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"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence?" i get why your asking mostly fems but in the brave new world men suffer from this too i remain myself at all times im going to guess fems are put off with the old guard mentality of you can only be dirty with me mentality that was prevelant with men yrs ago | |||
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"Haven't met a man outside the swinging arena since before i joined swingers sites, but in everyday situations i think i give off a confident air as i am tall and don't stoop so men tend to notice me " You certainly are noticed!   | |||
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"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence?" I find that men are more interested in a sexually confident woman / sexually adventurous women. | |||
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"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence? I find that men are more interested in a sexually confident woman / sexually adventurous women. " Very true. I agree with this Less sexual confidence might appeal to the younger or inexperienced men but I've found the older I've got the more aware I've become of what I want from it and I get the impression it's the same for most guys. | |||
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"I tone it down everywhere, what I have of it anyway. In general people don't like sexually confident women, they use phrases like "you'll get yourself in trouble" "I prefer sexually confident women, shrinking violets don't do it for me unless i know it's all an act. | |||
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"No, no and no. Having said that my sexual confidence has taken a dive since I joined Fab. " Why has it taken a dive? | |||
"I had my sexual confidence shattered by my last partner, so just beginning to find my feet again. As a result, I am finding my personal confidence is increasing, " How did she shatter it? | |||
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"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence? I find that men are more interested in a sexually confident woman / sexually adventurous women. Very true. I agree with this Less sexual confidence might appeal to the younger or inexperienced men but I've found the older I've got the more aware I've become of what I want from it and I get the impression it's the same for most guys. " I know a lot of seriously repressed people.  | |||
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"No, no and no. Having said that my sexual confidence has taken a dive since I joined Fab. Why has it taken a dive?" I think because I have been messed around so much on here I assume there are hundreds of women out there far more exciting and beautiful than me. Also it has to be said, I was extremely sexually confident before I joined so probably does me good to get a reality check. | |||
"No, no and no. Having said that my sexual confidence has taken a dive since I joined Fab. Why has it taken a dive? I think because I have been messed around so much on here I assume there are hundreds of women out there far more exciting and beautiful than me. Also it has to be said, I was extremely sexually confident before I joined so probably does me good to get a reality check. " You're far more exciting and beautiful than me. No harm in a reality check if it was an issue I suppose. Thought you'd meant it took a dive in a bad way.
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"I tone it down everywhere, what I have of it anyway. In general people don't like sexually confident women, they use phrases like "you'll get yourself in trouble"
I prefer sexually confident women, shrinking violets don't do it for me unless i know it's all an act."Yes some men do. There are a great many who don't and even more women who find it distasteful. | |||
"Haven't met a man outside the swinging arena since before i joined swingers sites, but in everyday situations i think i give off a confident air as i am tall and don't stoop so men tend to notice me " I can see why men notice you alright your very fukkin alluring x | |||
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"Absolutly not. Ive always been sexually confident. Its never put a guy off. Why would it put a guy off." Some men think sexually confident women are slags. Some men are inexperienced and may feel intimidated. | |||
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"No, no and no. Having said that my sexual confidence has taken a dive since I joined Fab. Why has it taken a dive? I think because I have been messed around so much on here I assume there are hundreds of women out there far more exciting and beautiful than me. Also it has to be said, I was extremely sexually confident before I joined so probably does me good to get a reality check. " If you've been messed around it's because these men are knobs. It's got nothing to do with you, physically or otherwise. I hope you can regain your confidence, though once lost it can be difficult. | |||
"I think my sexual confidence only comes out in the right company and I can generally judge the mood and receptiveness of whoever I'm with regardless of where we met. " I would say I’m the same probably. I definitely wouldn’t describe myself as ‘sexually confident’, but maybe that comes from a lack of experience rather than a lack of confidence as such. But hopefully I’m pretty good at judging the mood and receptiveness that you describe. And I definitely think my confidence has grown since joining Fab - have been quite surprised to actually meet some people if I’m honest. Not in a self deprecating kind of way, just based on past life experience really. I have a friend on Fab who I’ve met a few times now who has helped with my confidence enormously. At least, in terms of confidence to try things, or just be completely comfortable around, or talk about things openly with, that might be less easy to talk about previously. Certainly not in terms of having the confidence to strut around like an arrogant so and so - that sort of confidence will never be me I don’t think! | |||
