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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x  |
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Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles |
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"Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles "
Good advice here.
You'd think people had better things to do with their time 
Good luck Ange. X |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles "
Definitely good advice there - maybe add to your filters that both new users and the unverified can't message you, and even those without pics.
Sorry to hear it though Angie - the levels some people will stoop to!! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles "
I can't add much to this good advice
Sorry he's been such a shit to you, just be vigilant .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles
Definitely good advice there - maybe add to your filters that both new users and the unverified can't message you, and even those without pics.
Sorry to hear it though Angie - the levels some people will stoop to!!"
I’d got those filters on, they’d done all that so got through. Mr doesn’t use this account and I’m normally very careful. He’s getting sneakier x |
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You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum. |
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"Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles
Definitely good advice there - maybe add to your filters that both new users and the unverified can't message you, and even those without pics.
Sorry to hear it though Angie - the levels some people will stoop to!!
I’d got those filters on, they’d done all that so got through. Mr doesn’t use this account and I’m normally very careful. He’s getting sneakier x "
Also change the way you write your profile, don't put any names in it, and I would keep your photos hidden for a while too, it's the most obvious things that they look for when looking for your profile. Also when your offline, hide your profile. All methods I've used in the past when I've had problems with a stalker or two |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum. "
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe just put on your profile, due to sad stalker I'll need to verify on cam before any in depth chats. Even if it's just for a while it might deter his attempts."
I will have a think on that x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get Mr to screen messages, insist on face pics before replying to any messages from new contacts. Only chat with those who are verified. Change your username, profile pic to something completely new, maybe change your area for awhile so not as easy to be found. Be wary of all fairly new couples profiles
Definitely good advice there - maybe add to your filters that both new users and the unverified can't message you, and even those without pics.
Sorry to hear it though Angie - the levels some people will stoop to!!
I’d got those filters on, they’d done all that so got through. Mr doesn’t use this account and I’m normally very careful. He’s getting sneakier x
Also change the way you write your profile, don't put any names in it, and I would keep your photos hidden for a while too, it's the most obvious things that they look for when looking for your profile. Also when your offline, hide your profile. All methods I've used in the past when I've had problems with a stalker or two"
I will, going to take me some time to go through it all. Plus I might go back to the police again see if he can be given another warning x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum.
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x "
Because he doesn't want you to be happy.
I don't have any advice, but big hugs. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x "
Personally I wouldn’t let him see that it bothers you. He’ll soon get bored if he thinks his antics are having no effect on you. At the end of the day if you’re now with another man who cares what your ex is getting up to. Leave him to it and hope a tree falls on his head whilst out dogging in the woods. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is harassment.
Report him to the police.
Of course you have no solid proof it’s him but you can screenshot the messages where he talks about having sex in your bed or whatever and give them to the police.
I had to do similar for an ex who kept contacting me on fake Instagram accounts and everytime I blocked them he made a new one. After reporting him and giving all his details an officer went round his house and gave him a warning.
Other than that I’d change your username and verify everyone via cam, or block all couples and singles if you haven’t already and contact them yourself.
He’s obviously hurt that you’ve moved on happily and he is still unhappy & bitter.
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x "
If he's bi I can wind him up Angie xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum.
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x
Because he doesn't want you to be happy.
I don't have any advice, but big hugs. Xx"
He’s lost control of me , thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x
Personally I wouldn’t let him see that it bothers you. He’ll soon get bored if he thinks his antics are having no effect on you. At the end of the day if you’re now with another man who cares what your ex is getting up to. Leave him to it and hope a tree falls on his head whilst out dogging in the woods. "
I suffered 22 years of his antics, it’s hard not to go back to those feelings when I get reminded by things like that x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is harassment.
Report him to the police.
Of course you have no solid proof it’s him but you can screenshot the messages where he talks about having sex in your bed or whatever and give them to the police.
