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over a year ago
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No not the singer, I’m writing about the ‘second option’.
We’ve all been there; we’ve made plans to meet someone and sadly those plans have fallen through for one reason or another. Your free time is at a premium though so... do you arrange a back up plan just in case? Do you phone a friend? Pop to your local club? If you have ever done that then did you let the other person know?
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
As always this is just one of my general musings and I’m happy to read all sides. Over to you lovely forum folk...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been a Plan B, when I found out I was actually a bit hurt by it.
Then I remembered that I got sex and chips out of it and felt much better.
I'll be anyone's Plan B, just remember the chips. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not had a plan B but had the initial plan smashed the other night and then was left really frustrated. "
It does happen unfortunately. Plans fall through and frustration is natural |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been a last minute substitute on occasion. If they are honest about it, we’ve met before, I like them, I know we’ll have a good time and it suits me why would I object? Its usually my commitments that prevent me meeting, not theirs.
Equally I would hope that on the odd occasion some idiot decides to flake on me, a friend wouldnt stand on their dignity if I asked them for some fun at the last minute. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never had a plan B, it's a pretty shit thing to do unless the other person is aware they're just a back up. As far as I'm aware I've never been a plan B either. "
There is that line I think, if the other person is a friend and is aware of what’s going on... |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I found out I was someone's plan b once and I was gutted. I can't remember the details, I've obviously erased it from my memory!!
I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's mean. A fab plan b I'm talking about obv, bit of shopping is fine  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been a Plan B, when I found out I was actually a bit hurt by it.
Then I remembered that I got sex and chips out of it and felt much better.
I'll be anyone's Plan B, just remember the chips. "
It’s all about the incentives.
Jelly babies folks... just saying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I found out I was someone's plan b once and I was gutted. I can't remember the details, I've obviously erased it from my memory!!
I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's mean. A fab plan b I'm talking about obv, bit of shopping is fine "
I think to do it without the other persons knowledge is certainly unfair and smacks of disrespect and devaluing that person and the meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No not the singer, I’m writing about the ‘second option’.
We’ve all been there; we’ve made plans to meet someone and sadly those plans have fallen through for one reason or another. Your free time is at a premium though so... do you arrange a back up plan just in case? Do you phone a friend? Pop to your local club? If you have ever done that then did you let the other person know?
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
As always this is just one of my general musings and I’m happy to read all sides. Over to you lovely forum folk...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never had a plan B, it's a pretty shit thing to do unless the other person is aware they're just a back up. As far as I'm aware I've never been a plan B either.
There is that line I think, if the other person is a friend and is aware of what’s going on... "
If I’ve ever had a plan b, they have known that they were exactly that.They are usually dates that have been persistent even when I told them I had plans. They were happy to jump into plan A’s shoes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been a Plan B, when I found out I was actually a bit hurt by it.
Then I remembered that I got sex and chips out of it and felt much better.
I'll be anyone's Plan B, just remember the chips.
It’s all about the incentives.
Jelly babies folks... just saying"
So you’re okay to be a plan B OP if I bring the Jelly Babies? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been a Plan B, when I found out I was actually a bit hurt by it.
Then I remembered that I got sex and chips out of it and felt much better.
I'll be anyone's Plan B, just remember the chips.
It’s all about the incentives.
Jelly babies folks... just saying
So you’re okay to be a plan B OP if I bring the Jelly Babies? "
Leave the green ones out, then we’ll talk |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No not the singer, I’m writing about the ‘second option’.
We’ve all been there; we’ve made plans to meet someone and sadly those plans have fallen through for one reason or another. Your free time is at a premium though so... do you arrange a back up plan just in case? Do you phone a friend? Pop to your local club? If you have ever done that then did you let the other person know?
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
As always this is just one of my general musings and I’m happy to read all sides. Over to you lovely forum folk...
Playa "
Don’t hate the player, hate the game... or something like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve never had a plan B, I’d hate to be someone else’s plan B too"
I have a question about that. If (big if, I warrant) we are all here to have fun times and the sex then aren’t we all someone’s plan b somehow? So if you had to pull out from sexing me tonight for legit reasons and I go sex time my sexy stuff on another person that happens to be free, you’re okay with that? But, if I was sex planning to sexy sex another lovely sexster (like you but not you, because I like you all) and she then has to bail for legit reasons and I see you’re free then I shouldn’t sex suggest you? Or should I say, oh sex kitten was no, sex tiger you in? So you’re aware? Or I shouldn’t have no sex at all?
