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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What exactly does he mean, and not on fab I'm talking about real life, like if a guy was talking to another guy about dating and past relationships and how they met their last partners etc. If a guy says to another guy in general conversation that they have high standards when looking for a date/partner what do they mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He won't date a woman who has had more than 3 sexual partners.
He won't date fat women.
He won't date a woman who shops at Primark.
He won't date a woman who works at Primark.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex husband is a great guy and regardless of why we broke up (we still love each other) i won’t settle for anything less as was treated so well. I’ve met a few guys since but not one gave me the confidence I would be treated as well as I was. I don’t mean material things. It was the small things. I have very high standards now and won’t settle for anything less. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it like a show off thing then?"
I would prefer a guy to say he has high standards than no standards. I say the same thing to potential dates. I don’t meet or date just anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My high standards are about respect and how you are treated by others not looks.
I would roll out the red carpet for you x  "
As clumsy as I am, I would trip over that bloody red carpet. So sexy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He wants a certain level of attractivness. Usually someone who fits the stereotypical mould of good looking
I say the same as this, Also the way she acts and presents herself"
Definitely this.. he basically wants a stereotypical ‘perfect’ girl and because he can’t get one he’s single and blaming it on his ‘high standards’  |
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If a man said that I'd think he was only going to date a woman who:
- is very good looking
- has good grooming
- is from a good family
- lives off a substantial trust fund
- has a good education
- has a perfect body
- is a virgin
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is not something I have heard many say in real life. Plenty on fab seem to state it though. It just sounds pretentious to even me. And I like dauphinoise potatoes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He wants a certain level of attractivness. Usually someone who fits the stereotypical mould of good looking
I say the same as this, Also the way she acts and presents herself
Definitely this.. he basically wants a stereotypical ‘perfect’ girl and because he can’t get one he’s single and blaming it on his ‘high standards’ "
You're the highest standard I've seen on here |
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"This is not something I have heard many say in real life. Plenty on fab seem to state it though. It just sounds pretentious to even me. And I like dauphinoise potatoes!"
They may not actualy say that but you know what they mean when they talk about women they dont want. |
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"He won't date a woman who has had more than 3 sexual partners.
He won't date fat women.
He won't date a woman who shops at Primark.
He won't date a woman who works at Primark.
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But will drop his principles like a shot if he knows that she can suck a tennis ball through a hosepipe or takes it up the derriere.. |
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"He wants a certain level of attractivness. Usually someone who fits the stereotypical mould of good looking
I say the same as this, Also the way she acts and presents herself
Definitely this.. he basically wants a stereotypical ‘perfect’ girl and because he can’t get one he’s single and blaming it on his ‘high standards’
You're the highest standard I've seen on here "
But who's version of the word "high standard" are you using from the thread  |
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" If a woman says to another woman in general conversation that they have high standards when looking for a date/partner what do they mean?
Does it come across as bad if a woman says it ? "
It means they dont want just anyone, the first man who shows interest in them, not everyone finds the same things attractive anyway, theres nothing wrong with men or women saying it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is not something I have heard many say in real life. Plenty on fab seem to state it though. It just sounds pretentious to even me. And I like dauphinoise potatoes!
They may not actualy say that but you know what they mean when they talk about women they dont want."
A simple "my sausage ain't going there" would suffice then |
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" If a woman says to another woman in general conversation that they have high standards when looking for a date/partner what do they mean?
Does it come across as bad if a woman says it ?
It means they dont want just anyone, the first man who shows interest in them, not everyone finds the same things attractive anyway, theres nothing wrong with men or women saying it."
I don't see a problem in anyone saying it either, But as proven above everyone will have their own definition of the saying |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He won't date a woman who has had more than 3 sexual partners.
He won't date fat women.
He won't date a woman who shops at Primark.
He won't date a woman who works at Primark.
But will drop his principles like a shot if he knows that she can suck a tennis ball through a hosepipe or takes it up the derriere.. "
Those ones are ok; their mates forgive them for those types.
