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Is the way that you interact on the forums a reflection of your true self?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? "
Yes I'm the same in the real world (not saying that's a good thing) but the big difference is in real life people see your body language and hear your tone.
Sometimes my comments can appear harsh written but most of the time I don't intend it to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No a think I’m more honest and open on forum, in person I can be quite guarded and quiet only open up when know someone. But on forum I tell ppl how feeling my excitement or fears
I even posted how depressed I was an had been but I hid that from ppl who care due to shame and fear of weakness |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
The ONLY difference between my forum character and my in person one is that in person I'm a little less outgoing and border on being shy until I'm comfortable with someone or a situation - on here the ability to be able to think of and formulate a response before you post it allows me to be a little more comfortable and confident in expressing my thoughts and opinions.
Those thoughts and opinions don't change between the two mediums but I may not always express them in person if I'm not comfortable with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like to think that when people meet me in person I am the same as I come across on the forums.
I'm a genuine caring person in real life and would like to think that shows in my posts.
I'm also a very horny lady who adores sex. I hope that comes across in both the forums and when people meet me too  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I've been told I am nicer/warmer in person than on here. I don't post anything I wouldn't say face to face.
I think a lot of the problems with the internet is people saying things they would never say to someone.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It's a fairly subjective thing though isn't it? How other forum users view you that is. One particular post and that's their way of interpreting you set - posts will be ignored or remembered depending on what fits that particular preconception.
Am I like how I am on the forum? Yes, if we speak about the same topics. Actually I'm slightly more sarcastic and prone to bumbling if I fangirl over you. |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"I've been told I am nicer/warmer in person than on here. I don't post anything I wouldn't say face to face.
I think a lot of the problems with the internet is people saying things they would never say to someone.
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Your nicer and warmer in real life.
What absolute cattle shite! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been told I am nicer/warmer in person than on here. I don't post anything I wouldn't say face to face.
I think a lot of the problems with the internet is people saying things they would never say to someone.
Your nicer and warmer in real life.
What absolute cattle shite!"
Maybe it was the other way round.  |
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? "
Honestly, I'm a little shy in real life, until i am turned on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen?
Yes I'm the same in the real world (not saying that's a good thing) but the big difference is in real life people see your body language and hear your tone.
Sometimes my comments can appear harsh written but most of the time I don't intend it to be"
Same for me. |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"I've been told I am nicer/warmer in person than on here. I don't post anything I wouldn't say face to face.
I think a lot of the problems with the internet is people saying things they would never say to someone.
Your nicer and warmer in real life.
What absolute cattle shite!
Maybe it was the other way round. "
What, that I'm nicer and warmer in real life, Awww xx |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been told I am nicer/warmer in person than on here. I don't post anything I wouldn't say face to face.
I think a lot of the problems with the internet is people saying things they would never say to someone.
Your nicer and warmer in real life.
What absolute cattle shite!
Maybe it was the other way round.
What, that I'm nicer and warmer in real life, Awww xx"
No, me.
You're lovely on here and in real life.
(*Crosses fingers and hopes I can still have sex*)
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
London |
"I've been told I am nicer/warmer in person than on here. I don't post anything I wouldn't say face to face.
I think a lot of the problems with the internet is people saying things they would never say to someone.
Your nicer and warmer in real life.
What absolute cattle shite!
Maybe it was the other way round.
What, that I'm nicer and warmer in real life, Awww xx
No, me.
You're lovely on here and in real life.
(*Crosses fingers and hopes I can still have sex*)
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Lol...
Where is the heading too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody is going to admit putting a facade on! In reality we all do, whether we admit it to ourselves or not.
In real life, I’m far quicker to anger, take less shit and more likely to tell you to fuck off. Here, I pause, think and not respond when someone is being a knob. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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When on meets people have said they were intrigued to meet me (him) due to the forums which took me aback a little. Apparently I was what they expected, accent aside. Not sure whether that was a positive or a negative, didn't dwell either tbh.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea what I’m like online or offline!
At a guess you’re more dressed in real life? 
Not currently.
*swoon*"
Agreed. Most people faint at the sight of me naked. |
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"I have no idea what I’m like online or offline!
At a guess you’re more dressed in real life?
Not currently.
*swoon*
Agreed. Most people faint at the sight of me naked."
I’d quite like to wake up and have you naked as the first thing I see |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea what I’m like online or offline!
At a guess you’re more dressed in real life?
Not currently.
*swoon*
Agreed. Most people faint at the sight of me naked.
I’d quite like to wake up and have you naked as the first thing I see"
Nah! She'd just stick her tongue out at you and ask you what you think about the Dunning-Kruger effect |
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"I have no idea what I’m like online or offline!
At a guess you’re more dressed in real life?
Not currently.
*swoon*
Agreed. Most people faint at the sight of me naked.
