether that be on the forums or elsewhere in life - per my opening paragraph.

In fact I'll often do so on here till I'm blue in the face - and way beyond what most people will.

All I'm saying is that sometimes you have to choose your weapons and if one doesn't work e.g. challenging directly - choose a different one e.g. reporting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It sounds like far too many days on fab recently.

For a site that's supposed to be liberal about choice personal freedom and mutual pleasure so often the pleasure appears to be in bullying goading and going out of the way to hurt others.

Never quite been my idea of what this lifestyle is about.

But I've learned from past holidays it's often those who stand up to the bullying tendency who get the trips to the naughty step.

It's a question I have asked before...

Where is the

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I've been avoiding lots of threads. The sexism, racism and homophobia drive me into hiding too often as it is.

I think avoiding threads you don't like is the best strategy.

It's often a futile gesture trying to get people to see reason or logic.

I've logged on a lot less in the last week or so.

Of course it's futile

Cunts will always be cunts

It just alarms me that so few challenge the cunty behaviour

Have we really become such a nation of spineless sheep, that we just say " Oh, I just ignore?"

You're right, cunts will always be cunts. Trouble is, they frequently can't see their own cuntiness, they're not reasonable rational people, not inwardly facing.

Add in that one persons cuntiness is another persons perfectly reasonable behaviour, the whole thing really does become futile and frustrating.

You simply cannot change some people or their opinions.

There's enough of that type of behaviour in the real world. I come here to escape that shit.

And guess what? You dont escape it

Because it is allowed to happen!!

Because no fucker challenges it!!

Answer me this, one person posts something inflammatory insulting and outright offensive.

The next 174 posters rightly rip them a new one.

Do you think anything will change?

And I know what you're saying, if we just ignore it, it'll continue.

I simply don't feel it's worth fighting every single thing that grinds my gears.

As another poster said, it's about picking your battles.

Yep, as some people used to call it; throwing a hand grenade.

Some people enjoy making comments that will agitate others. Arguing with them or deriding those views only serve to make them do it again. There’s the saying ‘don’t feed the trolls,’

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

When some things touch a nerve with us, as one thread did with me, we are going to be passionate about standing up to those who have been so hurtful to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

Even within this thread you seem to be getting more and more irate.

See how easy it is to get sucked in, angry and frustrated. And yet nothings changing.....

I'm not having a dig or belittling your efforts. It's laudible that you're so passionate.

It makes no odds to me if you ARE having a dig

Im a big girl

I can take it

I remain utterly disgusted at what Ive seen on Fab today.

And the general levels of complacency

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

That's not what I'm saying at all Sappster and you know I'm all for challenging bad and vile behaviour whether that be on the forums or elsewhere in life - per my opening paragraph.

In fact I'll often do so on here till I'm blue in the face - and way beyond what most people will.

All I'm saying is that sometimes you have to choose your weapons and if one doesn't work e.g. challenging directly - choose a different one e.g. reporting "

I have reported it to admin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

Havnt you got some dishes to do or something?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

Even within this thread you seem to be getting more and more irate.

See how easy it is to get sucked in, angry and frustrated. And yet nothings changing.....

I'm not having a dig or belittling your efforts. It's laudible that you're so passionate.

It makes no odds to me if you ARE having a dig

Im a big girl

I can take it

I remain utterly disgusted at what Ive seen on Fab today.

And the general levels of complacency"

Complacency, in what way ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

That's not what I'm saying at all Sappster and you know I'm all for challenging bad and vile behaviour whether that be on the forums or elsewhere in life - per my opening paragraph.

In fact I'll often do so on here till I'm blue in the face - and way beyond what most people will.

All I'm saying is that sometimes you have to choose your weapons and if one doesn't work e.g. challenging directly - choose a different one e.g. reporting "

I wasnt having a go at you Mr Gemini

You know I have massive respect for your restraint ( see what I did there?)

I was just speaking in general terms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve spoken up before and it didn’t end well for me. They didn’t stop and think “gosh she has a point i’ll stop being a arse” they carried on regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I’ve spoken up before and it didn’t end well for me. They didn’t stop and think “gosh she has a point i’ll stop being a arse” they carried on regardless.

