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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does there always have to be physical attraction to ignite a spark OR can a spark be ignited based solely on someone's intelligence....???"
Id like to say yes...
But I am far too shallow  |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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It’s rarely an either/or situation. It’s both/and.
I like to find someone BOTH interesting AND good looking.
People can become more or less attractive the more you get to know them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say they are both required. As much as an amazing deviant and playable mind would be attractive it does need a level of physical attraction too. Luckily attractiveness is a very subjective attribute.
Conversely if someone was drop dead gorgeous but an empty shell of a personality that in itself would make her less attractive in my eyes.
I don’t think people are shallow when they say they need a physical attraction, merely honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need both with a good sense of humour and it takes alot of all 3 these days as I need to feel that they would make a night without my fwb would be worth it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been attracted to someone’s intelligence first, then physically after. I must admit that personality is something I put first over looks x "
Me too. I prefer people that I build slowly to like. It ends up being more intense to me. I’ve fancied people by looks alone and the attraction has fizzled before we get to the sex due to lack of personality or intelligence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I need both with a good sense of humour and it takes alot of all 3 these days as I need to feel that they would make a night without my fwb would be worth it "
Of course a sense of humour is important as let’s face it sex is funny at times and is meant to be one of life’s great pleasures. When I talk personality I would encompass humour.
Sapio to me means a connection of minds too. A must in most scenarios |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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A lot of people seem to equate intelligence with personality, you can have one without the other, and the op was specifically about intelligence. Ask about personality and I might give a different answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people seem to equate intelligence with personality, you can have one without the other, and the op was specifically about intelligence. Ask about personality and I might give a different answer. "
Very good point. I know some super intelligent people but there people skills leave a little to be desired. And desire is something important too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people seem to equate intelligence with personality, you can have one without the other, and the op was specifically about intelligence. Ask about personality and I might give a different answer. "
I need intelligence with good character and a fun personality. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"A lot of people seem to equate intelligence with personality, you can have one without the other, and the op was specifically about intelligence. Ask about personality and I might give a different answer.
Very good point. I know some super intelligent people but there people skills leave a little to be desired. And desire is something important too "
Fair point! 
In which case, intelligence alone is not something that would ignite a spark. There has to be more. Stephen Hawking did nothing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people seem to equate intelligence with personality, you can have one without the other, and the op was specifically about intelligence. Ask about personality and I might give a different answer.
Very good point. I know some super intelligent people but there people skills leave a little to be desired. And desire is something important too
Oh come now. Not even that husky monotone voice.
Fair point!
In which case, intelligence alone is not something that would ignite a spark. There has to be more. Stephen Hawking did nothing for me. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people seem to equate intelligence with personality, you can have one without the other, and the op was specifically about intelligence. Ask about personality and I might give a different answer.
Very good point. I know some super intelligent people but there people skills leave a little to be desired. And desire is something important too
Fair point!
In which case, intelligence alone is not something that would ignite a spark. There has to be more. Stephen Hawking did nothing for me. "
A real hot guy with nothing else about him won’t get my juices flowing either. It has to be a mixture of things to make up attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The easy answer, OP, is that both are necessary.
I can be drawn in by articulate and witty messages, but will end the conversation if the face photo is a let down. I take no offence if my mugshot causes a similarly deflating reaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The easy answer, OP, is that both are necessary.
I can be drawn in by articulate and witty messages, but will end the conversation if the face photo is a let down. I take no offence if my mugshot causes a similarly deflating reaction. "
Luckily like I pointed out earlier what people find attractive is so subjective. The trick is finding the ones we’re the attraction is mutual. One of life’s great conundrums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone's intelligence can put me off them."
Intelligence or lack of. Surely no level of intelligence is a problem as long as the person is humble with it and not an ass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physical attraction is all well and good but without a personality and smarts to go with it is all rather pointless! I don't need an Einstein but I really can't deal with stupid  Emotional intelligence is a must too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone's intelligence can put me off them.
Intelligence or lack of. Surely no level of intelligence is a problem as long as the person is humble with it and not an ass. "
Intelligence. Or spouting words that make them feel intelligent maybe.
Intelligent doesn't always equate to interesting or personable.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone's intelligence can put me off them.
Intelligence or lack of. Surely no level of intelligence is a problem as long as the person is humble with it and not an ass.
Intelligence. Or spouting words that make them feel intelligent maybe.
