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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago
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No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having the opposite problem just now, too many good blokes I want to meet, not enough time to meet them all 
I think there are plenty of good guys to go around. "
Aww thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m single, can hold a conversation, semi decent looking (depending on how many you’ve drank), can laugh at myself and love meeting new people.
I’m just shit at Geography  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m struggling with the attraction part, not many in London that would be my type
But once this thread brings a few dozen blokes out you can pick a few that take your fancy  "
If. Not once. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m struggling with the attraction part, not many in London that would be my type
But once this thread brings a few dozen blokes out you can pick a few that take your fancy "
I never see any on the forums. |
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong "
I used to get a lot of girls on online dating sites tell me how nice I am to talk to, how I seem like a decent guy, how speaking to me is like a breath of fresh air, etc. I always assumed they were merely being polite, or just paying me a compliment. That was until I recommended POF to one of my friends.
Cut a long story short, I ended up buying her a box of chocolates to apologise for putting her through that ordeal. There really is no shortage of arseholes and weirdos online lol |
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Does no one else find it cringeworthy when people are like 'im a nice guy, look how nice I am, I'm not like the other arseholes out there'. If you feel the need to point out how much of a good guy you are, then it's false and forced |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m struggling with the attraction part, not many in London that would be my type
But once this thread brings a few dozen blokes out you can pick a few that take your fancy
I never see any on the forums. "
I am having the same problem but obviously around the north west..
But tbh the majority of messages i get are from people who have done a local search |
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"I’m struggling with the attraction part, not many in London that would be my type
But once this thread brings a few dozen blokes out you can pick a few that take your fancy
I never see any on the forums.
I am having the same problem but obviously around the north west..
But tbh the majority of messages i get are from people who have done a local search "
I've done a local search. I got very disheartened very quickly. |
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The traditional route of speaking to people face to face is not a dying art. This may shock people, there are plenty of great males and females who are not in the site. So, let’s all put down the devices for a while and explore the real world!
Yes I see the irony of sending this message via a device  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm looking, but I also have to add the caveat of no Arsenal supporters. Supporters from other teams will be considered on a case by case basis "
Spurs fan is that ok |
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"The traditional route of speaking to people face to face is not a dying art. This may shock people, there are plenty of great males and females who are not in the site. So, let’s all put down the devices for a while and explore the real world!
Yes I see the irony of sending this message via a device "
Daft question, but where am I meant to have these fantastic conversations? Especially as men don't look at me twice in the real world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m single, can hold a conversation, semi decent looking (depending on how many you’ve drank), can laugh at myself and love meeting new people.
I’m just shit at Geography "
You've got a face I'd love to sit on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fair if shes not confident enough to speak for herself id not be bothered anyway
It's a good job you don't live in the target area then, isn't it? "
Tis |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fair if shes not confident enough to speak for herself id not be bothered anyway
It's a good job you don't live in the target area then, isn't it? "
If its you i dont really see the point of this thread if your profile is hidden.. surely it has to be a 2 way attraction? |
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"To be fair if shes not confident enough to speak for herself id not be bothered anyway
It's a good job you don't live in the target area then, isn't it?
If its you i dont really see the point of this thread if your profile is hidden.. surely it has to be a 2 way attraction?"
I couldn't see the point of him coming in and making that statement.
But, hey, I'm not allowed to point that out apparently.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fair if shes not confident enough to speak for herself id not be bothered anyway
It's a good job you don't live in the target area then, isn't it?
If its you i dont really see the point of this thread if your profile is hidden.. surely it has to be a 2 way attraction?
I couldn't see the point of him coming in and making that statement.
But, hey, I'm not allowed to point that out apparently. "
I have no hard feelings love im sure theres more than just me that wants a woman confident enough to ask her own questions in the area of choice but some guys will |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be fair if shes not confident enough to speak for herself id not be bothered anyway
It's a good job you don't live in the target area then, isn't it?
