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So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen. 
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that. |
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over a year ago
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Ah shit,
I’m sorry that that’s the conclusion of that story. Really shitty that she didn’t think to warn you that money had been stolen. Even if she thought it was you, she should have been upfront about it from the get go x |
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"Glad you got to the bottom of it, but like you say, she could have let you know that she had money taken."
There's every chance I've had some go too but not noticed.
I'll never know.
I feel awful for her tho. To me it's obvious who took it. The timescale it went was all when her fella was here. He's given her all really important reasons as to why he hasn't been around since....
Dad had heart attack, I'm down in London
Ex has tried to have kids taken off him.
I don't know if they're true or not, but I've been on the receiving end of someone making things up that are serious, to divert attention and make you feel guilty for questioning their motives/agenda |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dunno what to say to be honest she surely cant think its ok to install hidden cameras in your house had she had money stolen at work of anywhere else would she just install cams without asking no because she would get a bollocking |
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"Ah shit,
I’m sorry that that’s the conclusion of that story. Really shitty that she didn’t think to warn you that money had been stolen. Even if she thought it was you, she should have been upfront about it from the get go x"
Yeah, it's a big old mess. I'm proud of myself for taking control of the outcome tho. I hate giving bad news to people I care about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She's probably as confused as you are.
Head saying one thing, heart saying another.
It's very difficult to be objective when the heart is involved.
Yeah, she had really fallen for him."
End of the day
Look after you and yours 1st. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that."
I doubt it's the case and I really don't want to alarm you.. would the boyfriend have had any chance to get a key cut from your guests key(s) if he is a tea leaf and you've said you leave stuff about . he might come back if he has a kkey.. new lock(s) a few pounds each .. |
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I’m glad you’ve had the opportunity to talk to her about it, but she obviously has little respect for you to
A: set up a camera without telling you
B: suspecting you or your son
C: ignoring the fact her boyfriend had the opportunity and has been absent since.
Hopefully you’ll find a new house mate who will abide by your house rules and contribute to the upkeep of the house.
It’s a shame it happened and it was a harsh learning curve for you. X |
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"Banks are no longer a thing in England?
I've had a few thousand in cash in my house, before I get it to the bank. "
There's a post office at the top of my road she could have paid it into. She shouldn't have needed to though, it should have been safe. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that.
I doubt it's the case and I really don't want to alarm you.. would the boyfriend have had any chance to get a key cut from your guests key(s) if he is a tea leaf and you've said you leave stuff about . he might come back if he has a kkey.. new lock(s) a few pounds each .. "
Very good point, get the locks changed OP.
Sorry you're sad but it's for the best. It's even worse than you'd imagined. x |
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"Dunno what to say to be honest she surely cant think its ok to install hidden cameras in your house had she had money stolen at work of anywhere else would she just install cams without asking no because she would get a bollocking"
I can understand her not wanting to mention it so as not to upset me or have me lose my shit, she said she wanted go catch who it was so she could make sense of it all in her head. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that.
I doubt it's the case and I really don't want to alarm you.. would the boyfriend have had any chance to get a key cut from your guests key(s) if he is a tea leaf and you've said you leave stuff about . he might come back if he has a kkey.. new lock(s) a few pounds each .. "
Yes this is a fair point. |
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"She's probably as confused as you are.
Head saying one thing, heart saying another.
It's very difficult to be objective when the heart is involved.
Yeah, she had really fallen for him.
End of the day
Look after you and yours 1st. "
And that's what I'm gonna do. X |
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"I’m glad you’ve had the opportunity to talk to her about it, but she obviously has little respect for you to
A: set up a camera without telling you
B: suspecting you or your son
C: ignoring the fact her boyfriend had the opportunity and has been absent since.
Hopefully you’ll find a new house mate who will abide by your house rules and contribute to the upkeep of the house.
It’s a shame it happened and it was a harsh learning curve for you. X "
I won't have anyone else here now. That's me done helping people out to that extreme. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that.
I doubt it's the case and I really don't want to alarm you.. would the boyfriend have had any chance to get a key cut from your guests key(s) if he is a tea leaf and you've said you leave stuff about . he might come back if he has a kkey.. new lock(s) a few pounds each .. "
I'll sort it. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
"
End of conversation & goodbye.
Wonder if she told him about the camera if she's so sure? If he's a klepto perhaps he's worried about not being able to stop himself when around, hence not coming back & providing the evidence?
Similar vein we had a great babysitter,told her once we knew her it was OK to have her boyfriend over, first weekend he's over my full up 160gb iPod goes missing.
New sitter time, shame as girls & dog really liked her & she them.
S |
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She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
End of conversation & goodbye.
