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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it worth is being on here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you have the right attitude, yes.

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By *J RHEAMan over a year ago

S West

Yes if you put the effort in, if you have cock pics and send messages saying want to fuck, you won't get anywhere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. If you use the site effectively! Many, as I understand it, don’t

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here? "

In all honesty??

By asking that question we guess you know the answer for yourself.

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By *oby le roneMan over a year ago

Treorchy

Sure, if you have no expectations youll never be disappointed. Just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's been the best 13 months of my life.

Hard work but rewarding.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I like single guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here? "

I would say yes but you have to put the effort in to reap the rewards

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. I advise all straight single men quit this site immediately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends. Do you enjoy being insulted, belittled and ignored?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes. "

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes if you put the effort in, if you have cock pics and send messages saying want to fuck, you won't get anywhere"

Yet I've seen profiles with 20 veris with 5 cock pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. If you use the site effectively! Many, as I understand it, don’t

How do you use it effectively?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes if you put the effort in, if you have cock pics and send messages saying want to fuck, you won't get anywhere"

Not necessarily true. I've browsed loads of guys profiles, expecting only those with amazing bio's, chiselled bodies and artistic pictures to be the ones who get all the meets. Surprisingly there are plenty of guys on here who literally have 1 or 2 dick pics and no interests etc with multiple meet veris.

So either they're all creating fake profiles to verify themselves or guys can actually get laid with little more than a dick pic as his calling card...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no."

I'm not bothered about it being 1 on 1 or being in threesomes or groups.

Loads seem to have 1 on 1 fun though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends. Do you enjoy being insulted, belittled and ignored?"

This.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's been the best 13 months of my life.

Hard work but rewarding. "

Your age probably helped you massively.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you use Fab as your only method of getting laid, then no.

Think of it as an addition to your sex life and you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you use Fab as your only method of getting laid, then no.

Think of it as an addition to your sex life and you'll be fine "

This man knows.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

I would say yes but you have to put the effort in to reap the rewards"

I've put loads of effort in. Everything short from going to a club or social. Going to a social next month.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends. Do you enjoy being insulted, belittled and ignored?"

All I've had is ignored.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no.

I'm not bothered about it being 1 on 1 or being in threesomes or groups.

Loads seem to have 1 on 1 fun though. "

I can only go on what I hear. The general consensus being the more ‘out there’ you put yourself and build on your presence ‘get your face known’ as it were, the luckier you are in all aspects of the ‘lifestyle’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. I've met some great people that I truly value as friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you use Fab as your only method of getting laid, then no.

Think of it as an addition to your sex life and you'll be fine "

I have been. But what addition can no addition give?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh for fuck sake. More "I'm too young and people ignore me and my profile is bad and I'm mixed race and no one will meet me"

Stop trying to play the sympathy card and give your head a shake

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no.

I'm not bothered about it being 1 on 1 or being in threesomes or groups.

Loads seem to have 1 on 1 fun though.

But I've seen guys here that have been on less than 2 months, with 20 meet veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you use Fab as your only method of getting laid, then no.

Think of it as an addition to your sex life and you'll be fine

I have been. But what addition can no addition give? "

That's all the advice I'm going to give you because no doubt it won't be long before you start another of these threads

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ahh for fuck sake. More "I'm too young and people ignore me and my profile is bad and I'm mixed race and no one will meet me"

Stop trying to play the sympathy card and give your head a shake"

Whose playing the sympathy card?

This has nothing to do with the above mentioned shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site"

How have they done that though?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

I would say yes but you have to put the effort in to reap the rewards

I've put loads of effort in. Everything short from going to a club or social. Going to a social next month. "

that will help you a lot

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

It is for some. Others, nope.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no.

I'm not bothered about it being 1 on 1 or being in threesomes or groups.

Loads seem to have 1 on 1 fun though.

But I've seen guys here that have been on less than 2 months, with 20 meet veris. "

You’re prob talking about ‘nice guy 69’ A) he’s been on before and B) he goes to clubs and socials...

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By *attoo manMan over a year ago

Rhyl

Single males are outnumbered on here 100 to 1. So yes it is hard, but keep at it and it will pay off. You have had some meets already.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you use Fab as your only method of getting laid, then no.

Think of it as an addition to your sex life and you'll be fine

I have been. But what addition can no addition give?

That's all the advice I'm going to give you because no doubt it won't be long before you start another of these threads "

You've had 12 meet veris in the same time I've been here. That's what I don't understand. I'm just trying to see what you have done differently.

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By *oby le roneMan over a year ago

Treorchy

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything. "

Pmsl be grateful, all my views are by men and my messages are rarely opened, if there are they are deleted. I don't complain, I just accept it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's worth beening on here I have met loads of me people and made lots of friends. I'm on here for the social said as well as the sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

I would say yes but you have to put the effort in to reap the rewards

I've put loads of effort in. Everything short from going to a club or social. Going to a social next month.

that will help you a lot"

Why is that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It is for some. Others, nope."