I’d quite like to wake up and have you naked as the first thing I see
Nah! She'd just stick her tongue out at you and ask you what you think about the Dunning-Kruger effect "
To be honest my answer then wouldn’t be much less coherent than my answer now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was told at a social yesterday that I’m nothing in person like I’m on forums 
From what I saw and heard, you aren't at all how you appear on the forum"
And I’m validated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say so yes and I think most people will be.
I was going to say I’m probably more shy in real life but when you actually look at the threads I post in and my contributions there’s not a lot in it so I guess I’m shy on here aswell! |
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I’m nothing like people expect me to be in real life . I’ve met people who have said how funny I am in person , something that rarely happens on here .
It’s bloody hard to get humour into the written word on a forum , and people pre conceive how they think you are anyway , so often miss it .
I really don’t suffer fools gladly , either on here or in the real world , so maybe that’s why people on the forums sometimes struggle to get me . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I'm very much the same inside and outside of the forum. I'm always polite and will offer advice if asked but will always be constructive never rude. I'm also very happy go lucky glass half full type of person. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I do often wonder why social media has overtaken normal communication....The messages I receive on here make me wonder why men can't just conduct a normal conversation? Are we going backward as a nation? Can we no longer speak to each other as human beings? I find the whole concept bizarre if I am being honest  |
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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? "
Both depends how I am feel and what the subject is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very interesting and revealing replies....
If you think or communicate differently because your on a keyboard then I'd suggest there are issues somewhere.
If you think others a different when they are behind a keyboard then I'd suggest a mirror.
Surely you have to take people at face value and credit them with being themselves?
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I sincerely hope that some are very different when they step out from the keyboard. Although judging by their lack of ppl skills I expect this is the only way they communicate with folk. Some of the exchanges that take place exhibit the traits of a sociopath |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I sincerely hope that some are very different when they step out from the keyboard. Although judging by their lack of ppl skills I expect this is the only way they communicate with folk. Some of the exchanges that take place exhibit the traits of a sociopath "
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"The ONLY difference between my forum character and my in person one is that in person I'm a little less outgoing and border on being shy until I'm comfortable with someone or a situation - on here the ability to be able to think of and formulate a response before you post it allows me to be a little more comfortable and confident in expressing my thoughts and opinions.
Those thoughts and opinions don't change between the two mediums but I may not always express them in person if I'm not comfortable with someone."
This is how I am too x |
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? "
Mostly, although I guess there are people on here I wouldn't interract with and therefore be irritated by in real life. So more muted, but most of the stuff that irritates on here the people saying it wouldn't dare in real life, so swings and roundabouts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I talk about sex and personal stuff a lot more on the forum than I ever would in real life, but the person I am here, is the same as in real life. Slightly more able to express thoughts here, as I have time to write down what I want to say.
Confidence would need a boost in the flesh, but once I know you, you will be subject to the full force of my mindless chatter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? "
I don't hide behind a smoke screen but I will admit I am different in person. I just can't stand online bullying or sly digs of which some on these forums like to do towards others.
There's no need for it. I suppose some people like acting brave behind a screen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are you here then ?
Who me?
Yeah, you "
Ahhhhhh well i actually come on for your 35 threads a day as i find them enthralling, you are in the 1% that i love |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are you here then ?
Who me?
Yeah, you
Ahhhhhh well i actually come on for your 35 threads a day as i find them enthralling, you are in the 1% that i love "
Expect you remember when all this was Ceefax ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'm more guarded about what I say on the forums, and maybe in private messages too, much of the time, although sometimes I probably say more than I would normally do about some subjects.
It's often easier face to face, real world, for me to interact more openly with others. It's part of my life and work, and feels easier when I can see and hear others responses rather than just reading them through a screen.
While I may be less open here than in "normal" life the things I believe, care about, feel, are the same here and outside of fab even though I am more confident in expressing those things and allowing others closer to me than I ever can be on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are you here then ?
Who me?
Yeah, you
Ahhhhhh well i actually come on for your 35 threads a day as i find them enthralling, you are in the 1% that i love
Expect you remember when all this was Ceefax ?! "
Having a go at my age? Tut tut tut |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was talking with a forumite the other night and I was told how they think how I interact on here (not that I can remember what was said) and I said it was a fairly true representation of how I am in real life.
Have other forumites made comments about your behaviour on the forums and did you agree with those views? Is your behaviour online a fair representation of how you behave offline, or do you hide behind a bit of a smoke screen? "
I've met people from the forums who are totally different offline, all talk here but empty in reality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are you here then ?
Who me?
Yeah, you
Ahhhhhh well i actually come on for your 35 threads a day as i find them enthralling, you are in the 1% that i love
Expect you remember when all this was Ceefax ?!
Having a go at my age? Tut tut tut"
Not really, more your demeanour. You’re always a grump, hankering for those halcyon days of the forum. |
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This isn't a true me.
I am very aware that my sense of humour doesn't translate that great in the written word. I can come across as a bitch when that isn't my intention, so I rarely type what I would say IRL. Plus I'm a lot more chatty and flirty but I would only get accused of favoritism. It just wouldn't come across the right way and it isn't worth the hassle. |
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