They will always be arses, unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is what happens when the country we live in becomes covered in snowflakes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is what happens when the country we live in becomes covered in snowflakes. "

Aint that the fucking truth!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted

I don't think it's compulsory to read or post on threads you don't like.

and what about when you open threads you do like and see shit written"

THIS!! its all very well saying its not compulsory but its a veritable minefield on here some days

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is what happens when the country we live in becomes covered in snowflakes. "

That... is a double edged sword.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so."

And that was very much my point.

I cannot get my head around why SO many people on here entertain these objectionable people.

Why no one says " actually, this is not acceptable. We wont be party to this"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so.

And that was very much my point.

I cannot get my head around why SO many people on here entertain these objectionable people.

Why no one says " actually, this is not acceptable. We wont be party to this"

It can only be stopped by moderation. It's unrealistic to think people won't bite (this thread of example).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

Bradford..... my apologies

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so.

And that was very much my point.

I cannot get my head around why SO many people on here entertain these objectionable people.

Why no one says " actually, this is not acceptable. We wont be party to this"

You know I agree with you Sappy.

But for every one person who stands up alone and does that they become a target.

It's not the saying it that's important. It's our actions.

If all those on the forums and there are many feel strongly enough to starve the haters of oxygen by just refusing to interact with the haters the trolls the spite filled threads then such threads will rapidly die.

We are the forum. We are strong when we stand together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sappy for pm

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Sappy for pm

She has my vote!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so.

And that was very much my point.

I cannot get my head around why SO many people on here entertain these objectionable people.

Why no one says " actually, this is not acceptable. We wont be party to this"

It can only be stopped by moderation. It's unrealistic to think people won't bite (this thread of example)."

Yet even on this thread Lib there are more who share the same feelings about the forums than there are those who just want to be destructive.

Many won't agree with me. That's their choice. But if enough of us stand together that's always how change comes.

Think I need to go lie down in a quiet corner of my cave.

I'm not used to having my head this far above the parapet

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

The dinosaur thread is alive and well for people who need something light hearted...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The dinosaur thread is alive and well for people who need something light hearted... "

Fuck me, yes please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so.

And that was very much my point.

I cannot get my head around why SO many people on here entertain these objectionable people.

Why no one says " actually, this is not acceptable. We wont be party to this"

You know I agree with you Sappy.

But for every one person who stands up alone and does that they become a target.

It's not the saying it that's important. It's our actions.

We are the forum. We are strong when we stand together."

I agree with you on this whole heartedly. I do think that so many of the objectionable comments and threads are meant to agitate and to cause furore. If we react passively or ignore them then we starve them of the attention they crave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" Gravity keeps my head down.

Or is it maybe shame?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another way...

Those who act like trolls those who abuse others those who post hate...

If we all refuse to bite. If we all refuse to interact in their games. If we all refuse to be party to the hate the route the hurt the bullying...

If they lose their audience.... then eventually it will change.

I have come close to unlos many times recently. I will not be driven off this site by haters.

It's our forum we can change it if we share the will to do so.

And that was very much my point.

I cannot get my head around why SO many people on here entertain these objectionable people.

Why no one says " actually, this is not acceptable. We wont be party to this"

You know I agree with you Sappy.

But for every one person who stands up alone and does that they become a target.

It's not the saying it that's important. It's our actions.

We are the forum. We are strong when we stand together.

Great intentions. Never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fucks sake, I miss all the good ones. We were shit talking about dinosaurs, i think."

Hey! The dinosaurs had it coming to em. Literally

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously?

I'll remind you that you said that when they come back and spout their filth again

And no one challenges them

Because they will"

Of course they will , and making threads condemning them just gives them more reason to .

You say we are complacent , but maybe we are ignoring them in the hope that they will become bored of it .

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Lately there's been a slurry of misogyny, racism and homophobia on here. I would name the cretins but I'd end up on the naughty step and we all know who they are.

These micro aggressions masked as 'banter' are starting to grate and more interesting forumites are posting less. Doesn't feel very inclusive at the moment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never fight fire with fire its ammunition

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all know who the dickheads are here, and their followers.

They just don't get it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"" Gravity keeps my head down.

Or is it maybe shame?""