"I tone it down everywhere, what I have of it anyway. In general people don't like sexually confident women, they use phrases like "you'll get yourself in trouble" "I thought that was the plan | |||
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"I’m shy so my sexual confidence doesn’t become apparent until i get my hands on the cock." I'm the same. | |||
"I’m shy so my sexual confidence doesn’t become apparent until i get my hands on the cock. I'm the same." And me. I’m really shy in a lot of ways and so am not very sexually confident, until I start giving oral. I think I have fairly decent skills there, and once I know a guy/girl is enjoying it then my confidence increases. I’ve got a couple of Fab friends who I am lot more sexually confident with, because I know them and what they respond to well. New meets, or people I’ve only met a couple of times, much less confident and sure of myself. Part of that comes from a lack body confidence as well. I am working on that and my sexual confidence though! | |||
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"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag" I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. | |||
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"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. " can you not be demure and sexually confident? | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. " Ok im confident in what iv done before not when i havnt But im a hell of an actor so you would never know it | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. Ok im confident in what iv done before not when i havnt But im a hell of an actor so you would never know it" Apparently that's one of the top tips. Fake it to hide your shyness (etc) and you'll soon feel more confident. | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident?" That's not what I was saying. | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? That's not what I was saying. " what are you saying then | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident?" I guess ‘confidence’ can mean different things to different people. For some it may be the confidence to take the lead and be more assertive in terms of the direction things go in. In which case being demure, at least in the bedroom, maybe wouldn’t go hand in hand with that kind of confidence. But for others, and probably more in the case of many, it’s maybe more about being confident in a sexual situation with someone in terms of being accepted, and having the confidence to believe that the other person wants to be there with me. In which case I would echo what other side have said - once the nerves go and both people seem to be enjoying it, the confidence increases. So I guess having had meets with people who have been very good at expressing that they were enjoying it helps with that confidence. | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? I guess ‘confidence’ can mean different things to different people. For some it may be the confidence to take the lead and be more assertive in terms of the direction things go in. In which case being demure, at least in the bedroom, maybe wouldn’t go hand in hand with that kind of confidence. But for others, and probably more in the case of many, it’s maybe more about being confident in a sexual situation with someone in terms of being accepted, and having the confidence to believe that the other person wants to be there with me. In which case I would echo what other side have said - once the nerves go and both people seem to be enjoying it, the confidence increases. So I guess having had meets with people who have been very good at expressing that they were enjoying it helps with that confidence." That makes a lot of sense. Trust grows. | |||
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"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? That's not what I was saying. what are you saying then" In some circles, women are supposed to be demure and shy and not like sex. If she's sexually confident, knows what she likes, acts like she's enjoying it, some men see that as a bad thing. So his attitude can make her feel guilty for liking sex. So she might hide it in the future. Yes I know she can be demure, meek, shy on the outside but a vixen in bed. I'm more asking about the scenario I just described above. My OP probably wasn't clear, sorry. | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? That's not what I was saying. what are you saying then In some circles, women are supposed to be demure and shy and not like sex. If she's sexually confident, knows what she likes, acts like she's enjoying it, some men see that as a bad thing. So his attitude can make her feel guilty for liking sex. So she might hide it in the future. Yes I know she can be demure, meek, shy on the outside but a vixen in bed. I'm more asking about the scenario I just described above. My OP probably wasn't clear, sorry. " I have no experience of those circles | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? That's not what I was saying. what are you saying then In some circles, women are supposed to be demure and shy and not like sex. If she's sexually confident, knows what she likes, acts like she's enjoying it, some men see that as a bad thing. So his attitude can make her feel guilty for liking sex. So she might hide it in the future. Yes I know she can be demure, meek, shy on the outside but a vixen in bed. I'm more asking about the scenario I just described above. My OP probably wasn't clear, sorry. " Do you really experience men thinking this way often. I so prefer a sexually confident woman. Why shouldn't a woman be sexually confident? Why shouldn't they enjoy it? It's always taken at least two, so they have just as much a right as men. Most of my male friends think similar to me. Whether that's part of getting older, but we all say that we'd need a sexually confident woman to be compatible. Don't get the slag and stud thing and never have. If a man enjoys it good luck, if a woman enjoys it, good luck. Ironically, if I ever hear the word slag, I tend to hear a women say it about another...only my experience of course. In my years of experience women that I've met on a night out for example worry more about what their fellow women think about their actions than anyone else. 