If its you i dont really see the point of this thread if your profile is hidden.. surely it has to be a 2 way attraction?"
That was kinda my point.... why would a guy volunteer without knowing if he is attracted to this female first? |
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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago
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"That was kinda my point.... why would a guy volunteer without knowing if he is attracted to this female first?"
Because any guy would like the idea of raising their profile a bit.
If you get sent a message and you think the other person isn’t for you, you’re not obliged to get engaged, it’s ok |
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"Would you mind if I keep my good men secret  They're nowhere near where you want them anyway  "
I'm glad you have found some
I think this thread has proved that there aren't any in this area anyway - sorry Adam, thanks for trying! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m single, can hold a conversation, semi decent looking (depending on how many you’ve drank), can laugh at myself and love meeting new people.
I’m just shit at Geography
You've got a face I'd love to sit on "
Well that’s one way of covering my face unfortunately your profile is hidden more than my face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you mind if I keep my good men secret They're nowhere near where you want them anyway
Your good men will be too emotionally scarred after they get out of your dungeon "
Tis ok, Im not letting them out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you mind if I keep my good men secret They're nowhere near where you want them anyway
I'm glad you have found some
I think this thread has proved that there aren't any in this area anyway - sorry Adam, thanks for trying!"
There's a million more not on the forum though ( maybe not a million) . And more good than bad I find. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong "
She would have to like Mrs as well as we come as a pair haha |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong "
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong "
She’s not wrong |
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
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To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not |
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not "
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either."
I don't know if the op was about yourself .. however if this had been a single guy saying he was struggling to chat and or meet folk the responses would be vastly different..
We're all trying to inform and attract folk.. I know your profile is hidden however when its not..does it sell you..varied pictures text the entices .. in the real world it's not a lot different to here sell yourself be proactive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks."
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part |
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either.
I don't know if the op was about yourself .. however if this had been a single guy saying he was struggling to chat and or meet folk the responses would be vastly different..
We're all trying to inform and attract folk.. I know your profile is hidden however when its not..does it sell you..varied pictures text the entices .. in the real world it's not a lot different to here sell yourself be proactive."
When my profile is unhidden, I do get messages.
I don't have any pictures up though because I'm not an object. I can only imagine how many more crude messages I would get (yes, I get a lot even with no pictures) if I had any up |
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part "
That's the issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
That's the issue."
Catch 22 |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either.
I don't know if the op was about yourself .. however if this had been a single guy saying he was struggling to chat and or meet folk the responses would be vastly different..
We're all trying to inform and attract folk.. I know your profile is hidden however when its not..does it sell you..varied pictures text the entices .. in the real world it's not a lot different to here sell yourself be proactive.
When my profile is unhidden, I do get messages.
I don't have any pictures up though because I'm not an object. I can only imagine how many more crude messages I would get (yes, I get a lot even with no pictures) if I had any up "
This is what would be said to a guy.. "you've no pictures why would folk look at your profile when there's lots of others with better profiles"..
I'm now gonna say from a guy's point of view.. a guy who is what the op was about a good man who likely has choices..why is he gonna stop at your profile when there's lots of others with pictures etc..
You don't want loads of messages block guys and search yourself..
As I said ^^^^up there..you might need to up your game. |
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either.
I don't know if the op was about yourself .. however if this had been a single guy saying he was struggling to chat and or meet folk the responses would be vastly different..
We're all trying to inform and attract folk.. I know your profile is hidden however when its not..does it sell you..varied pictures text the entices .. in the real world it's not a lot different to here sell yourself be proactive.
When my profile is unhidden, I do get messages.
I don't have any pictures up though because I'm not an object. I can only imagine how many more crude messages I would get (yes, I get a lot even with no pictures) if I had any up
This is what would be said to a guy.. "you've no pictures why would folk look at your profile when there's lots of others with better profiles"..