What do you mean by that?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? "
decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? "

You be already mentioned age being a factor and saying you're ignored all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything. "

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

With regard your messages, without knowing the content, I can't speculate why they're being ignored. I can only surmise that the people you message also don't want to meet you, and therefore delete it.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Depends. Do you enjoy being insulted, belittled and ignored?"

What are you saying to be insulted and belittled ?

The ladies not replying isn't really ignoring you, they just don't fancy you which is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Single males are outnumbered on here 100 to 1. So yes it is hard, but keep at it and it will pay off. You have had some meets already."

No. I've had webcam veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? "

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled"

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

I would say yes but you have to put the effort in to reap the rewards

I've put loads of effort in. Everything short from going to a club or social. Going to a social next month.

that will help you a lot

Why is that? "

why do you think? you will be interacting with other people who will (hopefully) give you positive verifications...which are worth more than cam verifications

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By *oby le roneMan over a year ago

Treorchy

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? "

Logged on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

You be already mentioned age being a factor and saying you're ignored all the time"

I've seen guys my age with loads of meet veris though. This is what confuses me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here? "

Think of it as making friends. Anything more than that is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No-ones forcing you to be on here OP. If it isn't for you, leave, it's not rocket science...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's been the best 13 months of my life.

Hard work but rewarding. "

Your life must be really tuff lol

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? "

Would you meet a girl just for a social? Try that. Not all the lasses on here like to meet for sex initially

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For some. It doesn't suit everyone. Personally if something isn't working for me I tend to quit and do something else. If you're struggling to make yourself attractive to others then maybe the internet isn't the best place for you. Some do much better in person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

You be already mentioned age being a factor and saying you're ignored all the time

I've seen guys my age with loads of meet veris though. This is what confuses me. "

They probably don't need everything spelling out for them multiple times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? "

your age is a big factor..... that and all the threads you post don't really seem to do you many favours, although you aren't as prolific or seem as entitled as you used to..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Is it worth is being on here?

Think of it as making friends. Anything more than that is a bonus"

Yes! This!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? "
well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple. "

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything. "

Then it can only be your message content and how you come across on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

Think of it as making friends. Anything more than that is a bonus"

Thats what my profile says. Not that it helps me in any way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything. "

So change your profile and give it a try

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no.

I'm not bothered about it being 1 on 1 or being in threesomes or groups.

Loads seem to have 1 on 1 fun though.

But I've seen guys here that have been on less than 2 months, with 20 meet veris. "

Hy don't you ask them what their secret is? Or copy their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong?

Would you meet a girl just for a social? Try that. Not all the lasses on here like to meet for sex initially "

I am willing to do that. My profile even states that sex is a bonus to a meet.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Is it worth is being on here? "

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes. "

...the OP's fucked then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here? "

Yes, I’m knee deep in clunge. Hope this helps.

All the best X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong?

your age is a big factor..... that and all the threads you post don't really seem to do you many favours, although you aren't as prolific or seem as entitled as you used to.."

I never came across as entitled did I? If I did I never noticed.

Temped to alter my age to be honest. Everyone else does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong?

your age is a big factor..... that and all the threads you post don't really seem to do you many favours, although you aren't as prolific or seem as entitled as you used to..

I never came across as entitled did I? If I did I never noticed.

Temped to alter my age to be honest. Everyone else does. "

This is true. I'm actually 9

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dude! Its definitely worth being on here but honestly you have to go with the approach of; be patient and don't expect anything.

Ive been on here for well over 2 years and its just as hard now to get meets as it was 2 plus years ago. Certain months things get interesting and then nothing happens for 7 months or so.

Some guys are either better at it than others or they are simply geographically based in an area that suits them well.

At the end ofbthe day, it's what you make of it fella. Just don't expect women to flock to your feet, as it doesn't happen.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people"

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding. "

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong?

your age is a big factor..... that and all the threads you post don't really seem to do you many favours, although you aren't as prolific or seem as entitled as you used to..

I never came across as entitled did I? If I did I never noticed.

Temped to alter my age to be honest. Everyone else does. "

EVERYONE?!....... I don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything.

Then it can only be your message content and how you come across on the forums "

My messages do lack humour and charisma but I've never been able to do that.

What has my forum presence got to do with it?

Yes I'm blunt and sometimes get caught up in a heated discussion with people. But isn't that what the forums are about?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful. "

Read that again....slowly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes. "

I'm a complainer. Just come on here to seek a little help from the more successful guys. But then get slandered over being 'too young' and 'complaining'.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything.

Then it can only be your message content and how you come across on the forums

My messages do lack humour and charisma but I've never been able to do that.

What has my forum presence got to do with it?

Yes I'm blunt and sometimes get caught up in a heated discussion with people. But isn't that what the forums are about? "

I've never seen you get into a heated discussion but I have seen you moan an awful lot. Perhaps that's what they mean?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes.