'I'd better not invite you back because one of the women in the group would think it's wrong' even though they wanted to. That's why the internet has liberated lots, as it's discreet and no one is judging. The eyes of the group are not on them. | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? I guess ‘confidence’ can mean different things to different people. For some it may be the confidence to take the lead and be more assertive in terms of the direction things go in. In which case being demure, at least in the bedroom, maybe wouldn’t go hand in hand with that kind of confidence. But for others, and probably more in the case of many, it’s maybe more about being confident in a sexual situation with someone in terms of being accepted, and having the confidence to believe that the other person wants to be there with me. In which case I would echo what other side have said - once the nerves go and both people seem to be enjoying it, the confidence increases. So I guess having had meets with people who have been very good at expressing that they were enjoying it helps with that confidence. That makes a lot of sense. Trust grows. " Exactly. With the distinction I made before I suppose it’s the difference between an outward display of confidence, and having a bit of inner self confidence. And when both people become really comfortable with each other that just leads to more self confidence. And I suppose trust in the other person, or trust that it won’t be weird if you suggest something. | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? That's not what I was saying. what are you saying then In some circles, women are supposed to be demure and shy and not like sex. If she's sexually confident, knows what she likes, acts like she's enjoying it, some men see that as a bad thing. So his attitude can make her feel guilty for liking sex. So she might hide it in the future. Yes I know she can be demure, meek, shy on the outside but a vixen in bed. I'm more asking about the scenario I just described above. My OP probably wasn't clear, sorry. Do you really experience men thinking this way often. I so prefer a sexually confident woman. Why shouldn't a woman be sexually confident? Why shouldn't they enjoy it? It's always taken at least two, so they have just as much a right as men. Most of my male friends think similar to me. Whether that's part of getting older, but we all say that we'd need a sexually confident woman to be compatible. Don't get the slag and stud thing and never have. If a man enjoys it good luck, if a woman enjoys it, good luck. Ironically, if I ever hear the word slag, I tend to hear a women say it about another...only my experience of course. In my years of experience women that I've met on a night out for example worry more about what their fellow women think about their actions than anyone else. 'I'd better not invite you back because one of the women in the group would think it's wrong' even though they wanted to. That's why the internet has liberated lots, as it's discreet and no one is judging. The eyes of the group are not on them. " I've been told I'm "really naughty " by men in pubs and bars, because I don't act demure and innocent, and I wasn't being overly flirtatious or crude. My friend, who does act innocent and demure when we're out, has been much more "naughty" than me in real life, but they all clamour over her for her attention. | |||
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"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. Ok im confident in what iv done before not when i havnt But im a hell of an actor so you would never know it Apparently that's one of the top tips. Fake it to hide your shyness (etc) and you'll soon feel more confident. "Just dont go overboard it can come off as arragance even if its an act | |||
"I always try to tone it down but inevitably that filthy bitch appears and tries to get me in trouble! It's particularly difficult after spending a weekend with swingers then having a vanilla night out, I'm constantly on edge trying not to say or do inappropriate things! Peach x" I’m the same! Always second guessed my comments just in case  | |||
"Im enjoying reading this as its aimed at ladys il keep my thoughts to myself Tbag I said it's for everyone. It was just mainly for women because we're 'supposed to be' demure. When a man is sexually confident he's usually seen as a stud. can you not be demure and sexually confident? That's not what I was saying. what are you saying then In some circles, women are supposed to be demure and shy and not like sex. If she's sexually confident, knows what she likes, acts like she's enjoying it, some men see that as a bad thing. So his attitude can make her feel guilty for liking sex. So she might hide it in the future. Yes I know she can be demure, meek, shy on the outside but a vixen in bed. I'm more asking about the scenario I just described above. My OP probably wasn't clear, sorry. Do you really experience men thinking this way often. I so prefer a sexually confident woman. Why shouldn't a woman be sexually confident? Why shouldn't they enjoy it? It's always taken at least two, so they have just as much a right as men. Most of my male friends think similar to me. Whether that's part of getting older, but we all say that we'd need a sexually confident woman to be compatible. Don't get the slag and stud thing and never have. If a man enjoys it good luck, if a woman enjoys it, good luck. Ironically, if I ever hear the word slag, I tend to hear a women say it about another...only my experience of course. In my years of experience women that I've met on a night out for example worry more about what their fellow women think about their actions than anyone else. 