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Ok so having had a discussion with a female who is a friend.. she was not being nasty..but was critical of me not finding more meets ..
I said well it makes a diference having pics ..and im sure my profile int perfect.
But its mainly too many single guys in our area .makes it very hard to stand out .
Dis believing my reason .
We set up a search
Male looking for female between 18 and 52 . Who can travel and accom and has public pictures and had one veri by meet
We ran the search on men aged 18-18 ..wrote down the result.
19-19 wrote it down
20-20 etc
By the time we got to men aged 49
We were near a thousand ..this is just in a 20 mile search area
We ran the search for women
18-52 who can accom and can travel .who has public pics and atleast one meet.
So the girl our theoretical 'guy is looking for
Result.
61 profiles
No wonder women moan about getting bombarded with messsages
And single guys moan about never getting replies |
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My point was ...surely there shoild be a limit to how many single guys can continue to join
As not only does it become a pointless excersize for them
It becomes an awful user experience for the women trying touse fab and getting unmanageable amounts of mail |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My point was ...surely there shoild be a limit to how many single guys can continue to join
As not only does it become a pointless excersize for them
It becomes an awful user experience for the women trying touse fab and getting unmanageable amounts of mail"
Aaaaah now this is a unique way of moaning i like it |
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The site owners know how many profiles they have and of what type ..single fem ..couples...single guys .
Etc for a given area .
It seems reasonable to simply.not allow more single guys to join whem the ratio is 20 to 1 or above already
And they cant say its about revenue ..a huge proportion dont pay site support anyway |
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"But the only way to do it would be to cap the single men at say 500 in an area. If they're all twats then the women are no better off. "
Very true .. i would hope that all 500 would not be twats ..the ones that prove they are not would have much more fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh look it's rant day .....just.
Or just another I can't get a meet therefore I want to find a way to skew the figures more in my favour kind of thread.....
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"But the only way to do it would be to cap the single men at say 500 in an area. If they're all twats then the women are no better off.
Very true .. i would hope that all 500 would not be twats ..the ones that prove they are not would have much more fun "
But even if they're not twats they may not be compatible with the ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join. |
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At the moment those ladies have most likely had to either block single guys or employ a full time admin assistant to help them manage their inbox
So i dont think they are finding it easy to find those compatible either |
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"At the moment those ladies have most likely had to either block single guys or employ a full time admin assistant to help them manage their inbox
So i dont think they are finding it easy to find those compatible either "
Thats a crap excuse if you send the right message you will get a reply then its up to you to hold a conversation |
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"The site owners know how many profiles they have and of what type ..single fem ..couples...single guys .
Etc for a given area .
It seems reasonable to simply.not allow more single guys to join whem the ratio is 20 to 1 or above already
And they cant say its about revenue ..a huge proportion dont pay site support anyway"
here is your hypothetical:
you decide to delete your verified profile, just cos of 'stuff', you come back in a couple of months in a new unverified profile...but fab then says..
no thanks too many guys in this area..please come back later.
aye..ok...
I dont fucking care how other guys run their profiles or 'ruin' it for other guys..at the end of the day,you cannot limit a sex,a gender, a race from accessing a FREE site and remember not everyone remains a site supporter forever. |
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"Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join. "
I apreciate that.
There was a time i had not heard of fab . And was pleased to join ..and im sure there were people who thought ..oh for fucks sake ..another single guy has joined even then .. IT just seems oddly disproportionate
In society
There are those who are single
Those in relationships
Amd in general
Over all
Its mostly balanced
Those looking and those hoping to be found etc
Fab seems absurdly dis proportionate in demographic |
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"Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join.
I apreciate that.
There was a time i had not heard of fab . And was pleased to join ..and im sure there were people who thought ..oh for fucks sake ..another single guy has joined even then .. IT just seems oddly disproportionate
In society
There are those who are single
Those in relationships
Amd in general
Over all
Its mostly balanced
Those looking and those hoping to be found etc
Fab seems absurdly dis proportionate in demographic"
I dont care how many guys join
Im conserned with myself just because a lass i like meets another guy doesnt meen i wont meet her down the line as long as were all having a good time they can add as many as they want |
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"Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join.
I apreciate that.
