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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think of your profile as a shop window to the women of fab.
Will they shop in the one with plenty to see, or will they go into the one with the bare window.
Your profile is the chance to make the best first impression.
Remember, most of us will visit a profile before even considering whether to answer a message or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple."
a very valid point but irrespective of that you will be judged by your qwerty comments  |
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That's what profiles are for. To quickly get the measure of someone. 
Took me days to get mine right and to reflect the 'true me' but the amount of meets I've got, it was worth it. Literally fighting them off with a shitty stick OP. 
FYI I offer a reasonably priced profile writing service PM for details. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple."
If I find someone I like the look of, and that interests me with words, then I do talk to them. Simple |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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Can certainly make a jusdgement on effort put in - lazy profile = lazy lover?
Doesn't have to be a long profile - I've read profiles that are only 10 words long but say a million  |
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Where are they supposed to get this 'time' from? Arguably crap profiles are, unfortunately, pretty profilic and if I worked on the charitable principle that their owners were having an off day or something (as opposed to not being arsed to make an effort) it'd be a full time job giving them all a 'chance'!! |
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple.
If I find someone I like the look of, and that interests me with words, then I do talk to them. Simple "
That makes complete sense as a profile is what draws you in the first place. |
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"Can certainly make a jusdgement on effort put in - lazy profile = lazy lover?
Doesn't have to be a long profile - I've read profiles that are only 10 words long but say a million "
Lazy profile = didn't put much effort into profile. That's all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The thing is you write chapter and verse and people just focus on a small amount so you write less. I am convinced that if you visually like someone then a phone conversation will tell you more than a profile ever can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing is you write chapter and verse and people just focus on a small amount so you write less. I am convinced that if you visually like someone then a phone conversation will tell you more than a profile ever can. "
of course but you are competing with many to get to that phone call |
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"The thing is you write chapter and verse and people just focus on a small amount so you write less. I am convinced that if you visually like someone then a phone conversation will tell you more than a profile ever can. of course but you are competing with many to get to that phone call "
Exactly |
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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago
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Profiles give you a steer and a sense of the person. Some of it is in the information they choose to share. Some of it is unintentional, from the tone etc.
For example, people who write ‘will fill in later’ then haven’t edited it over a year later - this suggests to me they’re lazy or not serious about swinging (might cancel etc) meaning unless their message is supersonically amazing, we’re unlikely to see anything to spark our interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple."
Who has time for all that palava! Not me |
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"That's what profiles are for. To quickly get the measure of someone.
Took me days to get mine right and to reflect the 'true me' but the amount of meets I've got, it was worth it. Literally fighting them off with a shitty stick OP.
FYI I offer a reasonably priced profile writing service PM for details."
Yeah, and what exactly have you done with Tina?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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See this is my point I’m hearing words like your competing and shop window is your profile. I’m not here to compete nor to shop. I’m here to mingle with people interested in swinging. Let’s put it another way, I went to a club once and avoided a couple nearly all night based on their fan profile text. Then something said don’t judge them on text judge them on them. You know once we chatted it became apparent that their profile was a load of rubbish because they felt the need to keep up with the Joneses sonto speak. In fact they were the opposite and a great couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That's what profiles are for. To quickly get the measure of someone.
Took me days to get mine right and to reflect the 'true me' but the amount of meets I've got, it was worth it. Literally fighting them off with a shitty stick OP.
FYI I offer a reasonably priced profile writing service PM for details.
Yeah, and what exactly have you done with Tina? "
We went our seperate ways or should I say she went back to her hubby. Long story there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See this is my point I’m hearing words like your competing and shop window is your profile. I’m not here to compete nor to shop. I’m here to mingle with people interested in swinging. Let’s put it another way, I went to a club once and avoided a couple nearly all night based on their fan profile text. Then something said don’t judge them on text judge them on them. You know once we chatted it became apparent that their profile was a load of rubbish because they felt the need to keep up with the Joneses sonto speak. In fact they were the opposite and a great couple."
exactly people are actually lovely once you get to meet them...... It's getting to meet them you're frustrated with, don't forget the forums are just a few of the membership and to get to meet real people you have to present everything your profile, your messages, your pics the best way you can....... Why does she pick you over him...... You have all the good things he doesn't |
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple."
