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over a year ago
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....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
None of the above |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above "
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to still be a little flattered even if I'm not interested so I'll at least try to let them down gently."
This. Always nice to know someone e finds you attractive even if the feeling isn't mutual. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to still be a little flattered even if I'm not interested so I'll at least try to let them down gently.
This. Always nice to know someone e finds you attractive even if the feeling isn't mutual."
What’s it like wearing those trousers in this weather ?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only used to feel "leave me alone mate" if they were persistent and creepy when I politely rebuffed them.
I'm not sure I ever felt flattered."
Don’t you think ‘Still got it !’ ? |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
I don't even give them the time of day lol!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?!"
Why would I be flattered? Should I be grateful for attention whoever it's from? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?!
Why would I be flattered? Should I be grateful for attention whoever it's from? "
No, so you’re just ambivalent then ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
I don't even give them the time of day lol! "
Brutal. What if he’s polite and charming ? |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
I don't even give them the time of day lol!
Brutal. What if he’s polite and charming ?"
I will respond to polite and charming but not if he's trying to pull me, then he gets the Ice Queen if I don't fancy him, that's how I survived when I was a hot young thing.
I never did flirt unless I meant it....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
I don't even give them the time of day lol!
Brutal. What if he’s polite and charming ?
I will respond to polite and charming but not if he's trying to pull me, then he gets the Ice Queen if I don't fancy him, that's how I survived when I was a hot young thing.
I never did flirt unless I meant it.... "
Anyway, how good is your cottage pie ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?!
Why would I be flattered? Should I be grateful for attention whoever it's from? "
There's a huge difference from feeling flattered to being grateful.
He never mentioned grateful. |
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"I only used to feel "leave me alone mate" if they were persistent and creepy when I politely rebuffed them.
I'm not sure I ever felt flattered.
Don’t you think ‘Still got it !’ ?"
Ha ha. Because of my age you mean? 
I rarely if ever get approached in real life, that's why I said wrote used to.
When I was out and about as a younger woman I just used to take it in my stride. Men approached women in clubs, bars, at bus stops etc all the time. It was like 3D tinder  |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
I don't even give them the time of day lol!
Brutal. What if he’s polite and charming ?
I will respond to polite and charming but not if he's trying to pull me, then he gets the Ice Queen if I don't fancy him, that's how I survived when I was a hot young thing.
I never did flirt unless I meant it....
Anyway, how good is your cottage pie ? "
It's perfection!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, you probably should have asked this later in the day, then you might not have been met by hostility from people getting out of bed on the wrong side #lessonlearned |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above "
Really? I would be always be a little flattered unless they were being rude or persistent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
I don't even give them the time of day lol!
Brutal. What if he’s polite and charming ?
I will respond to polite and charming but not if he's trying to pull me, then he gets the Ice Queen if I don't fancy him, that's how I survived when I was a hot young thing.
I never did flirt unless I meant it....
Anyway, how good is your cottage pie ?
It's perfection! "
Oh wow and you have boobs too, these things are of interest to me ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, you probably should have asked this later in the day, then you might not have been met by hostility from people getting out of bed on the wrong side #lessonlearned"
No excuse, I’ve just finished a night shift |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now if I'm approached at the bus stop its by a person who wants to give me their life story complete with full medical history in graphic detail "
I get this too. Or end up walking into town with someone who wants to tell me their woes, just because i said hello |
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I find personality and intelligence more attractive then what they look like. I have actually slept with men I didn't find instantly attractive at first. It's the intelligence and the humour that turns me on more.
If a guy approached me and I did not fancy them I always let them speak. It they can make me laugh and there is a shared connection; then that is a winner for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, you probably should have asked this later in the day, then you might not have been met by hostility from people getting out of bed on the wrong side #lessonlearned"
Yes, I think this thread is wasted starting so early, but that’s the kinda guy I am, I’m a up and at them fellow.
Kind regards X |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
I don't even give them the time of day lol!
Brutal. What if he’s polite and charming ?
I will respond to polite and charming but not if he's trying to pull me, then he gets the Ice Queen if I don't fancy him, that's how I survived when I was a hot young thing.
I never did flirt unless I meant it....
Anyway, how good is your cottage pie ?
It's perfection!
Oh wow and you have boobs too, these things are of interest to me ! "
They are to most men |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
I generally loom around for his group of mates all pointing and laughing, then ask him to buy me a drink with his winnings   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?!
Why would I be flattered? Should I be grateful for attention whoever it's from?
No, so you’re just ambivalent then ?"
No, I'm most likely to feel disheartened |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?!
Why would I be flattered? Should I be grateful for attention whoever it's from?
No, so you’re just ambivalent then ?
No, I'm most likely to feel disheartened"
How do you arrive at that emotion from a man being attracted enough to you, to approach you ( presuming he’s being polite and charming) ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
None of the above
There’s another option, okay so you’re not flattered then ?!
Why would I be flattered? Should I be grateful for attention whoever it's from?
No, so you’re just ambivalent then ?
