I went to my first club night on Saturday, and I can safely say that size is not something to worry about. There were people of all sizes there. Everyone was really friendly, and there seemed to be a positive attitude. I spoke to a guy who said that he had lost weight, but still didn't feel brilliantly confident because he was still a big guy. He said that going to swingers events had massively improved his self confidence.

I can understand putting off going to an event though. I suffer anxiety, depression, and body dysmorphia disorder, so going to a 300+ event was really scary for me. I didn't do anything with anyone, but that first step showed me that I can do something that is scary. Maybe a BBW night would work for you, and you might feel more comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I attend clubs but all my best meets have been at hotels.

When I'm a club I dress sexy, Im very friendly and sociable, I smile and chat, and I don't think I look like Shrek, but I've never once been invited to play. This confuses me, I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.

So I actually prefer private meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love clubs. Swinging for me is the social side plus I like to watch and be watched and I have more chance of meeting other woman at clubs.

I'm a big girl, I don't actually go to bbw nights, I found that they were not for me. But there are people of all shapes, sizes and ages at a normal night. If the club your going to makes you feel uncomfortable try another and try different style of night

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By *olliPineCouple over a year ago

swingers clubs

"Anyone else hate going to clubs "

Nope, quite the opposite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never been but can't bring myself to try because of my size

Well done! That first step is a bit of a scary one but you’re right; it can be a huge confidence boost to go and meet other people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else hate going to clubs

Nope, quite the opposite"

Same here, I love them. I love meeting new people and chatting to others

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Did wonders for my confidence.

I think the key is to choose events you're most likely to enjoy regardless.

Do you like fancy dress? Go to a themed event.

Go on a night when the music will be to your taste etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some can be good, some can be bad; sometimes even the same club on different nights. It's a question of finding the club that's most consistently good.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Anyone else hate going to clubs

Nope, quite the opposite"

Same - so social & love the whole vibe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never been but can't bring myself to try because of my size

We always declined when invited but since going wished we had done so much earlier.

Go for it, you will have a great time, even of you just go for a social ice breaker."

Being fugly doesn't help with my size issues as well tho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never been but can't bring myself to try because of my size

We always declined when invited but since going wished we had done so much earlier.

Go for it, you will have a great time, even of you just go for a social ice breaker.

Being fugly doesn't help with my size issues as well tho

How we see ourselves is rarely, if ever, how others see us. Go and give it a try

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Love going to clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never been but can't bring myself to try because of my size

We always declined when invited but since going wished we had done so much earlier.

Go for it, you will have a great time, even of you just go for a social ice breaker.

Being fugly doesn't help with my size issues as well tho

Awww stop that.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never been but can't bring myself to try because of my size

We always declined when invited but since going wished we had done so much earlier.

Go for it, you will have a great time, even of you just go for a social ice breaker.

Being fugly doesn't help with my size issues as well tho

Awww stop that.

Mrs x"

I really don't think looks or size matter in clubs to be honest

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Can appreciate that clubs aren't for everyone and there are times when I've come away not having really talked to anyone that I question whether it's been worth the time, money and effort (not to mention the anxiety and nerves) of going - but then there are nights when everything falls into place, the stars align and you come away feeling elated, excited and have great memories that just make it all worthwhile.

I think, unless you've arranged to meet someone there (and even then it's no guarantee), the trouble is you never know how a club night is going to go until you are there - there have been times I've been to the same styled night at the same club and had a fantastic time and others where I've come away feeling a bit "meh" about the experience.

Guess the way you have to look at it is that it's not always going to be fantastic and just treat it as a social night out.

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