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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it 
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times? |
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over a year ago
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Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The thread that I posted yesterday acknowledged the subtle shift in this site that I’ve noticed since my return OP. More people are using this site for other things as well as swinging. I think that’s it’s what you make of it ultimately but I understand that if you’re not getting what you want from it you will become jaded after a while.
What is it that you’re looking for OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm constantly fluctuating between wanting a relationship and having a FWB (still hate that term)
I honestly think I'm here for the forums more than anything else at the minute. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?"
You just want everyone of us men to yourself o queen of socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm constantly fluctuating between wanting a relationship and a reg friend
I honestly think I'm here for the forums more than anything else at the minute."
Im the same |
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?"
In my opinion this site is used by many types of people and I constantly wind myself up when using the site.
I try not to pay too much attention to the people who reload the same pictures time and time again or the ones who obviously just want to get to the top of the fab lists. I try to ignore the people who have a different meet every day then crow about it and the people who complain about the site and threaten to leave to get attention. Once I’ve excluded the characters who treat the site like Facebook and a few other types I don’t like, men pretending to be couples for example...I’m left with a rather small pool of people to interact with.
But still I come back
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?
You just want everyone of us men to yourself o queen of socials"
I find that quite offensive tbh
I don't host socials to benefit myself but so people can meet others they might not see at any other time. |
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?
You just want everyone of us men to yourself o queen of socials
I find that quite offensive tbh
I don't host socials to benefit myself but so people can meet others they might not see at any other time."
Very true people make a lot of good freinds at socials , be it just as freinds or as future play partners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forums and friends are all that keep me here now. I considered looking for meets again but it just left me feeling sour. Rather use my toys than have a random hook up these days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We stopped using the site for meets quite some time ago and just use it to keep in touch with friends we’ve met.
The site has become far too “commercial” to maintain the ethos of swinging within it.
By exposing itself within certain circles, forums and social circles, it has invited those to join who have little care, respect or regard for the swinging ethos, or those who live by it.
It’s a very good business plan, but a business plan that has no interest in swingers or their ethos, if it did, much of the issues on here could be very simply managed and controlled.
Combine that with so much communication being lost in translation within the confines of the media it operates within, it’s next to impossible to not let any pessimism creep in.
For want of a better word, nothing quite beats the “honesty” of meeting, chatting and getting to know folks face to face in the right environment, as oppose to in this media.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex!"
fuck me a real person with the same thoughts we are real not machines  |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"The thread that I posted yesterday acknowledged the subtle shift in this site that I’ve noticed since my return OP. More people are using this site for other things as well as swinging. I think that’s it’s what you make of it ultimately but I understand that if you’re not getting what you want from it you will become jaded after a while.
What is it that you’re looking for OP? "
I miss bein with someone and swinging together . I want a partner in crime essentially |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex!"
i totally agree with you . Sick of being made to feel no better than free call girl .
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex! i totally agree with you . Sick of being made to feel no better than free call girl . "
Yep one night stands dont do it for me. Probably why no one has me cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm constantly fluctuating between wanting a relationship and a reg friend
I honestly think I'm here for the forums more than anything else at the minute.
Im the same "
Thank you for editing that for me  |
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I'd love to find myself in a situation down the line where Im part of a couple, swinging. Or an accepted part of a couple's sex life.
I'm not here to sleep with everyone. But I am here to find the me that's struggled to get out the last few years.
The cake I'm wanting... I want to share it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the forums and am making some lovely friends on here... as for meeting well I have some options that may happen but I definitely think one offs are off the menu for me now... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All single profiles posting up to now."
probably because all the couple have that security of a strong relationship, which us singletons don't have and would in a lot of cases love to have
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading this thread made me realise it's not just me looking for something more than the perceived fab fayre of chat meet fuck and run.
But then that was never why I have been here. The randomness of one off meets and the journey just coming to an end so often feels like we are missing something more by not allowing things to develop further. Or we just meet and run away collecting ticks (veries) with no real interest in another beyond ...
well we met we fucked...who's next!
And yet those connections that might be important where it's about more than just the next meet, where it may become something more just feel so hard to either find or if we do find them each wants different things and they become so difficult to sustain..
Guess I'm still doing it wrong here but then I always did....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?
You just want everyone of us men to yourself o queen of socials
I find that quite offensive tbh
I don't host socials to benefit myself but so people can meet others they might not see at any other time."
Sorry about that was meant as a haha moment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm constantly fluctuating between wanting a relationship and a reg friend
I honestly think I'm here for the forums more than anything else at the minute.
Im the same
Thank you for editing that for me "
I did for my answer  |
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?
In my opinion this site is used by many types of people and I constantly wind myself up when using the site.
