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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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...a fantastic meet is awful.
You spend quality time with someone and then whoosh it’s gone and you are back to reality!
The highest highs produce the lowest lows.
What’s your biggest highs and lows? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...a fantastic meet is awful.
You spend quality time with someone and then whoosh it’s gone and you are back to reality!
The highest highs produce the lowest lows.
What’s your biggest highs and lows? "
Basically sums up my only meet so far. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's certainly an addictive nature to a great meet that comes with the downer as it evaporates into the distance but you always have the memory to remind you  "
You smile for a while then you wistfully think back to ‘this time one/two nights ago’...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...a fantastic meet is awful.
You spend quality time with someone and then whoosh it’s gone and you are back to reality!
The highest highs produce the lowest lows.
What’s your biggest highs and lows?
Basically sums up my only meet so far."
Sets the benchmark for your next meet... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im still on a high mate love the feeling after a meet
It’s a great feeling isn’t it....then it slowly evaporates...
And you want the buzz again  "
Nope i buzz for days no down side at all a great meet stays in my mind for ages and ages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The highs and lows are all part of it. I always like to have plans in the making so that I have something to look forward to "
I agree. Always good to have something to look forward to. |
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The high when you see them again though...!
I have a Fab friend who I see a lot of, and holy hell, he knows exactly what buttons to push, and some. A meet with him can keep me going for days. And the best thing is that I know I won’t have to wait to long til the next one.....!
The comedown is the bit where you have a great meet or two with someone, get on great and then it kind of fizzles out and you know it’s cos they have got new Fab friends, that you would never be able to compete with. That’s a shit comedown |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im still on a high mate love the feeling after a meet
It’s a great feeling isn’t it....then it slowly evaporates...
And you want the buzz again
Nope i buzz for days no down side at all a great meet stays in my mind for ages and ages"
Yeah but the buzz goes if say you meet for a coffee with the promise of more but then you can’t get your diaries to align...or something crops up which stops you from meeting... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im still on a high mate love the feeling after a meet
It’s a great feeling isn’t it....then it slowly evaporates...
And you want the buzz again
Nope i buzz for days no down side at all a great meet stays in my mind for ages and ages
Yeah but the buzz goes if say you meet for a coffee with the promise of more but then you can’t get your diaries to align...or something crops up which stops you from meeting..."
Nope i have a good memory a phone and patience and if it was that great a meet tho i will make time to see them again and again if its that fantastic why wait? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The highs and lows are all part of it. I always like to have plans in the making so that I have something to look forward to "
That’s what I need to do...have another plan to keep the highs going... |
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"Im still on a high mate love the feeling after a meet
It’s a great feeling isn’t it....then it slowly evaporates...
And you want the buzz again
Nope i buzz for days no down side at all a great meet stays in my mind for ages and ages
Yeah but the buzz goes if say you meet for a coffee with the promise of more but then you can’t get your diaries to align...or something crops up which stops you from meeting...
Nope i have a good memory a phone and patience and if it was that great a meet tho i will make time to see them again and again if its that fantastic why wait? "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having an incredibly hot, passion filled meet only to never to hear from them again.
That's a shitty comedown"
Ooooohhhh that sounds like a massive low!! There’s nothing greater than to share the afterglow of a good meet... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"There's certainly an addictive nature to a great meet that comes with the downer as it evaporates into the distance but you always have the memory to remind you
You smile for a while then you wistfully think back to ‘this time one/two nights ago’... "
Yep that's exactly it but it's always there in some form - I always liken it to stepping in and out of a bubble that for the time you're in it you're 100% engaged with the person you're with but aware of your life outside it, then when you step out again you go back to "normality" but are aware of the time spent inside the bubble, until you step into it again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I'm still feeling the low 9 months on. I've not had a high since then.
Ah no...was that from an incredible meet? "
My last meet, yes. Then he left the site and moved abroad. I've not met for sex since. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The high when you see them again though...!
I have a Fab friend who I see a lot of, and holy hell, he knows exactly what buttons to push, and some. A meet with him can keep me going for days. And the best thing is that I know I won’t have to wait to long til the next one.....!
The comedown is the bit where you have a great meet or two with someone, get on great and then it kind of fizzles out and you know it’s cos they have got new Fab friends, that you would never be able to compete with. That’s a shit comedown"
Oh it’s fantastic when you know what kind of night/day/weekend you are in for and you can just enjoy the moment...
I don’t look at what I have to compete with, if they go off with others...my time with someone is unique to us...it never gets tarnished. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hot passionate, met for 6 weeks consecutively.