Shame for what? If you didn't say anything it wouldn't be discussed. Is silence the same as acceptance?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lately there's been a slurry of misogyny, racism and homophobia on here. I would name the cretins but I'd end up on the naughty step and we all know who they are.

These micro aggressions masked as 'banter' are starting to grate and more interesting forumites are posting less. Doesn't feel very inclusive at the moment

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously?

I'll remind you that you said that when they come back and spout their filth again

And no one challenges them

Because they will"

And I go back to my earlier reply to you, I do challenge people and so do others, that can take the form of calling them out on the forums or by contacting Admin & reporting them. Just because you might not see this don’t think it doesn’t happen, we don’t all need to shout the loudest to be heard.

Lib has made a lot of sense on this thread, this site is modified but people can “recreate” themselves very quickly I think we’ve possibly seen the same shite / trolls over the years...

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I wouldn't join a thread started by these people, but when they spoil other threads, others have started, that annoys me. What do we do...stop posting on our own threads?...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lately there's been a slurry of misogyny, racism and homophobia on here. I would name the cretins but I'd end up on the naughty step and we all know who they are.

These micro aggressions masked as 'banter' are starting to grate and more interesting forumites are posting less. Doesn't feel very inclusive at the moment

This."

Depending where you ‘sit’ amongst the forum & who you gravitate towards posting wise there will always be a period of time where it doesn’t feel inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't join a thread started by these people, but when they spoil other threads, others have started, that annoys me. What do we do...stop posting on our own threads?..."

I don’t know who you are talking about whether it’s specific posters or not.

The mods can get the threads back on track the other way is to not bite and self moderate to a degree by steering the thread back on track with a post reminder of what the discussion is about.

Where do you draw the line though, some of it is subjective. The others day a thread was hijacked by two people having banter, it was suggested they get a room but they still carried on - I couldn’t be arsed to scroll through and carry on reading, for others it could have been “entertaining” they weren’t being rude just boring to read..

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I wouldn't join a thread started by these people, but when they spoil other threads, others have started, that annoys me. What do we do...stop posting on our own threads?...

I don’t know who you are talking about whether it’s specific posters or not.

The mods can get the threads back on track the other way is to not bite and self moderate to a degree by steering the thread back on track with a post reminder of what the discussion is about.

They were specific posters yesterday, who spoilt a very good and informative thread and upset a lot of us with their posts. Thanks to the mods the posts were removed, so we could eventually get on with the thread. Attention seeking will always be rife on here, but getting it by disgusting comments, is not the way to go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lately there's been a slurry of misogyny, racism and homophobia on here. I would name the cretins but I'd end up on the naughty step and we all know who they are.

These micro aggressions masked as 'banter' are starting to grate and more interesting forumites are posting less. Doesn't feel very inclusive at the moment

This.

So much this.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously?

I'll remind you that you said that when they come back and spout their filth again

And no one challenges them

Because they will

Of course they will , and making threads condemning them just gives them more reason to .

You say we are complacent , but maybe we are ignoring them in the hope that they will become bored of it .

I do wonder if a thread that condemns the tone and subject of another thread simply gives it oxygen it wouldn't otherwise have.

How many times have we totally missed contentious threads and only become aware of them due to a condemnation thread?

Someone starts a thread bemoaning other distasteful threads. How many people reply "I've not seen that......."

Deprive a fire of oxygen and it goes out.

I heartily agree with reporting threads on certain topics. However if the thread doesn't break any rules it stays open.

Just because we find a thread topic distasteful doesn't mean it must be closed...... Just means ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't join a thread started by these people, but when they spoil other threads, others have started, that annoys me. What do we do...stop posting on our own threads?...

I don’t know who you are talking about whether it’s specific posters or not.

The mods can get the threads back on track the other way is to not bite and self moderate to a degree by steering the thread back on track with a post reminder of what the discussion is about.

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

That is after all what an open forum is for - to discuss, challenge and voice opinion.

Why? Why are these times becoming more frequent?

Because we accept the vileness.

Even feed it sometimes.

Because we can do nothing?

Lucky the anti slavery campaigners didnt say that, aint it?

I completely understand and respect what you're saying, but do you not think you're taking a few idiots/trolls too seriously?