I had to do similar for an ex who kept contacting me on fake Instagram accounts and everytime I blocked them he made a new one. After reporting him and giving all his details an officer went round his house and gave him a warning.
Other than that I’d change your username and verify everyone via cam, or block all couples and singles if you haven’t already and contact them yourself.
He’s obviously hurt that you’ve moved on happily and he is still unhappy & bitter.
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Unfortunately before I could get a screenshot Fab had deleted it. I normally just block him but he’d made a fake profile of a couple who fit our filters. I’m going to have to be more wary again x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x If he's bi I can wind him up Angie xx"
He’s gone unlos, and do not worth it slim but thank you x |
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"This is harassment.
Report him to the police.
Of course you have no solid proof it’s him but you can screenshot the messages where he talks about having sex in your bed or whatever and give them to the police.
I had to do similar for an ex who kept contacting me on fake Instagram accounts and everytime I blocked them he made a new one. After reporting him and giving all his details an officer went round his house and gave him a warning.
Other than that I’d change your username and verify everyone via cam, or block all couples and singles if you haven’t already and contact them yourself.
He’s obviously hurt that you’ve moved on happily and he is still unhappy & bitter.
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A complex area of Law this, but you may consider getting legal advice because not only is he potentially committing several crimes (punishable by imprisonment) but its something which may fall under the Domestic Violence umbrella for which you could get an injunction against him. With an injunction , the Police are able to work better with you to enforce punishments for these crimes (& stop him).
Having said that...its very expensive getting legal advice theses days...You could talk to someone like Women's Aid for free who can help you partially through the process.
I hope you can get it sorted
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Toxic harassment try putting your profile in private and you or Mr do the searching etc and if he carries on screen shot everything and keep a diary of any stalking. Enough evidence to take to the police x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is harassment.
Report him to the police.
Of course you have no solid proof it’s him but you can screenshot the messages where he talks about having sex in your bed or whatever and give them to the police.
I had to do similar for an ex who kept contacting me on fake Instagram accounts and everytime I blocked them he made a new one. After reporting him and giving all his details an officer went round his house and gave him a warning.
Other than that I’d change your username and verify everyone via cam, or block all couples and singles if you haven’t already and contact them yourself.
He’s obviously hurt that you’ve moved on happily and he is still unhappy & bitter.
A complex area of Law this, but you may consider getting legal advice because not only is he potentially committing several crimes (punishable by imprisonment) but its something which may fall under the Domestic Violence umbrella for which you could get an injunction against him. With an injunction , the Police are able to work better with you to enforce punishments for these crimes (& stop him).
Having said that...its very expensive getting legal advice theses days...You could talk to someone like Women's Aid for free who can help you partially through the process.
I hope you can get it sorted
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Thank you, yes it looks as though I’m going to have to get legal advice again. He’s already on a warning but seems to be ignoring it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Toxic harassment try putting your profile in private and you or Mr do the searching etc and if he carries on screen shot everything and keep a diary of any stalking. Enough evidence to take to the police x"
I will do thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum.
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x "
I wouldn't rely on him not looking at the forums to find you if he loses your trail. I've often been trolled and the reaction is what he wants. The more your bothered by or the more you react to him. He'll love it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum.
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x
I wouldn't rely on him not looking at the forums to find you if he loses your trail. I've often been trolled and the reaction is what he wants. The more your bothered by or the more you react to him. He'll love it. "
He’s not that intelligent go do that. But yes he just wants the reaction x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum.
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x "
It's all about control unfortunately. When you can laugh at him and show it doesn't hurt he will leave you alone. Hard to get through though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You've already been given good advice.
I'd add .... Don't show pics and veri's.
You can show those to interested parties AFTER you have had a pic from them and a quick phone chat.
I really do feel for you.
It is possible to avoid him tho. Let's hope he doesn't join the forum.
