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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not |
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By *ky19Man
over a year ago
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
Possibly yes IMO, I have long believed this.
If you agree every action begins as a thought (every intentional one anyway) then there's a process, a road to cheating which culminates in acting it out.
I believe it's possible to be unfaithful to varying degrees without going as far as committing the act itself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like her insecurities got the better of her , why is he watching porn is her not getting fulfilled in the relationship? Best to talk to each other & not to do things behind her back or it could escalate into something worse . Just my opinion on this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s absolutely ridiculous.
Do you watch porn?  "
Not by myself that often but I have done. I prefer to watch it with a partner. Us ladies are not so visual when masturbating so don’t have the need as such. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s absolutely ridiculous.
Do you watch porn?
Not by myself that often but I have done. I prefer to watch it with a partner. Us ladies are not so visual when masturbating so don’t have the need as such. "
Any favourite recommendations? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s absolutely ridiculous.
Do you watch porn?
Not by myself that often but I have done. I prefer to watch it with a partner. Us ladies are not so visual when masturbating so don’t have the need as such.
Any favourite recommendations? "
My tastes would be too vanilla for you. I tend to like the more sensual stuff like erotic massage.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
So by her own rules if she even so much as looks at another bloke even in passing then she is cheating mentally.
Double standards me thinks!!  |
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By *ky19Man
over a year ago
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Just want to point out that though I'm not much of a porn dude, I do spend time on here fabbing pictures.
And yeah the other side of the coin is its possible that the mrs could be being controlling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s absolutely ridiculous.
Do you watch porn?
Not by myself that often but I have done. I prefer to watch it with a partner. Us ladies are not so visual when masturbating so don’t have the need as such.
Any favourite recommendations?
My tastes would be too vanilla for you. I tend to like the more sensual stuff like erotic massage. "
What a coincidence! I give erotic massages so if you want one you know where to find me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
She's never watched porn in her life?? Well, what is he doing with her.... Yawn!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
Maybe he should watch porn with her. Then she will see it’s not mentally cheating  |
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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Watching porn could be cheating if he isn’t open and honest about it.
I watch lots of porn as does my hubby. I know about it and don’t mind at all. If he was doing it secretly I would be a bit upset but I would just want to know why he was keeping it secret. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nah, of course it’s not. I find porn somewhat ridiculous at times, but I like it. However, I can see why others would feel disheartened if they caught their SO watching it secretly.
I’d suggest we watch it together! |
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"That’s absolutely ridiculous.
Do you watch porn?
Not by myself that often but I have done. I prefer to watch it with a partner. Us ladies are not so visual when masturbating so don’t have the need as such.
Any favourite recommendations?
My tastes would be too vanilla for you. I tend to like the more sensual stuff like erotic massage.
What a coincidence! I give erotic massages so if you want one you know where to find me "
I have a sneaky suspicion that if she'd said she like her ears wrapped in a bat gwano poultice you'd have given those too....
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Does that mean that we can send "hi, hopefully you remember us.. my partner and I would like a veri for the amazing orgy we was part of. You was only on screen but we're happy to provide you with a veri as well" im's to porn stars on here if we fucked while their film was playing?
That totally counts as same room fun doesn't it?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on the relationship. If she entered the marriage saying that she felt porn was wrong for whatever reason and he, perhaps just to please her, agreed then she has every right to go off the deep end at him.
If they had never discussed it, then he wasn't to know her views. She is entitled to now ask him to stop and if he doesn't, then split. |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
Why on earth isn't he leaving her? I have a mate who had a girlfriend like this, it won't end well. She's a vunerable narcissist, she'll have a catalogue of other issues that he hasn't discovered yet or isn't telling you about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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porn has never excited me ,bit like going to a restaurant being handed the menu and being told you cant order or eat any food , waste of time if you ask me .or like being given an ice cream and told you cant lick it .
i dont need porn personally ,i have an amazing imagination. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
I'm not sure it can be described as cheating but if a guy (or girl) prefers porn to real life then something isn't right.
As for "getting a grip" it sounds like there's enough of that going on already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think she's insecure, controlling and a stick in the mud.
Unless, he's wanking to porn instead of fucking her.
If the sex is shit, porn is the next best thing, instead of cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience most women claim to find porn disgusting and don't want to think that their bloke might look at it.
Hence why most attached men look at it in secret. "
Fixed that for you. |
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"Watching porn could be cheating if he isn’t open and honest about it.
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If there is secrecy and lies, or a breaking of trust, anything could be viewed as a form of cheating, a betrayal.
Maybe they agreed not to use it. Maybe they agreed only to watch it together. Maybe he's denying her sex and going off into a secret wank fest without her....who knows.
I find most porn distasteful and I would hope any live-in partner of mine would simply not need it. |
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" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts. |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts."
