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Seeing as me and J are going to our first club on Saturday I have become very aware of my worst feature, that being my stomach as after losing a lot of weight I’m left with a few battle scars and overhangs  .
So it got me thinking, what’s other people’s worst parts of their own bodies? |
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"Thighs. Difficult to hide in a sexual situation.
Same with my stomach! Wondering if I can keep my shirt on all night lol."
Wear a sexy basque or similar (quarter cup or less in the bust). Hold ups/ stockings, suspenders, if things heat up your bust is exposed, knickers can come off, and stomach is covered. But as someone with some awful surgical scars, most guys don't care. |
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My tummy. I loathe it. I flinch when anyone touches it. A couple of guys I’ve met have lay with me and just stroked/rubbed it after only, although I’m dying inside, it feels really lovely. I’ll always appreciate them for that |
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"Thighs. Difficult to hide in a sexual situation.
Same with my stomach! Wondering if I can keep my shirt on all night lol.
Wear a sexy basque or similar (quarter cup or less in the bust). Hold ups/ stockings, suspenders, if things heat up your bust is exposed, knickers can come off, and stomach is covered. But as someone with some awful surgical scars, most guys don't care. "
I’m the man of the couple lol, might get odd looks if I rock up in a basque! |
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"My feet. Playing sport has made a right mess of them
Ditto!
Hate my feet.
I've broken all my toes over the years, a couple never healed properly.
I have ugly feet "
How have you broken all your toes!! |
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"My feet. Playing sport has made a right mess of them
Ditto!
Hate my feet.
I've broken all my toes over the years, a couple never healed properly.
I have ugly feet
How have you broken all your toes!! "
Broke all the bones in my left foot (along with half my body) in riding accident when I was 15
Toes, stamped on by several horses, playing rugby, kick boxing/mma, swimming, being a general clutz.
I started wearing flip flops/sandals for the first time last year, I try to kept my feet hidden
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"My tummy. I loathe it. I flinch when anyone touches it. A couple of guys I’ve met have lay with me and just stroked/rubbed it after only, although I’m dying inside, it feels really lovely. I’ll always appreciate them for that "
This for me too. It literally makes me want to lurch back, when it's touched. I hate it, so struggle to understand how some can find it comforting/attractive. Trying to overcome that though. It's a slow process  |
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"Seeing as me and J are going to our first club on Saturday I have become very aware of my worst feature, that being my stomach as after losing a lot of weight I’m left with a few battle scars and overhangs .
So it got me thinking, what’s other people’s worst parts of their own bodies? "
Same.
Try a waspie?
Or a corset?
Or a baby doll?
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"Thighs. Difficult to hide in a sexual situation.
Same with my stomach! Wondering if I can keep my shirt on all night lol.
Wear a sexy basque or similar (quarter cup or less in the bust). Hold ups/ stockings, suspenders, if things heat up your bust is exposed, knickers can come off, and stomach is covered. But as someone with some awful surgical scars, most guys don't care.
I’m the man of the couple lol, might get odd looks if I rock up in a basque! "
Oh, sorry, my mistake! |
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over a year ago
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Plenty of lumps and bumps I could do without, but the main thing I'm not too keen on is my slap head. Back in the day I was often called 'Tefal' and the name-calling still lingers. |
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over a year ago
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My bingo wings. I take after my nan in that department.
I also have a family nose which is quite big but i don’t mind it - it just means i don’t have delicate female features.
I would also love smaller feet so i can buy shoes wherever i wanted. |
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"Seeing as me and J are going to our first club on Saturday I have become very aware of my worst feature, that being my stomach as after losing a lot of weight I’m left with a few battle scars and overhangs .
So it got me thinking, what’s other people’s worst parts of their own bodies? "
I'm in the same boat.... But you know what, in club's, you see all shapes and sizes, no one gives a shit, I have never seen anyone look at anyone funny, or say a word about anyone... So just make the best of the bits you do like and forget about your wobbly bits XXX
Fb |
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over a year ago
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Same as a lot of the ladies here apparently - my stomach. I carry a lot of my weight there and hate it. My small boobs don’t complement it either 
Hate that feeling when a guy looks you over for the first time at a meet, even if it is appreciatively |
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over a year ago
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"my feet...and my toes especially 
Can't see them but I'm sure they are good and just like everyone else's  "
Not sure how i feel about someone white knighting something they can't even see!! Get a grip ffs... |
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over a year ago
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Thighs. Far, far too big and even when I lose weight they barely change.