I’ll hide my veris and will only talk to people that have been on for a few months now. Shame as we’ve met some lovely newbies. Oh he wouldn’t join the forums thankfully. He just stalks me, if he’s so happy why does he have to find me x
It's all about control unfortunately. When you can laugh at him and show it doesn't hurt he will leave you alone. Hard to get through though."
Yes, he controlled me during our marriage and he doesn’t want to let go. He knows he’s got no say in my life now it’s just annoying x |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x If he's bi I can wind him up Angie xx
He’s gone unlos, and do not worth it slim but thank you x "
Ok xx |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x "
if you feel he is still harassing you online or offline its a crime. report it
dont let them push u off here. x |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x
if you feel he is still harassing you online or offline its a crime. report it
dont let them push u off here. x"
He won’t push me off here, it’s just finding the right way to deal with him x |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x
if you feel he is still harassing you online or offline its a crime. report it
dont let them push u off here. x
He won’t push me off here, it’s just finding the right way to deal with him x "
if you have any messages you think are him, screenshot, and start a diary report to the police . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What a cock. Sensible suggestions here, nothing more I can add, but I wanted to tell you how awesome you are! Keep taking deep breaths, and don't let the b@stard get you down. Love and support coming your way xxx |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x
if you feel he is still harassing you online or offline its a crime. report it
dont let them push u off here. x
He won’t push me off here, it’s just finding the right way to deal with him x
if you have any messages you think are him, screenshot, and start a diary report to the police ."
I think I will do in future. Unfortunately because he’s gone unlos the message has gone x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What a cock. Sensible suggestions here, nothing more I can add, but I wanted to tell you how awesome you are! Keep taking deep breaths, and don't let the b@stard get you down. Love and support coming your way xxx"
Thank you foxxy x |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I would say, laugh at him. I had offline stalking from a ex and it was horrible...got to the point where I was basically a shut in, disconnected my doorbell, got my groceries delivered...the whole nine yards. The thought that someone would do that to my online space is really horrible. Those feelings of being trapped come to the surface again and no matter how happy you are, it does affect you.
Laugh at him and dismiss him, every time he comes clean. “Oh bless, you’re still wasting your time on this. You must be really bored  ”/ “I highly doubt you’re having all this amazing sex if you’re sniffing around me still...I really must have been the best you’ll never have again.” Followed by a block. After a while, he’ll give up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gosh some people are such arseholes.
One reason I don't like fabs new thing about deleting messages when the sender has left the site.
Hugs x"
I know, ive asked if I can get a copy but doubt it. Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say, laugh at him. I had offline stalking from a ex and it was horrible...got to the point where I was basically a shut in, disconnected my doorbell, got my groceries delivered...the whole nine yards. The thought that someone would do that to my online space is really horrible. Those feelings of being trapped come to the surface again and no matter how happy you are, it does affect you.
Laugh at him and dismiss him, every time he comes clean. “Oh bless, you’re still wasting your time on this. You must be really bored ”/ “I highly doubt you’re having all this amazing sex if you’re sniffing around me still...I really must have been the best you’ll never have again.” Followed by a block. After a while, he’ll give up"
No laughing at him could be dangerous. Yes ignore block screenshot diary of anything weird even the little things. But laughing at him could provoke a dangerous reaction x |
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over a year ago
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"I would say, laugh at him. I had offline stalking from a ex and it was horrible...got to the point where I was basically a shut in, disconnected my doorbell, got my groceries delivered...the whole nine yards. The thought that someone would do that to my online space is really horrible. Those feelings of being trapped come to the surface again and no matter how happy you are, it does affect you.
Laugh at him and dismiss him, every time he comes clean. “Oh bless, you’re still wasting your time on this. You must be really bored ”/ “I highly doubt you’re having all this amazing sex if you’re sniffing around me still...I really must have been the best you’ll never have again.” Followed by a block. After a while, he’ll give up"
In person I have done, but he will never face me again as he’s got away with something he should be ashamed of so legally he’s been warned to keep his distance, just this harassment. He will be quiet for a bit now x |
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"I would say, laugh at him. I had offline stalking from a ex and it was horrible...got to the point where I was basically a shut in, disconnected my doorbell, got my groceries delivered...the whole nine yards. The thought that someone would do that to my online space is really horrible. Those feelings of being trapped come to the surface again and no matter how happy you are, it does affect you.