There was a time i had not heard of fab . And was pleased to join ..and im sure there were people who thought ..oh for fucks sake ..another single guy has joined even then .. IT just seems oddly disproportionate
In society
There are those who are single
Those in relationships
Amd in general
Over all
Its mostly balanced
Those looking and those hoping to be found etc
Fab seems absurdly dis proportionate in demographic
I dont care how many guys join
Im conserned with myself just because a lass i like meets another guy doesnt meen i wont meet her down the line as long as were all having a good time they can add as many as they want"
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"Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join.
I apreciate that.
There was a time i had not heard of fab . And was pleased to join ..and im sure there were people who thought ..oh for fucks sake ..another single guy has joined even then .. IT just seems oddly disproportionate
In society
There are those who are single
Those in relationships
Amd in general
Over all
Its mostly balanced
Those looking and those hoping to be found etc
Fab seems absurdly dis proportionate in demographic"
You have two options OP. You can set up a whiny thread under some sort of pseudo demographic agreement and take the responses that come.
Or you can just accept fab as It is. Why should it be changed to suit your personal preferences issues or to meet your desired outcome.
Actually OP there is a third option....if you don't like fab the way it's is.... |
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"Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join.
I apreciate that.
There was a time i had not heard of fab . And was pleased to join ..and im sure there were people who thought ..oh for fucks sake ..another single guy has joined even then .. IT just seems oddly disproportionate
In society
There are those who are single
Those in relationships
Amd in general
Over all
Its mostly balanced
Those looking and those hoping to be found etc
Fab seems absurdly dis proportionate in demographic
You have two options OP. You can set up a whiny thread under some sort of pseudo demographic agreement and take the responses that come.
Or you can just accept fab as It is. Why should it be changed to suit your personal preferences issues or to meet your desired outcome.
Actually OP there is a third option....if you don't like fab the way it's is...."
Actually . Im not Whining
I havent whined at any point .. i simply pointed out a fact..ie the the numbers of profiles..followed by an opinion ..that in my opinion the ratio causes problems.on both sides ..and perhaps there should be a limit
im pretty sure im emtitled to hold an opinion
Unpess your going to tell me i cant ??
Which would be a bit rich after that response
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"The site owners know how many profiles they have and of what type ..single fem ..couples...single guys .
Etc for a given area .
It seems reasonable to simply.not allow more single guys to join whem the ratio is 20 to 1 or above already
And they cant say its about revenue ..a huge proportion dont pay site support anyway"
Or let the women search from the huge range of men available. They can do it in stealth mode if they are nervous of searching. Its the logical thing to do, they get to communicate only with who they want and it tajes the pressure off blokes. Sisters doing it for themselves as it were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t care how many single guys there are or what the ratios are, I’m just here looking out for my little corner of fab and being the best me that I can. That way when I find someone that I like then I’ll maximise my chance that she will like me too.
Also OP if you’re solely relying on fab for your meets then you’re sorely limiting yourself.
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You are always going to get more men than women on any form of dating/hookup site...
But I think if that’s the case (which it probably is in the majority of areas that men out number the women) then that’s benefical for women in a way... they get the pick of the bunch... they can be quite choosey about who they reply to, who they’re attracted to or stood out to them...
But all you have to do is try to stand out above the rest... write a good profile, have a variety of pictures and then when you send messages try to stay away from the usual shite they probably get day in day out. |
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"Actually . Im not Whining
I havent whined at any point .. i simply pointed out a fact..ie the the numbers of profiles..followed by an opinion ..that in my opinion the ratio causes problems.on both sides ..and perhaps there should be a limit
im pretty sure im emtitled to hold an opinion
Unpess your going to tell me i cant ??
Which would be a bit rich after that response
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To be totally honest it does sound like you’re quite bitter about it... you want to ‘cap’ men signing up so you have less competition but you’re also saying it’s to save women complaining...
I understand there’s probably a lot of rude guys on here who are literally just messaging every woman the same copy and paste messages and so on but step up your game and I’m sure you’ll be alright 
Don’t forget though, that women do check your veri’s to see what type of women you’ve gone for previously, my friend did this a lot, she used to check the guys veri’s to see if what type of women they went for (mainly to see if they just slept with anyone and everyone)
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"Everyone of legal age should be allowed to join. Just means more competition. Try harder to stand out and women can set up loads of filters if they don't want certain people texting them and can easily block. Why should someone who might have only heard of the site yesterday not be allowed to join? Because you feel like there's too much competition? Na let them join.
