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By (user no longer on site)
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You won't don't worry the funeral directors will help you lift and will make sure you are stable before you try. My mum was carried by her teenage grandchildren as they all wanted to do it. BUT If you can't do it don't worry it won't matter the funeral directors will have full staff to take over so just see how you feel and tell the funeral directors your worries. Big hugs |
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now "
I'm sorry for your loss xx Usually there are enough people helping carry that the load isn't too much, emotionally I can imagine it will be one of the hardest things you'll do though. Seek comfort in those around you, who will be sharing your feelings x |
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now "
Carried my Mothers coffin at her funeral. It’s not as hard as you think. Also the undertakers explain everything to you. Yes I was nervous too but once I started carrying it, I was OK.
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now "
Lift with your legs, every step will be hard, every step will be heavy. Lighten each one with a fond memory to cherish and with a heavy heart put a good friend to rest. |
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now
Lift with your legs, every step will be hard, every step will be heavy. Lighten each one with a fond memory to cherish and with a heavy heart put a good friend to rest."
Thats a lovely idea x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wanna be proud as I walk not make a tit of myself"
I understand your worries and concerns OP, a lot of emotions flying around. As others have said the funeral directors will help and the weight will be distributed between you all. I’m so sorry to read of your loss, it’s a hard and heavy thing to bear emotionally |
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now
Lift with your legs, every step will be hard, every step will be heavy. Lighten each one with a fond memory to cherish and with a heavy heart put a good friend to rest."
Those are lovely word's. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now "
You will be very proud to carry your best friend and don't worry. My nephews carried their Grandma , my mum, along with other members, of the family ,they cried all the way into church. I was so proud of them, as would my mum have been. Cherish the moment...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now
You will be very proud to carry your best friend and don't worry. My nephews carried their Grandma , my mum, along with other members, of the family ,they cried all the way into church. I was so proud of them, as would my mum have been. Cherish the moment... "
thank you just so nervous even more so now we a few hours away from it |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now
You will be very proud to carry your best friend and don't worry. My nephews carried their Grandma , my mum, along with other members, of the family ,they cried all the way into church. I was so proud of them, as would my mum have been. Cherish the moment... thank you just so nervous even more so now we a few hours away from it"
You are bound to be nervous it's a big thing to do for your friend and you're obviously emotional too, but you will be absolutely fine. |
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It went absolutely perfect.
Proudest thing I've done. Was heavy was daunting but once we lifted onto shoulders all that dread went away.
Thank you everyone. Thanks for your words an support |
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"It went absolutely perfect.
Proudest thing I've done. Was heavy was daunting but once we lifted onto shoulders all that dread went away.
Thank you everyone. Thanks for your words an support"
Glad it went well OP  |
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"I'm in for an emotional day today.
Been asked to my best friends coffin. How do I go about carrying him?
Is it hard? Heavy?
I'm really nervous now "
I’ve done it a fair few times, it is quite heavy but the undertakers will decide if it requires 4 or 6 bearers, the weight is spread over all of you, get yourselves in height order, it’s not difficult and I have always seen it as an honour to do. Good luck and don’t worry, you’ll be reet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry to hear about the OP's loss but it seems mighty strange to post updates on a casual sex site full of internet strangers.
I can't be the only one thinking this? |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear about the OP's loss but it seems mighty strange to post updates on a casual sex site full of internet strangers.
I can't be the only one thinking this?"
I think you might be, it's a general forum. |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
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Done it for my dad and my uncles.
Funeral directors will help.
The strength you will need most is emotional strength.
Take heart from the fact that you will be helping him on his final journey. |
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