Wonder if she told him about the camera if she's so sure? If he's a klepto perhaps he's worried about not being able to stop himself when around, hence not coming back & providing the evidence?
Similar vein we had a great babysitter,told her once we knew her it was OK to have her boyfriend over, first weekend he's over my full up 160gb iPod goes missing.
New sitter time, shame as girls & dog really liked her & she them.
S"
Hurtful ain't it  |
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"Apart from the issue with the camera she didn't seem great to have as a guest house anyway. No-one wants to feel uncomfortable in their own home so it sounds like you did the best thing."
Just a matter of her going now. In her mum's garage this time. In a house where her brothers who have previously stolen from her live.
Ok. Typing that has made me  she's either really fucking unlucky with having money nicked or lying. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
End of conversation & goodbye.
Wonder if she told him about the camera if she's so sure? If he's a klepto perhaps he's worried about not being able to stop himself when around, hence not coming back & providing the evidence?
Similar vein we had a great babysitter,told her once we knew her it was OK to have her boyfriend over, first weekend he's over my full up 160gb iPod goes missing.
New sitter time, shame as girls & dog really liked her & she them.
S
Hurtful ain't it "
Sure is
S |
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She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
End of conversation & goodbye.
Wonder if she told him about the camera if she's so sure? If he's a klepto perhaps he's worried about not being able to stop himself when around, hence not coming back & providing the evidence?
Similar vein we had a great babysitter,told her once we knew her it was OK to have her boyfriend over, first weekend he's over my full up 160gb iPod goes missing.
New sitter time, shame as girls & dog really liked her & she them.
S
Hurtful ain't it
Sure is
S"
I hate it. I know people can be snides, but they really don't think of the fallout from the act itself. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that."
With friends like that........... |
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"Apart from the issue with the camera she didn't seem great to have as a guest house anyway. No-one wants to feel uncomfortable in their own home so it sounds like you did the best thing.
Just a matter of her going now. In her mum's garage this time. In a house where her brothers who have previously stolen from her live.
Ok. Typing that has made me she's either really fucking unlucky with having money nicked or lying."
Well I'm pretty sure if I was forever having money stolen I'd open an account or invest in a little safe and have minimal money on me at all time's. |
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"Apart from the issue with the camera she didn't seem great to have as a guest house anyway. No-one wants to feel uncomfortable in their own home so it sounds like you did the best thing.
Just a matter of her going now. In her mum's garage this time. In a house where her brothers who have previously stolen from her live.
Ok. Typing that has made me she's either really fucking unlucky with having money nicked or lying.
Well I'm pretty sure if I was forever having money stolen I'd open an account or invest in a little safe and have minimal money on me at all time's."
Yep. She's a fellow waitress and keeps all her cash tips separate from her wages. |
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"Did she meet him on fabswindlers.com?
If I wasn't sad I'd have proper laughed at that. "
It's all part of the pros and cons of being a landlord I'm afraid.
Toss your hair back, move on and forget it. I'm not belittling your issue one bit but believe me, tenants can be much more destructive than that. |
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"Did she meet him on fabswindlers.com?
If I wasn't sad I'd have proper laughed at that.
It's all part of the pros and cons of being a landlord I'm afraid.
Toss your hair back, move on and forget it. I'm not belittling your issue one bit but believe me, tenants can be much more destructive than that."
She's not a tenant, she's my friend. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that.
I doubt it's the case and I really don't want to alarm you.. would the boyfriend have had any chance to get a key cut from your guests key(s) if he is a tea leaf and you've said you leave stuff about . he might come back if he has a kkey.. new lock(s) a few pounds each ..
I'll sort it."
I d hope you didn't need to..sadly from experience it's best |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that."
Can I come stay at yours?  |
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"Did she meet him on fabswindlers.com?
If I wasn't sad I'd have proper laughed at that.
It's all part of the pros and cons of being a landlord I'm afraid.
Toss your hair back, move on and forget it. I'm not belittling your issue one bit but believe me, tenants can be much more destructive than that.
She's not a tenant, she's my friend."
Ouch. Well if she's a proper friend she'll come crawling back when she finally susses him. |
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"Did she meet him on fabswindlers.com?
If I wasn't sad I'd have proper laughed at that.
It's all part of the pros and cons of being a landlord I'm afraid.
Toss your hair back, move on and forget it. I'm not belittling your issue one bit but believe me, tenants can be much more destructive than that.
She's not a tenant, she's my friend.
Ouch. Well if she's a proper friend she'll come crawling back when she finally susses him."
When the trust is broken it's broken. It's a massive thing for me. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me.
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Because she thought it was you or your son by the looks of it....wise move to ask her to move out I think |
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Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me.