Impossible to hide or disguise, only thing to do is wear the highest heels available and hope for the best. |
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"My tummy. I loathe it. I flinch when anyone touches it. A couple of guys I’ve met have lay with me and just stroked/rubbed it after only, although I’m dying inside, it feels really lovely. I’ll always appreciate them for that
This for me too. It literally makes me want to lurch back, when it's touched. I hate it, so struggle to understand how some can find it comforting/attractive. Trying to overcome that though. It's a slow process "
It’s so difficult isn’t it. One of the people that did it to me, also managed to get me naked (which I never ever do). The first time he lay and stroked my tummy I was almost crying I felt so ashamed, and couldn’t bring myself to even look at him. But he persuaded me to, kissed me and showed me in more ways than one, that even if I was turned off by my body, he certainly wasn’t. I’ve seen him since and he did the same. We don’t speak as much now (I don’t think it was my body that’s made that so ) and it’s a shame, as he was one guy of only a couple that made me feel almost at ease with myself |
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Tummy, due to stretch marks from child births and my thunder thighs
Only thing I've found is the recent weight lose, makes them more visible 
Pass me the biscuit tin someone
Mrs x |
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All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though. |
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My stomach, my upper arms, my legs, my face, but hey ho, I haven't had anyone say "uurgh, I won't shag you because you've got a fat ugly tummy".
Listen OP we all have insecurities about parts of our bodies but the majority of swingers I've come across don't even notice or are bothered in the slightest. If anyone is bothered by some imperfections on my body, then they aren't the type of people I would want to spend any time with anyway, as they are obviously shallow and judgemental.
So get to the club, wear your sexiest clothes and enjoy yourself |
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though. "
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can. |
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can. "
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
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"My stomach, my upper arms, my legs, my face, but hey ho, I haven't had anyone say "uurgh, I won't shag you because you've got a fat ugly tummy".
Listen OP we all have insecurities about parts of our bodies but the majority of swingers I've come across don't even notice or are bothered in the slightest. If anyone is bothered by some imperfections on my body, then they aren't the type of people I would want to spend any time with anyway, as they are obviously shallow and judgemental.
So get to the club, wear your sexiest clothes and enjoy yourself "
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can.
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
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A march of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
It's ok to not feel ok. It's better to start a journey to change how you feel...one step at a time.x
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A march of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
It's ok to not feel ok. It's better to start a journey to change how you feel...one step at a time.x
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can.
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
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I used to weight 22st and one day I looked at photos of myself with a group of friends and just hated what a saw so I started doing slimming world and swimming, over the years I’ve fallen off the wagon here and there but I’m now a much more reasonable 15st. If I can do it anyone can you just need to flick that little switch in your mind. |
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can.
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
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You got this. You just got to make little steps and one day you start looking forward to doing your chosen thing. |
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can.
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
I used to weight 22st and one day I looked at photos of myself with a group of friends and just hated what a saw so I started doing slimming world and swimming, over the years I’ve fallen off the wagon here and there but I’m now a much more reasonable 15st. If I can do it anyone can you just need to flick that little switch in your mind."
That’s a good news story. Well done you xxx |
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over a year ago
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can.
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
I used to weight 22st and one day I looked at photos of myself with a group of friends and just hated what a saw so I started doing slimming world and swimming, over the years I’ve fallen off the wagon here and there but I’m now a much more reasonable 15st. If I can do it anyone can you just need to flick that little switch in your mind."
Yes absolutely. This was also the start of my life journey to love myself. Slimming world then learnt to swim and Ive never looked back. |
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Read lots of these posts and then had a nose on your profiles to see if I agreed with you and most of you who said stomachs and face need glasses. Nothing wrong with ya. I love my self.. call me narcissistic, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m alive and healthy and it all works so I’m happy. If you don’t love yourself no one else will and trust me big small fat or skinny there’s someone out here for everyone |
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over a year ago
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I dislike my feet especially my left one as it has a bunion(hereditary nog from wearing high heels I might add)
We all notice our imperfections, we tend to think other folk will notice them as well when in reality they're focussing on the best bits ..
Wear something that makes you feel lush and confident op ..your confidence will be what folk notice. |
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"All of it. All of it. I feel so shit about my body at the moment, it’s a constant source of tears.
I am committed to doing something to address this though.
The first bit makes me sad. Since joining the gym my body is getting so much better. I heartily recommend moving however you wish to move. Just move. If I can squish into a gym bra and sweat in public anyone can.
Your gym going earlier this year has been a source of inspiration, and Meli is also being a cheerer-onner of me starting to move out of paralysed despair. I spend time trying to support others and I’ve never given myself that respect, and with each incremental sad I’ve experienced I’ve given up thinking I have the ability to change it. No more. I feel trapped and it’s not okay.
I used to weight 22st and one day I looked at photos of myself with a group of friends and just hated what a saw so I started doing slimming world and swimming, over the years I’ve fallen off the wagon here and there but I’m now a much more reasonable 15st. If I can do it anyone can you just need to flick that little switch in your mind.
