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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Each to their own - personally I prefer to get to know people a little before meeting and find that generally it adds to the experience rather than detracts from it - but appreciate that for some the excitement of meeting sooner than later appeals too.
That's what makes Fab such a great place, it caters to all kinds of preferences  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site! |
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"Each to their own - personally I prefer to get to know people a little before meeting and find that generally it adds to the experience rather than detracts from it - but appreciate that for some the excitement of meeting sooner than later appeals too.
That's what makes Fab such a great place, it caters to all kinds of preferences "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!"
It all depends who you’re talking to and what your common interests are. I personally feel that if I can’t hold a conversation with someone and enjoy their company then I’m not going to want to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!
It all depends who you’re talking to and what your common interests are. I personally feel that if I can’t hold a conversation with someone and enjoy their company then I’m not going to want to meet them."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat weeks or months before meeting but I like to build a friendship first and I want more then just a hook up. I can’t enjoy meeting someone so quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!"
It is what you want it to be, I have guys from here that message me daily on whatsapp or kik, i don’t get bored of that. |
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!"
different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you moved?  Moved from where?"
Sorry, completely my mistake on your username, thought it was a very nice young women's from the Warrington area I seem to remember.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
you would? Or are you saying you're reading that on profiles?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to chat a while by messages and get to know someone, but I also understand that not everyone wants to. I certainly wouldn't call someone bring just because they choose to do it differently to how I do. Why judge people OP...that says more about you that those your taking about in your opening post. |
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!"
That's a sentiment usually voiced by single guys failing to get meets or replies to messages. |
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"Each to their own - personally I prefer to get to know people a little before meeting and find that generally it adds to the experience rather than detracts from it - but appreciate that for some the excitement of meeting sooner than later appeals too.
That's what makes Fab such a great place, it caters to all kinds of preferences "
Us too, there are so many variables in our complicated lifw, that makes this a way of life sadly, but it is what it is and we'd rather make contact with lovely people, get to know how each other roll and enjoy the meet up when it happens. It also breaks the ice somewhat, knowing that if they've invested some time into chatting that the likelihood of meeting goes up and that the time spent is invested into developing a relationship.
But as been pointed out here in this thread, each to their own. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!
That's a sentiment usually voiced by single guys failing to get meets or replies to messages."
That was my thought too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
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After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!"
I would hate to think a conversation would get boring after a few messages. If people can't keep momentum for that long there's something very wrong x |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
You don't have to do things the same way. Just avoid anyone who is boring to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have severe anxiety and I meet on my own. I’d rather a few weeks chatting to make sure I like them and fancy them. I’ve cancelled so many meets due to panic attacks, so I’d rather the reassurance of being almost 100% sure that I want to fuck then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!"
No, it didn’t get boring. I got to know some very interesting men. Plus establishing boundaries and other things. Not only that I would rather be able to trust someone rather than just meet without getting to know them. Everyone has a personal preference for various reasons. Doesn’t mean they’re boring.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I talked to someone for a full nine months before meeting as he lives at the other end of the country. The conversation never dried up and when we met we got on so well. I daresay the amount we talked beforehand only made things better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!
That's a sentiment usually voiced by single guys failing to get meets or replies to messages."
bloody single guys |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Profiles saying I don't wanna play email tennis or chat ,here to meet etc are a great filter for me.
I won't meet until I'm sure or ready to and won't be rushed into it.
If someone's not happy with that, they can pass me by. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!
That's a sentiment usually voiced by single guys failing to get meets or replies to messages.bloody single guys "
Yeah! Going around ruining this site for... erm... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
You do what you want and let others do what works for them... |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
people that are able to do that always come across to me as though they must have a simple boring sex life if they can do it so quickly
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Unless it's for friendship, can't be arsed with chatting for weeks. Quick chat here, if there's a spark, take it on to one of the apps, more chat, see if we click, arrange a social.
But as said, we've all our own methods. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.people that are able to do that always come across to me as though they must have a simple boring sex life if they can do it so quickly"
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!
It all depends who you’re talking to and what your common interests are. I personally feel that if I can’t hold a conversation with someone and enjoy their company then I’m not going to want to meet them."
I Couldn’t agree more....
If they can’t keep me interested in a conversation!!!! OMG
I get bored and loose interest quite quickly.... its like pulling teeth.... hard work!
It’s supposed to be fun !
Isn’t it ?? |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
If I find it’s boring after a few messages, I don’t bother anymore. I rather like someone that can ignite my imagination before anything else.
It’s likely we’ll chat for a while as I’m only free a couple of nights a week, so I have lots booked in. It’s horses for courses. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site"
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now. |
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"Each to their own - personally I prefer to get to know people a little before meeting and find that generally it adds to the experience rather than detracts from it - but appreciate that for some the excitement of meeting sooner than later appeals too.
That's what makes Fab such a great place, it caters to all kinds of preferences "
I find this too. Plus I don't accommodate so like to chat first for safety reasons x |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
Couldn’t agree more , the talkers , chatters for ages don’t make sense to us either . |
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"These days I'd rather meet sooner than later - for me it's the only way to establish if there's any chemistry "
Agree with this.