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening. |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening."
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going? |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?"
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men? |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men? "
Good point. And those above the knee skirts she wears-not acceptable. |
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There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out. |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men? "
If people know before getting in the relationship, then where is the issue? They've agreed to it.
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out. "
What if she didn't make it clear at the start? |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start? "
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret. |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men?
If people know before getting in the relationship, then where is the issue? They've agreed to it.
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In my experience, very few couples sit down and talk all these issues out at the start. If you go on the forum search, you'll find literally hundreds of husbands complaining that their sex life with the wife has died. I often ask, "What expectations were set regarding sex at the start of the relationship?" And I've never had a single guy say that there were any. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret. "
Do you shut the door when you shit? |
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It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
I bet she read 50 shades it that cheating too? |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
Lunatic. |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men?
If people know before getting in the relationship, then where is the issue? They've agreed to it.
In my experience, very few couples sit down and talk all these issues out at the start. If you go on the forum search, you'll find literally hundreds of husbands complaining that their sex life with the wife has died. I often ask, "What expectations were set regarding sex at the start of the relationship?" And I've never had a single guy say that there were any. "
Maybe not. But if you don't have the conversation, then on both sides you cant moan. Isn't assumption the mother of all fuck ups?
We spoke an awful lot about redlines before we married. W both know whats acceptable and whats not. |
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"It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single "
Was she willing to service your every erection or did she just want you to take a cold shower? |
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"It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single
Was she willing to service your every erection or did she just want you to take a cold shower? "
She would freak at the thought of it. Had to have a sneaky danger wank if she wasn’t putting out |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men?
If people know before getting in the relationship, then where is the issue? They've agreed to it.
In my experience, very few couples sit down and talk all these issues out at the start. If you go on the forum search, you'll find literally hundreds of husbands complaining that their sex life with the wife has died. I often ask, "What expectations were set regarding sex at the start of the relationship?" And I've never had a single guy say that there were any.
Maybe not. But if you don't have the conversation, then on both sides you cant moan. Isn't assumption the mother of all fuck ups?
We spoke an awful lot about redlines before we married. W both know whats acceptable and whats not."
So did we! I'm just constantly gobsmacked at how many people don't.  |
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Sounds like the final straw to me , if he was wanking alone of the bed would she has blown up the same way , we have an imagination at the end of the day . . Be it watching dirt or thinking about it |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men?
If people know before getting in the relationship, then where is the issue? They've agreed to it.
In my experience, very few couples sit down and talk all these issues out at the start. If you go on the forum search, you'll find literally hundreds of husbands complaining that their sex life with the wife has died. I often ask, "What expectations were set regarding sex at the start of the relationship?" And I've never had a single guy say that there were any.
Maybe not. But if you don't have the conversation, then on both sides you cant moan. Isn't assumption the mother of all fuck ups?
We spoke an awful lot about redlines before we married. W both know whats acceptable and whats not.
So did we! I'm just constantly gobsmacked at how many people don't. "
The same! You wouldn't take a job without reading the contract, however people seem to not think with marriage. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit? "
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
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"It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single
Was she willing to service your every erection or did she just want you to take a cold shower?
She would freak at the thought of it. Had to have a sneaky danger wank if she wasn’t putting out "
I had a friend whose wife was like that. She full on admitted that she didn't like her stretch marks and didn't want her husband lookinh a women without stretch marks. In her defence, she did say that, and I quote "he shouldn't be wanking, he should be fucking me" and i don't think she ever denied him sex. But they are divorced now. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
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So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it) |
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"" I hope she's never watched 50 shades of Grey....or fantasized about a man on the TV, in work or in passing. Watching porn is definitely not cheating, for me. I wonder how many other things he's not allowed to do in that relationship. "
My money is on her doing exactly this & feeling guilty of her own thoughts.
I would imagine not many people on this site have a problem with porn. However for many people its an ethical or moral standpoint.
She has every right to those views. If she expressed those views to her husband and he agreed with them, and also agreed to not use porn, she has every right to be livid.
My money is on her saying she didn't like porn and for her its a redline and him agreeing either for a quiet life, to get his leg over or because he wasn't properly listening.
What if he was against gambling and she wanted to go Bingo? Does he have the right to stop her going?
Or what if he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, so doesn't want her socialising with any men?
If people know before getting in the relationship, then where is the issue? They've agreed to it.
In my experience, very few couples sit down and talk all these issues out at the start. If you go on the forum search, you'll find literally hundreds of husbands complaining that their sex life with the wife has died. I often ask, "What expectations were set regarding sex at the start of the relationship?" And I've never had a single guy say that there were any.
Maybe not. But if you don't have the conversation, then on both sides you cant moan. Isn't assumption the mother of all fuck ups?