I apreciate that.
There was a time i had not heard of fab . And was pleased to join ..and im sure there were people who thought ..oh for fucks sake ..another single guy has joined even then .. IT just seems oddly disproportionate
In society
There are those who are single
Those in relationships
Amd in general
Over all
Its mostly balanced
Those looking and those hoping to be found etc
Fab seems absurdly dis proportionate in demographic"
It's the nature of the beast, this is not representative of society - number of men wanting to fuck strangers without any kind of commitment vs number of women wanting to fuck strangers with no kind of commitment.
Guess what - there's 20x more men want that! |
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By *apstarMan
over a year ago
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Yes ya research is true but how have I been on here for just over 5 months and meet about 25 people. . Yes there is way more men out there but is not hard too find a meet .. I found the first few weeks a bit hard .. What i did was i made my self stand out .. I have people message me back saying sorry not interested. I sent them a reply saying thank you for getting back too me and I hope you have a lovely weekend. She messaged me back and got talking . We still chat 2 this day ..
If you think you won't find somone you won't.
Show people ya different and stand out ... just don't give up |
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"It's the nature of the beast, this is not representative of society - number of men wanting to fuck strangers without any kind of commitment vs number of women wanting to fuck strangers with no kind of commitment.
Guess what - there's 20x more men want that! "
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"The site owners know how many profiles they have and of what type ..single fem ..couples...single guys .
Etc for a given area .
It seems reasonable to simply.not allow more single guys to join whem the ratio is 20 to 1 or above already
And they cant say its about revenue ..a huge proportion dont pay site support anyway
Or let the women search from the huge range of men available. They can do it in stealth mode if they are nervous of searching. Its the logical thing to do, they get to communicate only with who they want and it tajes the pressure off blokes. Sisters doing it for themselves as it were."
Great idea. I think that would make a massive difference. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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Well if it's stacked so highly in favour of women because there's soooooo many men. Why are us women not fucking 24/7?????
Women don't get hundreds of messages daily I am female I should know.
Wish men would stop their moaning . ..... 11 times in a row I've been stood up. 11 times! I estimate that 40% of single men on here are fantasists. 20% pic collectors. It removes a large section of what you would call a 'real swinger'. |
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"The site owners know how many profiles they have and of what type ..single fem ..couples...single guys .
Etc for a given area .
It seems reasonable to simply.not allow more single guys to join whem the ratio is 20 to 1 or above already
And they cant say its about revenue ..a huge proportion dont pay site support anyway
Or let the women search from the huge range of men available. They can do it in stealth mode if they are nervous of searching. Its the logical thing to do, they get to communicate only with who they want and it tajes the pressure off blokes. Sisters doing it for themselves as it were.
Great idea. I think that would make a massive difference. "
That's how I do it I wait to be massaged if they are interested. Still waiting but one day. It would be unfair to stop new users joining stand up and make your self seen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You guys really don’t understand what the Op is saying.......
He is going by the last man on earth theory...
Let me enlighten everyone....
The Op believes if he gets rid of every guy on Fab , all the women will have to fuck him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have done same experiment and covered a 50 mile radius ... It was amazing the difference!
And yes it isn't pleasant being a lady on here a lot of the time ... I mainly have a hidden profile! I also do not enjoy having to troll through countless awful messages and have to sort the wheat from the chaff.
But I'm not sure limiting numbers would work because knowing my luck they would all be arseholes and leave me no choice but to leave.
Maybe if the men on here learned to read profiles only messaging those where they were what the lady is looking instead of blanket messaging inappropriately, life would be improved for all users!
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"Maybe if the men on here learned to read profiles only messaging those where they were what the lady is looking instead of blanket messaging inappropriately, life would be improved for all users!
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Preach. And while I'm not going to engage with everyone who sends me an appropriate message, necessarily (I don't like everyone, I don't have time, I get overwhelmed)... it'll put you in the best 20% of messages I get. Like yes, seriously, it's not that hard. |
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No I don't think they should let limit the numbers of men allowed to join in an area. Not so many females want casual sex...fact...so there will always be fewer females available for fucking.