I'm now gonna say from a guy's point of view.. a guy who is what the op was about a good man who likely has choices..why is he gonna stop at your profile when there's lots of others with pictures etc..
You don't want loads of messages block guys and search yourself..
As I said ^^^^up there..you might need to up your game."
I'm also not a piece of meat, which is what I'll become if I post pictures.
And I have searched. No luck. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either.
I don't know if the op was about yourself .. however if this had been a single guy saying he was struggling to chat and or meet folk the responses would be vastly different..
We're all trying to inform and attract folk.. I know your profile is hidden however when its not..does it sell you..varied pictures text the entices .. in the real world it's not a lot different to here sell yourself be proactive.
When my profile is unhidden, I do get messages.
I don't have any pictures up though because I'm not an object. I can only imagine how many more crude messages I would get (yes, I get a lot even with no pictures) if I had any up
This is what would be said to a guy.. "you've no pictures why would folk look at your profile when there's lots of others with better profiles"..
I'm now gonna say from a guy's point of view.. a guy who is what the op was about a good man who likely has choices..why is he gonna stop at your profile when there's lots of others with pictures etc..
You don't want loads of messages block guys and search yourself..
As I said ^^^^up there..you might need to up your game.
I'm also not a piece of meat, which is what I'll become if I post pictures.
And I have searched. No luck."
With no pictures you will inevitably attract the "any hole's a goal" crowd. Sorry but that's just fact. And from what you're sating you're being treated like a piece of meat with no pictures anyway. Maybe time to try something different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part "
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time. "
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"No, not the title of a Hollywood blockbuster prequel but something that a woman on here said to me. My own limitations are obvious, being married is the main one, looking like Quasimodo’s uglier twin is another.
But it seems that plenty of women here have the same problem - it’s not a shortage of blokes but a shortage of blokes you’d want to meet or even chat to.
So if you’re in the north west of London to south of Birmingham, interesting, intelligent, not a misogynist or a controlling pillock then put your name down here so she can browse your profiles.
I said there must be loads of blokes she could chat to, don’t prove me wrong
I often see this complaint from ladies and couples .. loads of guys but none are who I'd like to meet..
Well.. here's the kicker ..the blokes you're on about intelligent fun show folk respect have manners etc etc..
They're the guys that lots of folk would like to meet .... so the ladies and couples might need to up their game to attract those guys as the chances are, they're likely already out there meeting folk and having a blast..
To be honest, I don't think they exist in the real world either.
I don't know if the op was about yourself .. however if this had been a single guy saying he was struggling to chat and or meet folk the responses would be vastly different..
We're all trying to inform and attract folk.. I know your profile is hidden however when its not..does it sell you..varied pictures text the entices .. in the real world it's not a lot different to here sell yourself be proactive.
When my profile is unhidden, I do get messages.
I don't have any pictures up though because I'm not an object. I can only imagine how many more crude messages I would get (yes, I get a lot even with no pictures) if I had any up
This is what would be said to a guy.. "you've no pictures why would folk look at your profile when there's lots of others with better profiles"..
I'm now gonna say from a guy's point of view.. a guy who is what the op was about a good man who likely has choices..why is he gonna stop at your profile when there's lots of others with pictures etc..
You don't want loads of messages block guys and search yourself..
As I said ^^^^up there..you might need to up your game.
I'm also not a piece of meat, which is what I'll become if I post pictures.
And I have searched. No luck."
I don't know what it is you seek ..you do.. nothing to say that guy exists on here at the moment, maybe tomorrow who knows ...I see this mentioned regularly..this is an avenue nothing to say it's the only avenue you're using .
If you don't change something the result will be the same.. chances are you'll be left with what you've got ...if you're happy with that do nothing if you're not change ...
Single guys are told effort in reward out.. I say the same to couples and single ladies |
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"BrightonSteve has got the same problem as me.
180 degrees of water to the south of us and as far as I know, there are no mermaids using Fab as yet."
But at least you have a reasonable population near you.