No, I'm most likely to feel disheartened
How do you arrive at that emotion from a man being attracted enough to you, to approach you ( presuming he’s being polite and charming) ?!"
I agree attitude is important and if a man ever approached me rudely, I would be rude back. I would always be polite if I didn't find him attractive, but also disheartened that that was the best I could get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
Depends how attractive I find him as to how flattered I am.
The ugliest thing is usually personality based. If it's an arrogant, entitled kind of approach then I will be reactive, but still polite- it's possible.
If it's polite but I don't find them physically my type then it's a polite refusal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The line between flirting and sexual harrasment is how the guy looks like and to what extent the person is attracted to that person.
That’s mad but I love you. "
#metoo
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So in short it’s only flattering if a good looking bloke trys to chat you up, but if an ugly bloke does it’s then it’s annoying. Ok, right got it. Shallow anyone ? |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
I just say no ..end of story .why would I admire his balls anyway
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"So in short it’s only flattering if a good looking bloke trys to chat you up, but if an ugly bloke does it’s then it’s annoying. Ok, right got it. Shallow anyone ?
Spot on."
Actually that's not strictly true thinking about it,but it would be nice if for once it was someone I found attractive,it never is though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So in short it’s only flattering if a good looking bloke trys to chat you up, but if an ugly bloke does it’s then it’s annoying. Ok, right got it. Shallow anyone ?"
I'm shallow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So in short it’s only flattering if a good looking bloke trys to chat you up, but if an ugly bloke does it’s then it’s annoying. Ok, right got it. Shallow anyone ?"
For me not annoying, just disheartening as previously described |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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Unless they are really obvious I usually completely miss that they are flirting. I tend to assume they are just having a laugh. If I think they are for real, I get quite embarrassed. Possibly a couple more of the reasons I’m still single  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to still be a little flattered even if I'm not interested so I'll at least try to let them down gently.
This. Always nice to know someone e finds you attractive even if the feeling isn't mutual.
What’s it like wearing those trousers in this weather ? "
Sweaty....surprised you can't smell me from there |
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If someone was being chatty and friendly id be chatting and friendly back regardless. If they actually aaked me out id be polite in my no thanks. If they where being leachy i wouldnt like it regardless of what they look like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now if I'm approached at the bus stop its by a person who wants to give me their life story complete with full medical history in graphic detail "
I think I must have a face that people want to tell their ailments to aswell. Takes me an age to get out the allotment past all the old boys and updates on their creaky knees and dodgy hearts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think I have had the pleasure of being pulled in a very very long time. I don't really like being put on the spot though so would have to bluff my way out of it somehow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don’t you think ‘Still got it !’ ?
Ha ha. Because of my age you mean?
I rarely if ever get approached in real life, that's why I said wrote used to.
When I was out and about as a younger woman I just used to take it in my stride. Men approached women in clubs, bars, at bus stops etc all the time. It was like 3D tinder
Dont do that anymore too frightened of being accused of sexual harrasment ...be funny if there wasnt such an element of truth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
Depends on there approach on what I think. Though I do think good on anyone that does approach the opposite sex in real life. Whether just sex or dating. |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
It happens to me all the time, I’m flattered if he is gorgeous but if he is the opposite I’m not! It’s so tiring having to keep turning these men down  |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
It very rarely happens that anyone tries to chat me up in real life.
I throw off the "leave me alone mate" vibe to everyone |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
Nearly every time I step out I'm chatted up. Think my other half thought I was exaggerating until I had a medical emergency and he drove me to the hospital at 10pm.
He parked the car while I made my way to A&E. The time it took me to cross the car park I was chatted up. I said to the man really, in front of my partner? He said sorry, thought he was a cab!
The men that chat me up are nearly all the same: dodgy looking Africans. I'm never rude just not welcoming and standoffish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?! "
Never happens but if it did I would be flattered  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Before I was engaged - it depended on when and where it was. Saturday morning funerals are not an appropriate place, no matter how much your little brain persuades you they are.
Now, I'm always (well try to be polite) if approached in the same manner. |
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"....trys to pull you in real life, are you still flattered and do you admire his balls for having ago anyway, or do you think just leave me alone mate ?!
Nearly every time I step out I'm chatted up. Think my other half thought I was exaggerating until I had a medical emergency and he drove me to the hospital at 10pm.
He parked the car while I made my way to A&E. The time it took me to cross the car park I was chatted up. I said to the man really, in front of my partner? He said sorry, thought he was a cab!
The men that chat me up are nearly all the same: dodgy looking Africans. I'm never rude just not welcoming and standoffish. "
i got chatted up while i was actually holding hands with jay |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha so many "I let them down gently because I'm nice" responses here, yet from some of the worst fems on Fab"
Here’s the attention you were looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha so many "I let them down gently because I'm nice" responses here, yet from some of the worst fems on Fab
Here’s the attention you were looking for"
Little bit more please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not flattered, no. But I'm polite in my refusal. Unless they are overly persistent, then I'm liable to tell them to piss off. "
I agree there lovely lady, there's some nasty ones on here. Some can't take no for an answer. Block them is best x |
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