Laugh at him and dismiss him, every time he comes clean. “Oh bless, you’re still wasting your time on this. You must be really bored ”/ “I highly doubt you’re having all this amazing sex if you’re sniffing around me still...I really must have been the best you’ll never have again.” Followed by a block. After a while, he’ll give up"
^^^^^ this...  |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x "
This dude sounds monstrous; I'm so sorry. |
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By *ancersCouple
over a year ago
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"I think I will do in future. Unfortunately because he’s gone unlos the message has gone x "
Maybe not. Just because the message is not visible anymore, does not mean that it has been wiped from the database. Contact the site admin explaining the circumstances, and they may be able to restore it, or forward copies of messages to your email address, especially when it's proof of potential criminal actions.
Hope that helps, good luck. x |
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"I think I will do in future. Unfortunately because he’s gone unlos the message has gone x
Maybe not. Just because the message is not visible anymore, does not mean that it has been wiped from the database. Contact the site admin explaining the circumstances, and they may be able to restore it, or forward copies of messages to your email address, especially when it's proof of potential criminal actions.
Hope that helps, good luck. x"
I have contacted them to ask. I’ve got my fingers crossed. Thank you x |
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"I don’t know what to do about this, my ex and I split acrimoniously 3 years ago, after finding out about his affair with a young girl. Anyway I d moved on and now with mr on here, but the ex keeps making profiles on here and sending me messages, friend requests etc. I keep blocking as soon as I know it’s them, but yesterday I was chatting to a couple who were within our age limits etc no problem, but then I get an awful message this morning and it was them all along with a load of abuse and telling me that he was having sex with women on our bed and sex with men out dogging.
I can’t report the messages or profile as it’s gone but I don’t know how I can protect myself anymore as I’ve got my filters on so he wouldn’t have just been able to pm straight away. I just feel sick now but don’t want to leave here as this is my choice and he’s not going to have any more control over me.
I’m just at a loss, do I need to go to the police again but with the new rules I’ve got no proof of the abuse x
This dude sounds monstrous; I'm so sorry."
He’s an idiot, thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps change your user name totally Angie and put a pic of Mr as your avatar as well as the other stuff suggested.
Should stop him ... What a wanker though X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh Angie this is awful. It’s an upsetting and frustrating situation for you I’m sure x "
Frustrating definitely, I’m trying to get rid of him out my life not have him popping up on here x |
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"Perhaps change your user name totally Angie and put a pic of Mr as your avatar as well as the other stuff suggested.
Should stop him ... What a wanker though X"
Yes need to have a good think. He will be quiet for a while though now x |
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over a year ago
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He’s obviously very butter and jealous individual I’m sure If you reported him to admin they’d have a way of knowing via IP address or whatever if he tried to make another account and if he’s sole purpose on fabs is to cause you grief maybe they could block any accounts from that location I know they can do this on paltalk if you get. A ban there your banned no matter how you disguise yourself, another but not advisable option is to have mr knock on the door and give him advice personally |
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"He’s obviously very butter and jealous individual I’m sure If you reported him to admin they’d have a way of knowing via IP address or whatever if he tried to make another account and if he’s sole purpose on fabs is to cause you grief maybe they could block any accounts from that location I know they can do this on paltalk if you get. A ban there your banned no matter how you disguise yourself, another but not advisable option is to have mr knock on the door and give him advice personally "
I’ve reported every profile he’s made yet he keeps coming back. Mr would be very tempted if we knew where he lived, but because of legal reasons he’s not supposed to have contact in any form with us. X |
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