Intelligent doesn't always equate to interesting or personable.
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I understand what you are saying. People who like to use words to belittle others. I don’t think all intelligent people are like that though and can be as down to earth and approachable as the next person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it."
I use it and I wouldn’t say I’m pretentious. It just describes what does it for me. I can be attracted to some really nerdy people that most wouldn’t look at. I can’t explain it. It just happens. I love passion in a person also, that really turns me on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I use it and I wouldn’t say I’m pretentious. It just describes what does it for me. I can be attracted to some really nerdy people that most wouldn’t look at. I can’t explain it. It just happens. I love passion in a person also, that really turns me on. "
All of us are attracted to something though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it."
Really? Can words ever be pretentious?
# justalittlejudgemental |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I use it and I wouldn’t say I’m pretentious. It just describes what does it for me. I can be attracted to some really nerdy people that most wouldn’t look at. I can’t explain it. It just happens. I love passion in a person also, that really turns me on. "
It's a descriptive word like francophile or pogonophile. It's easier than saying "I find intelligence arousing". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I use it and I wouldn’t say I’m pretentious. It just describes what does it for me. I can be attracted to some really nerdy people that most wouldn’t look at. I can’t explain it. It just happens. I love passion in a person also, that really turns me on.
All of us are attracted to something though. "
Intelligence in others is my weakness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it."
That is a very generic and blanket statement. I almost sense there is a grudge somewhere behind that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I use it and I wouldn’t say I’m pretentious. It just describes what does it for me. I can be attracted to some really nerdy people that most wouldn’t look at. I can’t explain it. It just happens. I love passion in a person also, that really turns me on.
It's a descriptive word like francophile or pogonophile. It's easier than saying "I find intelligence arousing"."
I’m definitely a pogonophile. Give me a beard and a brain and I’m happy. It has to come with a body though, I’m not the weird, ha ha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone's intelligence can put me off them.
Intelligence or lack of. Surely no level of intelligence is a problem as long as the person is humble with it and not an ass.
Intelligence. Or spouting words that make them feel intelligent maybe.
Intelligent doesn't always equate to interesting or personable.
I understand what you are saying. People who like to use words to belittle others. I don’t think all intelligent people are like that though and can be as down to earth and approachable as the next person. "
Or use multisyllabic words, and ramble on, or make an argument out of nothing to make themselves sound more intelligent than they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I will always say that I need to find a person attractive but beyond that I need to be able to talk to them too.
If someone is beautiful but has nothing else going on then it’s not going to work for me. I need my big brain engaged as well as my little brain...
Obviously with posts like this though I’m not really demonstrating the same qualities that I desire |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
Really? Can words ever be pretentious?
# justalittlejudgemental"
Well the word pretentious is always pretentious but I guess it would be unfair to hold it aginst it in the circumstances |
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it."
I wouldn't go that far, but there's certainly a correlation there. I don't use the word because I don't want to be associated with some locals who use it in a way I find arrogant.
I'm intelligent and find intelligence sexy, but I'm at pains not to be pretentious or condescending, and find things in common with those I speak to. I point out my intelligence on my profile to hopefully deter those intimidated by intelligent women, for the most part. |
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Personality and intelligence to a degree are what keeps my interest and can turn me on. Could be the most handsome guy in the world but if we can’t hold a conversation and have a laugh then I just can’t enjoy myself. Saying that, there must be some physical spark and I would expect that on both sides. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s rarely an either/or situation. It’s both/and.
I like to find someone BOTH interesting AND good looking.
People can become more or less attractive the more you get to know them. "
Personality and intelligence come first for me but if there isn't the physical attraction as well then it will only be a social friend. That is not only to do with looks but they have to be sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I wouldn't go that far, but there's certainly a correlation there. I don't use the word because I don't want to be associated with some locals who use it in a way I find arrogant.
I'm intelligent and find intelligence sexy, but I'm at pains not to be pretentious or condescending, and find things in common with those I speak to. I point out my intelligence on my profile to hopefully deter those intimidated by intelligent women, for the most part. "
I find that men who are intimidated by me don't tend to read profiles - they usually message me from my pics or looking at who is online near them.
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"I had the most interesting conversation-with someone who had a scientific doctorate degree-about zombies and water sanitation in London.