What you sayin’ Willis?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never had a plan B, it's a pretty shit thing to do unless the other person is aware they're just a back up. As far as I'm aware I've never been a plan B either.
There is that line I think, if the other person is a friend and is aware of what’s going on...
If I’ve ever had a plan b, they have known that they were exactly that.They are usually dates that have been persistent even when I told them I had plans. They were happy to jump into plan A’s shoes. "
I think, as with so much in the swinging world, clear communication is key. Giving people options and treating them with respect is the decent thing. It’s when we’re misled that it leads to issues. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve never had a plan B, I’d hate to be someone else’s plan B too
I have a question about that. If (big if, I warrant) we are all here to have fun times and the sex then aren’t we all someone’s plan b somehow? So if you had to pull out from sexing me tonight for legit reasons and I go sex time my sexy stuff on another person that happens to be free, you’re okay with that? But, if I was sex planning to sexy sex another lovely sexster (like you but not you, because I like you all) and she then has to bail for legit reasons and I see you’re free then I shouldn’t sex suggest you? Or should I say, oh sex kitten was no, sex tiger you in? So you’re aware? Or I shouldn’t have no sex at all?
What you sayin’ Willis?
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I’ve gone a little sex blind there...
42. Definitely 42. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve never had a plan B, I’d hate to be someone else’s plan B too
I have a question about that. If (big if, I warrant) we are all here to have fun times and the sex then aren’t we all someone’s plan b somehow? So if you had to pull out from sexing me tonight for legit reasons and I go sex time my sexy stuff on another person that happens to be free, you’re okay with that? But, if I was sex planning to sexy sex another lovely sexster (like you but not you, because I like you all) and she then has to bail for legit reasons and I see you’re free then I shouldn’t sex suggest you? Or should I say, oh sex kitten was no, sex tiger you in? So you’re aware? Or I shouldn’t have no sex at all?
What you sayin’ Willis?
I’ve gone a little sex blind there...
42. Definitely 42."
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over a year ago
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"Would never go down a plan B route tbh and thankfully to date plan A has never fallen through ...long may that continue ....does raise an eyebrow tho wondering if I was ever the plan B  "
That way madness lies... |
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over a year ago
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"If I have to share my jelly babies Im not sure I want to meet a, b or c now. Unless they love yellow and green.  "
I’m open to sharing partners but sharing jelly babies? Get out. |
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over a year ago
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"If I have to share my jelly babies Im not sure I want to meet a, b or c now. Unless they love yellow and green.
I’m open to sharing partners but sharing jelly babies? Get out. "
Haha. Yeah! |
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I've always got plan b's, as there's so much to do and enjoy. It may or may not be sexual but sometimes it must be. A club visit or meeting a fb works well.
I go with my compass and don't care what others are doing or thinking. Optimize life and wellbeing |
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over a year ago
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"I've always got plan b's, as there's so much to do and enjoy. It may or may not be sexual but sometimes it must be. A club visit or meeting a fb works well.
I go with my compass and don't care what others are doing or thinking. Optimize life and wellbeing "
Do you let the other person know that they’re plan B?
Why do you feel that sometimes a plan b ‘must’ be sexual? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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I always had a plan B as a single, my plan B knew he was plan B and I was often his plan B too... We would just text "Plan B?" And the other would reply yes or no... Never any bad feeling if we weren't needing plan B or they weren't free.... That's what plan C's were for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've always got plan b's, as there's so much to do and enjoy. It may or may not be sexual but sometimes it must be. A club visit or meeting a fb works well.
I go with my compass and don't care what others are doing or thinking. Optimize life and wellbeing
Do you let the other person know that they’re plan B?
Why do you feel that sometimes a plan b ‘must’ be sexual? "
At the risk of being ignored again, because its one of very few nights i get to play.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've always got plan b's, as there's so much to do and enjoy. It may or may not be sexual but sometimes it must be. A club visit or meeting a fb works well.
I go with my compass and don't care what others are doing or thinking. Optimize life and wellbeing
Do you let the other person know that they’re plan B?
Why do you feel that sometimes a plan b ‘must’ be sexual?
At the risk of being ignored again, because its one of very few nights i get to play.."
I do apologise! 
Your original message was very well put.