I'll remind you that you said that when they come back and spout their filth again

And no one challenges them

Because they will

Of course they will , and making threads condemning them just gives them more reason to .

You say we are complacent , but maybe we are ignoring them in the hope that they will become bored of it .

I do wonder if a thread that condemns the tone and subject of another thread simply gives it oxygen it wouldn't otherwise have.

How many times have we totally missed contentious threads and only become aware of them due to a condemnation thread?

Someone starts a thread bemoaning other distasteful threads. How many people reply "I've not seen that......."

Deprive a fire of oxygen and it goes out.

I heartily agree with reporting threads on certain topics. However if the thread doesn't break any rules it stays open.

Just because we find a thread topic distasteful doesn't mean it must be closed...... Just means ignore it."

A lot of times these threads. The contentious ones are started to drag people into an argument or slagging match while those who are passionate about some of the content become very angry. Threads about religion. Animal cruelty etc are going to rise a lot of people and it’s those the incite and fuel the fire who should be removed and not those who defend it Yes it’s a public forum but had no one got balls these days to stand up to the arseholes who continuously incite others to rage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Virtual hugs xox

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Virtual hugs xox "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Virtual hugs xox "

I want a real one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Virtual hugs xox

I want a real one"

I only give those if my cock gets involved

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A friend of mine has been offered a holiday she can't refuse.

So she's sat on the step in her garden watching the world go by and counting butterflies. She can be a bit "sappy" at times, but she stands up for kids and animals and the weak and those who being mistreated by others. I sent her a postcard. Maybe you might like to do the same.

I'll miss her and her sanity humanity and the fact she stands up and says what so many on this thread seem to agree with about how the forums have been recently such a place of "banter". The sort of banter that causes hurt pain strife and all the negativity that pervades the forum in recent times...

I for one hope it changes soon. Maybe then we will see more fun on the forums again and fewer people leaving.

Where is the

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t really think too much into it at all,just take it with a pinch of salt and it is what it is.I find some pictures more amusing these days and have a laugh at them in a nice way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Virtual hugs xox

I want a real one

I only give those if my cock gets involved"

If your cock can give hugs I'm very interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Virtual hugs xox

I want a real one

I only give those if my cock gets involved

If your cock can give hugs I'm very interested"

My cock gives pleasure before all

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

"A friend of mine has been offered a holiday she can't refuse.

I for one hope it changes soon. Maybe then we will see more fun on the forums again and fewer people leaving.

Where is the

Banned !?!!

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I missed the first three entirely!

Me also

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"A friend of mine has been offered a holiday she can't refuse.

I for one hope it changes soon. Maybe then we will see more fun on the forums again and fewer people leaving.

Where is the

Done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What did I miss?

I'm guessing it's just a reaction to the usual freaks and weirdos this site attracts. I've been on here off and on for several years and find the forums today to be quite polite and uneventful compared to how they were before they separated politics off

Yes there are some wallies on here, some vindictive judgemental people with agendas, and some egos... and some of them are even on this thread bemoaning everything. But that's just what you get with a public forum. The key thing is to learn tolerance of others who aren't like you and, if they're pissing you off, how to walk away, and if they're trolling you... when to draw the line and threaten to report them.

As for people who act complete arses and are deliberately aggressive and abusive in order to try and be funny or whatever... I could name one such character who is thankfully no longer on here who was exactly this but I'd be lambasted because everyone, for some reason I never got, thought the sun shined out of his arse. Thankfully I don't see that kind of extreme "I'm going to be a total aggressive dick and then my girlie fan base will run to defend me" happening so much these days on here. People get called out more when they are being a dick or they get ignored. So imo it's not as bad as it was

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By *adame BWoman over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

I haven't been on the lounge for a long time for this very reason. I used to pop over here for the interesting topics but was getting too riled up by intentionally controversial comments designed to ignite an argument. It was ruining my enjoyment of the site so I avoided it but I do miss the genuinely interesting threads.

It's like the day I realised my bio was full of negativity in order to deter people who didn't read it anyway and was now saying something about me as it was my bio but was full of negatives about people's behaviour on here.

How do you retain your humanity in good conscience without letting the intentional destroyers influence you? We are feeding into their behaviour as the majority are intentionally posting vile stuff to rile people up so this isn't a case of ignorance I believe.

