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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t meet hence no verifications

I’ve been here before and was an active player then but have since decided the lifestyle isn’t enough for me anymore.

I came back as I enjoy the chat and I like to perv

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I haven't met for a good while now due to my needs changing,so its mostly forum's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the moment I'm not meeting. I haven't been since I was really unhappy at how much weight I'd put on. It made me miserable and that impacted on my desire to meet. I wasn't even happy about hubby touching me because it just made me cringe. That's how unsexy I felt. I've lost the weight now but my mind is playing catch up. I've been so long without meeting anyone that I don't know if the desire is still there. It's something hubby and I have to work through when the moment is right. There were other factors but that for me was the main issue.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I'm not actively meeting right now. Might meet up with old friends or perhaps someone will catch my eye at the right time but I just can't be arsed. I have a lot going on outside of fab so this is my escape of you like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im active but not very active any more. A combination of super fussy, cba, and having some favourite ppl in my life Id rather meet then then have new meets.

But I like the banter in the chatrooms and having friends to talk to.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan over a year ago

Northampton

I haven't met anyone... Yet

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By *eplicant JoWoman over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I am not meeting at the moment due to circumstances in life. I pop on here to read and chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t meet hence no verifications

I’ve been here before and was an active player then but have since decided the lifestyle isn’t enough for me anymore.

I came back as I enjoy the chat and I like to perv "

I have verifications but choose to hide them and the summary ... I don't see them as a badge of honour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not actively meeting right now. Might meet up with old friends or perhaps someone will catch my eye at the right time but I just can't be arsed. I have a lot going on outside of fab so this is my escape of you like. "

Pretty much the same here too.

We should have a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't met for a good while now due to my needs changing,so its mostly forum's."

I thought you met a roofer or something similar not so long ago? Or am i confusing you with someone else?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't met anyone... Yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

A mixture of lethargy, busy life, and just not finding anyone within a reasonable distance who entices me enough to make the effort. That and a love/hate thing about sex which gives me a very erratic sex drive.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet. "

I haven't had a single meet from the forums

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I haven’t met anyone recently and just been using the forums. I was in a car accident last year and I got injured and I’m having continuing back problems so although I’ve had a couple of offers, I’m not confident my back can take it at the moment.

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I'm hear for the forums.

And if I'm lucky enough to get a meet then that's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I went and caught the feels for someone and can't even imagine being with anyone but him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a regular fella i was meeting (who occassionally used the forums) so wasn’t actively searching.

But things can and do change.

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By *ribsaMan over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

No wonder us blokes have hard time getting meets if all the women on here are like you ladies.

I am here for meets just not had any yet, now I know why LOL.

I enjoy the forums and watching the cam shows that will do for now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums "

Me neither

I just meant messages in general x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven’t met anyone recently and just been using the forums. I was in a car accident last year and I got injured and I’m having continuing back problems so although I’ve had a couple of offers, I’m not confident my back can take it at the moment. "

I hope it wasn't hugely serious. Always sympathise with people in your position as I had a life changing accident many years ago x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've only bothered to meet one man other than socially since I've been on this time. I do meet woman but other men no longer interest me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I haven't met for a good while now due to my needs changing,so its mostly forum's.

I thought you met a roofer or something similar not so long ago? Or am i confusing you with someone else?

The roofer wasn't from here dopey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No wonder us blokes have hard time getting meets if all the women on here are like you ladies.

I am here for meets just not had any yet, now I know why LOL.

I enjoy the forums and watching the cam shows that will do for now.

I've had a number of meets but I am very selective and right now am kind of seeing someone "regularly" although it's a very long way from being "serious" although it's meant to be "exclusive" but as this is fab, I'm dubious about that (even tho *I* am treating it as such)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't met for a good while now due to my needs changing,so its mostly forum's.

I thought you met a roofer or something similar not so long ago? Or am i confusing you with someone else?

The roofer wasn't from here dopey."

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i am married and recently joined solo about a month ago to bring some excitement to my non-existent sex life. a week later hubby was diagnosed with colon cancer. today was his surgery, it went well and he is in recovery. i am too guilt-ridden to meet anyone now and was thinking about leaving fab. problem is i like the forum too much. i get some really great advice from a lot of you that i didn't know i needed!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t meet anymore, a combination of reasons. I come here to read and have a laugh, sometimes join in with silly comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"i am married and recently joined solo about a month ago to bring some excitement to my non-existent sex life. a week later hubby was diagnosed with colon cancer. today was his surgery, it went well and he is in recovery. i am too guilt-ridden to meet anyone now and was thinking about leaving fab. problem is i like the forum too much. i get some really great advice from a lot of you that i didn't know i needed!"

