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over a year ago
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Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences |
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Many moons ago I met a man who said he was 6ft , he was 5ft 4 at a push
Also a man who’s pictures were about 15 years out too , came straight from work in the most god awful pinstripe suit , stank of sweat and when I mentioned the discrepancy with the pictures - told me I was shallow 
He used old pictures to get meets , he’d been recently verified too !!
It’s not shallow to be truthful |
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over a year ago
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed"
Mine are though ... but I’m honest that you’re not going to get Angelina  |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed"
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.  |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem. "
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me |
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences"
Yep. One lie like that, continue date, then bye bye |
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By *eb1312Man
over a year ago
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me "
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ?? |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ?? "
Me too and with the other person wearing a hood over their face I'm absolutely stunning  |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ??
Me too and with the other person wearing a hood over their face I'm absolutely stunning "
Sshhh you’re stunning |
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Why do they do it? Of course it matters. It’s like going to the butchers, licking your lips at the thought of a nice juicy steak and he says he’s only got a bit of mutton left. Mind, you can’t beat a bit of mutton, at the right time and when you know that’s what you’re getting. Lol |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ??
Me too and with the other person wearing a hood over their face I'm absolutely stunning
Sshhh you’re stunning "
I am if you like little redhead weavels |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ??
Me too and with the other person wearing a hood over their face I'm absolutely stunning
Sshhh you’re stunning
I am if you like little redhead weavels "
Who doesn’t |
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By *eb1312Man
over a year ago
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ??
Me too and with the other person wearing a hood over their face I'm absolutely stunning "
Lol, your stunning as you are, no dark room or hoods needed unless your being kinky lol |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem.
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me
Lol yeah right, you look awesome in your pics, lol I look better in a very very dark room ??
Me too and with the other person wearing a hood over their face I'm absolutely stunning
Sshhh you’re stunning
I am if you like little redhead weavels
Who doesn’t "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Luckily so far no one has been disappointed when meeting me
My pics are all recent and my profile gives and honest view of what to expect.
And all my meets so far have been repeated so I must be doing something right |
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I do like taking pics with the best angles but I think that’s only human. I’m never decieving in my pics I just like a little bit left for the imagination x |
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A guy from another site sent us pictures of himself with glossy black hair. We agreed to meet and drove a long way to the agreed place. He was an hour late and when he did turn up was completely grey. During the course of a polite drink he took a phone call and carried on a non urgent conversation.
We didn't meet again. |
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"A guy from another site sent us pictures of himself with glossy black hair. We agreed to meet and drove a long way to the agreed place. He was an hour late and when he did turn up was completely grey. During the course of a polite drink he took a phone call and carried on a non urgent conversation.
We didn't meet again. "
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I've met a few men over the years who professed to be taller/thinner/less bald than they actually were
Luckily it was only the social stage and never went further...
As for me..all my pics are current and what you see is what you get |
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"I've met a few men over the years who professed to be taller/thinner/less bald than they actually were
Luckily it was only the social stage and never went further...
As for me..all my pics are current and what you see is what you get"
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"In this digital age, pics on people’s profile should have an ‘expiry date’ . Shouldn’t be to difficult for anyone to refresh their pics at least once a year !......shouldn’t it ? "
You can change a lot in six months even! |
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences"
It’s another form of timewasting in my opinion.
I hate when I get messages on here from guys who’ve lied about their age. I once met a man who claimed to be 35, sent loads of photos turned out he was 50.
His excuse was he looks young for his age, he didn’t. Delusional at best! |
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"In this digital age, pics on people’s profile should have an ‘expiry date’ . Shouldn’t be to difficult for anyone to refresh their pics at least once a year !......shouldn’t it ?
You can change a lot in six months even!"
Very true.
This is why I constantly post pictures, I take new photos on a weekly basis and uploading them one by one daily to keep them up to date.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences"
If you are arranging a meet, arrange a time and date prior to the meet when all are available and meet on cam (we use kik)
You can all say hello and ensure you are all getting what is advertised. |
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences
If you are arranging a meet, arrange a time and date prior to the meet when all are available and meet on cam (we use kik)
Yeah I know now at time hadn’t thought or worries I met a lady about 6 yrs ago through pof when she turned up I didn’t recognise her cos she had used pics of her daughter on her profile cos she said she looked like her when she was 30. The lady in question was great for 55 but I couldn’t get past she lied.