Yes absolutely. This was also the start of my life journey to love myself. Slimming world then learnt to swim and Ive never looked back. "
slimming world was a great way to lose weight and swimming is a low impact exercise so no painful joints! |
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I'm not perfect but I love me.
What's to be gained by beating yourself up over your perceived imperfections?
It's not going to make you feel better.
Be kind to yourself and show yourself some love, you deserve it.
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I dislike my tummy everything else I'm fine with but hey ho nobody is perfect, just go and enjoy your club night and you will realise there's nowt to worry about. Hope you have fun op |
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"I'm not perfect but I love me.
What's to be gained by beating yourself up over your perceived imperfections?
It's not going to make you feel better.
Be kind to yourself and show yourself some love, you deserve it.
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Oh i do iv an enlarged right forearm and bicep to prove it  |
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By *ineMan
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A march of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
It's ok to not feel ok. It's better to start a journey to change how you feel...one step at a time.x
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You are strong you can do this, if it's what you really want. I managed it and I'm just a guy. I lost 7 stone in 7 months, and over 10 inches off my waist, but I don't recommend you do it the way I did.
Before I felt and looked like a beached whale. I had to be moved so the tide could come in...and I love the beach.
Find someone to help you do it the healthy way. Find something physical you love to do...yeah sex works.. but there's other ways too.
DONT DIET. It never worked for me. Change what you eat,when you eat and how you eat. It's not dieting it's changing your entire lifestyle. I loved the hills walking open spaces since I was a kid. I stopped doing things I loved...it probably contributed to becoming a whale.
Remember those things you loved or discover new ones. It's less like work and exercise that way and instead of being a battle become a a pleasure.
Most of all don't do it out of a sense of duty or for others.
Do it for you. Because it will change you and then you may one day realise you do feel ok.
For a long time I would never put a pic on fab because I hated how I looked. I'm not that great now, still hide from cameras, but at least I don't hate how I look anymore. Others might but that's not my problem.
And while it will change your life it takes patience dedication and self belief. Some things it may never change. There's a girl I love, but she doesn't feel the same. Some things in our lives we have to accept we cannot change. It's part of the deal you make with yourself.
And those times you fall, and you will, forget them start again. Tomorrow is always another day.
I can't believe I just wrote that. But if a guy like me can do it, and feel better about myself than I did for many years....then I know you can do it too.
We only get one life. It's yours to change if you dare to take that first step. X
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"I'm not perfect but I love me.
What's to be gained by beating yourself up over your perceived imperfections?
It's not going to make you feel better.
Be kind to yourself and show yourself some love, you deserve it.
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A march of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
It's ok to not feel ok. It's better to start a journey to change how you feel...one step at a time.x
You are strong you can do this, if it's what you really want. I managed it and I'm just a guy. I lost 7 stone in 7 months, and over 10 inches off my waist, but I don't recommend you do it the way I did.
Before I felt and looked like a beached whale. I had to be moved so the tide could come in...and I love the beach.
Find someone to help you do it the healthy way. Find something physical you love to do...yeah sex works.. but there's other ways too.
DONT DIET. It never worked for me. Change what you eat,when you eat and how you eat. It's not dieting it's changing your entire lifestyle. I loved the hills walking open spaces since I was a kid. I stopped doing things I loved...it probably contributed to becoming a whale.
Remember those things you loved or discover new ones. It's less like work and exercise that way and instead of being a battle become a a pleasure.
Most of all don't do it out of a sense of duty or for others.
Do it for you. Because it will change you and then you may one day realise you do feel ok.
For a long time I would never put a pic on fab because I hated how I looked. I'm not that great now, still hide from cameras, but at least I don't hate how I look anymore. Others might but that's not my problem.
And while it will change your life it takes patience dedication and self belief. Some things it may never change. There's a girl I love, but she doesn't feel the same. Some things in our lives we have to accept we cannot change. It's part of the deal you make with yourself.
And those times you fall, and you will, forget them start again. Tomorrow is always another day.
I can't believe I just wrote that. But if a guy like me can do it, and feel better about myself than I did for many years....then I know you can do it too.
We only get one life. It's yours to change if you dare to take that first step. X
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Great post! You’ve lost about the same as me! |
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"My tongue and the lispy noises it makes whenever I speak. Gaaah. To be fair it’s got its good points too. "
I don't know whether it's just me but I find lispy awfully naughty!! probably just me.... |
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My Buddah Belly and now it's swelling even more due to hormonal bloat. I look pregnant. I hate the way fat has settled around my middle and I'm struggling to shift it.
Gotta love middle aged spread! |
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"Seeing as me and J are going to our first club on Saturday I have become very aware of my worst feature, that being my stomach as after losing a lot of weight I’m left with a few battle scars and overhangs .
So it got me thinking, what’s other people’s worst parts of their own bodies? "
I know that feeling, having lost 6 stone in 12 weeks, think all my bits are my worst bits |
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