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How turned on do you need to be?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To arrange a meet?
Sometimes I get chatting to a guy and think yeah you’re hot i could probably have sex with you and others as nice as they seem nothing, nada, zippo, zilch - is that the same for you good fellows? Or doesn’t it matter if you fancy them or not? |
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Im not turned on when arranging a meet. When im arranging a meet i like to chat and get to know someones character i like to know where going to be compatable both in and out of just the sexual side of things. The more i chat to someone the more attractive they become. I wouldnt organize any meets with people i have no attraction to |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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Definitely need to fancy them and feel there might be some kind of chemistry, but would confirm with a social (however brief  ).
However I’ve also noticed I can “go off the boil”. All is great to start with, perhaps the chat slows down or something doesn’t feel quite right and my interest disappears 
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"Definitely need to fancy them and feel there might be some kind of chemistry, but would confirm with a social (however brief ).
However I’ve also noticed I can “go off the boil”. All is great to start with, perhaps the chat slows down or something doesn’t feel quite right and my interest disappears
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Pretty much this for me, the conversations beforehand usually set the tone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Definitely need to fancy them and feel there might be some kind of chemistry, but would confirm with a social (however brief ).
However I’ve also noticed I can “go off the boil”. All is great to start with, perhaps the chat slows down or something doesn’t feel quite right and my interest disappears
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Ive gone well and truly off the boil lately |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Definitely need to fancy them and feel there might be some kind of chemistry, but would confirm with a social (however brief ).
However I’ve also noticed I can “go off the boil”. All is great to start with, perhaps the chat slows down or something doesn’t feel quite right and my interest disappears
Pretty much this for me, the conversations beforehand usually set the tone "
 yeah very true |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im not turned on when arranging a meet. When im arranging a meet i like to chat and get to know someones character i like to know where going to be compatable both in and out of just the sexual side of things. The more i chat to someone the more attractive they become. I wouldnt organize any meets with people i have no attraction to"
Yes this |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"Definitely need to fancy them and feel there might be some kind of chemistry, but would confirm with a social (however brief ).
However I’ve also noticed I can “go off the boil”. All is great to start with, perhaps the chat slows down or something doesn’t feel quite right and my interest disappears
Ive gone well and truly off the boil lately "
Ahh, I was simmering along quite nicely and nope... it’s gone  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Don't necessarily need to be turned on to arrange a meet but do need to feel a connection and chemistry and that we're on the same wavelength and that in turn will lead to being turned on "during" a meet |
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In the seven years we have been swinging I don’t think we’ve ever felt the need to be turned on to have a meet .
We’ve probably had over a thousand play meets in the time we’ve been on here , and every single one of them has its own unique merits , but being turned on at the thought of meeting someone just doesn’t happen , and never has .
Maybe it’s because we’re a couple , and have only been together for eight years . But when we meet and play , it’s to enjoy acting out fantasies that we and the people we meet have . An enjoyable hobby , nothing more , nothing less  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't necessarily need to be turned on to arrange a meet but do need to feel a connection and chemistry and that we're on the same wavelength and that in turn will lead to being turned on "during" a meet "
Yeah that’s true, it seems I am not getting very turned on lately  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't have to be turned on to arrange a meet but it does help if I at least fancy them...
I wouldn't bother otherwise"
This is me explains why I’m not bothering, have lost my mojo I think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the seven years we have been swinging I don’t think we’ve ever felt the need to be turned on to have a meet .
We’ve probably had over a thousand play meets in the time we’ve been on here , and every single one of them has its own unique merits , but being turned on at the thought of meeting someone just doesn’t happen , and never has .
Maybe it’s because we’re a couple , and have only been together for eight years . But when we meet and play , it’s to enjoy acting out fantasies that we and the people we meet have . An enjoyable hobby , nothing more , nothing less "
Oo that’s an interesting take on it. I find I need to be attracted to the guy and excited to be able to arrange a meet but I think I’m too much in my head at the moment |
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You've got so much going on right now it's no wonder you're not feeling it. We can have a joint submission/birthday blow out somewhere and have some fun!
I never used to be that fussy about who I meet but at the moment I'm finding it hard to find one's I like, mainly revisiting ones I liked before my last relationship. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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I have to fancy them physically to begin with. Even with this box ticked, a prior connection with a good amount of chemistry needs to have taken place.
I won't meet for the sake of meeting. That all too important "spark" needs to be there x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You've got so much going on right now it's no wonder you're not feeling it. We can have a joint submission/birthday blow out somewhere and have some fun!
I never used to be that fussy about who I meet but at the moment I'm finding it hard to find one's I like, mainly revisiting ones I liked before my last relationship. "
True yeah need a blow out. I am looking forward to Sunday a couple of people ive meet before have messaged me and I’m drooling but other than that seem to not be interested |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have to fancy them physically to begin with. Even with this box ticked, a prior connection with a good amount of chemistry needs to have taken place.
I won't meet for the sake of meeting. That all too important "spark" needs to be there x"
Chillout yes! My spark has been put out lol |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I have to fancy them physically to begin with. Even with this box ticked, a prior connection with a good amount of chemistry needs to have taken place.
I won't meet for the sake of meeting. That all too important "spark" needs to be there x
Chillout yes! My spark has been put out lol "
you need to get that current flowing again with a jumpstart! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the seven years we have been swinging I don’t think we’ve ever felt the need to be turned on to have a meet .
We’ve probably had over a thousand play meets in the time we’ve been on here , and every single one of them has its own unique merits , but being turned on at the thought of meeting someone just doesn’t happen , and never has .
Maybe it’s because we’re a couple , and have only been together for eight years . But when we meet and play , it’s to enjoy acting out fantasies that we and the people we meet have . An enjoyable hobby , nothing more , nothing less "
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