Really valid points here reading through this thread but what did jump out at me was the sentence

Where is the

and maybe if instead of ignoring vile threads everyone posted this sentence on repeat just maybe the message will get through. Not to the vile rilers but to the others tempted to drawn into a reactive argument for the rilers amusement.

None of us are here to argue daily and it's exhausting as all it takes is one person to change the tone for the majority so let the majority respond with

Where is the

P.s. I Caught an amazing sunset over the bay here last night

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted"
In a way I'm glad I didn't see the 2 twats joking about animal cruelty ( even though I have a fair guess as to who one of them might be ) . And ffs don't tell me what thread it was in , I don't want to see it !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't been on the lounge for a long time for this very reason. I used to pop over here for the interesting topics but was getting too riled up by intentionally controversial comments designed to ignite an argument. It was ruining my enjoyment of the site so I avoided it but I do miss the genuinely interesting threads.

Really valid points here reading through this thread but what did jump out at me was the sentence

Where is the

None of us are here to argue daily and it's exhausting as all it takes is one person to change the tone for the majority so let the majority respond with

Where is the

P.s. I Caught an amazing sunset over the bay here last night

Can't beat the peace of an empty beach golden surf and endless skies and just watching listening and remembering that the world is a beautiful place.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are several contentious threads around today - the type I'd normally be in the thick of, voicing opinion, countering others and challenging views I disagree with - but I really can't be arsed with it - I'll be back to fight another day, but for now it's fun and light-heartedness I'm after.

The threads the OP is referring to are vile, aren't necessary, and yes a lot of the time are deliberately contentious and designed to provoke and be controversial and they should be rightly condemned and challenged but sometimes you need to take a step back and a deep breath and relax.

And today is one of those days

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

But today, I am disgusted In a way I'm glad I didn't see the 2 twats joking about animal cruelty ( even though I have a fair guess as to who one of them might be ) . And ffs don't tell me what thread it was in , I don't want to see it !!"

The posts were deleted so there's no chance of you stumbling across it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv only seen one of them but i thought it was a wierd joke thread"
I thought the serial killer one was about fictional ones.I know my reply was.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oohhh, I'm glad I had a forum ban, for defending breastfeeding in public

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oohhh, I'm glad I had a forum ban, for defending breastfeeding in public

You might get another for saying that

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By *adame BWoman over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Really valid points here reading through this thread but what did jump out at me was the sentence

Where is the

None of us are here to argue daily and it's exhausting as all it takes is one person to change the tone for the majority so let the majority respond with

Where is the

P.s. I Caught an amazing sunset over the bay here last night

Can't beat the peace of an empty beach golden surf and endless skies and just watching listening and remembering that the world is a beautiful place."

I was lucky enough to be out on the strand one night recently and the phosphoressence was up. Such a magical beautiful experience...every step lit up and sparkling, mother nature putting on a spectacular display.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

The posts were deleted so there's no chance of you stumbling across it

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Since the Politics forum has been created I thought it got a little better in the Lounge.

It’s always up and down certainly no worse or better.

I wouldn’t want to be a Moderator that’s for sure.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"I've missed them all... But on the positive side Seesides got a date!

Ignore the nonsense, or report it if it breaks site rules, concentrate on the good stuff"

WHAAAAAAT?! This is what I missed yesterday! I caught all the other crap but honestly, I don’t let myself get worked up anymore. I hold views that others take issue with and others hold views I take issue with. It’s a level of dickishness that is inherent to the internet. Plus, I genuinely think one of them hates me anyway, just for being me, so I couldn’t care less what he thinks.

Meanwhile, I need to go say congratcholayshuns to seeside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The posts were deleted so there's no chance of you stumbling across it

Ahhh that makes sense of everything. I wondered what the op was on about. Certainly, if there's genuinely abusive and vile stuff going on I'm behind the op entirely. Delete it and ban the perpetrators if they carry on

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

Free the Sappy 1 and Lilly 1 I say lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oohhh, I'm glad I had a forum ban, for defending breastfeeding in public

You might get another for saying that

Ah well... If the forum has been as bad as the OP has pointed out, then it might be a good idea to get it done now

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"A friend of mine has been offered a holiday she can't refuse.