I try not to pay too much attention to the people who reload the same pictures time and time again or the ones who obviously just want to get to the top of the fab lists. I try to ignore the people who have a different meet every day then crow about it and the people who complain about the site and threaten to leave to get attention. Once I’ve excluded the characters who treat the site like Facebook and a few other types I don’t like, men pretending to be couples for example...I’m left with a rather small pool of people to interact with.
But still I come back
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The Facebook observation is fair. This forum in particular seems to be little more than Facebook for people who have profile pics with their cocks/boobs out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex! i totally agree with you . Sick of being made to feel no better than free call girl . "
Hit the nail on the head! Those that just want a one off or especially those that say they are in the area for one night only are just looking for a free escort essentially. It really boils my blood.
Also those men who say they’d never swing in a relationship. I just feel it’s so insulting, for one why are you on a swinging site and two so basically they’re saying we’re good enough to fuck but not for a relationship, just free whores!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The forums and friends are all that keep me here now. I considered looking for meets again but it just left me feeling sour. Rather use my toys than have a random hook up these days "
Same here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many people on here that arnt actual swingers. Its definetly diluted from a swinging site"
But on the positive side, there are some little diamonds on here like you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Reading this thread made me realise it's not just me looking for something more than the perceived fab fayre of chat meet fuck and run.
But then that was never why I have been here. The randomness of one off meets and the journey just coming to an end so often feels like we are missing something more by not allowing things to develop further. Or we just meet and run away collecting ticks (veries) with no real interest in another beyond ...
well we met we fucked...who's next!
And yet those connections that might be important where it's about more than just the next meet, where it may become something more just feel so hard to either find or if we do find them each wants different things and they become so difficult to sustain..
Guess I'm still doing it wrong here but then I always did....
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I don’t think your doing it wrong.... there is no set way and everyone is different.. at one time the more one off maybe did suit me... but that was a long time ago... and now I would like more... but on here even though so many say about that it, seems rare!!! So just keep doing it your way!!! Mwah xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm getting fed up too. And I wonder if it's the dynamics on here putting me off. Too many men (not all, there are some amazing guys) seem to think it's an instant sex site. They send a 'fancy a fuck?' message. No profile info or pics and then get chopsy because I don't answer. I am considering leaving when my membership runs out. It's just not as much fun anymore. I wish it was.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm struggling too. I love group sex and clubs but there are none near me and nobody around here has parties. I'm tired of one off fucks, it leaves me feeling empty inside. The guys I really liked have left or moved on and I can't be bothered to keep looking.
I like the group social side but I don't seem to get invited or they are miles away.
I absolutely know, if I leave no one would give a fuck so I guess my time here is nearly over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined fab expecting to find a community type feel and to make friends. I think as a single the focus is more on one to one meetings and that to me isn't swinging.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular forum users will be missed! They've seen it all and add a little bit of glamour from time to time.
Now you can't control what others like or dislike everyone has their own ideas of what swinging is and isn't. Some will see a colour as blue others see green. Would it be better if blue only hangs around with blue or green with green. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics "
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems to me there is almost two sites within the one. The couples side of things (which obviously is our side) where making friends, meeting real swingers and about a community is still there. We have made a circle of friends that we keep adding to here.
Then there is the singles side which seems to be about one time hook ups. To be honest that’s what the forum feels like most of the time. There are some grey areas where singles want to play with couples and vice versa, but often the dynamics from here for that don’t seem right to us. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I think it's very much peaks and troughs with this place - there are times when it all seems to be going right, there are plenty of interesting threads in the forums, people that hold my interest to exchange messages with and potentially meet and more besides - then there are times when the opposite is true.
I'm one of the (possibly rare judging by some of the responses in this thread) men who doesn't want a fuck and go, won't just meet anyone and wants to take my time to get to know people,and build a connection and chemistry before meeting them,and would then hope for that to be an ongoing thing rather than a one off - and personally if it comes to not having that or not having anything at all, I'd choose the latter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree I guess its what everyone’s own definitely notion of swinging is... to me it’s couples meetin other couples or singles.. making friends and exploring different kinks etc ....
As a single if I’m honest I don’t see my self as a true ‘swinger’. And I think singles who want to have sex with others... that’s not swinging that’s just having sex with others whether it’s on a regular basis or one offs... unless it’s with couples or part of the club scene etc...
Maybe the site has become more singles orientated...(I’ve been on and off here for 6 years) I came back on here as a single because the dating sites I went on basically were like shag sites and also at that time I didn’t want a realtionship so this was one place where you can meet people and be sexually open about what you like and enjoy... where you can look for NSA if that’s what you want or a bit more too!!