I have the North Sea on one side and farmland/rivers on the other!
Chatted to a lively seal though... |
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them "
Trust me, the majority can't. |
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them "
No they really can't hold a conversation. To be fair they probably just think I'm a nutter.
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them
Trust me, the majority can't."
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them
Trust me, the majority can't."
Most of the men that message me have little in the way of conversation, zero sense of humour and not alot of self awareness.
Many of them cant even remember what they've written on their profile!
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them
Trust me, the majority can't.
Most of the men that message me have little in the way of conversation, zero sense of humour and not alot of self awareness.
Many of them cant even remember what they've written on their profile!
Which is a tad worrying"
Maybe the guys you'd be interested in don't message you as your profile gives little to go on so they skip yours and head to a more informative one..one that might give them an idea of common interests ... the guys that do message likely haven't read your line of text they just looked at the boob's.. two sides to every conversation not always just the guys fault |
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them
Trust me, the majority can't.
Most of the men that message me have little in the way of conversation, zero sense of humour and not alot of self awareness.
Many of them cant even remember what they've written on their profile!
Which is a tad worrying
Maybe the guys you'd be interested in don't message you as your profile gives little to go on so they skip yours and head to a more informative one..one that might give them an idea of common interests ... the guys that do message likely haven't read your line of text they just looked at the boob's.. two sides to every conversation not always just the guys fault "
Yup
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"BrightonSteve has got the same problem as me.
180 degrees of water to the south of us and as far as I know, there are no mermaids using Fab as yet.
But at least you have a reasonable population near you.
I have the North Sea on one side and farmland/rivers on the other!
Chatted to a lively seal though..."
Yeah but does she do anal? |
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"It's not the fact if your a 'good' guy or not, what ever that actually means. It's a question of attraction , if there is no attraction, there is nothing happening, regardless of being a 'good guy or not
If a bloke thinks he can get away on just looks alone, he would be very disappointed. I prefer a bloke that I can talk to over looks.
True, but initially it's all about attraction, profile etc. How do you know you can talk to a guy if you don't actually talk to him first. It's getting a conversation started that is that hard part
I try and talk to men but they either can't think of anything to say or they start talking about sex after 3 messages.
I realise they really only want a fuck so I wish them well and don't waste their time.
Apart from the fact it is a sex site, im sure most men can hold a conversation. Probably shocked that someone is actually talking to them
Trust me, the majority can't.
Most of the men that message me have little in the way of conversation, zero sense of humour and not alot of self awareness.
Many of them cant even remember what they've written on their profile!
Which is a tad worrying
Maybe the guys you'd be interested in don't message you as your profile gives little to go on so they skip yours and head to a more informative one..one that might give them an idea of common interests ... the guys that do message likely haven't read your line of text they just looked at the boob's.. two sides to every conversation not always just the guys fault
Yup
That'll be it"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going to do an experiment. I'll unhide my profile as it is for 24.
Next Saturday, I'll do the same and unhide my pictures too.
Lets see if I get treated the same way?"
I love experiments. Do a new thread about it to keep track? |
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"I'm going to do an experiment. I'll unhide my profile as it is for 24.
Next Saturday, I'll do the same and unhide my pictures too.
Lets see if I get treated the same way?
I love experiments. Do a new thread about it to keep track?"
I will do once this thread fills up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m single, can hold a conversation, semi decent looking (depending on how many you’ve drank), can laugh at myself and love meeting new people.
I’m just shit at Geography "
Same - Geography not my strongest subject either |
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"And the thread is back on track(ish) "
I saw your message saying you will unhide your profile so i looked at it... perfectly reasonable requests within it.
Whats the experiment?. To see how many messages you recieve from people that havent read your profile?.
I do tend to read memebers profiles but will admit iam too tired to scrol through the whole thread to get the gist ... |
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"And the thread is back on track(ish)
Are you wanting profile advice or just seeing what happens with messages? "
I'm not wanting profile advice. I've been told that to get a better quality of man messaging me, I have to show some pictures.
