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I van be quite empathetic and sensitive.
But as a solitary person i try to avoid other people as much as i can get away with so that might not demonstrate good emotional intelligence? |
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"I van be quite empathetic and sensitive.
But as a solitary person i try to avoid other people as much as i can get away with so that might not demonstrate good emotional intelligence?"
It shows a high level of self awareness and the two are bed buddies... |
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"I dunno what you mean all i know is i appreciate things more the older i get dunno if its because im going soft as i age it’s called ‘coping with cretins’. "
doing my job, I excel at this
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"How does this manifest itself with you?"
I am very aware of the emotional dynamics between myself and others and am usually very empathetic. 
You remind me of a fabby cocktail I had recently - they took a whole pineapple, hollowed out the flesh, juiced it with coconut and rum and then put it back into the pineapple and simply added a straw! Was heavenly!!  |
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“I cry, I laugh a lot, I feel the pain from a push and shove but I still believe in love”
For me it’s about recognising and processing or responding to emotions appropriately, both in myself and others, rather than acting out my unresolved distress from earlier emotional experiences. |
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"How does this manifest itself with you?
I am very aware of the emotional dynamics between myself and others and am usually very empathetic.
You remind me of a fabby cocktail I had recently - they took a whole pineapple, hollowed out the flesh, juiced it with coconut and rum and then put it back into the pineapple and simply added a straw! Was heavenly!! "
I want one of those! |
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I fluctuate. I think I’ve reasonable emotional intelligence, and yet can be overly critical of myself and not celebrate the things I’m good at, instead focusing more on my failings and inability to be the best me that I’d like to be. On the one hand, I can peel back what’s really going for others to know how to interact to achieve a mutual and positive outcome, and yet when it’s in relation to me (say romantically) I’m awful, as I consistently start from the framing of my lack of worth. So, I don’t know if the lack of self esteem shows lack of emotional intelligence or is just a block that scuppers my true emotional intelligence at times. At a simplistic level, and not quite what EI is about, but what best summarises who I am; I’d say I’m very emotional and not so much intelligent. |
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Interesting. I see it as knowing yourself and being able to manage emotional input from other people, for example, I send a message and the reply is ‘unfortunate’ - do I start a moany thread? No. do I send a nasty reply? No. It’s about realising these things aren’t personal per se although they can appear to be and directly so. It makes it easier to manage fab life. |
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"People confuse not knowing with not caring. I can't stand working with sensitive people and thankfully I rarely have to.
#fuckyourfeelings"
You use sensitive as a pejorative, as though it can only mean someone who gets easily offended by the trivialist of things.
Someone could be sensitive towards others, pick up on emotional cues from them, realise when things are a bit off - but themselves be thick-skinned and not take things too personally... |
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"People confuse not knowing with not caring. I can't stand working with sensitive people and thankfully I rarely have to.
#fuckyourfeelings
You use sensitive as a pejorative, as though it can only mean someone who gets easily offended by the trivialist of things.
Someone could be sensitive towards others, pick up on emotional cues from them, realise when things are a bit off - but themselves be thick-skinned and not take things too personally..."
Absolutely and good distinction. What I'm saying is that my personal strategy is to polarise people early. That way you never end up relying on people that you have to tread on eggshells around.
I'm not saying everyone should follow that strategy either. It just works for me in the context of the career and lifestyle I've chosen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People confuse not knowing with not caring. I can't stand working with sensitive people and thankfully I rarely have to.
#fuckyourfeelings
You use sensitive as a pejorative, as though it can only mean someone who gets easily offended by the trivialist of things.
Someone could be sensitive towards others, pick up on emotional cues from them, realise when things are a bit off - but themselves be thick-skinned and not take things too personally..."
That's me. I don't take offence easily, if at all, but I see other people's reasons for being offended and can empathise with them. |
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Hearing the unspoken and feeling someone. It's many things, incredibly complex but becomes an art. It includes knowing how to be yourself, respect yourself and precision understanding of your needs, feelings and honouring them. Often it's just noticing your myriad of feelings, which will often help you to better understand those of others. It's complex but then people are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm thick...
And sometimes get emotional."
Yessssss ... oh thank you for writing that  I was reading through thinking OMG I am not commenting on this thread everyone expresses themselves so well ... and then you ... ahhhh that’s me too
... hopefully you weren’t joking  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm thick...
And sometimes get emotional.
Yessssss ... oh thank you for writing that I was reading through thinking OMG I am not commenting on this thread everyone expresses themselves so well ... and then you ... ahhhh that’s me too
... hopefully you weren’t joking "
Sorry for that blurt ... please continue, I was happily reading till my big mouth took over  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm thick...
And sometimes get emotional.
Yessssss ... oh thank you for writing that I was reading through thinking OMG I am not commenting on this thread everyone expresses themselves so well ... and then you ... ahhhh that’s me too
... hopefully you weren’t joking
Sorry for that blurt ... please continue, I was happily reading till my big mouth took over "
Well thank you. It's quite some time since I provoked a blurt
I'm only here to please provoke and point a sharpy stick at some threads when the muse is upon me...   |
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