We spoke an awful lot about redlines before we married. W both know whats acceptable and whats not.
So did we! I'm just constantly gobsmacked at how many people don't.
The same! You wouldn't take a job without reading the contract, however people seem to not think with marriage."
Whenever someone says something like "love conqueres all", you can set the countdown timer on the divorce. I'll bet on communication conquering all, over love, any day. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)"
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret. "
Where did secret come from? From the OPs clarification, it seems that he has never promised he wouldn't stroke his chicken to porn. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret. "
What he does in private, should be just that. Private. Its his business not hers. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret.
Where did secret come from? From the OPs clarification, it seems that he has never promised he wouldn't stroke his chicken to porn. "
We don't know do we? I suspect though you wouldn't have to know a woman very long to know her attitude on such things.
Based on my own experience I would say the implicit agreement in many relationships is that the woman will not enquire about the man's porn use if he keeps it away from her so she can maintain in her own mind the idea that her man is "not like other mem". This means that the man can privately use porn as long as he ensures no evidence ever comes to her attention.
I suspect many people find that arrangement easier than talking about it. The problem arises when she discovers evidence. |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret.
What he does in private, should be just that. Private. Its his business not hers."
Does that extend to my partner becoming a secret member of a racist party and secretly going to their meetings? I have no grounds to object to that? |
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I don't see it as cheating no. We all have our needs and your partner isn't going to want to have every time you are. Nothing wrong with sorting yourself out.
Now obviously it's a different story if they are obsessed with porn or constantly chose to watch porn over having sex with their partner. Then I can see why she would be upset, as someone with a very high sex drive if my partner was constantly watching porn instead of having sex with me I would be a bit annoyed and would feel a bit shit about myself as if they had lost interest.
But you've got to communicate when problems like that come up. If someone is unhappy the other should be asking why.
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"I had an ex wife like that. Dickensian attitude and she went off and fucked others without my knowledge. Double standards."
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not
Possibly yes IMO, I have long believed this.
If you agree every action begins as a thought (every intentional one anyway) then there's a process, a road to cheating which culminates in acting it out.
I believe it's possible to be unfaithful to varying degrees without going as far as committing the act itself."
Utter nonsense. Watching porn does not make you a cheat or future cheat. Men are visual creatures, porn is something to wank to, nothing more. So I’m bored at home alone, I think ooh I’ll have a wank while watching some porn. So that means I’m on the road to cheating. Get a grip man. |
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It's fantasy. So no.
All people fantasize, and that's healthy I believe. It's when you expect others to meet those fantasies which may not be their desire that's the issue? |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not
Possibly yes IMO, I have long believed this.
If you agree every action begins as a thought (every intentional one anyway) then there's a process, a road to cheating which culminates in acting it out.
I believe it's possible to be unfaithful to varying degrees without going as far as committing the act itself.
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Nonsense, you can't get a little bit pregnant
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Utter nonsense. Watching porn does not make you a cheat or future cheat. Men are visual creatures, porn is something to wank to, nothing more. So I’m bored at home alone, I think ooh I’ll have a wank while watching some porn. So that means I’m on the road to cheating. Get a grip man."
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it."
What is he needs a release and she isn't interested in sex. Shouldn't she care about his needs? |
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it."
thats totally irrational thinking. she needs to have a word with herself. |
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it.
What is he needs a release and she isn't interested in sex. Shouldn't she care about his needs? "
If he knows her wishes and lets her find out he's been watching porn and wanking then it's his own fault. |
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over a year ago
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it."
My friends girlfriend won't let him go out. So based on that theory if he cares about get he should never go out ever again... |
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it.
thats totally irrational thinking. she needs to have a word with herself. "
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it.
What is he needs a release and she isn't interested in sex. Shouldn't she care about his needs?
If he knows her wishes and lets her find out he's been watching porn and wanking then it's his own fault. "
what next? stop watching Eastenders or Corrie because he might find a actress attractive?? |
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it.
My friends girlfriend won't let him go out. So based on that theory if he cares about get he should never go out ever again..."
Why won't she let him go out? Has he fucked every woman in town? |
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"She's allowed her opinion. If she thinks porn is cheating then if he cares about her he shouldn't watch it.
What is he needs a release and she isn't interested in sex. Shouldn't she care about his needs?
If he knows her wishes and lets her find out he's been watching porn and wanking then it's his own fault. "
So her feelings are more important than his then? |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret.
What he does in private, should be just that. Private. Its his business not hers.
Does that extend to my partner becoming a secret member of a racist party and secretly going to their meetings? I have no grounds to object to that? "
If its done secretly and privately, you wouldn't know, would you? How can you object to something you don't know about? |
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"I do occasionally watch porn but I have a simply splendid imagination which helps when I want a little self relief
Oh me too
if you were to watch, what type would it be?"
