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Sex outside of fab? Still do it?

By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Yesterday I attended a lovely company dinner where there were a number of single female colleagues present. One of them, who is currently single again, was putting in some major graft throughout the evening, but I just couldn't be bothered even though she is attractive.

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

Ever since joining fab, i've lost interest in trying to pull in vanilla settings as it just doesn't appeal. On fab I know that we're all here for the same reason and things are (should) be more straightforward and simple. Any one feel this way as well? Thoughts please x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

20 years with Farmer Palmer and his five lovely daughters and I don't plan on giving up any time soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on."

You old romantic you. x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I couldnt wallk up to a bar and ask someones sexual preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Yesterday I attended a lovely company dinner where there were a number of single female colleagues present. One of them, who is currently single again, was putting in some major graft throughout the evening, but I just couldn't be bothered even though she is attractive.

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

So you rely solely on Fab for interaction with females? That’s quite a pressure I would say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be totally honest, I have in the last couple of weeks had more success in the vanilla world than on fab, go figure.

I guess it's someone actually taking the time to look past the visual and seeing the actual person

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

There was a thread yesterday saying exactly the opposite

I think what works for one doesn't work for another is all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

sounds like you missed out lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All of my sex comes outside Fab at present.

When I was here previously it was a mix, Fab was a rare ‘supplement’ to my non-Fab life, exception rather than the norm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink. "

Maybe I’m just fussy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think relying on the internet for sex is a bit odd. It smacks of laziness and lack of social skills to me.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

Maybe you are sub consciously comfortable with the way fab works for you and prefer the no strings casual approach rather than to go through the motions of starting a potential relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink. "

same reason you struggle perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

Maybe I’m just fussy! "

How fussy can you be to not get any sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

Maybe I’m just fussy!

How fussy can you be to not get any sex? "

Well, not that fussy I don’t think. I really don’t get many offers in person though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although I wouldn't have sex with someone I'd just met on a night out, I would take a number.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

same reason you struggle perhaps? "

Doubt it. She probably has a social life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

Maybe I’m just fussy!

How fussy can you be to not get any sex?

Well, not that fussy I don’t think. I really don’t get many offers in person though! "

Don't understand how you can't. You're attractive and probably social and outgoing. You keep yourself in good shape.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

Maybe I’m just fussy!

How fussy can you be to not get any sex? "

I've been in bars and not seen anyone I find attractive. You have to take into consideration they have to be attracted to me too, and single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I still do have sex outside of fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww no if I could I would still love to do the real life flirting. I dont think a virtual flirt can meet the excitement of a sexy smile across a room from someone you fancy. Then wondering will we or won't we, touching for the first time,their smell and prescence

Oof I need to go out more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

sounds like you missed out lol"

This exactly. Just because it was a "vanilla" setting doesn't mean the sex would be.

And what the fuck is vanilla anyway? Good sex is good sex. End of.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

same reason you struggle perhaps?

Doubt it. She probably has a social life "

I don’t have much of a social life to be fair, and live in a very rural area which is probably most of the problem

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Feel exactly the same ,...., I’d be lost in normal situations !

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I have more sex outside of fab.

I think the uncomplicated thing is quite important for you OP and (rightly or wrongly) the assumption is there that it's not if you aren't doing it through fab. You're probably missing out on some great sex - when I meet people whilst out I don't suddenly want a relationship because they put their penis inside me. I imagine other women are the same.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

It's fairly difficult for a couple like us to get casual sex in a normal pub or other social setting. It's much easier to find people on the net.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would definitely have sex outside of fab.. I’d I could get any!

How can you even struggle. You could have loads of sex on and off of fab. Just smile the right way and the guys buying you a drink.

same reason you struggle perhaps?