Just a bj, innit bruv. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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" If a woman says to another woman in general conversation that they have high standards when looking for a date/partner what do they mean?
Does it come across as bad if a woman says it ?
It means they dont want just anyone, the first man who shows interest in them, not everyone finds the same things attractive anyway, theres nothing wrong with men or women saying it."
I agree there's nothing wrong with anyone saying it. Although reading this thread it seems there are a lot of folk who disagree that guys can have standards..
I'm happy to say I do have standards and there are many facets to that statement and if I have to stay single and go without I'd prefer that than to compromise and settle for second best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He wants a certain level of attractivness. Usually someone who fits the stereotypical mould of good looking
I say the same as this, Also the way she acts and presents herself
Definitely this.. he basically wants a stereotypical ‘perfect’ girl and because he can’t get one he’s single and blaming it on his ‘high standards’
You're the highest standard I've seen on here "
Haha thanks, but you aren’t helping  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He wants a certain level of attractivness. Usually someone who fits the stereotypical mould of good looking
I say the same as this, Also the way she acts and presents herself
Definitely this.. he basically wants a stereotypical ‘perfect’ girl and because he can’t get one he’s single and blaming it on his ‘high standards’
You're the highest standard I've seen on here
Haha thanks, but you aren’t helping "
You don't need help at the top |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He wants a certain level of attractivness. Usually someone who fits the stereotypical mould of good looking
I say the same as this, Also the way she acts and presents herself
Definitely this.. he basically wants a stereotypical ‘perfect’ girl and because he can’t get one he’s single and blaming it on his ‘high standards’
You're the highest standard I've seen on here "
* takes notes from a total player * |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Also the guy has only been single 5 months or so and when speaking to the other guy he said he was looking for a relationship.
For me personally when I say I have high standards it just means I have certain attributes I like the guy to have, for example good looks and also used to be penis size but I'm no longer arsed about length as long as the girth is there. When I've said to a guy that I'm fussy or whatever I've meant it in a kind of complimentary way to the guy, know what I mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t know what answer you are looking for OP, there are going to be a mixture of them on a forum. One persons ‘high standards’ will be very different to the next. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ultimately everyone has their own standards right?
If he thinks his are higher than others then good luck to him, but I don’t think it’ll get him any further than anyone else.
In fact maybe it’s a hindrance? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would say I'm fussy - I just don't meet many people that completely float my boat."
We're friends right, I trust your opinion.
The guy I fancy in work knows I talk to this other guy who we'll call Billy-Bob. I saw Billy-Bob Tuesday and guy I fancy said have you seen *****(me) lately and he said yeah and he asked when I was working next and he told him today and he said ahh that's the weekend I'm doing the 3 peaks. Anyway I was talking to Billy-Bob today who said he was talking to guy I fancy on Friday and bless him he's trying to dig but without obviously mentioning me and he said they were talking about past relationships and how they met their other halves, how guy I fancy said he didn't want to go down the online dating route and said that things tend to work better when people meet through mutual friends or hobbies etc. Billy-Bob said guy I fancy told him that he wasn't looking for someone cos he wants a gf again but said he has high standards. Now he know she I talk to Billy-Bob all the time, so was the high standards thing to show off or as a way to subtly say look tell her I have high standards so don't bother, but then he also said he's looking for someone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I read it a lot on here and think some people can be too picky. We can't control things like our character, height, looks, hair colour etc and sometimes, being particular about physical traits can make you overlook a great person. But some guys just want their Barbie, their perfect 10?
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"What exactly does he mean, and not on fab I'm talking about real life, like if a guy was talking to another guy about dating and past relationships and how they met their last partners etc. If a guy says to another guy in general conversation that they have high standards when looking for a date/partner what do they mean? "
What they mean is that they are looking for a Virgin . I know that sounds weird but as near as dammit , it’s what they seek . They don’t want a woman who has been with anyone they know , or indeed with anyone they don’t know either . They don’t want a woman with kids , or who has a mind of her own .