Rough, anal, oral |
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret.
What he does in private, should be just that. Private. Its his business not hers.
Does that extend to my partner becoming a secret member of a racist party and secretly going to their meetings? I have no grounds to object to that?
If its done secretly and privately, you wouldn't know, would you? How can you object to something you don't know about?"
So if a wanker wanks and nobody catches them, did they really wank? |
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"I do occasionally watch porn but I have a simply splendid imagination which helps when I want a little self relief
Oh me too
if you were to watch, what type would it be?
Rough, anal, oral "
ever watched cuckold? |
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"I do occasionally watch porn but I have a simply splendid imagination which helps when I want a little self relief
Oh me too
if you were to watch, what type would it be?
Rough, anal, oral
Can't say I have
ever watched cuckold?"
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"In my experience most women find porn disgusting and don't want to think that their bloke might look at it.
Hence why most attached men look at it in secret. "
Most women find orb disgusting?.....Really?...Well I must have a mans mind because I love watching porn. |
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"In my experience most women find porn disgusting and don't want to think that their bloke might look at it.
Hence why most attached men look at it in secret.
Most women find orb disgusting?.....Really?...Well I must have a mans mind because I love watching porn."
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"It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single
Was she willing to service your every erection or did she just want you to take a cold shower?
She would freak at the thought of it. Had to have a sneaky danger wank if she wasn’t putting out
I had a friend whose wife was like that. She full on admitted that she didn't like her stretch marks and didn't want her husband lookinh a women without stretch marks. In her defence, she did say that, and I quote "he shouldn't be wanking, he should be fucking me...."
Well I kind of think that lol!! If I don't want it (never happened yet!) then fair dos, he might have to sort himself out. |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
She needs to get in the bin. What an absolute ming-mong. |
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"It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single
Was she willing to service your every erection or did she just want you to take a cold shower?
She would freak at the thought of it. Had to have a sneaky danger wank if she wasn’t putting out
I had a friend whose wife was like that. She full on admitted that she didn't like her stretch marks and didn't want her husband lookinh a women without stretch marks. In her defence, she did say that, and I quote "he shouldn't be wanking, he should be fucking me....
Well I kind of think that lol!! If I don't want it (never happened yet!) then fair dos, he might have to sort himself out. "
I think it's reasonable to say that a husband shouldn't be passing up sex with his wife in order to look at porn. I don't think it's reasonable for the wife to give him a hard time about jacking off if she isn't DTF |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not"
Should have spunked in her face as she was walking out the door |
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not
She needs to get in the bin. What an absolute ming-mong. "
Ming-mong. That's made laugh, but you're right, I do feel sorry for the husband. |
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"It’s all down to the individual. One of my exes couldn’t bear the thought of me knocking one out to wankhub. She saw me being aroused or interested in anyone else as cheating. Hence I’m single
Was she willing to service your every erection or did she just want you to take a cold shower?
She would freak at the thought of it. Had to have a sneaky danger wank if she wasn’t putting out
I had a friend whose wife was like that. She full on admitted that she didn't like her stretch marks and didn't want her husband lookinh a women without stretch marks. In her defence, she did say that, and I quote "he shouldn't be wanking, he should be fucking me....
Well I kind of think that lol!! If I don't want it (never happened yet!) then fair dos, he might have to sort himself out.
I think it's reasonable to say that a husband shouldn't be passing up sex with his wife in order to look at porn. I don't think it's reasonable for the wife to give him a hard time about jacking off if she isn't DTF"
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"There's red lines in every relationship. I hate racism and anyone who knows me more than five minutes would know that. If I found out my partner had secretly gone off and joined the BNP that would be the end of the relationship.
Some women feel very strongly about porn and, for them, their partner using it would be a similar red line. If she made that clear before the relationship got going and he continued to use it secretly whilst staying in the relationship, then he really can't complain if she is livid if she finds out.
What if she didn't make it clear at the start?
Then I suppose he wouldn't be doing it in secret.
Do you shut the door when you shit?
Yes, but I don't hide from my partner the fact that I have shits.
So why does wanking have to be done in secret? (Assuming he didn't agree not to do it)
You're confusing privacy with secrecy. Things can be done privately that are not secret.
What he does in private, should be just that. Private. Its his business not hers.
Does that extend to my partner becoming a secret member of a racist party and secretly going to their meetings? I have no grounds to object to that?
If its done secretly and privately, you wouldn't know, would you? How can you object to something you don't know about?
So if a wanker wanks and nobody catches them, did they really wank? "
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"My best mate said to me yesterday his mrs almost left him cos she cought him rubbing one away to porn. she said hes mentally cheating on her and almost walked out on him i clipped him round the head and said tell her get a grip
Is she correct or not
She needs to get in the bin. What an absolute ming-mong. "
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