I for one hope it changes soon. Maybe then we will see more fun on the forums again and fewer people leaving.

Where is the

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Glad I missed them... nothing as weird and cruel as people.

Not to mention blinkered and stupid

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have witnessed blatant sexism, racism and homophobia.

A discussion about people's favourite serial killer

Oh, and two people who thought it ' funny' to joke about animal cruelty.

I am not easily offended. I havent led a sheltered life.

Thanks to the mods you won't see the post, well done them!

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"There are several contentious threads around today - the type I'd normally be in the thick of, voicing opinion, countering others and challenging views I disagree with - but I really can't be arsed with it - I'll be back to fight another day, but for now it's fun and light-heartedness I'm after.

And today is one of those days

I love interesting debates and will respect others opinions, let's bring them back!

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe one day when these threads start they will be removed before they incite too much abuse and violence.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is just a further example of the gradual but sadly incessant eroding of what is acceptable behaviour in public which can now mean on Social Media, Basefook, Twatter and apparently now on Fabs.

All this wonderful technology we now enjoy sadly seems to have brought most things down to the lowest common denominator

With many posters on this Thread apparently offended does this indicate Moderators need to up their game?

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

"This is just a further example of the gradual but sadly incessant eroding of what is acceptable behaviour in public which can now mean on Social Media, Basefook, Twatter and apparently now on Fabs.

All this wonderful technology we now enjoy sadly seems to have brought most things down to the lowest common denominator

With many posters on this Thread apparently offended does this indicate Moderators need to up their game? "

Exactly as the OP was saying

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"This is just a further example of the gradual but sadly incessant eroding of what is acceptable behaviour in public which can now mean on Social Media, Basefook, Twatter and apparently now on Fabs.

All this wonderful technology we now enjoy sadly seems to have brought most things down to the lowest common denominator

With many posters on this Thread apparently offended does this indicate Moderators need to up their game? "

I don't envy the Mods their job at all - they're volunteers who give their time freely and willingly for the benefit of the site, and they can't be expected to be all over every thread and provide a 24/7 presence, so I do think an element of self-policing is necessary and that some people really should think before posting some of their comments, or dropping "hand grenade" threads which they know will be contentious, only to run away and come back to them later and decide which side to take (which is a common tactic for some).

I do think it's right to stand up and challenge vile or abusive behaviour, or stand up for what we believe in rather than just accept it because "it's the internet what do you expect" - just sometimes that doesn't work and you have to look for an alternate route which in this case would be reporting the thread/post.

I do think there needs to be a level of consistency all round though, some users appear to be able to post what they want and get away with it, while others are censured for far less - but that's not a criticism as such, more an observation caveated by what I started off by saying about the role of a mod not being an enviable one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do think it's right to stand up and challenge vile or abusive behaviour, or stand up for what we believe in rather than just accept it because "it's the internet what do you expect""

You touch on another phenomena that has now become a way of life and that is to stand and film violence, accidents, disasters etc rather than step in and help the victims.

last year I saw a bloke hitting a woman so I stepped in and challenged him. He took a swing, ended up on his arse and left. The woman was in a bad way so I called the ambulance and police. It was then I noticed small crowd of about 20 people had gathered. 17 were filming having done nothing to help

I just looked at them and shouted 'What the F**K?'

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"This is just a further example of the gradual but sadly incessant eroding of what is acceptable behaviour in public which can now mean on Social Media, Basefook, Twatter and apparently now on Fabs.

All this wonderful technology we now enjoy sadly seems to have brought most things down to the lowest common denominator

With many posters on this Thread apparently offended does this indicate Moderators need to up their game?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is just a further example of the gradual but sadly incessant eroding of what is acceptable behaviour in public which can now mean on Social Media, Basefook, Twatter and apparently now on Fabs.

All this wonderful technology we now enjoy sadly seems to have brought most things down to the lowest common denominator

With many posters on this Thread apparently offended does this indicate Moderators need to up their game?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe one day when these threads start they will be removed before they incite too much abuse and violence. "

Is it the fault of the OP or the people giving abuse and threats of violence?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Free the Sappy 1 and Lilly 1 I say lol"

Gets my vote

Where is the

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Evil things happen when good people stand by and say nothing.

Who said that ?

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