Men are weird aren’t they ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How obvious was it that Billy was suggesting you? Does the guy explicitly know you're into him? There's too little for me to form an opinion - guy might have just meant he's struggling to meet someone.
I try not to second guess people these days as I'm often wrong. Try not to read too much into it too much.
Just ask him out ffs!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say I'm fussy - I just don't meet many people that completely float my boat.
We're friends right, I trust your opinion.
The guy I fancy in work knows I talk to this other guy who we'll call Billy-Bob. I saw Billy-Bob Tuesday and guy I fancy said have you seen *****(me) lately and he said yeah and he asked when I was working next and he told him today and he said ahh that's the weekend I'm doing the 3 peaks. Anyway I was talking to Billy-Bob today who said he was talking to guy I fancy on Friday and bless him he's trying to dig but without obviously mentioning me and he said they were talking about past relationships and how they met their other halves, how guy I fancy said he didn't want to go down the online dating route and said that things tend to work better when people meet through mutual friends or hobbies etc. Billy-Bob said guy I fancy told him that he wasn't looking for someone cos he wants a gf again but said he has high standards. Now he know she I talk to Billy-Bob all the time, so was the high standards thing to show off or as a way to subtly say look tell her I have high standards so don't bother, but then he also said he's looking for someone.
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So Annie if you want him grab him by the bollocks and his heart and mind wil follow |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"He won't date a woman who has had more than 3 sexual partners.
He won't date fat women.
He won't date a woman who shops at Primark.
He won't date a woman who works at Primark.
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But he might fuck all of them, several times. |
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"What exactly does he mean, and not on fab I'm talking about real life, like if a guy was talking to another guy about dating and past relationships and how they met their last partners etc. If a guy says to another guy in general conversation that they have high standards when looking for a date/partner what do they mean?
In my opinion
What they mean is that they are looking for a Virgin . I know that sounds weird but as near as dammit , it’s what they seek . They don’t want a woman who has been with anyone they know , or indeed with anyone they don’t know either . They don’t want a woman with kids , or who has a mind of her own .
Men are weird aren’t they ?
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I fixed it for you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How obvious was it that Billy was suggesting you? Does the guy explicitly know you're into him? There's too little for me to form an opinion - guy might have just meant he's struggling to meet someone.
I try not to second guess people these days as I'm often wrong. Try not to read too much into it too much.
Just ask him out ffs! "
My friend was in school with him and said he was a good boy, always respectful, very sporty and was in all the top sets so bit of a boffin kind of thing.
I think he knows I'm into him but like he's never been down the online dating route, like when I've had conversations in the past about guys I've met on tinder (I haven't said I'm on here I've said guys I've met have been off there) he's always said you should get off there cos what he's heard off his mates is that guys only want one thing on sites like that, oh if he knew I was on here!
Just need out schedules to align and I will ask him if we can do something together. Like Billy-Bob said he asked him if I was seeing anyone and billybob said no I know that she is not, then asked me if next time he sees guy I fancy if he can just bloody tell him I'm attracted to him but I said no and that I need to do it myself. That's the right way isn't it. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"How obvious was it that Billy was suggesting you? Does the guy explicitly know you're into him? There's too little for me to form an opinion - guy might have just meant he's struggling to meet someone.
I try not to second guess people these days as I'm often wrong. Try not to read too much into it too much.
Just ask him out ffs!
My friend was in school with him and said he was a good boy, always respectful, very sporty and was in all the top sets so bit of a boffin kind of thing.
I think he knows I'm into him but like he's never been down the online dating route, like when I've had conversations in the past about guys I've met on tinder (I haven't said I'm on here I've said guys I've met have been off there) he's always said you should get off there cos what he's heard off his mates is that guys only want one thing on sites like that, oh if he knew I was on here!