I think it’s the crux of the issue, as I said previously; communication is key. Lack of play time is a common problem, common decency isn’t a finite resource. |
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over a year ago
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"Once a couple asked us to be their plan b - blocked!
We met at clubs so if someone isn't as we expect our free time is not wasted. That's the way we like it. "
So you have a built in plan b? |
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over a year ago
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . "
You may say that, however it does happen frequently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . "
When certain people let you down repeatedly, it’s a must. I’m not talking about fab as I rarely meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was supposed to see someone tonight but yet again he’s failed to let me know it’s not happening. I was asked yesterday by someone else if I wanted to do something and I told them I had plans. They then said if they fall through then call them. That’s the kind of plan b I’m on about. However, I’ve decided to spend time with me, myself and I. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . why are you assuming plan b is a person"
My plan b is Netflix, although I could go to plan c later if I feel like being sociable  |
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . why are you assuming plan b is a person"
Because and I Quote the OP
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
Does that explain my response ?
However you are quite right A plan B does not have to be a person !! |
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B .
You may say that, however it does happen frequently. "
I guess it does . Just my sentiments as it’s not something I would do |
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over a year ago
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . why are you assuming plan b is a person
Because and I Quote the OP
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
Does that explain my response ?
However you are quite right A plan B does not have to be a person !!"
No it doesn’t. My plan B was to start a couple of threads and make a nuisance of myself on the forums |
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . why are you assuming plan b is a person
Because and I Quote the OP
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
Does that explain my response ?
However you are quite right A plan B does not have to be a person !!
No it doesn’t. My plan B was to start a couple of threads and make a nuisance of myself on the forums"
You failed at being a nuisance then, this was an interesting thread. Sorry it was your plan B though. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Oh these musings of yours Tea...
I haven't experienced the being cancelled on thing so I don't really think of other plans - the arrogance of the smug.
I imagine I'd just get on with that generic 'stuff'. And eat cheese. And drink. And sad wank.
I should probably find a local plan B person for when I am inevitably cancelled on though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Plan B !!!! How crass to even think of having a plan B let alone treating someone as a Plan B . why are you assuming plan b is a person
Because and I Quote the OP
Have you ever been a plan B and found out about it after the fact and if so, how did you feel about it?
Does that explain my response ?
However you are quite right A plan B does not have to be a person !!
No it doesn’t. My plan B was to start a couple of threads and make a nuisance of myself on the forums
You failed at being a nuisance then, this was an interesting thread. Sorry it was your plan B though. "
Gah! Foiled again!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always have a plan B but it's not another person.
This. Why would I let it ruin my day? "
It’s not necessarily about your day being ruined, it’s simply that for many their free time is limited. |
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"I always have a plan B but it's not another person.
This. Why would I let it ruin my day?
It’s not necessarily about your day being ruined, it’s simply that for many their free time is limited. "
I don't know. I wouldn't get too hanged up on it I guess exactly because life is too short/our time is limited..
Maybe there wasn't enough chat and understanding about expectations prior to the meeting? |
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I was asked by a none forumite I used to talk to to be their plan b...
They actually described it as "plan b" in case their plan a fell through on a Saturday night.
Used to talk to is probably the politest way to describe both how I felt and my response.
I am not an option.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh these musings of yours Tea...
I haven't experienced the being cancelled on thing so I don't really think of other plans - the arrogance of the smug.
I imagine I'd just get on with that generic 'stuff'. And eat cheese. And drink. And sad wank.
I should probably find a local plan B person for when I am inevitably cancelled on though."
Part of me thinks that eating cheese, drinking and wanking is a valid plan A.
Regards to your plan B options...
*smiles and waves* |
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over a year ago
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"I always have a plan B but it's not another person.
This. Why would I let it ruin my day?
It’s not necessarily about your day being ruined, it’s simply that for many their free time is limited.
I don't know. I wouldn't get too hanged up on it I guess exactly because life is too short/our time is limited..
Maybe there wasn't enough chat and understanding about expectations prior to the meeting? "
That’s a fair point, although sometimes life just gets in the way and plans have to change |
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"I was asked by a none forumite I used to talk to to be their plan b...
They actually described it as "plan b" in case their plan a fell through on a Saturday night.
Used to talk to is probably the politest way to describe both how I felt and my response.
I am not an option.... "
That’s a fairly common reaction and I think many people would echo your sentiments |
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Think it's common sense to have a plan b. Nobody wants to be a plan b,but if plan b isn't doing anything then surely that's to their advantage?,as they may have a meet that otherwise they wouldn't have had. I'm okay far as plan bs are concerned as i have a partner. So when meets fail then we just chilax together.