...the OP's fucked then

Haha! I remember the thread where the advice was to go the the Uni bar, the reaction was as if the advice was ‘stand there and let’s chuck bricks at you’.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here? "

Yes. If you have wit, charm, personality and charisma.

Otherwise no. Note - looks didn’t come into it...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly "

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes.

...the OP's fucked then

Haha! I remember the thread where the advice was to go the the Uni bar, the reaction was as if the advice was ‘stand there and let’s chuck bricks at you’.

OMG absolutely LMAO

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything.

Then it can only be your message content and how you come across on the forums

My messages do lack humour and charisma but I've never been able to do that.

What has my forum presence got to do with it?

Yes I'm blunt and sometimes get caught up in a heated discussion with people. But isn't that what the forums are about? "

You once said fat chicks were disgusting and transvestes made you feel sick... you probably aggravate a lot of people with your ‘Katie Hopkins’ style attitude (that’s only forum based tbf, can’t imagine you are inboxing calling people nasty things)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done. "

How do you come to that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

Yes. If you have wit, charm, personality and charisma.

Otherwise no. Note - looks didn’t come into it..."

I wish I could actually have someone to help me with that stuff. I've always struggled with it. Even growing up and going out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection. "

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

It's worth it if you use it properly. For me it has been a gateway to expanding one part of my social life and sexual life. I've used the forums, private messages, my profile, my gallery, the cam rooms to find out how to best behave towards others, to make friends, to meet people. I've gone to socials, to clubs - not with the expectation of instantly getting a shag from a perfectly proportioned beauty, but with the hope of finding interesting people of all shapes, sizes, genders, socio-economic groupings. My outlook on life has been expanded, my circle of friends has got wider, and yes there has been the occasional sexual encounter with lovely lovely ladies, gents, couples, trans people, groups...

None of which would have happened without fab, but also would not have happened without a generous and open outlook towards the people that i have found through fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though?

My idea..

sit a watch for a while. Read some profiles of those guys. See where they stand out above the other men.

Then look at your strengths and adapt your profile around what you're about. Give it some style.

Be polite, but cheeky. Be confident, but not arrogant.

Imagine if you were a woman getting besieged by horny, desperate guys, what would be a blessed relief of a message to receive.

Get in the forums and contribute.

Simple.

But I've seen guys with 2 line profiles and loads of dick pics, with 20 veris. I don't think the profile has anything to do with anything.

Then it can only be your message content and how you come across on the forums

My messages do lack humour and charisma but I've never been able to do that.

What has my forum presence got to do with it?

Yes I'm blunt and sometimes get caught up in a heated discussion with people. But isn't that what the forums are about?

I'm not. Just seems like the guys that are successful are just naturally good at getting into a lasses pants wherever they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection."

I dunno

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

How do you come to that conclusion?"

Because I've probably had around 5000+ views.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Is it worth is being on here?

Yes. If you have wit, charm, personality and charisma.

Otherwise no. Note - looks didn’t come into it...

I wish I could actually have someone to help me with that stuff. I've always struggled with it. Even growing up and going out. "

Well as you’ve said you’re going to the social next month (Sheffield?) that’s good, the successful people make their own opportunities by finding this stuff and making plans to go

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes.

I'm a complainer. Just come on here to seek a little help from the more successful guys. But then get slandered over being 'too young' and 'complaining'. "

You have started loads of similar threads, Been offered shit loads of advice to help you improve your profile and given options to meet Women outside fab, What have you done since you started these type of threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

I dunno

Oh my, I've got all red

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection."

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

Yes. If you have wit, charm, personality and charisma.

Otherwise no. Note - looks didn’t come into it...

I wish I could actually have someone to help me with that stuff. I've always struggled with it. Even growing up and going out.

Well as you’ve said you’re going to the social next month (Sheffield?) that’s good, the successful people make their own opportunities by finding this stuff and making plans to go "

I know that. I want to try la chambre but as its been said before, money is an issue right now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it. "

Like who?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes.

I'm a complainer. Just come on here to seek a little help from the more successful guys. But then get slandered over being 'too young' and 'complaining'.

Profile reads a hell of a lot better, I'm going to a social next month, I'm planning to go to la chambre soon.

What more can I do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

I dunno

Oh my, I've got all red

I’ll stop now then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?"

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

How do you come to that conclusion?

Because I've probably had around 5000+ views. "
that doesn't answer why you think they should have responded

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it."

Well said

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it."

Absolutely this. You are coming across as a bit if an incel right now and that's not terribly attractive.

Your pics are OK but quite run of the mill. Take a look at some of the profiles you perceive as successful and see how they differ from yours.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest. "

Why do you call them fuckboi's?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it."

I haven't thrown it back. They are valid excuses.

I've never been great at this stuff and this is why I make so many posts about it. Knowledge is power and all that.

But you always get people spinning my posts into something they aren't.