Doubt it. She probably has a social life

I don’t have much of a social life to be fair, and live in a very rural area which is probably most of the problem"

I live in a city with 2 unis ans a massively active nightlife. I don't get anything because I don't have any social life, friends or not outgoing at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do dating outside of fab. I don't count fab as my social life... just a bit on the side

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Outside of fab appeals to me more, in all honesty. Perhaps that's because my focus has shifted from casual sex, to something a little more meaningful. But i can see your point, if you are solely seeking NSA

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I honestly can’t wven get a message back from a single tinder match either.. strange tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Outside of fab appeals to me more, in all honesty. Perhaps that's because my focus has shifted from casual sex, to something a little more meaningful. But i can see your point, if you are solely seeking NSA

What about tinder or pof?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I honestly can’t wven get a message back from a single tinder match either.. strange tbh

Send bobs and vagene. Duh.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I'm loose and free about where the partners are sourced from - it's about getting to know and understand others. In the flesh a physical attraction can be deduced quickly, so then it's about finding matching spirits.

The need and desire for low commitment sex is not exclusive to Fab or the internet.

Even in fab we're not all here for the same thing. But some things are easy to suss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet people from here and dating sites as looking for more than a casual thing. I want swinging as part of the relationship. So, yes, I do have sex outside of here.

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

So you rely solely on Fab for interaction with females? That’s quite a pressure I would say. "

I interact with females all the time and quite enjoy it. I do however only look for sex on fab at the moment. I've been in a relationship, married before. Been there, done that. Don't want it at this point x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof? "

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof? "
both a bag of shit, I have just deleted my profiles from both

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof?

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

You message and meet up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof? both a bag of shit, I have just deleted my profiles from both"

Agree. Been on POF... is not a dating site for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof? both a bag of shit, I have just deleted my profiles from both

Agree. Been on POF... is not a dating site for me. "

I don't use pof as I don't get into any conversations on there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

So you rely solely on Fab for interaction with females? That’s quite a pressure I would say.

Can i ask why you say females rather than women..

Females makes it sound quite clinical

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof?

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

You message and meet up. "

They are still like fab. Most wanting casual sex. I don't want to message and meet up. I want to initially meet someone in person then hopefully date

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof?

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

You message and meet up.

They are still like fab. Most wanting casual sex. I don't want to message and meet up. I want to initially meet someone in person then hopefully date

Tinder is mixed. 3 of my roommates and a few people I know at uni have met their gfs off of there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof?

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

You message and meet up.

They are still like fab. Most wanting casual sex. I don't want to message and meet up. I want to initially meet someone in person then hopefully date

A friend of mine met her (millionaire) boyfriend on tinder... they got married

Last year

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By *vesham cplCouple over a year ago

Evesham

Of course we have sex outside of fab, we are married and do love and fuck each other xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof?

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

You message and meet up.

They are still like fab. Most wanting casual sex. I don't want to message and meet up. I want to initially meet someone in person then hopefully date

Tinder is mixed. 3 of my roommates and a few people I know at uni have met their gfs off of there. "

I like the idea of socialising and dating, without the need for technology. There is great night life in Cardiff. I miss that. Dating apps make it easier to hit a bigger target group. But i want to try something away from that. It just feels too clinical for me now. I want to go the old fashioned approach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about tinder or pof?

I don't want to go on a dating site. Ideally I'm looking at the socialising and meeting someone i get on with, aspect..... I'm going old school

You message and meet up.

They are still like fab. Most wanting casual sex. I don't want to message and meet up. I want to initially meet someone in person then hopefully date

A friend of mine met her (millionaire) boyfriend on tinder... they got married

Last year "

I just niss the real life interaction. I tried pof before and it just felt clinical. Good for her though! It's nice to hear a happy ending

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh defo have sex in real world otherwise wouldn't get any if was just using this lol

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Some of us went clubbing towards the end and there were a couple of potential situations I could've capitalised on, but again just couldn't be bothered.

So you rely solely on Fab for interaction with females? That’s quite a pressure I would say.

Can i ask why you say females rather than women..

Females makes it sound quite clinical "

I supposed I used it in direct reply to the comment. You're right ofc, women sounds more pleasing and certainly less clinical!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think relying on the internet for sex is a bit odd. It smacks of laziness and lack of social skills to me. "

Yes........ I like meeting people that are not swingers.... you tend to have great conversations....

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