Does he know you are on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t meet anymore, a combination of reasons. I come here to read and have a laugh, sometimes join in with silly comments "

At least you have pics to perv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t meet anymore, a combination of reasons. I come here to read and have a laugh, sometimes join in with silly comments

At least you have pics to perv

Haha forgot to mention the perving!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't or if I do it is very rarely and mostly socials, I felt drained to constantly be someone 'next'. Aside feeling sometimes like a sexual commodity who is as disposable as the bext shag, I also felt like sex loses all its sense and essence if I engage with anyone and everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no. he does not know. he is permanently disabled with TBI (traumatic brain injury).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't or if I do it is very rarely and mostly socials, I felt drained to constantly be someone 'next'. Aside feeling sometimes like a sexual commodity who is as disposable as the bext shag, I also felt like sex loses all its sense and essence if I engage with anyone and everyone. "

Very, very true *nods thoughtfully*

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t meet anymore, a combination of reasons. I come here to read and have a laugh, sometimes join in with silly comments

At least you have pics to perv

Haha forgot to mention the perving!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Gosh! There is a huge range of reasons for not meeting and giant hugs to those who have posted about incidents which have really affected them

We just don't get time off together anymore, work has completely taken over and our time together is our catch up time!

I'm on here for forums and catching up with friends.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm here to meet, but I also do enjoy the forums and I have a few long term friends that I keep in touch with on here.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I did for a while last year.

I had a couple of regular FBs, I was happy with things the way they were & between 3 jobs, kids & my normal life I really didn't have the time to meet anyone new.

I did have "not looking to meet, only here for forums, friends & social events" on top of my bio.

Obviously didn't stop messages coming in.. We know no one reads profiles

I ignored the vulgar ones, replied to the polite, thanking & saying not looking to meet anyone new right now, but my situation may change

I recieved several ranty messages back, including... I shouldn't be on Fabs, I was a time waster, one even called me a cheap tease

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a sexless marriage due to my wife having lung disease and a stroke. I came here originally to fill the hole in my life but very quickly realised that I haven't got it in me to be unfaithful to the woman I love. I enjoy the banter though, it kills time so I stick around. I have met a few very nice people for coffee but it is always very clear that's all it will be. It's nice to make friends. It doesn't have to be all about sex!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im here just for the forums,and its getting shite in here so maybe its time to leave

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I seem to be kidding myself, I’m certain I’m here to meet but only get any joy on the forums haha

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Meeting folk from Fab was fairly short lived. I joined end of Jan last year and met Swing in May. I still have socials (with existing Fab friends) and go to the Lounge Socials. I would have left long ago was it not for the forum and it’s characters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a sexless marriage due to my wife having lung disease and a stroke. I came here originally to fill the hole in my life but very quickly realised that I haven't got it in me to be unfaithful to the woman I love. I enjoy the banter though, it kills time so I stick around. I have met a few very nice people for coffee but it is always very clear that's all it will be. It's nice to make friends. It doesn't have to be all about sex!"

Friends is good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't use this profile for meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m here to meet new people and ones I’ve already met,sometimes I’ll have a post in the forums.I have a busy life but I make time and the main intention is to meet in person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I have just started using the first rums an find them fun but would rather meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I did for a while last year.

I had a couple of regular FBs, I was happy with things the way they were & between 3 jobs, kids & my normal life I really didn't have the time to meet anyone new.

I did have "not looking to meet, only here for forums, friends & social events" on top of my bio.

Obviously didn't stop messages coming in.. We know no one reads profiles

I ignored the vulgar ones, replied to the polite, thanking & saying not looking to meet anyone new right now, but my situation may change

I recieved several ranty messages back, including... I shouldn't be on Fabs, I was a time waster, one even called me a cheap tease

How nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Absolutely agree. I have had social meets that have been just that ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im here just for the forums,and its getting shite in here so maybe its time to leave"

I like your description on your profile better than what you say here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I seem to be kidding myself, I’m certain I’m here to meet but only get any joy on the forums haha"

Just read your profile ... I think maybe lots of single ladies won't have a problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I have just started using the first rums an find them fun but would rather meet. "

As would I

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By *xycpl699Couple over a year ago

kilmarnock

I hollie here mostly for the forums we dont get alot free time with work family ect and I prefer that to be our time so am not sharing him or me. hollie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im newish and male so therefore

So i like to be meeting or fucking as much as fingering ob here but it was the forums that brought me back