Now his music career is taking off with a record deal and tours of Europe and America so his focus is elsewhere 
We still message; not as much, he's busy. I can wait, I know he'll be back |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's certainly an addictive nature to a great meet that comes with the downer as it evaporates into the distance but you always have the memory to remind you
You smile for a while then you wistfully think back to ‘this time one/two nights ago’...
Yep that's exactly it but it's always there in some form - I always liken it to stepping in and out of a bubble that for the time you're in it you're 100% engaged with the person you're with but aware of your life outside it, then when you step out again you go back to "normality" but are aware of the time spent inside the bubble, until you step into it again "
That’s a great way of thinking about it...although I’m never aware of the outside world, so it’s probably more of a shock when I get back to normality! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think I'm still feeling the low 9 months on. I've not had a high since then.
Ah no...was that from an incredible meet?
My last meet, yes. Then he left the site and moved abroad. I've not met for sex since. "
Well god help the next person then....they’ve not only got to measure up to your last meet, they’ll also probably die of exhaustion! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When Mr goes back up to Dundee and I won't see him all week. It's like a craving that I just can't shake x"
Ahhhh that’s sweet...but at least you have the highs and lows every week... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When Mr goes back up to Dundee and I won't see him all week. It's like a craving that I just can't shake x
Ahhhh that’s sweet...but at least you have the highs and lows every week... "
Yeah it's nice when he comes back. He's usually knackered and just wants a coffee tho and I'm like a hyper puppy lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm hating the low at the minute. Such a build up that I'm now feeling a little needy today, plus I'm poorly so doesn't help. Oh well countdown is on for next month |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even worse when there’s 250miles between you ... and every meet is planned with military timing  "
How do you cope. There is 140 between us and it's hard not being able to see him for a month at a time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm hating the low at the minute. Such a build up that I'm now feeling a little needy today, plus I'm poorly so doesn't help. Oh well countdown is on for next month "
I’m tired and back at work...plus back to life and all the shitty things that come with it...
...but it’s these moments that make the wait worthwhile until the next time! |
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"The high when you see them again though...!
I have a Fab friend who I see a lot of, and holy hell, he knows exactly what buttons to push, and some. A meet with him can keep me going for days. And the best thing is that I know I won’t have to wait to long til the next one.....!
The comedown is the bit where you have a great meet or two with someone, get on great and then it kind of fizzles out and you know it’s cos they have got new Fab friends, that you would never be able to compete with. That’s a shit comedown
Oh it’s fantastic when you know what kind of night/day/weekend you are in for and you can just enjoy the moment...
I don’t look at what I have to compete with, if they go off with others...my time with someone is unique to us...it never gets tarnished. "
This is true. Though for me it’s the taste of something good, that I want more of, but I’m not going to get  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The high when you see them again though...!
I have a Fab friend who I see a lot of, and holy hell, he knows exactly what buttons to push, and some. A meet with him can keep me going for days. And the best thing is that I know I won’t have to wait to long til the next one.....!
The comedown is the bit where you have a great meet or two with someone, get on great and then it kind of fizzles out and you know it’s cos they have got new Fab friends, that you would never be able to compete with. That’s a shit comedown
Oh it’s fantastic when you know what kind of night/day/weekend you are in for and you can just enjoy the moment...
I don’t look at what I have to compete with, if they go off with others...my time with someone is unique to us...it never gets tarnished.
This is true. Though for me it’s the taste of something good, that I want more of, but I’m not going to get "
Yet...but you will again one day |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Even worse when there’s 250miles between you ... and every meet is planned with military timing
500 miles is pretty bad too. "
Are you doing the round trip??  |
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You spend quality time with someone and then whoosh it’s gone and you are back to reality!
The highest highs produce the lowest lows.
What’s your biggest highs and lows? "
The biggest high, for me. Spending time with someone I care about, enjoying each others company, it's not just the sex - which is pretty amazing, it's the whole package.
Saying goodbye is always a real downer, going to bed alone the night after, waking in the morning and seeing an empty space makes me sad.
But then I have the excitement of planning when we'll next see each other again.
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By *aut-eWoman
over a year ago
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"Nope i have a good memory a phone and patience "
this, because in waiting for the next meet there is the teasing conversation of remembering what you got up to and the build up to the next meet where you’re messaging what you want to happen next, sometimes you can’t help the wait but you know it’ll be worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The down afterwards is bloody awful but at the same time it makes me think how good everything was to feel like this in the first place!
So I just focus on how amazing it is to have had that experience, enjoyed it for what it was... and in the meantime I just hope and wish that when the time is right ...opportunities are grabbed and made the most of.. so that things could really be enjoyed properly.. and on a regular basis so that there doesn’t have to be the massive downs because you know it’s going to be happening again!!
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