I completely disagree. I believe I will only get crass messages from men (including faf/meet now), just more of them. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"And the thread is back on track(ish)
Are you wanting profile advice or just seeing what happens with messages?
I'm not wanting profile advice. I've been told that to get a better quality of man messaging me, I have to show some pictures.
I completely disagree. I believe I will only get crass messages from men (including faf/meet now), just more of them."
I never know why anyone would message anyone else with no public pics, I know I ignore all men who try to initiate contact with me  |
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"And the thread is back on track(ish)
Are you wanting profile advice or just seeing what happens with messages?
I'm not wanting profile advice. I've been told that to get a better quality of man messaging me, I have to show some pictures.
I completely disagree. I believe I will only get crass messages from men (including faf/meet now), just more of them.
I never know why anyone would message anyone else with no public pics, I know I ignore all men who try to initiate contact with me "
I do because I more interested in someone who makes me laugh than looks. |
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"And the thread is back on track(ish)
Are you wanting profile advice or just seeing what happens with messages?
I'm not wanting profile advice. I've been told that to get a better quality of man messaging me, I have to show some pictures.
I completely disagree. I believe I will only get crass messages from men (including faf/meet now), just more of them."
I never had a single pic on my profile until after I stopped meeting. I was told the same thing about needing pics. Utter rubbish, I had no problem whatsoever meeting the type of man I enjoy. Having pics would have attracted the complete opposite of what I was looking for x |
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"And the thread is back on track(ish)
Are you wanting profile advice or just seeing what happens with messages?
I'm not wanting profile advice. I've been told that to get a better quality of man messaging me, I have to show some pictures.
I completely disagree. I believe I will only get crass messages from men (including faf/meet now), just more of them.
I never know why anyone would message anyone else with no public pics, I know I ignore all men who try to initiate contact with me "
I've had two messages so far. Not faf, but from people that haven't read my profile. Currently no pictures on my profile. |
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"And the thread is back on track(ish)
Are you wanting profile advice or just seeing what happens with messages?
I'm not wanting profile advice. I've been told that to get a better quality of man messaging me, I have to show some pictures.
I completely disagree. I believe I will only get crass messages from men (including faf/meet now), just more of them.
I never had a single pic on my profile until after I stopped meeting. I was told the same thing about needing pics. Utter rubbish, I had no problem whatsoever meeting the type of man I enjoy. Having pics would have attracted the complete opposite of what I was looking for x"
I'm glad that someone else understands my point of view! |
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I guess there are different people looking for different things on fab .
Although the theory of a swinging site suggests nsa sex , it seems so much more than that these days . Lots of people say it’s more like a dating site , especially with how many singles ( who don’t want to meet couples ) are on here now . So we get singles saying they can’t find anyone suitable on a swinging site . They want someone special , exclusive , someone who will make them laugh , or in other words a boyfriend or girlfriend . And as soon as anyone dares to suggest that a swinging site isn’t the place to look for that , they get jumped on and are told it’s up to anyone to look for whatever they want .
Ah well , no worries I’m sure the right man or women will be out there for all the single swingers who aren’t really swingers , but whether they are on here is another matter . |
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"I guess there are different people looking for different things on fab .
Although the theory of a swinging site suggests nsa sex , it seems so much more than that these days . Lots of people say it’s more like a dating site , especially with how many singles ( who don’t want to meet couples ) are on here now . So we get singles saying they can’t find anyone suitable on a swinging site . They want someone special , exclusive , someone who will make them laugh , or in other words a boyfriend or girlfriend . And as soon as anyone dares to suggest that a swinging site isn’t the place to look for that , they get jumped on and are told it’s up to anyone to look for whatever they want .
Ah well , no worries I’m sure the right man or women will be out there for all the single swingers who aren’t really swingers , but whether they are on here is another matter ."