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I haven't been actively looking to meet for about 5 or 6 years now, hence I don't send preemptive messages anymore, but I have had meets with ladies that I have chatted and flirted with on the forums

It kinda says that on my profile anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't been actively looking to meet for about 5 or 6 years now, hence I don't send preemptive messages anymore, but I have had meets with ladies that I have chatted and flirted with on the forums

It kinda says that on my profile anyway

It works for you ... Power to you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

When i took my break i had a long chat with myself. I have lots of gentleman friends and between them they fulfil all my sexual desires. Apart from one guy im arranging to meet thats been a long time coming ive shut up shop to new meets

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I want to meet for sex I just can't find someone I am interested in meeting for sex, as it has now been over a year since I last had sex, I'm not willing to just give it up for just anyone.

I'm a fussy particular bitch, so they need to also engage my mind

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

I only perv on fab.

I meet people at clubs mostly saves all hassle on here, I'm open to it, but I'm not relying on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did. I wasnt ready to take the next step. Now I'm getting itchy feet and have started exploring outside of the forums. I'm actually having fun with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

Can’t be arsed to be used at the minute so would rather go without

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want to meet but either my perimenopause symptoms get in the way, of commitments do. Sex once this year

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want to meet but either my perimenopause symptoms get in the way, or commitments do. Sex once this year

Had to correct myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did. I wasnt ready to take the next step. Now I'm getting itchy feet and have started exploring outside of the forums. I'm actually having fun with it

Very happy for you you a gem worth looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When i took my break i had a long chat with myself. I have lots of gentleman friends and between them they fulfil all my sexual desires. Apart from one guy im arranging to meet thats been a long time coming ive shut up shop to new meets"

If I was in your boat, so would I

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I want to meet but either my perimenopause symptoms get in the way, or commitments do. Sex once this year

Had to correct myself."

There are a few bonuses to having completed that stage of life prematurely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't had a meet from the site other than socials for over two months.

I seem to have more luck in the vanilla world, so for now I guess I will just hang around the forums and see what happens

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Pretty much not meeting anyone new for private meets on here. Too much time wasted with men and couples, hence why I'm sticking to the occasional party and previous meets. Staying in touch with friends, forums and cam rooms on here.

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By *urveLurverMan over a year ago

Skyview

I do not meet as I am in a committed relationship.

We have been on here before with a couple profile and had a few exciting, memorable experiences, but got cold feet before we really found our swinging feet!

We now have singles profiles as my partner is keen to explore separately. She has a huge amount of wonderful fantasies.

We will get a couple profile in good time, meanwhile we are taking our time getting reacquainted with the Fabster community and learning lots.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums "

Nor have we , well not deliberately anyway .

Mind you , it has to be said that with the amount of people ( especially single women ) on this thread saying they don’t meet , it’s hardly a sensible choice to use the forums as a place for potential meets is it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't had a meet from the site other than socials for over two months.

I seem to have more luck in the vanilla world, so for now I guess I will just hang around the forums and see what happens"

Sounds like your track record is better than some single guys on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pretty much the same here too.

We should have a club "

Same for me. I think The forums are the best things about Fab, and I missed the forums when away. I enjoy talking to people in here and the banter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty much not meeting anyone new for private meets on here. Too much time wasted with men and couples, hence why I'm sticking to the occasional party and previous meets. Staying in touch with friends, forums and cam rooms on here. "

Damn too far to test you rules

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums

Nor have we , well not deliberately anyway .

To be fair, not one of my meets has developed from the forums, there are one or two I might have considered had they approached me but I get enough messages from guys who come to me not from the forums to be happy to just chat on the forums, and I have made a few friends this way

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't choose not to meet I just haven't found anyone I fancy enough recently who is available when I am etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums

Nor have we , well not deliberately anyway .

All mine came from forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't choose not to meet I just haven't found anyone I fancy enough recently who is available when I am etc. "

Yes I understand that, I had that issue some time ago.

The guy I'm seeing semi regularly is even busier than me so our meets are not frequent, but they are worth waiting for

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums

Nor have we , well not deliberately anyway .

"
in 12 years ive had very few sexual meets from the forums. I dont use them for that purpose

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums

Nor have we , well not deliberately anyway .

All mine came from forums"

You must be very lucky then

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I don't choose not to meet I just haven't found anyone I fancy enough recently who is available when I am etc.

Yes I understand that, I had that issue some time ago.