This is why I have a bad name on here.

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By *untime2Man over a year ago

Lauder

Op if you publicly alienate people for as long as you have

How can you expect people to think you are worthy of meeting you come across as a guy who needs attention if you truelly wanted to meet people you wouldnt make one thread saying how nice you are

Then another saying how much fat people disgust you

If you have nothing nice to say say nothing

Your card will have been marked due to the amount of complaining you do

So grow up be a man and stop wittering on everyday its mind numbing

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I've put loads of effort in. Everything short from going to a club or social. Going to a social next month. "

‘Everything’.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest. "

So the only people who get meets are fuckbois?

How about you leave Fab, sort shit out, then come back when in a better position.

Start with getting a job and getting some money, then there is no excuse to get out more. You're in Sheffield, a city with more bars than streets and 2 University's. It can't be that hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

How do you come to that conclusion?

Because I've probably had around 5000+ views. that doesn't answer why you think they should have responded "

I didn't mean that they should have responded. I just don't understand why out of all of them, not 1 profile found me good enough to message. Kinda just makes you feel like something is wrong with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

I haven't thrown it back. They are valid excuses.

I've never been great at this stuff and this is why I make so many posts about it. Knowledge is power and all that.

But you always get people spinning my posts into something they aren't.

This is why I have a bad name on here. "

So you're blaming everyone else now. Grow up man, sounding a bit pathetic now tbh...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m 47, I’m not sure ‘fuckboi’ would be entirely appropriate or accurate.

If a middle aged, bisexual, non accommodating, married man like me can make a success of my fab experience, then I’m sure you can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

Absolutely this. You are coming across as a bit if an incel right now and that's not terribly attractive.

Your pics are OK but quite run of the mill. Take a look at some of the profiles you perceive as successful and see how they differ from yours. "

They don't much. The pics are mostly the same. Some are professionally done but I can't get that done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

I haven't thrown it back. They are valid excuses.

I've never been great at this stuff and this is why I make so many posts about it. Knowledge is power and all that.

But you always get people spinning my posts into something they aren't.

This is why I have a bad name on here.

So you're blaming everyone else now. Grow up man, sounding a bit pathetic now tbh..."

this is the OP's usual MO....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you put half as much effort into your profile as you do on forum threads and moaning your diary would probably be booked up till 2019

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

How do you come to that conclusion?

Because I've probably had around 5000+ views. that doesn't answer why you think they should have responded

To those 5000+ people, there is. It's either your profile or your looks, or both.

One you can't change, the other you can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

I haven't thrown it back. They are valid excuses.

I've never been great at this stuff and this is why I make so many posts about it. Knowledge is power and all that.

But you always get people spinning my posts into something they aren't.

This is why I have a bad name on here. "

People are giving you some constructive criticism and you are clearly just throwing it back at them with very whinge comments!

Fuckbois is such a juvenile attitude, sexually immature teenagers use the term! I'd say this is the wrong site for you

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

"Is it worth is being on here?

Yes. If you have wit, charm, personality and charisma.

Otherwise no. Note - looks didn’t come into it...

I wish I could actually have someone to help me with that stuff. I've always struggled with it. Even growing up and going out. "

Growing up can be very difficult..good luck, OP..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

What i would do if i was the op

1) concentrate on getting a job so i have money

2)Put my name down for all the local socials. Get my name known as a decent guy.

3) Take more mature photos. Nice outfit/suit.

4)Look at profiles and listen to succesful guys and get hints and tips.

5)Rewrite my profile to show my interests and what kind of person i want to meet.

6)Send a short message introducing yourself and asking them about themselves. Keep it lighthearted.

7) Network. Network. Network

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

Why do you call them fuckboi's? "

Because thats exactly what them types of guys are. Just go around fucking whoever they want. Don't care about how she feels but just gets themselves sorted out.

Maybe they are a little less selfish on here. But not by much. That's just how this game goes. The ones that are successful in the sex game are the ones that just don't care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think there is a magic formula, some men will do really well and some don't. Being successful hasn't really got that much to do with being body beautiful either. Some married men that may openly describe themselves as old, short, fat and hairy do ridiculously well, but one in particular is a really nice person and you just warm to them.

If you make a fuss about your ripped body and massive cock and you're actually not that ripped and your cock isn't that massive it invites criticism, may not be fair but it will happen.

If people act as a bit of dick on the forums it'll put people off, and first impressions count, so if you annoy people to start with, a lot will remember you.

In fairness you do seem to come across much better than you did a few weeks back.

Oh and socialsand clubs are great as people can see the real you.

Ginger

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Its like everything in life its what you make it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

Absolutely this. You are coming across as a bit if an incel right now and that's not terribly attractive.

Your pics are OK but quite run of the mill. Take a look at some of the profiles you perceive as successful and see how they differ from yours.

They don't much. The pics are mostly the same. Some are professionally done but I can't get that done. "

I don't think many are professionally done, they just use timers and set shots up better. I can't think of anyone I've spoken to that has professional pics done.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? "

Maybe they go to socials or clubs?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Network. That’s the word!

