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I'm not easily offended but...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Subject: Typical Discussion Board Thread.
Location: Anywhere on the Earth Internet.
FORUM
(Discussion underway)
....general bantering...carefully composed replies worded to sound spontaneous....
Forum poster 7: 'Reply. Opinion. Banter. Banter'.
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Forum poster 7: 'Bants. More bants. Lol.'
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Forum poster 7: 'Haha  Well, you would know! Lol. More lolling'.
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Forum poster 7: 'Bit more banter. Lolling at stable level. I'm funny. You are too. Emojis'.
....small spark...
Forum poster 7: 'WHAT????!!!!'
....number of forum posters tails off...
...ignition...
Forum poster 7: 'Do you REALISE how OFFENSIVE that is? Have you ever even met someone who looks after a guinea pig with polio?'
....forum numbers down to single digits...
Forum poster 7: 'Context and intent might be everything to you, 'mate', but you said she looked like a guinea pig with polio. Yes, you fucking did say it! My mum's cousin's friend's little brother's best mate's uncle's third cousin twice removed might have something to tell you about that, you sad twat!!!'
....forum numbers down to two...
Forum poster 7: 'Oh, so what you really mean is (insert straw man argument of choice)?'
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....one person left....hours later...
Forum poster 7: 'Lol. Told him'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
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If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though. |
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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago
Staines |
"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though. "
Great shout but I was speaking for myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though.
Great shout but I was speaking for myself "
Interesting that you have zero ingrained responses. Are you human? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though. "
Interesting debate there between the conscious and unconscious motivators to be ‘offended’. There is of course the conscious decision to react and how we go about that reaction and therein lies the real issue.
I often find it interesting how if people feel offended the immediate reaction is to then return that offence. Tit for tat etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though.
Interesting debate there between the conscious and unconscious motivators to be ‘offended’. There is of course the conscious decision to react and how we go about that reaction and therein lies the real issue.
I often find it interesting how if people feel offended the immediate reaction is to then return that offence. Tit for tat etc.
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I prefer tit for twat.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Feeling offended is not a choice. It comes from a whole structure of emotional and psychological factors a lot of which are unconscious. You might as well say that who you fancy is a choice.
How you react to feeling offended though, that is choice, ideally. It's not always easy to act rationally in the heat of someone saying something that pushes all the wrong buttons. |
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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago
Staines |
"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though.
Great shout but I was speaking for myself
Interesting that you have zero ingrained responses. Are you human?"
I am indeed but I leave all of the emotive stuff to Dennis - he’s offended most of the time. It’s just a good job he can’t type with his little paws, it would be carnage in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
My guinea pig (Dennis) however is absolutely livid. You’ve gone and done it this time - I shall be informing admin "
Look, it was just a bloody joke. Tell Dennis to eat some grass and lighten up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though.
Interesting debate there between the conscious and unconscious motivators to be ‘offended’. There is of course the conscious decision to react and how we go about that reaction and therein lies the real issue.
I often find it interesting how if people feel offended the immediate reaction is to then return that offence. Tit for tat etc.
I prefer tit for twat. "
As I’ve been called a twat on many occasions, I would heartily endorse that idea
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Feeling offended is not a choice. It comes from a whole structure of emotional and psychological factors a lot of which are unconscious. You might as well say that who you fancy is a choice.
How you react to feeling offended though, that is choice, ideally. It's not always easy to act rationally in the heat of someone saying something that pushes all the wrong buttons. "
That was kind of my point before I started rambling and getti... SQUIRREL!! |
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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago
Staines |
"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
My guinea pig (Dennis) however is absolutely livid. You’ve gone and done it this time - I shall be informing admin
Look, it was just a bloody joke. Tell Dennis to eat some grass and lighten up. "
Lighten up? Are you calling Dennis fat, whilst at the same time telling him to eat something?This is going to kick right off. |
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
If you feel offended by something someone said, that could be either by conscious choice or by unconscious emotional reaction.
Some behaviours and attitudes become so deeply ingrained, they become unconsciously automated. So it’s not always the case to say taking offence is a choice, more *staying offended* is the choice. And even then sometimes it can be hard to let go because of deeper issues being stirred; all sorts of other complexes, like feeling victimised, damage to self-esteem, and things like that. Finding it difficult to let go may be a signal to work on yourself though.
Interesting debate there between the conscious and unconscious motivators to be ‘offended’. There is of course the conscious decision to react and how we go about that reaction and therein lies the real issue.
I often find it interesting how if people feel offended the immediate reaction is to then return that offence. Tit for tat etc.
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What interests me - or used to before I took more of a back seat on the forums (for exactly this reason) is that some people really do seem to trawl through the forums looking for something to take offence at!
Not noticed it much of late - as I said I’ve taken a back seat - but at the time there were people who seemed capable of taking exception to pretty much any post on any topic!
I found it aggravating and exhausting- hence I became more of a forum ‘back bencher’ - still am!
I say it flippantly - but really mean it - some people really do need to get a life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Feeling offended is not a choice. It comes from a whole structure of emotional and psychological factors a lot of which are unconscious. You might as well say that who you fancy is a choice.
How you react to feeling offended though, that is choice, ideally. It's not always easy to act rationally in the heat of someone saying something that pushes all the wrong buttons.
That was kind of my point before I started rambling and getti... SQUIRREL!! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Taking offence is a choice, therefore I’m never offended.
My guinea pig (Dennis) however is absolutely livid. You’ve gone and done it this time - I shall be informing admin
Look, it was just a bloody joke. Tell Dennis to eat some grass and lighten up.
Lighten up? Are you calling Dennis fat, whilst at the same time telling him to eat something?This is going to kick right off. "
Being fat is a choice.
*retires to watch the inferno* |
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