The guy I'm seeing semi regularly is even busier than me so our meets are not frequent, but they are worth waiting for

Lucky you. It's nice to have that to look forward to. I don't really have a regular fwb at the moment. I'm a bit sad about that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't choose not to meet I just haven't found anyone I fancy enough recently who is available when I am etc.

Yes I understand that, I had that issue some time ago.

The guy I'm seeing semi regularly is even busier than me so our meets are not frequent, but they are worth waiting for

Lucky you. It's nice to have that to look forward to. I don't really have a regular fwb at the moment. I'm a bit sad about that

It took me a long time and a lot of let downs before we met ... But I still don't know for sure if it's a proper fwb or not

So don't be too sad...

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By *abulously curiousCouple over a year ago

manchester

We would just no luck haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We would just no luck haha"

Why no luck id have though couples would do well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't choose not to meet I just haven't found anyone I fancy enough recently who is available when I am etc.

It’s never easy I guess... we’ll thats my experience

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By *abulously curiousCouple over a year ago

manchester

Depends what people want x

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By *riefcase_WankerMan over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"At the moment I'm not meeting. I haven't been since I was really unhappy at how much weight I'd put on. It made me miserable and that impacted on my desire to meet. I wasn't even happy about hubby touching me because it just made me cringe. That's how unsexy I felt. I've lost the weight now but my mind is playing catch up. I've been so long without meeting anyone that I don't know if the desire is still there. It's something hubby and I have to work through when the moment is right. There were other factors but that for me was the main issue. "

(Said with no agenda as you live bloody miles away and a meet would be out of the question even if you were interested) - if the dates on your photos are accurate, then you have nothing to been unhappy or feel unsexy about, you look absolutely great.

I know that's scant consolation and probably won't do much to change your mind, but for what it's worth, this random chap off the internet thinks you look dead sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't had a sex meet since August last year. I got fed up of getting to know people who subsequently left the site, struggling to find more than a one off, being stood up, 2 truly awful meets and this year my pics were copied which upset me. I guess I just got sick of random cock and my confidence dipped too. Plus after meeting a guy who ticked every box, and then him moving on, I found myself second guessing every meet after him. No one has matched up since and no one matched up until him. My brain still remembers the intensity of the feeling he gave me but now, I constantly wish I'd never met him and that there wasn't an impossible standard to which other men have to live up to.

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time!

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By *abulously curiousCouple over a year ago

manchester

"I haven't had a sex meet since August last year. I got fed up of getting to know people who subsequently left the site, struggling to find more than a one off, being stood up, 2 truly awful meets and this year my pics were copied which upset me. I guess I just got sick of random cock and my confidence dipped too. Plus after meeting a guy who ticked every box, and then him moving on, I found myself second guessing every meet after him. No one has matched up since and no one matched up until him. My brain still remembers the intensity of the feeling he gave me but now, I constantly wish I'd never met him and that there wasn't an impossible standard to which other men have to live up to.

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time! "
that's shocking x

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By *unninglinguist600Man over a year ago

belfast

Have'nt met in cpl of years . Mostly browse on the forums and post the odd bit of nonsense. I supose having a fwb i don't seriously look for meets. Only occasionaly see a profile i like and then they normaly live other end of the british isles lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time! "

Its some rotten luck right there so i shall cross my fingers you have better luch going forwards

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time! "

It is what it is... trick is not to step on the land mines that are everywhere... hopefully you will be stronger for your experiences and choose more wisely moving forwards...

Cracking profile btw x

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time! "

I totally get what you mean. When you meet someone that makes you think 'wow' in every way and then for whatever reason you don't see them anymore it's hard. You can't help but compare, we know we shouldn't but we do it anyway!!

It's quite heart breaking that you wish you'd never met that guy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take what i said back. From now on, i think I'll stick to forums only

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I take what i said back. From now on, i think I'll stick to forums only

Yay

(Why?)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd love to have a meet but I'm only looking to meet other females and it's not proved easy at all... I think it's partly to do with where I live. So I guess I'm just here for the forums now

I love the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I take what i said back. From now on, i think I'll stick to forums only

Noooooooooooooo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time!

It's quite heart breaking that you wish you'd never met that guy x"

I need to move on from him and start enjoying myself again. I really miss the feeling you get from a great meet, so it's about time I "treated" myself and lower my barriers.

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By *oungalpha20Man over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

I was here purely for meets, until I stumbled across the forums. I still meet up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm waffling, it probably sounds like a shite reason, but I've been battling this shit for a long time! "

Consider yourself lucky though, no man has ever made me feel that way from here or in "real life" either ... So view it as a positive that someone has made you feel like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not meeting at the moment due to circumstances in life. I pop on here to read and chat."