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here?

If you’re a moany grumpy miserable complainer then no.

If you’re not, then yes.

I'm a complainer. Just come on here to seek a little help from the more successful guys. But then get slandered over being 'too young' and 'complaining'.

Profile reads a hell of a lot better, I'm going to a social next month, I'm planning to go to la chambre soon.

What more can I do? "

Wait until next month, See how you get on at the social, Let people see your personality and take it from there

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

Why do you call them fuckboi's?

Because thats exactly what them types of guys are. Just go around fucking whoever they want. Don't care about how she feels but just gets themselves sorted out.

Maybe they are a little less selfish on here. But not by much. That's just how this game goes. The ones that are successful in the sex game are the ones that just don't care. "

Again, I think you are wrong. This is just another excuse to make you feel like the only reason you aren't getting any is because you care more than the other guys. It's not.

Calling successful people names is childish to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

So the only people who get meets are fuckbois?

How about you leave Fab, sort shit out, then come back when in a better position.

Start with getting a job and getting some money, then there is no excuse to get out more. You're in Sheffield, a city with more bars than streets and 2 University's. It can't be that hard "

I seriously hate when people keep saying that. "Theres so many girls about. Just go out and fuck them." maybe its easy for some but not me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

Why do you call them fuckboi's?

Because thats exactly what them types of guys are. Just go around fucking whoever they want. Don't care about how she feels but just gets themselves sorted out.

Maybe they are a little less selfish on here. But not by much. That's just how this game goes. The ones that are successful in the sex game are the ones that just don't care. "

...aaaaannnnd this is exactly the mentality why guys like you have zero chance on here. Stick with pof/tinder etc...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

Why do you call them fuckboi's?

Because thats exactly what them types of guys are. Just go around fucking whoever they want. Don't care about how she feels but just gets themselves sorted out.

Maybe they are a little less selfish on here. But not by much. That's just how this game goes. The ones that are successful in the sex game are the ones that just don't care. "

You my friend, are so full of shit it's unreal.

Just an excuse for everything when you yourself are the problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m 47, I’m not sure ‘fuckboi’ would be entirely appropriate or accurate.

If a middle aged, bisexual, non accommodating, married man like me can make a success of my fab experience, then I’m sure you can. "

You have age on your side and whatever else comes with it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

So the only people who get meets are fuckbois?

How about you leave Fab, sort shit out, then come back when in a better position.

Start with getting a job and getting some money, then there is no excuse to get out more. You're in Sheffield, a city with more bars than streets and 2 University's. It can't be that hard

I seriously hate when people keep saying that. "Theres so many girls about. Just go out and fuck them." maybe its easy for some but not me. "

Do you have any friends outside if here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

So the only people who get meets are fuckbois?

How about you leave Fab, sort shit out, then come back when in a better position.

Start with getting a job and getting some money, then there is no excuse to get out more. You're in Sheffield, a city with more bars than streets and 2 University's. It can't be that hard

I seriously hate when people keep saying that. "Theres so many girls about. Just go out and fuck them." maybe its easy for some but not me. "

I didn't say that did I?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I’m 47, I’m not sure ‘fuckboi’ would be entirely appropriate or accurate.

If a middle aged, bisexual, non accommodating, married man like me can make a success of my fab experience, then I’m sure you can.

You have age on your side and whatever else comes with it. "

I'm starting to see the issue....

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By *p4fun1000Man over a year ago

Manchester

Just persevere.. It'll come in the end. Only just finding my feet lately. Finding a new life wasn't easy but after being widowed years ago this was my only hope

Patience is a virtue!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you put half as much effort into your profile as you do on forum threads and moaning your diary would probably be booked up till 2019

I don't come on here moaning. I come on here trying to learn how to be the charming, charismatic and humorous guy that everyone wants. But people just love to take the piss out of the "loser" guys.

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By *igletchicksterWoman over a year ago

Leicester

"No. I advise all straight single men quit this site immediately.

Hahahaha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

How do you come to that conclusion?

Because I've probably had around 5000+ views. that doesn't answer why you think they should have responded

To those 5000+ people, there is. It's either your profile or your looks, or both.

One you can't change, the other you can. "

But I don't understand whats wrong with my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, I don't know you from Adam. But after witnessing your exchanges, it's clear why nobody wants to meet you.

Everyone is offering good advice and you're shooting it down. If you're not prepeared to help yourself. Why should anyone help you.

I'm out.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"If you put half as much effort into your profile as you do on forum threads and moaning your diary would probably be booked up till 2019

I don't come on here moaning. I come on here trying to learn how to be the charming, charismatic and humorous guy that everyone wants. But people just love to take the piss out of the "loser" guys. "

There has been lots of support and advice in here but you throw it back in everyone's face. It's as if you don't want to change. You say you do but put no effort into doing it.