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Because she thought it was you or your son by the looks of it....wise move to ask her to move out I think "
Yep. I'm hurt but it's the right thing. My boy is here the weekend coming. I don't think my kid has the sun shining out of his arse and I know he ain't perfect, but no. Just no. As soon as she said his name I nearly puked. |
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Just to reiterate what's already been said, get news locks fitted asap.
Back and front door's and windows.
In the meantime hide anything ov value.
I'm glad you got it sorted, now it's time to reclaim your home, be comfortable and enjoy it. |
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"Just to reiterate what's already been said, get news locks fitted asap.
Back and front door's and windows.
In the meantime hide anything ov value.
I'm glad you got it sorted, now it's time to reclaim your home, be comfortable and enjoy it."
Once she's gone that is. Still gotta get her gone yet. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that.Can I come stay at yours? "
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Money and cameras aside. It all sounds like she is making you miserable and that is the one reason you need to reclaim your space. She’ll be inconvenienced for a while but ultimately you will have your space and your sanity back.
Sometimes the Mac Lady knows what she’s talking about. You need to tell her to leave.
It’s not you. It’s her.
I’m happy to tell her if you want. I’m well practised at this shit now |
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"She's probably as confused as you are.
Head saying one thing, heart saying another.
It's very difficult to be objective when the heart is involved.
Yeah, she had really fallen for him."
Oh she had love haze....
Wait no, it was the smoke.  |
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"Money and cameras aside. It all sounds like she is making you miserable and that is the one reason you need to reclaim your space. She’ll be inconvenienced for a while but ultimately you will have your space and your sanity back.
Sometimes the Mac Lady knows what she’s talking about. You need to tell her to leave.
It’s not you. It’s her.
I’m happy to tell her if you want. I’m well practised at this shit now"
Yahuh true story |
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"Seems to me she just doesnt want to admit its her bf when its obv it is ! She should of told u about the money and the camera imo "
Agreed. She's proper fallen for him and I think it's easier to believe it's not him to protect herself from the hurt. |
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Sorry peach,it doesn't add up to me. She belived it was you or your son who was taking the money. Sets a camera up to catch who ever is taking the cash ,then gives the game away to you about having the camera. Just doesn't add up.
Anyway she's going so it's the end of the problem. |
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You sound like a genuine kind heart...its sometimes hard but you really need to be less kind...theres a lot of people out there who will spot your decency and exploit it...im pretty sure none of my proper friends would install camera's in MY home without speaking to me-THEIR FRIEND...about it first...however a few ex aquaintences...sure. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that."
It was the boyfriend. 100%. Classic behaviour. You should have called the police in, at least that would eliminate any suspicion she had about you. You’re hardly going to call the police if you stole it are you. |
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"Sorry peach,it doesn't add up to me. She belived it was you or your son who was taking the money. Sets a camera up to catch who ever is taking the cash ,then gives the game away to you about having the camera. Just doesn't add up.
Anyway she's going so it's the end of the problem."
I went in the room on Thursday and activated the camera, 2 mins later I got a text from her asking why I was in there.
That's the only reason I know about it. |
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"She's not a tenant, she's my friend.
No she's not your friend Peach, she's a "user" and you were there to be used. Move on and learn from it."
You know I kind of agree.
Much as I love you your kind nature has been taken advantage of massively.
A friend would not behave the way she has x |
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"Sorry peach,it doesn't add up to me. She belived it was you or your son who was taking the money. Sets a camera up to catch who ever is taking the cash ,then gives the game away to you about having the camera. Just doesn't add up.
Anyway she's going so it's the end of the problem."
I went in the room on Thursday and activated the camera, 2 mins later I got a text from her asking why I was in there.
That's the only reason I know about it. |
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over a year ago
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if I were in your shoes Peach I wouldn’t be upset, I’d likely be extremely pissed off. That’s multiple counts of disrespect in my opinion:
1) accusing you in your own home
2) not informing you of something which directly affects you
And finally, being so shady about it. I’m a firm believer in saying what you mean and meaning what you say. If I had an issue with someone I wouldn’t refrain from saying anything nor would I feel the need to take what I perceive as shady measures to ensure it didn’t happen again. I’d do that thing that adults are supposed to do. You know, approach the person/people and talk.
Seems to me that only you have taken that approach and that says enough. |
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"You sound like a genuine kind heart...its sometimes hard but you really need to be less kind...theres a lot of people out there who will spot your decency and exploit it...im pretty sure none of my proper friends would install camera's in MY home without speaking to me-THEIR FRIEND...about it first...however a few ex aquaintences...sure."
Thank you.