'I'd better not invite you back because one of the women in the group would think it's wrong' even though they wanted to. That's why the internet has liberated lots, as it's discreet and no one is judging. The eyes of the group are not on them. I've been told I'm "really naughty " by men in pubs and bars, because I don't act demure and innocent, and I wasn't being overly flirtatious or crude. My friend, who does act innocent and demure when we're out, has been much more "naughty" than me in real life, but they all clamour over her for her attention. " Can you put that down to the fact that's she's 'Demure' or not? Again, I've never been in male company, where they seek out a 'Demure'. You may portray self confidence in general, and some get intimidated, men and woman, as they feel the odds of rejection are higher or maybe more vocal. A woman approached me, and after a brief chat, said 'You look proper naughty'..How she came to the correct conclusion so quickly, I'll never know! I've always been able to spot that glint in their eye, that appears to show a naughty side, which 99% I'm often right, and I find that the sex is very good. I think those with the glint can spot the glint. | |||
"No, no and no. Having said that my sexual confidence has taken a dive since I joined Fab. Why has it taken a dive? I think because I have been messed around so much on here I assume there are hundreds of women out there far more exciting and beautiful than me. Also it has to be said, I was extremely sexually confident before I joined so probably does me good to get a reality check. If you've been messed around it's because these men are knobs. It's got nothing to do with you, physically or otherwise. I hope you can regain your confidence, though once lost it can be difficult. " Thanks. Fortunately I do have a strong belief in myself which goes beyond looks or sexual prowess. But the ungentlemanly behaviour of some men can be extremely demoralising at times | |||
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"I remember having sex with a guy and at the time he wasn't actually inside me,but I was straddling him and yeah basically just grinding on him and I made myself cum." First of all, I think this is incredibly hot. I'm talking to a sexy girl right now, but apart from being truly spent and exhausted from recent events and having been ill, I also have totally no confidence at all. I haven't actually met any girls for over 6 years. This is one of the reasons I've tended to meet other guys, I feel they tend to accept me much more readily as I am. On top of this, as an example, the only times anyone has said I have a small cock has been from women. Whereas a lot of guys reckon I have a big cock (I say it's average, certainly doesn't compare to some of the monsters on here). I'm missing the female touch a bit tbh especially because I adore all the other stuff around sex like kissing. I am such a kisser. All the stuff a lot of guys aren't much into. But I feel I need to find my way again. I was wondering if going to a club could help. | |||
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"I have a male friend and one night when we where chatting he started asking me where the local doggin spots where as though he assumed id know. Id never had a sexual chat with him so i dont know where.i got the idea from" He may have seen you on here. | |||
"I have a male friend and one night when we where chatting he started asking me where the local doggin spots where as though he assumed id know. Id never had a sexual chat with him so i dont know where.i got the idea from He may have seen you on here. "He may have but hes the type of person that would of said if he had | |||
"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence?" What staggers me is that we must have had over a thousand meets in the time we have been swinging . From meets on here , to dogging , to my wife picking up guys in a pub or a bar . And every single time we go out she will be as nervous as the first time we went out swinging ! She never exudes any type of confidence , no sexual or any other type of confidence which always surprises the people we meet . I think she’s smart to be honest as guys don’t seem to go for sexually confident women for some reason . | |||
"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence?" If the chemistry is right and the pair lock eyes you cannot hide that confidence it would want to break free. | |||
"I had my sexual confidence shattered by my last partner, so just beginning to find my feet again. As a result, I am finding my personal confidence is increasing, " Unfortunately I understand that all too well. When my ex left me it devastated me, emotionally and mentally, and I haven't been with anyone since the breakup. I've had opportunities where I've been talking to a lass, but I've sabotaged it by admitting I'm still in love with my ex and I don't think it's fair on the other person. I think my personal confidence is decreasing though as a result of this site, other sites and real life. I'm finding it a lot harder to talk to people online or in real life. Even friends or family. It's getting to the point now where I don't say more than five words a day to people. It sucks but I don't really know what to do about it. | |||
"I had my sexual confidence shattered by my last partner, so just beginning to find my feet again. As a result, I am finding my personal confidence is increasing, Unfortunately I understand that all too well. When my ex left me it devastated me, emotionally and mentally, and I haven't been with anyone since the breakup. I've had opportunities where I've been talking to a lass, but I've sabotaged it by admitting I'm still in love with my ex and I don't think it's fair on the other person. I think my personal confidence is decreasing though as a result of this site, other sites and real life. I'm finding it a lot harder to talk to people online or in real life. Even friends or family. It's getting to the point now where I don't say more than five words a day to people. It sucks but I don't really know what to do about it." How are you doing now? Can you ask friends/ family to meet up for a drink to get you out and socialising? | |||
