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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a son who lives with his mother, and she is a great mum. She is independent, working, caring, supportive, and a good role model, among other positive things, and so am I (we both cook from scratch as well; healthy living and all that!). But whether modern society or some ‘parenting theories’ like it or not, I find there is something in the father/son male bonding in our situation that my son misses out on without the regular day-to-day contact. His mother and I both recognise this and do our best to allow him as much time with me as possible. Sometimes, my son just needs male company and join in the ‘stuff’ I enjoy (different interests, likes, hobbies, games, style of chatting etc) that his mother cannot offer. He has also learnt since starting secondary school that not all mums and dads who are ‘together’ offer a sound, supportive, loving ‘family’ environment, indeed, it can be worse. On the other hand, spending a good deal of time with his mum has taught him so much about women (and her female friends) which is a good thing, something that might not have happened if we were a ‘couple’ where I suspect my son would lean more towards ‘dad time’. Maybe not, but as it stands, I think his Mum and I have achieved a good balance and so far, the proof is in the pudding, and my little pudding is doing well! |