I think a lot of men join Fab thinking they are fuck entitled...if you want a guaranteed fuck call a prostitute. And if you want a guaranteed chat call a chat line. |
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"No I don't think they should let limit the numbers of men allowed to join in an area. Not so many females want casual sex...fact...so there will always be fewer females available for fucking.
I think a lot of men join Fab thinking they are fuck entitled...if you want a guaranteed fuck call a prostitute. And if you want a guaranteed chat call a chat line. "
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"Maybe if the men on here learned to read profiles only messaging those where they were what the lady is looking instead of blanket messaging inappropriately, life would be improved for all users!
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I always think this is a Catch22 statement. I think a lot of guys start off reading the profiles, crafting a message, taking their time, trying really hard.....and get no result. So they then start copying and pasting.......and get no real result. From that they then start carpet bombing and adding to the problem
I do think the numbers skew things. I have to say, I wouldn't use this site as a single guy.
Its all very well saying you have to stand out from the crowd, but with whats limited to a few photos, a few words and message service, thats bloody hard! |
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"No I don't think they should let limit the numbers of men allowed to join in an area. Not so many females want casual sex...fact...so there will always be fewer females available for fucking.
I think a lot of men join Fab thinking they are fuck entitled...if you want a guaranteed fuck call a prostitute. And if you want a guaranteed chat call a chat line. "
Yes. The amount of crap I get because I don't want to meet someone. Hey, I'm a person, I get to say no? |
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"Maybe if the men on here learned to read profiles only messaging those where they were what the lady is looking instead of blanket messaging inappropriately, life would be improved for all users!
I always think this is a Catch22 statement. I think a lot of guys start off reading the profiles, crafting a message, taking their time, trying really hard.....and get no result. So they then start copying and pasting.......and get no real result. From that they then start carpet bombing and adding to the problem
I do think the numbers skew things. I have to say, I wouldn't use this site as a single guy.
Its all very well saying you have to stand out from the crowd, but with whats limited to a few photos, a few words and message service, thats bloody hard! "
I can certainly understand it being demoralising, but seriously, all I want to know is, what interests you about me as a person, what do you think we have in common, and what do you think you have to offer? I would have thought that was a logical way of messaging anyway. If we don't have that we're not getting anywhere. And an attempt at answering these questions means you're better than the vast majority of my inbox. |
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"Maybe if the men on here learned to read profiles only messaging those where they were what the lady is looking instead of blanket messaging inappropriately, life would be improved for all users!
I always think this is a Catch22 statement. I think a lot of guys start off reading the profiles, crafting a message, taking their time, trying really hard.....and get no result. So they then start copying and pasting.......and get no real result. From that they then start carpet bombing and adding to the problem
I do think the numbers skew things. I have to say, I wouldn't use this site as a single guy.
Its all very well saying you have to stand out from the crowd, but with whats limited to a few photos, a few words and message service, thats bloody hard! "
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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"Perhaps fab should introduce some sort of quality control? Only the sexy intelligent guys are allowed in.  "
Define sexy and intelligent? Ambiguous at best .... I've saw women drool over and make threads about sexiest guys and I think they're ugly and they can't hold a conversation for toffee |
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"Perhaps fab should introduce some sort of quality control? Only the sexy intelligent guys are allowed in.
Define sexy and intelligent? Ambiguous at best .... I've saw women drool over and make threads about sexiest guys and I think they're ugly and they can't hold a conversation for toffee"
Oh. According to me.
Ps.I was being flippant in my response as I don't believe that the volume of guys is a problem.
Ignoring 100 unsuitable messages is as easy as ignoring 1.
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No.
I figured out how to use my message filters very shortly after joining, if women can't work out the filters or refuse to just for the ego boost of saying I get 1000 messages a day then that is down to them.
But I personally like having many potentials to choose from, why should my options be limited. |
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I can certainly understand it being demoralising, but seriously, all I want to know is, what interests you about me as a person, what do you think we have in common, and what do you think you have to offer? I would have thought that was a logical way of messaging anyway. If we don't have that we're not getting anywhere. And an attempt at answering these questions means you're better than the vast majority of my inbox. "
Ok, stand on the outside of that statement. Its all about the men proving to you that they are good enough for you. What do they have to offer you? Why should you be bothered with them?