"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence? What staggers me is that we must have had over a thousand meets in the time we have been swinging . From meets on here , to dogging , to my wife picking up guys in a pub or a bar . And every single time we go out she will be as nervous as the first time we went out swinging ! She never exudes any type of confidence , no sexual or any other type of confidence which always surprises the people we meet . I think she’s smart to be honest as guys don’t seem to go for sexually confident women for some reason . " I think she's smart. | |||
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"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence? What staggers me is that we must have had over a thousand meets in the time we have been swinging . From meets on here , to dogging , to my wife picking up guys in a pub or a bar . And every single time we go out she will be as nervous as the first time we went out swinging ! She never exudes any type of confidence , no sexual or any other type of confidence which always surprises the people we meet . I think she’s smart to be honest as guys don’t seem to go for sexually confident women for some reason . " You've hit the nail on the head here. A lot of immature men, themselves lacking in confidence, are intimidated when they recognise the quality they lack in women and either shun them or try to put them down. | |||
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"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence?" I'm male so I'm not sure if my opinion counts for anything here but it's funny you should say that.. I toned mine down for a meet recently and it blew it out as she wrongly thought I was Vanilla, shame she never gave me the chance to prove otherwise | |||
"Can i ask what u class as sexually confident ? I dont know if im sexually confident or its just who i am as i dont think i act much different in vanilla life to swinger life, im a very cheeky person and have a naughty sense of humour and i just kind tone it up or down depending on who im interacting at the time" I'm thinking from a woman's point of view, like knowing what we want. Being confident enough to talk to the man about sex, maybe show or tell him where we want to be touched. Not just lay there. | |||
"Questions mainly for women for obvious reasons, but open to everyone. Do you tone down your sexual confidence when meeting people (men) outside of the swinging arena? Do you find yourself initially pretending to be more 'innocent' so that you don't put them off? Have you ever been made to feel 'ashamed' of having sexual confidence? I'm male so I'm not sure if my opinion counts for anything here but it's funny you should say that.. I toned mine down for a meet recently and it blew it out as she wrongly thought I was Vanilla, shame she never gave me the chance to prove otherwise" Of course your opinion counts.
Your example is the opposite of what happened to my friend. She was apparently too sexually confident and the vanilla man found that intimidating.
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"Can i ask what u class as sexually confident ? I dont know if im sexually confident or its just who i am as i dont think i act much different in vanilla life to swinger life, im a very cheeky person and have a naughty sense of humour and i just kind tone it up or down depending on who im interacting at the time I'm thinking from a woman's point of view, like knowing what we want. Being confident enough to talk to the man about sex, maybe show or tell him where we want to be touched. Not just lay there. " Ok cool i get yeah well i always encourage a woman to be honest and tell me if she doesnt like stuff or if she does lol so im very verbal so i think that normally helps that im so happy to be chatty x x | |||
"Can i ask what u class as sexually confident ? I dont know if im sexually confident or its just who i am as i dont think i act much different in vanilla life to swinger life, im a very cheeky person and have a naughty sense of humour and i just kind tone it up or down depending on who im interacting at the time I'm thinking from a woman's point of view, like knowing what we want. Being confident enough to talk to the man about sex, maybe show or tell him where we want to be touched. Not just lay there. Ok cool i get yeah well i always encourage a woman to be honest and tell me if she doesnt like stuff or if she does lol so im very verbal so i think that normally helps that im so happy to be chatty x x " You seem like a really lovely guy. x | |||
"Can i ask what u class as sexually confident ? I dont know if im sexually confident or its just who i am as i dont think i act much different in vanilla life to swinger life, im a very cheeky person and have a naughty sense of humour and i just kind tone it up or down depending on who im interacting at the time I'm thinking from a woman's point of view, like knowing what we want. Being confident enough to talk to the man about sex, maybe show or tell him where we want to be touched. Not just lay there. Ok cool i get yeah well i always encourage a woman to be honest and tell me if she doesnt like stuff or if she does lol so im very verbal so i think that normally helps that im so happy to be chatty x x You seem like a really lovely guy. x" The way i see it from my point of view for me to properly satisfy a woman i need to know what she likes and doesnt like and adjust my techniques to what she likes im lucky to have been told im very good at oral but each woman is different so what works for one wont work for all, i think being able to read body language is important aswell and u need a woman completely relaxed and open and u can only get that from talking in my opinion but thats only my view on it x | |||