This is the same for me. I got fed up having to justify why I wasn't available when asked about meeting. So I just decided on a blanket not meeting anyone.

It's amazing how many times I still get asked though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

Its probably for the light attention and to perv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not meeting because NYC is a sausage fest...

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By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

We also haven’t had a meet for well over a year as just lost all interest

Been to the odd club and gone on swingers holidays but not an actual meet

Gets like hard work....all the preparation and then yet another let down.....shite excuses etc so much rather do our own thing at t(e moment

UNless a miracle occurs

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I'm hear for the forums.

And if I'm lucky enough to get a meet then that's a bonus

I hope you get boners.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not meeting because NYC is a sausage fest..."

I see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We also haven’t had a meet for well over a year as just lost all interest

Been to the odd club and gone on swingers holidays but not an actual meet

Gets like hard work....all the preparation and then yet another let down.....shite excuses etc so much rather do our own thing at t(e moment

UNless a miracle occurs

Xxxx"

It's different for couples though isn't it since you have each other if you know what I mean...? xx

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By *eeBee67Man over a year ago

Masked and Distant

I really enjoy the forums.

Would love to meet, sadly my life is so hectic I rarely get the chance.

I do enjoy the pics as well to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not meeting at the moment due to circumstances in life. I pop on here to read and chat.

This is the same for me. I got fed up having to justify why I wasn't available when asked about meeting. So I just decided on a blanket not meeting anyone.

It's amazing how many times I still get asked though. "

If you delete everything off your 'Looking for' list it takes you off the searches and reduces mail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd love to have a meet but I'm only looking to meet other females and it's not proved easy at all... I think it's partly to do with where I live. So I guess I'm just here for the forums now

I love the forums

It's almost impossible to find a suitable lady on Fab, I'm really struggling. They all seem hundreds of miles away me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not meeting at the moment due to circumstances in life. I pop on here to read and chat.

This is the same for me. I got fed up having to justify why I wasn't available when asked about meeting. So I just decided on a blanket not meeting anyone.

It's amazing how many times I still get asked though.

If you delete everything off your 'Looking for' list it takes you off the searches and reduces mail.

I don't get many messages but the ones I do get unless they are men I have chatted to for ages , still ask to meet.

I just decline

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

Fairly simple , I am married don’t want to meet, just here for silly Forum chat. Haven’t been to a social in 3 years either just not got round to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd love to have a meet but I'm only looking to meet other females and it's not proved easy at all... I think it's partly to do with where I live. So I guess I'm just here for the forums now

I love the forums

It's almost impossible to find a suitable lady on Fab, I'm really struggling. They all seem hundreds of miles away me

I know that feeling!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd love to have a meet but I'm only looking to meet other females and it's not proved easy at all... I think it's partly to do with where I live. So I guess I'm just here for the forums now

I love the forums

It's almost impossible to find a suitable lady on Fab, I'm really struggling. They all seem hundreds of miles away me

Exactly the same for me!

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I meet so rarely, I might as well say that I don't.

At the moment I mostly just come here to post my rubbish in the forums. And you never know, maybe there will be a message from someone I want to meet.

I haven't had a single meet from the forums

Nor have we , well not deliberately anyway .

And a week later the above is certainly the case !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I just use the forums, that's not to say a meet is out of the question

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple over a year ago

Planet Ork

We had a meet last night, we have so little free time that we would rather meet the people who we are already actively chatting to or meet ad hoc at the club. We don’t rule out or discourage potential new meets however we’re not going out of our way to search for them ourselves.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"...anyone on here chooses NOT to meet and just uses fab for the forums, and if you do ... Why do you not meet?

Just purely curiosity, nothing more, nothing less...

I don't not meet, I choose to not worry about trying to meet.

As a single man, of a certain age with a dad bod and Fab ratios I apprecite the odds are stacked against me.

I recently sent an introductory message to someone on my hotlist, the first I've sent since my very early days of Fab.

Checked profile, likes and where our interests align.

Took ages writing my introduction, made sure my message picked out details from her profile, was polite, injected a bit of humour and was respectful.

The message was deleted within minutes of being delivered and remains unanswered.

Just reinforced what I already knew.

So it's buggrin about on the forums, going to group socials and going to clubs for me.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

I’m just here for the forums, even thoughI don’t post as much as I did years ago. As far as meeting goes I haven’t actively met for about 4 years after I met my partner, he gave me everything I needed as a single woman looking, since loosing him suddenly a few months back sex is the last thing I’m bothered about to be honest, so I just lurk about in the far corners of Fab

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