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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Maybe something has come up in the mean time that he wouldnt of known about in may

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That’s a shame fwb

Ok well I’ll have to let you know about the 29th as I have a date, suppose we could catch up after if it doesn’t work out xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No dramas.

The date doesn't work for you, let's get our diaries out and find another mutually acceptable date.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

"That’s a shame fwb

Ok well I’ll have to let you know about the 29th as I have a date, suppose we could catch up after if it doesn’t work out xx"

Oo like your thinking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't the point of FWB that there's no commitments?

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

"Maybe something has come up in the mean time that he wouldnt of known about in may"

What could possibly be more important than me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Maybe something has come up in the mean time that he wouldnt of known about in may

What could possibly be more important than me

"
i would imagine whatever hes cancelling you for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? "

Block him and make a date with someone else

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

"Maybe something has come up in the mean time that he wouldnt of known about in may

What could possibly be more important than me

i would imagine whatever hes cancelling you for"

I walked right into that didn't I

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

Block him and make a date with someone else

My 'Vanilla' friends have said this

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Don't play games.... Just tell him you're disappointed and that if you're free the 29th then you can do something.

FWB is a casual thing. How do you react when friends you're not fucking cancel plans?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

Block him and make a date with someone else

My 'Vanilla' friends have said this "

I wouldn't let another one bloke worry you...there's plenty more on here x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

Block him and make a date with someone else

My 'Vanilla' friends have said this "

And the point of doing this would be?

All you're doing is coming across as a game player. He's been upfront with you and told you on plenty of time for you to arrange something else.

You risk him walking away from a drama llama doing this type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I wasnt on nights this week i would have gladly bought you birthday drinks all evening.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

Block him and make a date with someone else

My 'Vanilla' friends have said this

And the point of doing this would be?

All you're doing is coming across as a game player. He's been upfront with you and told you on plenty of time for you to arrange something else.

You risk him walking away from a drama llama doing this type of thing. "

I agree, this is why I've asked on here for advice. I'm not a drama queen, However I am disappointed. yes he has given me 3 days notice and tried to rearrange

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

Block him and make a date with someone else

My 'Vanilla' friends have said this

And the point of doing this would be?

All you're doing is coming across as a game player. He's been upfront with you and told you on plenty of time for you to arrange something else.

You risk him walking away from a drama llama doing this type of thing.

I agree, this is why I've asked on here for advice. I'm not a drama queen, However I am disappointed. yes he has given me 3 days notice and tried to rearrange "

So like I say, tell him you're disappointed but don't move things to see him on the 29th (unless you really want to but don't hold the fact you did against him).

I've had my time of being a drama queen etc and it's never gotten me anywhere.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas?

Block him and make a date with someone else

My 'Vanilla' friends have said this

And the point of doing this would be?

All you're doing is coming across as a game player. He's been upfront with you and told you on plenty of time for you to arrange something else.

You risk him walking away from a drama llama doing this type of thing.

I agree, this is why I've asked on here for advice. I'm not a drama queen, However I am disappointed. yes he has given me 3 days notice and tried to rearrange

So like I say, tell him you're disappointed but don't move things to see him on the 29th (unless you really want to but don't hold the fact you did against him).

I've had my time of being a drama queen etc and it's never gotten me anywhere. "

Likewise when I was younger I was drama queen stalker all sorts, got me no where!

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No dramas.

The date doesn't work for you, let's get our diaries out and find another mutually acceptable date. "

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? "
Sure there be more, that would like to treat you to a birthday drink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? Sure there be more, that would like to treat you to a birthday drink

Exactly what I said...

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Was that his messages? Literally? It's a bit blunt isn't it?

I'd be miffed but I'd do my hardest to make other arrangements and I wouldn't commit to the 29th either.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? "

Say 'Oh shame!' and fix a bigger, better, hotter night out for your birthday! !

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Isn't the point of FWB that there's no commitments?

He'd made a date though - reliability is not the same as a relationship commitment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No dramas.

The date doesn't work for you, let's get our diaries out and find another mutually acceptable date.

"
This

P.S. Hope you have a good birthday when it comes. X

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? "

He's given you notice, he's apologised and he's suggested another date.

I can understand you are disappointed but I don't think he's done anything horrendous here.

He's a FWB, keep it in perspective.

My response would be something along the lines of "That's a shame, thanks for letting me know, I'll get back to your about the 29th"

And then when you've got over your nose being put out of joint you can decide whether the new date works for you or suggest another.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman over a year ago

Epsom

Thank you everyone for the advice much appreciated.

Minnie the Minx, I quoted you and sent 'That's a shame, thanks for letting me know. I'll get back to you about the 29th'

He has read it but not replied. I'm going to go off make plans for this Friday, celebrate my birthday on Sat and have a wonderful weekend

Wonder if I can get an IOW ticket, considering my bestie is there for my birthday

Men who needs them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Find someone to go out with this friday and then go out with him next friday

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Have you ever had to postpone or cancel on your friend op?

Real world stuff come up happens .. if it's happening a lot move on if it's a one off smile and rearrange .

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Was that his messages? Literally? It's a bit blunt isn't it?

I'd be miffed but I'd do my hardest to make other arrangements and I wouldn't commit to the 29th either. "

Exactly. It's not the fact that he's cancelled, that's no big deal, it's the fact he's assumed she'll just make herself free on the date that suits him. There's no question there, he just throws a statement at her.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Isn't the point of FWB that there's no commitments?

He'd made a date though - reliability is not the same as a relationship commitment. "

Beat me to it.

Commitment; doing the thing you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it in has left you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe something has come up in the mean time that he wouldnt of known about in may

What could possibly be more important than me

i would imagine whatever hes cancelling you for"

Savage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? "

No worries. Catch up another time x

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By *attoo manMan over a year ago

Rhyl

"Maybe something has come up in the mean time that he wouldnt of known about in may

What could possibly be more important than me

"
Nothing sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So today I receive this message of my fwb

I need to put drinks back to the 29th. It will just work better. Sorry x

Bear in mind these are my birthday drinks (this Friday) and he assured me he would not cancel when the arrangement was made end of May.

Really don't know how to respond what to say. I am disappointed yet don't want to be the crazy bitch

Any ideas? "

sounds like there’s no trust to me

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

Point out he's a 'fwob' if he can't keep up arrangements

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was that his messages? Literally? It's a bit blunt isn't it?

I'd be miffed but I'd do my hardest to make other arrangements and I wouldn't commit to the 29th either.

I agree with this. It's a blunt message and assuming the new date will be fine. It should be more of a 'sorry, can we re-arrange for this new date?'

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By *ookingforlustMan over a year ago

northants

Does he have any small furry pets? Specially bunny rabbits?

Just thinking out loud........

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