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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont meet anyone i haven't messaged on here and/or spoken on the phone to for at least a couple of weeks, so there are already things we have chatted about... once we meet its just a follow up of the basic info given...
Im also quite good at waffling on about nothing in particular |
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Anything and everything, I have no boundaries.
It's interesting as to how random a conversation can become when meeting someone new.
Or how eerily you have a lot in common despite having never talked about anything in detail before |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?"
I apologise a lot. True story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet we talked about the Euro 2016 game that was on TV.
Ended up agreeing that for each corner our retrospective teams had, we got to spank the other one five times...
Ended up with a VERY red arse!  |
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"What do you talk about?"
Which forumites we like, which ones drive us up the wall.
"What kind of questions would you ask them?"
Do you want to do this the easy way or the hard way?
"What questions don't you like being asked?"
Is it in? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't happen for me, in the rare times im intrigued enough by someone to want to meet them we would have had chats and banter first and then progressed to a social. If things didn't naturally flow on a social then it wouldnt get passed that point anyway. |
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?"
How much petrol do i owe you?
Can i get fries with that?
Did you get that bobble from claires accesories?
And the most important...
Did you switch everything off before we left  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?"
The best question to ask is if they have any horror stories re previous meets.. thats a good ice breaker  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can barely remember what we talked about on most of mine as I have terrible memory recall.
A couple that stick in my mind were because we had a drink or chat in a hotel lounge before the sex.
One of them we talked about a zombie apocalypse and water treatment plants. The other we talked about Chelsea playing at home that day and Universities.
I usually ask questions based on what they talk to me about. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?"
I nearly always ask how they got in to swinging and I Hate talking about what job I do and how much I make as I am not here to impress with money |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?"
Talk about how Ronaldo's free-kick against Spain curved into top bins |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?
I nearly always ask how they got in to swinging and I Hate talking about what job I do and how much I make as I am not here to impress with money"
Do people actually ask what others earn? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?
I nearly always ask how they got in to swinging and I Hate talking about what job I do and how much I make as I am not here to impress with money"
That would never cross my mind to even ask  |
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"Anything and everything, I have no boundaries.
It's interesting as to how random a conversation can become when meeting someone new.
Or how eerily you have a lot in common despite having never talked about anything in detail before "
Meets are a continuation of the messaging from here and tend to just flow but generally to a deeper level than on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive done lots of talking via messaging first so try not to when I meet or I end up conducting an interview, I'm not too good with small talk. "
So you leave the clipboard at home? |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?
I nearly always ask how they got in to swinging and I Hate talking about what job I do and how much I make as I am not here to impress with money
Do people actually ask what others earn? "
I know and it annoys me! makes me think they are snobs looking only to fuck rich people |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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All sorts. Their weekend, holiday plans, fab stuff.
If they start asking sexual questions I'm likely to remember I have an appointment to get to. Especially if we haven't been chatting much on here.
I met a guy once, I arrived first. He came over after getting a drink, sat down, introduced himself and literally said 'sooo, do you like anal sex?' I was quite new and pretty shocked tbh. I burnt my tongue on my coffee then went off to my appointment!! That nearly put me off guys on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What you do
what they do
History of them
How they found there way to fab
Forum
Who uve met
Naughty tales and disasters
General things you like and dislike
And try lke hell to avoid awkward scilences where possible unless your lost in each others eyes
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive done lots of talking via messaging first so try not to when I meet or I end up conducting an interview, I'm not too good with small talk.
So you leave the clipboard at home? "
I'll tuck it to the back of my bag just incase they dont mind a good grilling  |
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I usually have spent quite a lot of time messaging and or/chatting before a meet so the conversation usually flows quite well from that.
That said I had a meet recently with someone I’d only really been chatting to for about 24 hours or so. I was a bit nervous that it might be awkward, but the chat flowed very naturally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All sorts of different things, if they’re a forumite then all things on the forums. Can also be Fab related, but most of the time Just general chit chat x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?