It's not about age, or money, or fuckboi's. It's about you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What i would do if i was the op

1) concentrate on getting a job so i have money

2)Put my name down for all the local socials. Get my name known as a decent guy.

3) Take more mature photos. Nice outfit/suit.

4)Look at profiles and listen to succesful guys and get hints and tips.

5)Rewrite my profile to show my interests and what kind of person i want to meet.

6)Send a short message introducing yourself and asking them about themselves. Keep it lighthearted.

7) Network. Network. Network"

What do you mean by lighthearted?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

"If you put half as much effort into your profile as you do on forum threads and moaning your diary would probably be booked up till 2019

I don't come on here moaning. I come on here trying to learn how to be the charming, charismatic and humorous guy that everyone wants. But people just love to take the piss out of the "loser" guys. "

Why do you bite to the comments that you think are taking the piss out of you, Take any advice that's being offered and ignore the rest, Its not hard to do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got a new response to your question.

Having read some of your comments and replies to other peoples suggestions, I'd say there is no hope for you here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you put half as much effort into your profile as you do on forum threads and moaning your diary would probably be booked up till 2019

I don't come on here moaning. I come on here trying to learn how to be the charming, charismatic and humorous guy that everyone wants. But people just love to take the piss out of the "loser" guys. "

Ok then OP. There's no moaning on this thread

It's not loser guys that don't get meets it's delusional ones

Go to a social or go to a club. Everyone has literally gave you that advice. Go and do it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

Absolutely this. You are coming across as a bit if an incel right now and that's not terribly attractive.

Your pics are OK but quite run of the mill. Take a look at some of the profiles you perceive as successful and see how they differ from yours.

They don't much. The pics are mostly the same. Some are professionally done but I can't get that done.

I don't think many are professionally done, they just use timers and set shots up better. I can't think of anyone I've spoken to that has professional pics done. "

I literally never take pics of myself. I have no clue what I'm doing when taking them.

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By *urity555Man over a year ago

south west

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection. "

This attitude is exactly what everyone is talking about.

Women like men who are funny, confident & able to hold a good conversation.

Most of your posts are “woe is me”

It’s a major turn off and your attitude reaks of emotional immaturity

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends. Do you enjoy being insulted, belittled and ignored?"

Some men pay good money for that !

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Depends what you’re after I suppose.

For 1-on-1 meets, no.

I'm not bothered about it being 1 on 1 or being in threesomes or groups.

Loads seem to have 1 on 1 fun though. "

Yes, we do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the problem with you OP is that you start these threads as a general advice thing, then somehow it becomes all about you, and then when the (very good) advice comes in you twist around so its everyone elses fault that you can't even get a response to your messages, whereas the problem starts and ends with you....

if you cant see that then maybe you aren't cut out for fab

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"What i would do if i was the op

1) concentrate on getting a job so i have money

2)Put my name down for all the local socials. Get my name known as a decent guy.

3) Take more mature photos. Nice outfit/suit.

4)Look at profiles and listen to succesful guys and get hints and tips.

5)Rewrite my profile to show my interests and what kind of person i want to meet.

6)Send a short message introducing yourself and asking them about themselves. Keep it lighthearted.

7) Network. Network. Network

What do you mean by lighthearted? "
surely you know what lighthearted means? Im not going to write your messages for you

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Is it worth is being on here? "

There is a very simple formula !

If you need to ask the question the answer is absolutely not !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

Why do you call them fuckboi's?

Because thats exactly what them types of guys are. Just go around fucking whoever they want. Don't care about how she feels but just gets themselves sorted out.

Maybe they are a little less selfish on here. But not by much. That's just how this game goes. The ones that are successful in the sex game are the ones that just don't care.

You my friend, are so full of shit it's unreal.

Just an excuse for everything when you yourself are the problem"

I know I'm the issue. I'm not the typical guy that walks into a room and has everyone pining over him. Sorry for being the average guy.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I've got a new response to your question.

Having read some of your comments and replies to other peoples suggestions, I'd say there is no hope for you here. "

I agree, I think that boat has well truly sailed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're all wasting your time! He's a whinging immature boy that's enjoying all the attention he is getting from starting these forum threads

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"If you have the right attitude, yes.

What is the right attitude? I get plenty of views but no messages. They open my messages and never reply. They are not vulgar or anything.

There's an example of the wrong attitude. It comes across as entitled.

Plenty of views and no messages suggests the people looking don't fancy, and in turn, don't wish to meet you.

So you think they aren't attracted to me as a person or just how I look?

One, the other, or both. I don't know them or why they're not responding.

But every person in a 6 month period?

Atleast 10 would have done.

How do you come to that conclusion?

Because I've probably had around 5000+ views. that doesn't answer why you think they should have responded

To those 5000+ people, there is. It's either your profile or your looks, or both.

One you can't change, the other you can.