Its already stating who is in charge. Who has the upper hand. Its hardly an equal relationship (I don't mean a romantic relationship).
Now I understand why you take the approach you do. But its the numbers pressure that skews it all in the females favour and allows you to have the advantage. If a guy doesn't make your grade, you just jog him on and move onto the next guy. He doesn't have that option. |
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Hi op
Women are free to use filters to block the volume of mail they receive (I do).As for single males,I agree there are so many more than females in most areas,but don't think they should be stopped from joining.
Some single men still do really well here despite the sheer numbers they compete against. |
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The cream always rises to the top,limiting numbers won't change this. Having a ripped body gives no guarantees,neither does having a big cock. You can either play the game or you can't and will struggle. Fab isn't a one stop shop to swinging,its not the be all to the scene.
My first 3sum,no Internet
First group fun,no Internet
First bi fun,no Internet
There's a whole lot of fun out there that doesn't revolve around being on Fabswingers. |
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I can certainly understand it being demoralising, but seriously, all I want to know is, what interests you about me as a person, what do you think we have in common, and what do you think you have to offer? I would have thought that was a logical way of messaging anyway. If we don't have that we're not getting anywhere. And an attempt at answering these questions means you're better than the vast majority of my inbox.
Ok, stand on the outside of that statement. Its all about the men proving to you that they are good enough for you. What do they have to offer you? Why should you be bothered with them?
Its already stating who is in charge. Who has the upper hand. Its hardly an equal relationship (I don't mean a romantic relationship).
Now I understand why you take the approach you do. But its the numbers pressure that skews it all in the females favour and allows you to have the advantage. If a guy doesn't make your grade, you just jog him on and move onto the next guy. He doesn't have that option."
If the numbers went the other way then I'd reverse it. And indeed when I reply I try to do so as an equal. I'm not up on some high horse here. I'm not better than anyone else, the demographics just work in my favour. I just don't see what's so desperately difficult for apparently the majority of guys, to be able to say "you interest me because x". Preferably where I'm not left feeling like they'd shag anything with a pulse and a vagina. On the rare occasion I send first messages that's what I do. It's basic communication. |
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"The cream always rises to the top,limiting numbers won't change this. Having a ripped body gives no guarantees,neither does having a big cock. You can either play the game or you can't and will struggle. Fab isn't a one stop shop to swinging,its not the be all to the scene.
My first 3sum,no Internet
First group fun,no Internet
First bi fun,no Internet
There's a whole lot of fun out there that doesn't revolve around being on Fabswingers."
Cream does always rise to the top, unfortunately so does scum!  |
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The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop   |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop "
At leat post once per week |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop
At leat post once per week"
And at *least* one post per month correcting someone else for bad grammar or a typo |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop "
That's a good idea. Maybe they could advertise that the forums exist. |
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so he wants to put limits on guys joining. so does that mean we can choose who joins the site. for example if I like harry and his name is put forward, can I decide to not let him on the site. why would I like harry to be on the site or not be on the site. rather stupid way to look at it. Then harry must look like the person who I wish to be on the site regardless of another person. why limit it ...... gosh just like saying you have blue eyes you carnt be on the site. Oh dear someone does not like competition . A limit of how many single men can log onto a site. while one person may not be my cup of tea, maybe the other might, and I can go on |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop
The forum is not at all appropriate for finding meets for everyone. I find all of my interesting and characterful men well away from the forum. The forum certainly doesn't represent the cream of the crop. It represents those that are here mainly to chat and those that like the sound of their own voices!"