Just need out schedules to align and I will ask him if we can do something together. Like Billy-Bob said he asked him if I was seeing anyone and billybob said no I know that she is not, then asked me if next time he sees guy I fancy if he can just bloody tell him I'm attracted to him but I said no and that I need to do it myself. That's the right way isn't it. "
Don't drag it out for yourself. It's the same person as before, just go with the suggestion of asking him for a drink. It sounds like you're both putting Billy-Bob in the middle of this. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"I read it a lot on here and think some people can be too picky. We can't control things like our character, height, looks, hair colour etc and sometimes, being particular about physical traits can make you overlook a great person. But some guys just want their Barbie, their perfect 10?
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If you read threads and statuses from guys they'd say the same about ladies..wanting kens although whenever a guy says similar he's shot down and told no one has to take one for the team.
We all find different ttraits attractive some folk are willing to overlook those if they're feeling horny.
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"He won't date a woman who has had more than 3 sexual partners.
He won't date fat women.
He won't date a woman who shops at Primark.
He won't date a woman who works at Primark.
But he might fuck all of them, several times. "
You funny !!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You’re over-thinking again MsW.
Is the new phrase Fix-It or is it still Yazoo?
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Fix up is for when I'm not listening to proper advice that is genuinely good for me.
Yazoo is when I'm about to go super saiyan and kick off and have a melt down. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
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"You’re over-thinking again MsW.
Is the new phrase Fix-It or is it still Yazoo?
Fix up is for when I'm not listening to proper advice that is genuinely good for me.
Yazoo is when I'm about to go super saiyan and kick off and have a melt down. "
Fix-up then. Stop overthinking this, as you have been for several weeks.
Suggest a drink. Leave Billy-Bob out of it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I read it a lot on here and think some people can be too picky. We can't control things like our character, height, looks, hair colour etc and sometimes, being particular about physical traits can make you overlook a great person. But some guys just want their Barbie, their perfect 10?
If you read threads and statuses from guys they'd say the same about ladies..wanting kens although whenever a guy says similar he's shot down and told no one has to take one for the team.
We all find different ttraits attractive some folk are willing to overlook those if they're feeling horny.
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They are looking for sex though, not a boyfriend. |
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"You’re over-thinking again MsW.
Is the new phrase Fix-It or is it still Yazoo?
Fix up is for when I'm not listening to proper advice that is genuinely good for me.
Yazoo is when I'm about to go super saiyan and kick off and have a melt down.
Fix-up then. Stop overthinking this, as you have been for several weeks.
Suggest a drink. Leave Billy-Bob out of it.
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I'd say I've got quite high standards, I've dated some very good looking women over the years and it kind of set the bar for me. I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone based purely on looks but they are the first thing that makes me want to get to know them better and see if the personality is good too (often it's not but I still hold out hope!) |
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"One person’s high standards are another one’s bog standard; only he can quantify what he means by the phrase. "
Exactly, it could be looks, or morality, or character, or career choice...... any number of things
I would include all sorts of things like that. |
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"If a man said that I'd think he was only going to date a woman who:
- is very good looking
- has good grooming
- is from a good family
- lives off a substantial trust fund
- has a good education
- has a perfect body
- is a virgin
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This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I was single and looking to date women with the view of things progressing into a relationship then absolutely I’d have high standards.
Why wouldn’t you? 
It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s needs to be a size 8 and have £100k stashed in the bank.
It means I’d have to find her both physically and mentally attractive and she had her shit together.
Working all week just to have enough to be a weekend millionaire in the local cocktail lounge getting absolutely twatted would not be the standard I’d be looking for.......I know loads of gorgeous looking women who live exactly like that.......I wouldn’t date any of them. Standards isn’t just about looks. |
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"If a man said that I'd think he was only going to date a woman who:
- is very good looking
- has good grooming
- is from a good family
- lives off a substantial trust fund
- has a good education
- has a perfect body
- is a virgin
This. "
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"This is not something I have heard many say in real life. Plenty on fab seem to state it though. It just sounds pretentious to even me. And I like dauphinoise potatoes!
They may not actualy say that but you know what they mean when they talk about women they dont want.
A simple "my sausage ain't going there" would suffice then"
I was thinking of men who say they dont want to have a relationship with anyone who isnt slim, who has got kids or who hasnt got a good job. |
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