But I don't understand whats wrong with my profile. "

I’ve gotta be honest here OP, I don’t think there is a lot wrong with your profile, your name seems to be banded about the ‘scene’ and not really for the right reasons.. you come across as a little ‘nasty’ sometimes on the forums... I think the views are most likely off the back of the forum posts. This said nobody has ever met you in ‘real life’ you could be the nicest guy god put on this earth but until you get yourself out there to clubs/socials nobody will have the chance to know the real you.

I’m too going to Sheff social and will make myself known. I’ve been too quick to judge people before and have been wrong, so I look forward to seeing you there

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

So the only people who get meets are fuckbois?

How about you leave Fab, sort shit out, then come back when in a better position.

Start with getting a job and getting some money, then there is no excuse to get out more. You're in Sheffield, a city with more bars than streets and 2 University's. It can't be that hard

I seriously hate when people keep saying that. "Theres so many girls about. Just go out and fuck them." maybe its easy for some but not me.

Do you have any friends outside if here? "

I did but then we grew apart and stopped hanging out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single men are my prey

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m 47, I’m not sure ‘fuckboi’ would be entirely appropriate or accurate.

If a middle aged, bisexual, non accommodating, married man like me can make a success of my fab experience, then I’m sure you can.

You have age on your side and whatever else comes with it.

I'm starting to see the issue.... "

And that is?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Yes. The guys ive met are all successful on this site

How have they done that though? decent profiles. Decent messages. Good conversations. Polite. Respectful. Get themselves to socials. Not entitled

I'm everything except the social part. What have I done so wrong? well your constantly complaining for a start.

What do you say in messages to people

Its usually friendly and has stuff to do with their profile and that we have similar interests.

No humour to it and is pretty bland. I don't know how to make a message humours and cheerful.

Read that again....slowly

I know what I wrote. Not my fault I'm not mr perfection.

Nobody is Mr Perfection.

Sure.... But they do a hell of a job acting like it.

Like who?

Every fuckboi around. Thats the first step of any guy getting an interest.

So the only people who get meets are fuckbois?

How about you leave Fab, sort shit out, then come back when in a better position.

Start with getting a job and getting some money, then there is no excuse to get out more. You're in Sheffield, a city with more bars than streets and 2 University's. It can't be that hard

I seriously hate when people keep saying that. "Theres so many girls about. Just go out and fuck them." maybe its easy for some but not me.

Do you have any friends outside if here?

I did but then we grew apart and stopped hanging out. "

What are your interests ourside of fab?

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

When we open our fab accounts, we all start with a blank page for a profile. What you choose to write on it is entirely your choice, and your responsibility.

Unfortunately, if you don't have any insight, things will not change.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

It’s worth being on here if you get something out of it that gives you pleasure/enjoyment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m 47, I’m not sure ‘fuckboi’ would be entirely appropriate or accurate.

If a middle aged, bisexual, non accommodating, married man like me can make a success of my fab experience, then I’m sure you can.

You have age on your side and whatever else comes with it.

I'm starting to see the issue....

And that is? "

YOU and as you have absolutely no drive to change then what's the point of you being on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well, I don't know you from Adam. But after witnessing your exchanges, it's clear why nobody wants to meet you.

Everyone is offering good advice and you're shooting it down. If you're not prepeared to help yourself. Why should anyone help you.

I'm out. "

How am I shooting them down?

I don't understand why people keep thinking that. I'm just giving them reasons as to why, me as a person ha struggled with it.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

With every thread, I’m more convinced it’s a troll.

Either that or, in a few years time, we’ll be watching the news...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I’m 47, I’m not sure ‘fuckboi’ would be entirely appropriate or accurate.

If a middle aged, bisexual, non accommodating, married man like me can make a success of my fab experience, then I’m sure you can.

You have age on your side and whatever else comes with it. "

Once I got over the age of 45 I wasn’t in loads of people’s age ranges and the number of people interested in me dropped dramatically (‘significantly’ if you like statistics). What comes with age is maturity, confidence and experience. A lady back a few posts said ‘network’: I met a lady off here and afterwards I said ‘recommend me out to your friends’ and a couple of weeks later I got a text ‘meet for a coffee I know so and so’ from an unknown lady so I did, had some great sex with her a few days later. After that, ‘ping!’ Another text and another lady - I was recommended you see, cos I networked. It’s worth the effort going to to a social and talking to people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it worth is being on here? "

Yeah, I enjoy it here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. I advise all straight single men quit this site immediately.

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I don't know you from Adam. But after witnessing your exchanges, it's clear why nobody wants to meet you.

Everyone is offering good advice and you're shooting it down. If you're not prepeared to help yourself. Why should anyone help you.

I'm out.

How am I shooting them down?

I don't understand why people keep thinking that. I'm just giving them reasons as to why, me as a person ha struggled with it. "

Read all the comments

People are trying to help you and you have zero interest, it's as though you want us to do it for you

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Op. I know this is negative but you dont have any self awareness. You dont seem to know when your moaning and complaining. You never take advice just throw back reasons why you cant.