I nearly always ask how they got in to swinging and I Hate talking about what job I do and how much I make as I am not here to impress with money
Do people actually ask what others earn?
I know and it annoys me! makes me think they are snobs looking only to fuck rich people"
I can tell by their shoes anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Assuming it's someone new that you've never met before. (It's different with friends.)
What do you talk about? What kind of questions would you ask them? What questions don't you like being asked?
I nearly always ask how they got in to swinging and I Hate talking about what job I do and how much I make as I am not here to impress with money
Do people actually ask what others earn?
I know and it annoys me! makes me think they are snobs looking only to fuck rich people
I can tell by their shoes anyway "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a clue - I can talk the hind legs off any animal!
We just chat like friends. If we’ve got to the meet stage we already feel comfortable with them. But yeah I can break the ice with most people, never a problem yet... |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
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What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies. They certainly don't want to hear about it for two hours.
2. The Hobbit
Similarly, who even likes Martin Freeman?
3. Don't call your meet a 'crackhead!' If this happens inadvertently (as it did to me) don't dig a hole by trying to explain (lie) that it's a term of endearment in Birmingham.
4. Don't tell your subsequent meet about that time you got blocked for calling the last meet a 'crackhead!'
5. Whilst not strictly about 'what not to talk about,' NEVER pair your phone to their sound system without their knowledge and insist that James's Laid is the greatest song ever. Also do not dance and sing along.
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"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies. They certainly don't want to hear about it for two hours.
2. The Hobbit
Similarly, who even likes Martin Freeman?
3. Don't call your meet a 'crackhead!' If this happens inadvertently (as it did to me) don't dig a hole by trying to explain (lie) that it's a term of endearment in Birmingham.
4. Don't tell your subsequent meet about that time you got blocked for calling the last meet a 'crackhead!'
5. Whilst not strictly about 'what not to talk about,' NEVER pair your phone to their sound system without their knowledge and insist that James's Laid is the greatest song ever. Also do not dance and sing along.
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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We probably wont have exchanged that many messages here but thats no problem as I can chat for England and find it more effective getting to know somebody face to face.
We usually just talk about random things, maybe a bit about Fab, how often they have been to the club, is there anywhere hey recommend etc.
I met one guy for a coffee in Costa who proceeded to speak very loudly about anal sex and how much fun I was missing out on. Unfortunately I had left my hair straighteners on and had to go home and unplug them 
He messaged later to appologise for being so crude in public and he immediately knew the straighteners thing was my get out excuse and why Id used it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies. They certainly don't want to hear about it for two hours.
2. The Hobbit
Similarly, who even likes Martin Freeman?
3. Don't call your meet a 'crackhead!' If this happens inadvertently (as it did to me) don't dig a hole by trying to explain (lie) that it's a term of endearment in Birmingham.
4. Don't tell your subsequent meet about that time you got blocked for calling the last meet a 'crackhead!'
5. Whilst not strictly about 'what not to talk about,' NEVER pair your phone to their sound system without their knowledge and insist that James's Laid is the greatest song ever. Also do not dance and sing along.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just remembered, on meeting a forumite a few years ago, who was quite popular and well known on the forums, him talking about the other members he had met and what he liked about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think that you should talk about "easier" topics first. Things that are unlikely to cause offence.
Politics, war, religion, taxes, health etc
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years. "
And it's a simple one! Mark my words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years.
And it's a simple one! Mark my words. "
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials I generally just like to chat with them and get to know them. Usually I’ve chatted with them beforehand long enough to know established topics of shared interests but I’m happy to just find out about them.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours! "
Sorry Seduced, it looks like there are a few of us about.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We chat about where they are from. Did you watch the game. Our last night out. What they've been up to. What they do as a job. The odd question about fab usually crops up but very rarely. Just general chit chat that you would anyone that you've just met. I don't like being asked any sexual questions. There's no need x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours!
Sorry Seduced, it looks like there are a few of us about.