Will I be able to find a FWB on here who I can also be kinky with...I don’t know... but I have more chance here then on bloody tinder or POF!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The forums and friends are all that keep me here now. I considered looking for meets again but it just left me feeling sour. Rather use my toys than have a random hook up these days "
This Such hard work these days!! |
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apart"
the only way you can set it apart is to stop people that arnt swingers joining |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics it never used to be. Its the people that joined that changed the site"
Maybe then us singles need to have a rethink then!!?? I love the forums and have made some lovely friends... so not sure what the answer is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, i’m hitting the wall. I struggle to maintain an air of nonchalance when a man i’ve met is (probably) corresponding with other women, nevermind letting them suck on his knob.
I feel like Bruce Banner trying to keep my shit together before I turn into the Hulk.
It’s very wearing. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Bit harsh but I get you OP"
I've been on the scene a long time but the way it's changing just isn't swinging to me.
I was friends first and sex was icing on top of the cake. It wasn't about an Insta fuck. Many of the friends I've made over the years I'm still in touch with.
I have had some amazing experiences and had some "situationships" not a boyfriend per se....but not some random fb either.
Nowadays it seems to be more how many can I fuck. Swinging isn't just fucking. Not to me anyway. I get ridiculous messages from ppl saying they wanna ruin me. Or you meet socially and someone refuses to even tell you their name which is kind of alarm bell ringing time. I'm not meaning full name dob either just "Jack, John, ted" etc
As others have commented I do host socials and no I don't look for those who appeal visually to me. It's not about that but considering the vast amount of ppl I meet at least one I click with would be nice.
I miss the relationship side of swinging |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've been feeling the same way for quite a while now and why I haven't had sex since March 2017
Sick to death of being treated like a free whore!
Most of my messages last night were based on the 'I'm in a hotel now, wanna meet' type, so quite clearly didn't even bother to read my profile!
I called one out on it and he admitted to 'just chancing his luck'
I'd rather go without than lower what I am looking for  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apartthe only way you can set it apart is to stop people that arnt swingers joining"
It is called FABSWINGERS, not FABSINGLES, the clue is in the name.
that why I stick to the clubs everyone there for the same thing. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
Although I'm definitely not a swinger, according to the forums, Ive been here a good long while now.
I think that firstly, most people on any given website aren't going to use the forums anyway, and of those who do, more are likely to be single because couples have each other to talk to (you'd hope).
Secondly, I think verification offer a "collect as many as you can" mentality and I'd like to see them modified to remove the comments section and possibly who gave the verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apartthe only way you can set it apart is to stop people that arnt swingers joining"
How would you define a 'swinger'? |
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apartthe only way you can set it apart is to stop people that arnt swingers joining
How would you define a 'swinger'?"
someone whose not looking for a relationship or a single fuck buddy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So glad I’m not the only one feeling like this.
I’ve been on and off the site since 2014 and it’s def changed.
Guys get very abusive when you don’t reply to their ‘I want to cum all over your face and tits’ messages.
The reason I joined was to be around like minded people who you could be open and honest about your sexuality and likes without being judged... but it has changed and it does feel like it’s more some sort of menu for guys to pick from.
As people have said, that’s not what swinging is about. It’s getting to know people and develop a trust with people so you can explore and push boundaries.
I used to always go to my local club when lived down south and loved it. Didn’t have to play... just loved being around people, chatting, sharing stories, having a laugh and just being free.
Live in hope will meet someone or people I can connect with on same level again |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
I feel in a weird position on here now as I have the best fwb I could ever wish for who gives me everything I could want, consequently I'm not really that motivated to seek out new people which is kind of contrary to the idea of swinging.
The only things that keep me on here is my addiction to the forums and the few experiences we want to explore together which require us to involve others. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apartthe only way you can set it apart is to stop people that arnt swingers joining
It is called FABSWINGERS, not FABSINGLES, the clue is in the name.
that why I stick to the clubs everyone there for the same thing."
See..... that attitude. Some ppl attend clubs for the social interaction and not to get their willy wet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This thread gave me all the answers.... as to why I have found nothing but monogamous relationships on swinging sites....
My question to everyone that is not just looking for sex.... Why not try one of the dating sites?
I know it’s hard work... but at least you know a guy is approaching you for your face pic and the words on your profile..... where as on here he is approaching you for your tits and ass pics... |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"This thread gave me all the answers.... as to why I have found nothing but monogamous relationships on swinging sites....
My question to everyone that is not just looking for sex.... Why not try one of the dating sites?
I know it’s hard work... but at least you know a guy is approaching you for your face pic and the words on your profile..... where as on here he is approaching you for your tits and ass pics..."
It's not that we are looking for relationships, most of us are just sick to death of being treated like free whores by the men on here.
I've been here 10 years and the attitudes of men have changed drastically in that time, long gone is the respect that used to be shown  |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"This thread gave me all the answers.... as to why I have found nothing but monogamous relationships on swinging sites....