If i didn't have any plans and could meet last minute.com then i wouldn't care being a plan b. I think we're all a plan b to a certain extent  |
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"Think it's common sense to have a plan b. Nobody wants to be a plan b,but if plan b isn't doing anything then surely that's to their advantage?,as they may have a meet that otherwise they wouldn't have had. I'm okay far as plan bs are concerned as i have a partner. So when meets fail then we just chilax together.
If i didn't have any plans and could meet last minute.com then i wouldn't care being a plan b. I think we're all a plan b to a certain extent "
It’s more a matter of context and communication. If your plan b is a friend and they’re aware then it’s at theirs discretion. However if someone makes separate plans for the same day just incase on falls through then for many people that’s insulting.
If you’re in a couple then in some ways, as you say; you’re already the plan a and b... |
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"Why does nobody want to share my jelly belly?
Sadface.
Jelly beans? "
No. I’ve been touting my jelly belly. And you guys are only interested in jelly babies and jelly beans.
Not Estelly jelly belly.
Weepingface. |
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"Why does nobody want to share my jelly belly?
Sadface.
Jelly beans?
No. I’ve been touting my jelly belly. And you guys are only interested in jelly babies and jelly beans.
Not Estelly jelly belly.
Weepingface."
Well we’re not the ones who have been touting their sweet shop all night |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Last year I spent ages finding people in Manchester for a meet. I thought I had one so told the others I was chatting to that I wouldn't be meeting them. One said he'd be happy to be my plan b.
The chosen chap blocked me, here and on the phone, a couple of hours before the meet. Plan b came out and we had cocktails and a laugh.
Usually, I arrange meets where I can do something else if it falls through. I'll be disappointed but that's all.
I'm usually their plan b/c and get dropped for the better offer.
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"Why does nobody want to share my jelly belly?
Sadface.
Jelly beans?
No. I’ve been touting my jelly belly. And you guys are only interested in jelly babies and jelly beans.
Not Estelly jelly belly.
Weepingface."
Methinks thou doth protest too much
Wanders back into man cave gently curls up in a ball contemplates life and drifts off into dreams of filth  |
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"Why does nobody want to share my jelly belly?
Sadface.
Jelly beans?
No. I’ve been touting my jelly belly. And you guys are only interested in jelly babies and jelly beans.
Not Estelly jelly belly.
Weepingface.
Well we’re not the ones who have been touting their sweet shop all night "
Just eat my sweet goodness and hush. |
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"Why does nobody want to share my jelly belly?
Sadface.
Jelly beans?
No. I’ve been touting my jelly belly. And you guys are only interested in jelly babies and jelly beans.
Not Estelly jelly belly.
Weepingface.
Methinks thou doth protest too much
Wanders back into man cave gently curls up in a ball contemplates life and drifts off into dreams of filth "
You wanna see some puppies? I have sweeties too. |
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"Why does nobody want to share my jelly belly?
Sadface.
Jelly beans?
No. I’ve been touting my jelly belly. And you guys are only interested in jelly babies and jelly beans.
Not Estelly jelly belly.
Weepingface.
Methinks thou doth protest too much
Wanders back into man cave gently curls up in a ball contemplates life and drifts off into dreams of filth
You wanna see some puppies? I have sweeties too. "
Filth
Must go and search out puppy pics |
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"I thought "plan B" was a wank and a pint....
At the same time?
It’s squirt, I tell ya!
Bottle or draught?"
I always bottle it, hence my draught.
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"Think it's common sense to have a plan b. Nobody wants to be a plan b,but if plan b isn't doing anything then surely that's to their advantage?,as they may have a meet that otherwise they wouldn't have had. I'm okay far as plan bs are concerned as i have a partner. So when meets fail then we just chilax together.
If i didn't have any plans and could meet last minute.com then i wouldn't care being a plan b. I think we're all a plan b to a certain extent
It’s more a matter of context and communication. If your plan b is a friend and they’re aware then it’s at theirs discretion. However if someone makes separate plans for the same day just incase on falls through then for many people that’s insulting.
If you’re in a couple then in some ways, as you say; you’re already the plan a and b... "
But then again i wouldn't mind it so much,because if i was plan b then if it was short notice i wouldn't be able to meet anyway so their plan b would fall through as well lol |
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