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More than a few! |
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"The social I had with Swing we discussed dick pics, we may have looked at a few too which caused a lot of laughter
True story
And staff looking at their watches wondering when we would leave "
We did leave........eventually |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years.
And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours! "
What?! |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years.
And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours!
What?! "
He is just too awesome a character. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years.
And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours!
What?! "
Knew this thread would end in a Tom Bombadil war.
We should just stick to "Tommy Robinson: Free Speech Hero or Cunt." In the future. |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years.
And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours!
What?!
Knew this thread would end in a Tom Bombadil war.
We should just stick to "Tommy Robinson: Free Speech Hero or Cunt." In the future."
No we shouldn't.
Honestly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What not to talk about on a meet. Part 1 By Seduced.
I've put together this list based on first hand experience(s).
1. Lord of the Rings.
No one wants to know your thoughts on Middle Earth or why Tom Bombadil did not appear in the movies.
Oh bugger. I've been doing fab wrong all these years.
And it's a simple one! Mark my words.
Tom Bombadil has no place in the films! I would probably talk about that for a few hours!
What?!
He is just too awesome a character. "
Pfft! Don’t get me started! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Like many others I've usually swapped enough messages with someone before meeting them for there to be points of reference to share and expand on - the best meets have always been full of laughter and conversation that flows easily as a result.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All sorts. Their weekend, holiday plans, fab stuff.
If they start asking sexual questions I'm likely to remember I have an appointment to get to. Especially if we haven't been chatting much on here.
I met a guy once, I arrived first. He came over after getting a drink, sat down, introduced himself and literally said 'sooo, do you like anal sex?' I was quite new and pretty shocked tbh. I burnt my tongue on my coffee then went off to my appointment!! That nearly put me off guys on here."
I do the same. I never do sex chat before we first meet for a coffee and usually won't do sex chat then either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve chatted a long time before I even do a social, so it’s easy to chat. I don’t talk sex, just normal stuff. I avoid politics and feminism, I tried that once, it didn’t end well! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We probably wont have exchanged that many messages here but thats no problem as I can chat for England and find it more effective getting to know somebody face to face.
We usually just talk about random things, maybe a bit about Fab, how often they have been to the club, is there anywhere hey recommend etc.
I met one guy for a coffee in Costa who proceeded to speak very loudly about anal sex and how much fun I was missing out on. Unfortunately I had left my hair straighteners on and had to go home and unplug them
He messaged later to appologise for being so crude in public and he immediately knew the straighteners thing was my get out excuse and why Id used it."
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"All sorts. Their weekend, holiday plans, fab stuff.
If they start asking sexual questions I'm likely to remember I have an appointment to get to. Especially if we haven't been chatting much on here.
I met a guy once, I arrived first. He came over after getting a drink, sat down, introduced himself and literally said 'sooo, do you like anal sex?' I was quite new and pretty shocked tbh. I burnt my tongue on my coffee then went off to my appointment!! That nearly put me off guys on here.
I do the same. I never do sex chat before we first meet for a coffee and usually won't do sex chat then either. "
I have engaged in sex talk prior to a social before, when he turned up and didn't really look like his pics it was awkward so I don't anymore! I had another 'appointment' that day to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All sorts. Their weekend, holiday plans, fab stuff.
If they start asking sexual questions I'm likely to remember I have an appointment to get to. Especially if we haven't been chatting much on here.
I met a guy once, I arrived first. He came over after getting a drink, sat down, introduced himself and literally said 'sooo, do you like anal sex?' I was quite new and pretty shocked tbh. I burnt my tongue on my coffee then went off to my appointment!! That nearly put me off guys on here.
I do the same. I never do sex chat before we first meet for a coffee and usually won't do sex chat then either.
I have engaged in sex talk prior to a social before, when he turned up and didn't really look like his pics it was awkward so I don't anymore! I had another 'appointment' that day to "
Same reason I don't do it.
Phone on silent... ooh got a text got to go.  |
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