In reality its a good point.. window shopping one has more senses to go by, on here ultimately its pictures and profile text, be it full of bull, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See this is my point I’m hearing words like your competing and shop window is your profile. I’m not here to compete nor to shop. I’m here to mingle with people interested in swinging. Let’s put it another way, I went to a club once and avoided a couple nearly all night based on their fan profile text. Then something said don’t judge them on text judge them on them. You know once we chatted it became apparent that their profile was a load of rubbish because they felt the need to keep up with the Joneses sonto speak. In fact they were the opposite and a great couple."
So, how do we decide who to meet?
Yes, it's great to get out there and be part of the scene. I've met people and had a great time and their profiles aren't great.
But, if i'm going out to meet/socialise i'll take time and effort to look good.
My profile is the same. I take time and effort to make it look good.
If you don't want to get meets through fab, there's no need to. But I do want to. I want people to know a little about me before they decide whether to approach/reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Profiles give you a steer and a sense of the person. Some of it is in the information they choose to share. Some of it is unintentional, from the tone etc.
For example, people who write ‘will fill in later’ then haven’t edited it over a year later - this suggests to me they’re lazy or not serious about swinging (might cancel etc) meaning unless their message is supersonically amazing, we’re unlikely to see anything to spark our interest. "
Totally.
Tone is a big one. Also status updates. I've lost count of the people I've decided not to contact after initially being attracted to their photo(s) and then getting a terrible vibe from what they've written.
It's down to what you want. Some just want totally anonymous sex - somewhere to stick it, or something to stick in it. And that's totally cool for those people. Others might need a bit more of a personality click before they can get horny, and that's cool too. Everyone has their way of going about stuff. It's what makes people interesting.
I suppose the moral of the story is to put some effort and thought into your profile text, realise it's your shop window as someone put it, and come to terms that sometimes people just aren't into what you're selling. Someone will come along who is.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes but it’s like that Marshall mathers said.... I am whatever I say I am if I wasn’t then why would I say I am.
I agree that a well written profile works. But if you are not true to who you are then in reality you are a disappointment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think of your profile as a shop window to the women of fab.
Will they shop in the one with plenty to see, or will they go into the one with the bare window.
Your profile is the chance to make the best first impression.
Remember, most of us will visit a profile before even considering whether to answer a message or not."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing is you write chapter and verse and people just focus on a small amount so you write less. I am convinced that if you visually like someone then a phone conversation will tell you more than a profile ever can. "
How is that working out for you? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
OP if I'm reading you right you're saying that everyone should speak to everyone and not bother with profile text or pictures but move to phone calls right away - is that right?
If so how do you suggest that people find the time to do that for starters?
And even assuming they had the time, how would they prioritise who to pick to talk to first?
See where I'm going with this? Have an appealing profile is what helps you stand out, what attracts others to you and ultimately helps them decide if they want to meet you, rather than the next person |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple."
That the way the world is these days, a text message, Facebook post, or a tweet, everyone thinks they know people from reading a social media post, no one takes the time anymore to really get to know someone or look beyond their own self worth |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile pic may grab a few but then your profile has got to keep their attention. Then the rest of your photos have to intrigue them enough to message you.
1000’s of men on here so women can be that selective...one small detail could put them off. Or no detail at all could too.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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It does give some people away Imo
If someone just writes ask or fill in later,shows they can't be arsed putting any effort in andexpect fast results.I won't spend time asking or chatting for ages to find out about them.
We all judge op ,some moan others write too much and dont read it.
If it works for you and you like it ,then all good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think they can get the measure of you from profile text. People can write total bullshit doesn’t mean they are good bad or indifferent. People should take time to talk to you it really is that simple.
That the way the world is these days, a text message, Facebook post, or a tweet, everyone thinks they know people from reading a social media post, no one takes the time anymore to really get to know someone or look beyond their own self worth "
People are just pieces of meat. Fuck them and chuck them. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"The thing is you write chapter and verse and people just focus on a small amount so you write less. I am convinced that if you visually like someone then a phone conversation will tell you more than a profile ever can. "
Look at our profile. We've no sexy pics. It's an epic profile.... it works for us. It's entirely honest and we don't get any nonsense abusive messages. The messages we do get are usually worth getting and from the kind of people we would want to meet at some point.
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