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The first guy I decided to sleep with here, I did so while we were arguing about etymology. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personality and intelligence to a degree are what keeps my interest and can turn me on. Could be the most handsome guy in the world but if we can’t hold a conversation and have a laugh then I just can’t enjoy myself. Saying that, there must be some physical spark and I would expect that on both sides."
Pretty much exactly this. I would also state though that intelligence can and will make someone more attractive to me. |
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I wouldn't go that far, but there's certainly a correlation there. I don't use the word because I don't want to be associated with some locals who use it in a way I find arrogant.
I'm intelligent and find intelligence sexy, but I'm at pains not to be pretentious or condescending, and find things in common with those I speak to. I point out my intelligence on my profile to hopefully deter those intimidated by intelligent women, for the most part.
I find that men who are intimidated by me don't tend to read profiles - they usually message me from my pics or looking at who is online near them.
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Haha, that's true. I've seen a decline in awkward condescending conversations where I'm given a pat on the head for having more than one brain cell (so unusual for a girl!  ) , but it might be unrelated. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it."
Is it a sign of pretentiousness, or is this a comment made by somebody who feels a little overwhelmed and embarrassed by not understanding the meaning of a word and depending on a search engine to give the answer....
#avoidaway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personality and intelligence to a degree are what keeps my interest and can turn me on. Could be the most handsome guy in the world but if we can’t hold a conversation and have a laugh then I just can’t enjoy myself. Saying that, there must be some physical spark and I would expect that on both sides.
Pretty much exactly this. I would also state though that intelligence can and will make someone more attractive to me. "
Absolutely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s always physical attraction is you want to fuck someone’s brains out. Any other form of attraction is motivated by other means, financially etc..."
I totally disagree with this. |
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"It’s always physical attraction is you want to fuck someone’s brains out. Any other form of attraction is motivated by other means, financially etc...
I totally disagree with this. "
I disagree too. For me physical attraction is an extra: intelligence/ personality is much more important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Attraction and a bit of gumption does me.
What a fabulous word. Gumption. Must start using that more.
You can't it's my word you have to find your own I'm afraid."
Oh don’t be like that. If used in moderation you would never even notice it missing on the odd occasion. I forgot about the one word one person rule. |
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"I had the most interesting conversation-with someone who had a scientific doctorate degree-about zombies and water sanitation in London.
The first guy I decided to sleep with here, I did so while we were arguing about etymology. "
What is the etymology of “bend over” I wonder  |
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"I had the most interesting conversation-with someone who had a scientific doctorate degree-about zombies and water sanitation in London.
The first guy I decided to sleep with here, I did so while we were arguing about etymology.
What is the etymology of “bend over” I wonder "
We were talking about a branch of medicine, actually! More rounded than just about sex. |
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"It’s always physical attraction is you want to fuck someone’s brains out. Any other form of attraction is motivated by other means, financially etc...
I totally disagree with this.
I disagree too. For me physical attraction is an extra: intelligence/ personality is much more important. "
I need to be wooed into bed and good looks is not going to do it alone. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"Sapiophile is a sign of incredible pretentiousness and you should avoid anyone who uses it.
I use it and I wouldn’t say I’m pretentious. It just describes what does it for me. I can be attracted to some really nerdy people that most wouldn’t look at. I can’t explain it. It just happens. I love passion in a person also, that really turns me on.
It's a descriptive word like francophile or pogonophile. It's easier than saying "I find intelligence arousing".
I’m definitely a pogonophile. Give me a beard and a brain and I’m happy. It has to come with a body though, I’m not the weird, ha ha. "
I have a short beard and a reasonable brain. That’s a start! |
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"Attraction and a bit of gumption does me.
What a fabulous word. Gumption. Must start using that more.
You can't it's my word you have to find your own I'm afraid.
Oh don’t be like that. If used in moderation you would never even notice it missing on the odd occasion. I forgot about the one word one person rule. "
Right I'm in a generous mood you can use it once. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does there always have to be physical attraction to ignite a spark OR can a spark be ignited based solely on someone's intelligence....???"
of course but would say personality more than just intelligence |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Attraction and a bit of gumption does me.
What a fabulous word. Gumption. Must start using that more.
You can't it's my word you have to find your own I'm afraid.
Oh don’t be like that. If used in moderation you would never even notice it missing on the odd occasion. I forgot about the one word one person rule.
Right I'm in a generous mood you can use it once."
In that case must make sure I don’t waste it. Your generosity has been duly noted. |
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