Each to their own but in my experience of Fab the longer they chat the more likely they're fantasists.
I'm here for meets not a pen friend |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.
Couldn’t agree more , the talkers , chatters for ages don’t make sense to us either ."
maybe some of us have done what you do for 20 odd years and got bored and moved on. Who knows |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
Maybe, like ourselves , we’ve chatted to other couples that are going to the same event/ socials etc... hence “been chatting for a few weeks” veris.
We like doing this so that when we get to an event/ Social we aren’t stood there like Billy no mates  |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.
Couldn’t agree more , the talkers , chatters for ages don’t make sense to us either .maybe some of us have done what you do for 20 odd years and got bored and moved on. Who knows"
Yep , that’s right .
Even we have |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.
Couldn’t agree more , the talkers , chatters for ages don’t make sense to us either .maybe some of us have done what you do for 20 odd years and got bored and moved on. Who knows
Yep , that’s right .
Even we have "
well there you go 20 odd years takes its toll |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now."
Nope, it is still swingers site. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site."
nah definitely a sex site, half of them on here couldn't spell swinger let alone know the meaning!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site."
so why you not want a swinging partner according to your profile?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site. so why you not want a swinging partner according to your profile?
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Because I don't want to swing as a couple and meet others as a couple. I like to meet one man at a time, for weeks/months, then find another man.........casual sex as a swinger |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site. so why you not want a swinging partner according to your profile?
Because I don't want to swing as a couple and meet others as a couple. I like to meet one man at a time, for weeks/months, then find another man.........casual sex as a swinger "
nah that's shagging not swinging luv |
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"When I was a single fem, I would chat for a couple of weeks because of confidence issues. Can’t judge when you don’t know the reasons.
L
After a couple of messages it would get so boring surely? After all this is a sex site not a dating site!different people do things different ways. You do things your way and others will do it their way its also a swingers site not a sex site
It probably started off as a swingers site, but definitely more a sex site now.
Nope, it is still swingers site. so why you not want a swinging partner according to your profile?
Because I don't want to swing as a couple and meet others as a couple. I like to meet one man at a time, for weeks/months, then find another man.........casual sex as a swinger nah that's shagging not swinging luv"
maybe some want more than a quick shag in a layby. But each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.
Couldn’t agree more , the talkers , chatters for ages don’t make sense to us either .maybe some of us have done what you do for 20 odd years and got bored and moved on. Who knows"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I chat weeks or months before meeting but I like to build a friendship first and I want more then just a hook up. I can’t enjoy meeting someone so quickly. "
Precisely. You can always move onto to kik or wherever and take things up a notch, camming etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I chat weeks or months before meeting but I like to build a friendship first and I want more then just a hook up. I can’t enjoy meeting someone so quickly.
Precisely. You can always move onto to kik or wherever and take things up a notch, camming etc. "
That I do before any meets. I would never meet anyone straight from here, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
Well why don’t you just use the site the way you choose and let everybody use it their own way. There is no right or wrong. Not everybody is after a meaningless shag with a total stranger, id say those people are in the minority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I chat weeks or months before meeting but I like to build a friendship first and I want more then just a hook up. I can’t enjoy meeting someone so quickly.
Precisely. You can always move onto to kik or wherever and take things up a notch, camming etc.
That I do before any meets. I would never meet anyone straight from here, "
Me neither. I don’t think there would be many that would to be honest. |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later."
Each to their own..
Personally I wouldn't meet anyone I hadn't established a connection with.
My free time is also very limited, so it maybe several weeks from first message to be able to actually meet.
If someone isn't willing to wait, chat a while first, then they're not the sort of person I'd want to meet anyway |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.
Each to their own..
Personally I wouldn't meet anyone I hadn't established a connection with.
My free time is also very limited, so it maybe several weeks from first message to be able to actually meet.
If someone isn't willing to wait, chat a while first, then they're not the sort of person I'd want to meet anyway "
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I find patience to be a good test of people who respect me, my boundaries, and my body. I don't set out to chat to people for months, but sometimes life gets in the way. And I have more of a spark with those I'm friendly with. |
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I usually talk to people for ages before a meet. On here first then Kik/WhatsApp. Partly for safety, partly because I can’t meet at the drop of a hat, but mostly because if I don’t get on with the person I won’t want to fuck them. |
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"I see this alot on verifications - how boring! Would rather chat on the phone to arrange a meet sooner rather than later.
Well why don’t you just use the site the way you choose and let everybody use it their own way. There is no right or wrong. Not everybody is after a meaningless shag with a total stranger, id say those people are in the minority."
Absofuckinglutely |
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I don't chat on fab every day, so a basic conversation can take quite a while to progress - and someone new may not be my priority next meet.
We all have different speeds that we move at - I'm fairly slow. It's also based on availability - both ways - when it comes to meeting too.
I don't post such stuff to news and info. People with incompatible pressure to rush will fall by the wayside - it's part of the filtering process. |
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