I'm single and would class myself as a swinger.
The main reason I'm looking for someone regular (not a exclusive) is because there are things I would like to experience which I either can't on my own, or need someone I trust with me to make sure I'm safe. |
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"I guess there are different people looking for different things on fab .
Although the theory of a swinging site suggests nsa sex , it seems so much more than that these days . Lots of people say it’s more like a dating site , especially with how many singles ( who don’t want to meet couples ) are on here now . So we get singles saying they can’t find anyone suitable on a swinging site . They want someone special , exclusive , someone who will make them laugh , or in other words a boyfriend or girlfriend . And as soon as anyone dares to suggest that a swinging site isn’t the place to look for that , they get jumped on and are told it’s up to anyone to look for whatever they want .
Ah well , no worries I’m sure the right man or women will be out there for all the single swingers who aren’t really swingers , but whether they are on here is another matter ."
I learned a while back that this place is not the place to find a significant other. Exceptions being someone you want to have a swinging relationship with.
But for me I want someone meaningful and exclusive. Single guys on here are here for a stop gap between relationships they seek from the real world.
Sooner people realise that people are only here for sex then there'll be less heartache and frustration. |
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"I'm having the opposite problem just now, too many good blokes I want to meet, not enough time to meet them all
I think there are plenty of good guys to go around. "
Well with the ratios of men to women, we can't all be arseholes. Can we? Okay.... |
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over a year ago
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Well with the ratios of men to women, we can't all be arseholes. Can we? Okay....
Unless I'm missing something, these are generally 50 /50?
Not on this site."
That's a very high arsehole ratio.. |
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"I guess there are different people looking for different things on fab .
Although the theory of a swinging site suggests nsa sex , it seems so much more than that these days . Lots of people say it’s more like a dating site , especially with how many singles ( who don’t want to meet couples ) are on here now . So we get singles saying they can’t find anyone suitable on a swinging site . They want someone special , exclusive , someone who will make them laugh , or in other words a boyfriend or girlfriend . And as soon as anyone dares to suggest that a swinging site isn’t the place to look for that , they get jumped on and are told it’s up to anyone to look for whatever they want .
Ah well , no worries I’m sure the right man or women will be out there for all the single swingers who aren’t really swingers , but whether they are on here is another matter .
I'm single and would class myself as a swinger.
The main reason I'm looking for someone regular (not a exclusive) is because there are things I would like to experience which I either can't on my own, or need someone I trust with me to make sure I'm safe."
Someone regular I think would be good for exploring things as you build up trust plus intimicacy can lead to great sex.
Now that said..please tell me Oxford is less than 30 miles from Birmingham? x |
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"I guess there are different people looking for different things on fab .
Although the theory of a swinging site suggests nsa sex , it seems so much more than that these days . Lots of people say it’s more like a dating site , especially with how many singles ( who don’t want to meet couples ) are on here now . So we get singles saying they can’t find anyone suitable on a swinging site . They want someone special , exclusive , someone who will make them laugh , or in other words a boyfriend or girlfriend . And as soon as anyone dares to suggest that a swinging site isn’t the place to look for that , they get jumped on and are told it’s up to anyone to look for whatever they want .
Ah well , no worries I’m sure the right man or women will be out there for all the single swingers who aren’t really swingers , but whether they are on here is another matter .
I learned a while back that this place is not the place to find a significant other. Exceptions being someone you want to have a swinging relationship with.
But for me I want someone meaningful and exclusive. Single guys on here are here for a stop gap between relationships they seek from the real world.
Sooner people realise that people are only here for sex then there'll be less heartache and frustration. "
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I think the whole point of this thread got lost after it got hijacked with unwanted tips and profile advice.
The point was to prove that there are decent men out there who can hold a conversation and aren't controlling arseholes (within a certain geographical area).
The women that were looking for that could then message any profile that took their fancy.
If the person messaging didn't meet your criteria, you didn't have to respond |
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"I guess there are different people looking for different things on fab .