Yeah now you can skype or face time etc but not the thing I think of when meeting cos usually excited to get a meet lol
You can all say hello and ensure you are all getting what is advertised. "
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed"
Let's be honest here....do all of us really just whip out the phone, take a pic and post it on here or FB or wherever? Bollocks to that....I'm always looking for the best angle. |
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"A guy from another site sent us pictures of himself with glossy black hair. We agreed to meet and drove a long way to the agreed place. He was an hour late and when he did turn up was completely grey. During the course of a polite drink he took a phone call and carried on a non urgent conversation.
We didn't meet again.
Unreal "
It's not so bad for us as a couple when something like this happens because we can at least go home together. It must be horrible for singles. |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem. lmao
I'm screwed...even flattering angles don't work for me "
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
Let's be honest here....do all of us really just whip out the phone, take a pic and post it on here or FB or wherever? Bollocks to that....I'm always looking for the best angle."
Easy ask for a pic from every angle lol |
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over a year ago
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On regular dating sites I ensure I post full body pics, on here it’s in my username etc. and will send photos during conversation.
I wonder how people think they will be successful like that.
I’d be totally devestated if I met someone and they were like you don’t look like your photos I’m not interested, so won’t put myself in that position. |
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences"
ilook younger than 44  |
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences
ilook younger than 44 "
I look younger too but I don’t think my pics are misleading in that manner..
Posting pics that lol nothing like u regardless of how old u look is shit |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I try to post only pics that flatter me,hardly going to show the fat wonky boobed me for real am I . Lmao . As I don’t meet can’t see a problem. "
This. Expect pics to be taken from flattering angles; who the hell is going to put up a pic of them pissed, with red wine spilt down their top for example?
But a pic should reflect the current version of them at least; whilst some of my pics are up to 5 years old, the vast majority are taken in the last 6 months or so (when I'm actually in better shape IMHO)
The ones that are the oldest are there so that if anyone rejoins the site that I knew from my old profile previously then they'll know it's me? And it's happened a few times now so I find it a good strategy! |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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We put new pics on all the time, the date on them being posted is usually around a day or two after them being taken, sometimes a couple of weeks but certainly up to date, it only fair and we do expect the same or at least to be privately messaged with up to date pics |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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To be fair we all like the flattering angle, even more so those of us who are getting older but if you’re going to meet someone, you’re going to be found out.
I’d be more embarrassed if someone thought I didn’t match up to my pics, that they were outdated etc. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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We generally avoid those that just have pics taken from above the head down and any that just have filtered pics on their profile, just stick to good old normal pics and you will generally get what you see... Unless old pics of course. |
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We try not to just take flattering pictures. We are who we are and finding time to arrange meets is hard with kids. We have no problem meeting people and if we aren't for them then that's no problem at all, but we wouldn't want it to be as we had hidden what we look like now from them, that would be pointless. |
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"We try not to just take flattering pictures. We are who we are and finding time to arrange meets is hard with kids. We have no problem meeting people and if we aren't for them then that's no problem at all, but we wouldn't want it to be as we had hidden what we look like now from them, that would be pointless."
You try NOT to take flattering pics? Sorry guys, but you're failing miserably on that score... |
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"We try not to just take flattering pictures. We are who we are and finding time to arrange meets is hard with kids. We have no problem meeting people and if we aren't for them then that's no problem at all, but we wouldn't want it to be as we had hidden what we look like now from them, that would be pointless.
You try NOT to take flattering pics? Sorry guys, but you're failing miserably on that score... "
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I like to see the real deal if I can. From above shots normally hide something. Nothing worse than seeing pics from an angle you like the look of then meet them and they look totally different. Very off putting. But there's alot out there who won't send 'normal' pics |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
Let's be honest here....do all of us really just whip out the phone, take a pic and post it on here or FB or wherever? Bollocks to that....I'm always looking for the best angle.
Easy ask for a pic from every angle lol "
And again....bollocks to that! |
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"Ano people can look younger or older than a picture but met someone for coffee a while a go from a different site person said was 32 and showed a pic which was nice when met person was about 15 yes older than pic when asked she said oh it shouldn’t matter I’m older lol
My other one was a few years ago met someone who picture wasn’t of them when actually met when said she got all ardent cos I didn’t wanna date or stuff even though they lied about who was.
Has anyone else had these experiences
ilook younger than 44
I look younger too but I don’t think my pics are misleading in that manner..
Posting pics that lol nothing like u regardless of how old u look is shit"
my pics arent misleading x |
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" Let's be honest here....do all of us really just whip out the phone, take a pic and post it on here?
I would say that many do exactly that "
judging on some of the photos yes. |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
Let's be honest here....do all of us really just whip out the phone, take a pic and post it on here or FB or wherever? Bollocks to that....I'm always looking for the best angle.