You could be a successful guy.

You live in a central area. Your age doesnt help but there are young guys on here who are mature. Theres also lots of cougar and cub socials.

You could completly turn it around.

You have a product its up to you to sell it.

Absolutely this. You are coming across as a bit if an incel right now and that's not terribly attractive.

Your pics are OK but quite run of the mill. Take a look at some of the profiles you perceive as successful and see how they differ from yours.

They don't much. The pics are mostly the same. Some are professionally done but I can't get that done.

I don't think many are professionally done, they just use timers and set shots up better. I can't think of anyone I've spoken to that has professional pics done.

I literally never take pics of myself. I have no clue what I'm doing when taking them. "

It's all trial and error. Look at some of the pics you think look good, read some of the posts where women say what pics turn them on then take the pics.... You might take 590 just to get one you like but practice makes perfect.

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By *apillonNoirWoman over a year ago

There...

"If you put half as much effort into your profile as you do on forum threads and moaning your diary would probably be booked up till 2019

I don't come on here moaning. I come on here trying to learn how to be the charming, charismatic and humorous guy that everyone wants. But people just love to take the piss out of the "loser" guys. "

I’m not sure charm, charisma and humour can be learnt. Are they innate skills? I’m musing now. Mostly I think those skills come with experience - life as well as sexual.

I don’t think you’re a loser but I do wonder if you read the advice given and think about it rather than rejecting it immediately and finding excuses as to why you can’t possibly follow/implement that advice. You come across as whiny and immature - very unattractive but you know that. Do universities still ask students to practice self reflection? Maybe you could give it a go... good luck.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Well, I don't know you from Adam. But after witnessing your exchanges, it's clear why nobody wants to meet you.

Everyone is offering good advice and you're shooting it down. If you're not prepeared to help yourself. Why should anyone help you.

I'm out.

How am I shooting them down?

I don't understand why people keep thinking that. I'm just giving them reasons as to why, me as a person ha struggled with it. "

Instead of telling us why you can't perhaps think of how you can do some of the things suggested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I don't know you from Adam. But after witnessing your exchanges, it's clear why nobody wants to meet you.

Everyone is offering good advice and you're shooting it down. If you're not prepeared to help yourself. Why should anyone help you.

I'm out.

How am I shooting them down?

I don't understand why people keep thinking that. I'm just giving them reasons as to why, me as a person ha struggled with it. "

how about when someone gives you advice, say thanks and take it on board.... don't question it, just do it

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By *oby le roneMan over a year ago

Treorchy

Best thing you can do is to delete your current profile, start a new one with some new pics. Re invent yourself with a happy go lucky attitude and learn from all your previous experience on here. And always remember, you are good looking to someone. Just have to find them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What i would do if i was the op

1) concentrate on getting a job so i have money

2)Put my name down for all the local socials. Get my name known as a decent guy.

3) Take more mature photos. Nice outfit/suit.

4)Look at profiles and listen to succesful guys and get hints and tips.

5)Rewrite my profile to show my interests and what kind of person i want to meet.

6)Send a short message introducing yourself and asking them about themselves. Keep it lighthearted.

7) Network. Network. Network

What do you mean by lighthearted? surely you know what lighthearted means? Im not going to write your messages for you"

I've never been good with humour or charm or charisma. Its just a different plannet to me. It always has been. I've tried to get advice about it but people just take the piss and say practice makes perfect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most of the single guys I've met have been because I've seen them in the forums or on chat. Their personality has come across and made me want to speak to them.

They are generally relaxed and are here for the social aspect which in turn makes the conversation feel more natural.

As many have said before if a single guy is here looking for sex it's probably not the place but if he wants to join in and make friends then the sex is a bonus. The onus is in joining in though, let people get to know you and the positive things you can offer.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

I'm out..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Another thought, for most people swinging and casual sex is meant to be stress free fun with like minded people. If you come across as having a lack of confidence with women, immature, a lack of social skills, an excuse for every suggestion that is made to you, rude and derogatory to those that don't fit your type then no one is going to pick you for some NSA sex, or anything else.

Imagine if you came across all the above in a female profile, would you meet them?

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you use Fab as your only method of getting laid, then no.

Think of it as an addition to your sex life and you'll be fine

I have been. But what addition can no addition give?

That's all the advice I'm going to give you because no doubt it won't be long before you start another of these threads

You've had 12 meet veris in the same time I've been here. That's what I don't understand. I'm just trying to see what you have done differently. "

Your doing better than me matey !!

Ive been on here and only 2 meets in over a year. 1 was a disaster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds to me like you are not comfortable in your own skin yet.

You have said as much.

It's doubtful things will change until you feel more self assured/confident

All the best

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

All I can suggest is porn and wanking. It’s a good stand-by and also a reason to wash ones socks.

You can wait until the socks can stand up by themselves though, which will reduce the need for laundry visits.

Always look on ththe bright side.

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