Although the theory of a swinging site suggests nsa sex , it seems so much more than that these days . Lots of people say it’s more like a dating site , especially with how many singles ( who don’t want to meet couples ) are on here now . So we get singles saying they can’t find anyone suitable on a swinging site . They want someone special , exclusive , someone who will make them laugh , or in other words a boyfriend or girlfriend . And as soon as anyone dares to suggest that a swinging site isn’t the place to look for that , they get jumped on and are told it’s up to anyone to look for whatever they want .
Ah well , no worries I’m sure the right man or women will be out there for all the single swingers who aren’t really swingers , but whether they are on here is another matter .
I learned a while back that this place is not the place to find a significant other. Exceptions being someone you want to have a swinging relationship with.
But for me I want someone meaningful and exclusive. Single guys on here are here for a stop gap between relationships they seek from the real world.
Sooner people realise that people are only here for sex then there'll be less heartache and frustration.
Absolutely spot on "
This is what makes me laugh.........
People state what they are looking for on their profiles.... Come into the forums shouting They will not settle for less...
What they don’t realize is that they just gave every guy on here a dream to sell them.
Then they complain men are liars......
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The problem is that women set there targets unrealistic high all expecting the perfect man and not be rude but perfect men do not exist ... and it's a maybe a fab thing due to how it works but lots of women think there better than they are no disrespect but everyone women and male needs to look in the mirror and discover that your not perfect |
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"The problem is that women set there targets unrealistic high all expecting the perfect man and not be rude but perfect men do not exist ... and it's a maybe a fab thing due to how it works but lots of women think there better than they are no disrespect but everyone women and male needs to look in the mirror and discover that your not perfect "
Wanting a bloke I can hold a conversation with and have good sex with is high standards?
I know I'm not perfect. I also know the perfect man doesn't exist. |
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over a year ago
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I don't actually think Fab is that different from real life - we don't fancy (or even get along with) everyone we meet as we go about our normal day to day business - some people we'll dislike, some will become friends and others will become more than that.
The trouble with Fab though is that *some* people lose sight of those basic facts and as a result have their expectations set totally wrong. Just because it's a site related to sex, doesn't automatically mean you are going to want to have sex with everyone, or they you.
There still has to be a level of comparability - now it may be *different* from the comparability you look for in a long term relationship but it's still needed.
Those that don't realise that (and let's be honest it is mostly single men) get frustrated when their hoped for meets and instant gratification don't come to fruition and some act like arses as a result.
A lot is made of the gender imbalance on here and it's true the ratio of men to women/couples is huge - however I honestly believe that if you take out those men that don't "get" the site or who do have a false expectation of it that the balance is more even (not completely so but a lot closer than most think).
So yes, there are decent blokes out there who go about their Fab business quietly, positively and with the right approach the trouble is seeing the wood for the trees |
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"I don't actually think Fab is that different from real life - we don't fancy (or even get along with) everyone we meet as we go about our normal day to day business - some people we'll dislike, some will become friends and others will become more than that.
The trouble with Fab though is that *some* people lose sight of those basic facts and as a result have their expectations set totally wrong. Just because it's a site related to sex, doesn't automatically mean you are going to want to have sex with everyone, or they you.
There still has to be a level of comparability - now it may be *different* from the comparability you look for in a long term relationship but it's still needed.
Those that don't realise that (and let's be honest it is mostly single men) get frustrated when their hoped for meets and instant gratification don't come to fruition and some act like arses as a result.
*** A lot is made of the gender imbalance on here and it's true the ratio of men to women/couples is huge - however I honestly believe that if you take out those men that don't "get" the site or who do have a false expectation of it that the balance is more even (not completely so but a lot closer than most think).
***
So yes, there are decent blokes out there who go about their Fab business quietly, positively and with the right approach the trouble is seeing the wood for the trees "
I agree - but especially this bit. ***
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