My question to everyone that is not just looking for sex.... Why not try one of the dating sites?
I know it’s hard work... but at least you know a guy is approaching you for your face pic and the words on your profile..... where as on here he is approaching you for your tits and ass pics..."
There is respect and mutual understanding in relationships. People don't cheat because they don't have to. They can also choose to enjoy a flirt and lighthearted play without issue. It's a lifestyle and swingers are by and large more open minded.
It's not a case of dating. I'm just not some whore a man thinks he can have for free. Men come on here assuming women have no standards and get abuse for saying no.
If I wanted to date I would but it would be with a swinger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex!"
Couldn't of put it better myself, that's what we are looking for also with no joy x |
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"Yes I’m sick of it. I’m tired of hearing it’s a sex site and it being full of men who don’t want to get to know you, just send a cock pic and expect you to drop your knickers. To me swinging is about, trust, respect and friendships. Having fun with people into the same things as you even if that doesn’t lead to sex!"
Agree totally with this ^^^ x |
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over a year ago
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"This seem just like any other dating site from tinder to plenty of fish just a little more X rated pics
We should put our heads together and come up with ways to change it and set it apartthe only way you can set it apart is to stop people that arnt swingers joining
It is called FABSWINGERS, not FABSINGLES, the clue is in the name.
that why I stick to the clubs everyone there for the same thing."
But you're still single even if you go to a club? |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Have you tried swinging?"
Have you tried not being antagonistic when replying? Every thread you seem to reply to seems to take an oppositional view point or is argumentative.
I've been a swinger for over a decade as I said more than once in this thread it's changing. Too many non swingers thinking it means dial a fuck |
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over a year ago
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?"
until the next time your sucking a dick lol |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?until the next time your sucking a dick lol "
Hmmmm it's so good to see you missed the point |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?until the next time your sucking a dick lol
Hmmmm it's so good to see you missed the point "
I think you have hit the swinging wall.... it’s time to take a break..... start hitting the gym , read books , and spend time with your family....
Whenever I take a break I try to better myself...
I took a cook class someone gave me as a gift... now I can cook a great lasagna...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the site generally, and the forums are fun, but it seems a lot of men on this site are nothing but liars and head fucks, and WHY???
I want someone to meet for chats, laughs and hot sex with no strings attached yet it seems to be difficult to find.
I'm far from desperate though so will either carry on loitering around the forums or just bugger off completely at some point... |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?until the next time your sucking a dick lol
Hmmmm it's so good to see you missed the point
I think you have hit the swinging wall.... it’s time to take a break..... start hitting the gym , read books , and spend time with your family....
Whenever I take a break I try to better myself...
I took a cook class someone gave me as a gift... now I can cook a great lasagna...
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I already train 6 days a week and read and spend time with family . Maybe more holidays or a new hobby....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you tried swinging?
Have you tried not being antagonistic when replying? Every thread you seem to reply to seems to take an oppositional view point or is argumentative.
I've been a swinger for over a decade as I said more than once in this thread it's changing. Too many non swingers thinking it means dial a fuck "
I meant as a couple. I imagine it's a much different experience than meeting as a single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes, I can relate to this, and it's why I am using Fab more and more to meet like-minded friends rather than for the sex/swinging side. It's all about connections and where they might lead... |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I imagine it's a much different experience than meeting as a single. "
It is. More hands, tongues and cocks in our case
Moresomes... I would call it swinging. As a single meeting singles I would call it hooking up with single people.
Having said that, we were told we were non swingers as we only meet single men and don't meet other couples and because we mostly met with people for one offs, so what do I know. Either way, whatever people called it, it was fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Eeeeee after over a decade I think I may just be going off it. I see veris pop up daily on my friends lists and it's becoming off putting. I think swinging has become so diluted and such a hook up entity that I'm now turned off by it
Unless I'm just having a low point.!?! Anyone feel this way at times?"
yes I've felt it for a long time but it's life you get fed up with things you get too much of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We joined this site to spice up our sexlife and hopefully when were brave enough fulfill a few fantasies that involve another person/persons but all I see here is people being let down by fantasists  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I imagine it's a much different experience than meeting as a single.
It is. More hands, tongues and cocks in our case
Moresomes... I would call it swinging. As a single meeting singles I would call it hooking up with single people.
Having said that, we were told we were non swingers as we only meet single men and don't meet other couples and because we mostly met with people for one offs, so what do I know. Either way, whatever people called it, it was fun "
If it stops becoming fun I'd try a different approach or have a break. I'm the same with knitting; I got sick of knitting jumpers so I started on baby clothes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm constantly fluctuating between wanting a relationship and having a FWB (still hate that term)
I honestly think I'm here for the forums more than anything else at the minute."
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