I will always be kind (unless I'm being a cunt) as it's part of who I am. My home though shall remain that from this point on. It's made me realise that even tho I know it wasn't anyone I've let in my home, I'd feel sick to the core if it was. And I don't want anything like that on my conscience. Only person to live with me again will be my boy if he needed/wanted to. |
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"So... myself and my guest had the chat just now as to why she felt it necessary to put a motion sensor camera in the room I let her stay in.
She's had a lot of money stolen.
The only people who've been here are myself, my son for a few hours and her boyfriend who she's known a few months and hasn't been back since the money disappeared.
He's given her all the excuses under the sun as to why he's unable to come over.
She believes him and is certain it wasn't him.
That leaves myself or my son. Well, my kid sleeps in my room for the 2 nights in 8 weeks he's here.
I don't know where she puts her money, however I've heard her counting it while her boyfriend is there.
I pointed out the obvious... he knows where you keep it and has access to it when he sleeps over. She replied, yeah but the only time he's been left alone up there is when I've been in the shower. Yes dear, that's ample opportunity as is when you're asleep.
Needless to say she's moving out as I've explained I can't be feeling like a suspect in my own home, nor will I have my son feel like there's eyes on him for the brief time he's here.
The other side of the coin is that there has been someone in my house stealing, and she didn't think to warn me. I'm dreadful for leaving stuff lying about (yes, I'm too trusting) and in all honesty I'm that forgetful and scatterbrained I probably wouldn't even notice if something of mine went missing.
She was happy to protect her own stuff yet didn't give me the opportunity to do the same.
Gutted, hurt and feeling right stabbed in the back. But... I can understand why she did it.
And that's that.
It was the boyfriend. 100%. Classic behaviour. You should have called the police in, at least that would eliminate any suspicion she had about you. You’re hardly going to call the police if you stole it are you. "
I asked her earlier why she didn't call the police. She said coz she had no proof who it was and wanted to catch them in the act.
I said I'd have still called them and had that shit fingerprinted. Culprit found. |
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"if I were in your shoes Peach I wouldn’t be upset, I’d likely be extremely pissed off. That’s multiple counts of disrespect in my opinion:
1) accusing you in your own home
2) not informing you of something which directly affects you
And finally, being so shady about it. I’m a firm believer in saying what you mean and meaning what you say. If I had an issue with someone I wouldn’t refrain from saying anything nor would I feel the need to take what I perceive as shady measures to ensure it didn’t happen again. I’d do that thing that adults are supposed to do. You know, approach the person/people and talk.
Seems to me that only you have taken that approach and that says enough."
I went from upset to just about holding onto my shit when my son got brought in.. |
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over a year ago
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"if I were in your shoes Peach I wouldn’t be upset, I’d likely be extremely pissed off. That’s multiple counts of disrespect in my opinion:
1) accusing you in your own home
2) not informing you of something which directly affects you
And finally, being so shady about it. I’m a firm believer in saying what you mean and meaning what you say. If I had an issue with someone I wouldn’t refrain from saying anything nor would I feel the need to take what I perceive as shady measures to ensure it didn’t happen again. I’d do that thing that adults are supposed to do. You know, approach the person/people and talk.
Seems to me that only you have taken that approach and that says enough.
I went from upset to just about holding onto my shit when my son got brought in.."
I’m not surprised, I am very much the same. I’ll allow people to step a little too far when it comes to me but family... got to nip that in the bud straight away. I don’t know what to say peachy other than to offer some terrible jokes and grumpy company if you need it lol |
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"That’s really shit princess.
I have no mates I don’t trust.
Best off without her.
That's it ain't it.
I want to prove it wasn't me or my kid, purely to rub her nose in it but don't know how.
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I wouldn’t bother.
She’ll find out sooner or later.
Just send her on her way with a knowing smile and your best wishes, then continue being excellent x |
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"That’s really shit princess.
I have no mates I don’t trust.
Best off without her.
That's it ain't it.
I want to prove it wasn't me or my kid, purely to rub her nose in it but don't know how.
I wouldn’t bother.
She’ll find out sooner or later.
Just send her on her way with a knowing smile and your best wishes, then continue being excellent x"
I'm just waiting to find out when she's going. And I honestly do wish her well, everyone deserves peace and to feel comfortable. |
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"That’s really shit princess.
I have no mates I don’t trust.
Best off without her.
That's it ain't it.
I want to prove it wasn't me or my kid, purely to rub her nose in it but don't know how.
I wouldn’t bother.
She’ll find out sooner or later.
Just send her on her way with a knowing smile and your best wishes, then continue being excellent x
I'm just waiting to find out when she's going. And I honestly do wish her well, everyone deserves peace and to feel comfortable."
I don’t doubt that and I completely agree.
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