Easy ask for a pic from every angle lol
And again....bollocks to that! "
Think I've got every conceivable angle covered by now...With face piccies in my friends gallery to complete the full set, but I always send 3 of these face pics; one with workwear, one casual and one in the shower with a replying message to anyone?
Think that's all bases covered ha! |
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"I do like taking pics with the best angles but I think that’s only human. I’m never decieving in my pics I just like a little bit left for the imagination x"
I met a guy recently for a social - couldn't see him until a man came up to me who looked vaguely familiar. He agreed later that his photo was from 6 years ago and didn't seem sorry at all but the difference was that in the meantime he had put on about 4 stones in weight. We all go up and down in weight slightly but I think any photos more than a year old should be deleted and new ones added. |
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I’ve noticed recently from messages I’ve received there is a lot of older men using photos from years ago.
The quality is a big give away usually & the person in the photos age doesn’t usually match that on the profile.
I just wonder what they do in person when someone notices and says “You don’t look like your pictures” are they hoping that we will just carry on anyway since we are there already?
It’s a shit thing to do, no doubt if it was done to them they’d be fuming so they shouldn’t be doing it to others. |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed"
I'm pretty sure people have been disappointed when they met me for that reason .....oh well |
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"In this digital age, pics on people’s profile should have an ‘expiry date’ . Shouldn’t be to difficult for anyone to refresh their pics at least once a year !......shouldn’t it ?
You can change a lot in six months even!
Very true.
This is why I constantly post pictures, I take new photos on a weekly basis and uploading them one by one daily to keep them up to date.
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Yes, keep them coming, we'd hate to lose confidence that it's really you
Plus keeping them coming will keep us coming |
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"I’ve noticed recently from messages I’ve received there is a lot of older men using photos from years ago.
The quality is a big give away usually & the person in the photos age doesn’t usually match that on the profile.
I just wonder what they do in person when someone notices and says “You don’t look like your pictures” are they hoping that we will just carry on anyway since we are there already?
It’s a shit thing to do, no doubt if it was done to them they’d be fuming so they shouldn’t be doing it to others. "
We would definately say something straight away. We aren't confrontational in any way but we also roll straight dice. If it were a social we would probably stay and still chat as their personality was enough to get us there in the first place, but anything further would be off the table for sure. |
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"In this digital age, pics on people’s profile should have an ‘expiry date’ . Shouldn’t be to difficult for anyone to refresh their pics at least once a year !......shouldn’t it ?
You can change a lot in six months even!
Very true.
This is why I constantly post pictures, I take new photos on a weekly basis and uploading them one by one daily to keep them up to date.
Yes, keep them coming, we'd hate to lose confidence that it's really you
Plus keeping them coming will keep us coming"
Hahaha!
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"I’ve noticed recently from messages I’ve received there is a lot of older men using photos from years ago.
The quality is a big give away usually & the person in the photos age doesn’t usually match that on the profile.
I just wonder what they do in person when someone notices and says “You don’t look like your pictures” are they hoping that we will just carry on anyway since we are there already?
It’s a shit thing to do, no doubt if it was done to them they’d be fuming so they shouldn’t be doing it to others.
We would definately say something straight away. We aren't confrontational in any way but we also roll straight dice. If it were a social we would probably stay and still chat as their personality was enough to get us there in the first place, but anything further would be off the table for sure."
I agree.
It’s happened to me before and it gets my back up since they think it’s okay to deceive someone like that.
I’m straight talking and would be telling them in person that they need to update their photos as they wouldn’t like it done to them. There is literally someone for everyone on here so I don’t think there is ever a need to mislead with your photos! |
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"Happened once where her photos were from very flattering angles. I was a bit miffed
I'm pretty sure people have been disappointed when they met me for that reason .....oh well"
I very much doubt it...Your whole body is on your public gallery, even the lower half of your face? A bit like my approach!
Unless you are a cyclops of course or have outlandishly crazy eyes...That may not go down well.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This has happened to me, his photos were 7 years old and he had failed to mention this before meeting, I didn’t say anything as I didn’t want to be rude but I never met him again. He wasted not only my time, but his own, why people can’t be honest I don’t know, it’s not like they’re gonna get away with it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I use the most flattering pics on my profile, but if I'm meeting someone I make sure they are fully aware of what will be turning up so there's no uncomfortable surprises.
So far this approach seems to be working |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if you meet people who are nothing like what they say do you still go ahead with fun just to be polite or do you politely leave
Or just say You are joking aren’t you
Lol"
I leave.
It’s more the principle of making them know what they’ve done is wrong & it isn’t going to get them what they want.
It also gives me a negative vibe of them and I’m not going to sleep with someone who makes me feel like that! |
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