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"At the moment those ladies have most likely had to either block single guys or employ a full time admin assistant to help them manage their inbox
So i dont think they are finding it easy to find those compatible either "
Actually that’s not entirely accurate, it is possible providing you’re prepared to present your profile accordingly. No pics worked amazingly well for me in attracting what I wanted. Despite being told ‘no pics = no meets’ |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop "
If the forum was that good,every guy on the forum would be having a meet every week. It's a very very small number who use the forum out of 33,000 people who are logged on at one time. |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop
If the forum was that good,every guy on the forum would be having a meet every week. It's a very very small number who use the forum out of 33,000 people who are logged on at one time. "
Men are challenged to differentiate themselves yet their messages to popular women on here, the one place they have a chance to do this, usually disappear unread into a pile. I've found the forum to be the only place where I can reliably connect and exchange half decent conversations with attractive women. Nothing has yet come of it though precisely because so few people use the forum so people are too spread out on here. If more used it I'm sure it would be a wonderful way for men to differentiate themselves. As it is it seems we only have pics and status updates to try doing that. |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop
If the forum was that good,every guy on the forum would be having a meet every week. It's a very very small number who use the forum out of 33,000 people who are logged on at one time.
Men are challenged to differentiate themselves yet their messages to popular women on here, the one place they have a chance to do this, usually disappear unread into a pile. I've found the forum to be the only place where I can reliably connect and exchange half decent conversations with attractive women. Nothing has yet come of it though precisely because so few people use the forum so people are too spread out on here. If more used it I'm sure it would be a wonderful way for men to differentiate themselves. As it is it seems we only have pics and status updates to try doing that. "
Be careful ..your in danger of acknowledging fab isnt perfect .. you will be accused of whining or wishing your the last man on earth soon. |
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Following this one with interest.
Dont usualy feel compelled to post but often lurk and read .
Surely a more balanced amount of men and women and couples isnt such a horrible idea ? |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop
If the forum was that good,every guy on the forum would be having a meet every week. It's a very very small number who use the forum out of 33,000 people who are logged on at one time.
Men are challenged to differentiate themselves yet their messages to popular women on here, the one place they have a chance to do this, usually disappear unread into a pile. I've found the forum to be the only place where I can reliably connect and exchange half decent conversations with attractive women. Nothing has yet come of it though precisely because so few people use the forum so people are too spread out on here. If more used it I'm sure it would be a wonderful way for men to differentiate themselves. As it is it seems we only have pics and status updates to try doing that.
Be careful ..your in danger of acknowledging fab isnt perfect .. you will be accused of whining or wishing your the last man on earth soon."
Oh but I am whining haha See... you guys are a perfect case in point. A sexy twosome happy to let a conversation unfold in an unpressured environment. Just as if you walked into a bar, all the nervous guys put themselves out of the game by remaining in the shadows, the idiots come up and give the verbal equivalent of an annoying ass pinch, and then there's the other guys, either boring or half interesting, stood at the bar, either capable of holding a conversation or cracking a joke and standing out or not. That's what needs properly modelling online, both for dating and for this imo (leans over and does annoying ass pinch haha ) |
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"The forums work well to differentiate interesting and characterful men confident enough to post something from jerks without a clue. If it was my site I'd recognise that's the winning ingredient and turn the whole site into a forum... you don't post anything, your membership expires. Force people to chat and, like at a club, you'd soon be making friends and pairing off. Unfortunately on here, however, only a very few read or use the forums. I'd like to imagine that among men it's the cream of the crop
If the forum was that good,every guy on the forum would be having a meet every week. It's a very very small number who use the forum out of 33,000 people who are logged on at one time.
Men are challenged to differentiate themselves yet their messages to popular women on here, the one place they have a chance to do this, usually disappear unread into a pile. I've found the forum to be the only place where I can reliably connect and exchange half decent conversations with attractive women. Nothing has yet come of it though precisely because so few people use the forum so people are too spread out on here. If more used it I'm sure it would be a wonderful way for men to differentiate themselves. As it is it seems we only have pics and status updates to try doing that.
Be careful ..your in danger of acknowledging fab isnt perfect .. you will be accused of whining or wishing your the last man on earth soon.
Oh but I am whining haha See... you guys are a perfect case in point. A sexy twosome happy to let a conversation unfold in an unpressured environment. Just as if you walked into a bar, all the nervous guys put themselves out of the game by remaining in the shadows, the idiots come up and give the verbal equivalent of an annoying ass pinch, and then there's the other guys, either boring or half interesting, stood at the bar, either capable of holding a conversation or cracking a joke and standing out or not. That's what needs properly modelling online, both for dating and for this imo (leans over and does annoying ass pinch haha ) "
Haha very good |
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