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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I came here for friendship without the pressure of a relationship. It wasn't a good time for me to start anything.
I went and caught the feels though and in a way I feel like it's more genuine because we did meet here, neither of us were looking for anything more which I think is the issue with dating sites, people looking for love often see it when it's not there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way?"
You have to jump through too many hoops to get sex on a dating site..
Id rather stay on here and take my chances |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either "
What do you mean to get sex out the way?
I've never been on an accidental date before. What did you think it was?  |
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way?"
I’ve had more meets from POF than from here. More sex also. Pretty much all women on POF say “not looking for ONS or casual,” but if reasonably fit, good company and a good first date, it’s pretty much guaranteed on a second date. Met some wonderful women I have to say, plus a few nutters. Just out of a long term and sexually stagnant marriage so not looking for a serious 1-2-1 relationship and don’t wish to string anyone along that is hoping for that from me. Hence being on here. I find it very refreshing to be amongst other likeminded filthy fuckers and not made to feel I’m something of a pervert. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way?"
I'm here because I'm not looking for a boyfriend, or for someone to 'date'. I'm very happy being single, but celibacy isn't for me. I've never used a 'dating' site,
although I'm told that many of them are essentially full of people who simply want to get laid. |
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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago
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I could use a dating site but just can't dedicate enough of my time to it. Fab relationships are less pressure as there is a mutual understanding right at the start.
Plus I like the verity of Fab. I don't just have to meet single women I can meet couples too.
You don't get that option on a typical dating site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I came here for friendship without the pressure of a relationship. It wasn't a good time for me to start anything.
I went and caught the feels though and in a way I feel like it's more genuine because we did meet here, neither of us were looking for anything more which I think is the issue with dating sites, people looking for love often see it when it's not there. "
That's a really good point, I do think that can happen. People sometimes think it's love because that's what they want. But it's not.
An old friend once said often people just fall in love with the feelings of being happy- and not actually in love with the other person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm here because I'm chronically shy about sexual attraction in the "real world", so Fab gets the awkward bit out of the way for me. Kind of.
I'm not on a dating site because I don't particularly want to date anyone per se. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either
What do you mean to get sex out the way?
I've never been on an accidental date before. What did you think it was? "
I've been with the same guy for 17 years and the thought of it terrifies me
I've known the guy for a few years and he said fancy a drink.I have male friends so I thought he meant just that. Out of the blue he said your funny this is a really nice date  |
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way?"
Cos it's way more awkward asking someone you met on match.com if they fancy visiting somewhere we can have sex outdoors then swap partners with another couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either
What do you mean to get sex out the way?
I've never been on an accidental date before. What did you think it was?
I've been with the same guy for 17 years and the thought of it terrifies me
I've known the guy for a few years and he said fancy a drink.I have male friends so I thought he meant just that. Out of the blue he said your funny this is a really nice date "
Aww that's really sweet.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either
What do you mean to get sex out the way?
I've never been on an accidental date before. What did you think it was?
I've been with the same guy for 17 years and the thought of it terrifies me
I've known the guy for a few years and he said fancy a drink.I have male friends so I thought he meant just that. Out of the blue he said your funny this is a really nice date
Aww that's really sweet. "
What? That I find sex scary  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Happily divorced, single and the date sites end up in bed most of the time anyway..  "
Apparently most dating sites are full of people just wanting a fuck. Hence my 'confusion'. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either
What do you mean to get sex out the way?
I've never been on an accidental date before. What did you think it was?
I've been with the same guy for 17 years and the thought of it terrifies me
I've known the guy for a few years and he said fancy a drink.I have male friends so I thought he meant just that. Out of the blue he said your funny this is a really nice date
Aww that's really sweet.
What? That I find sex scary "
Ha.. no! That he was having a nice time. 
And you weren't even trying to impress him (like people often do on first dates)- he liked the 'real' you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We think they should change the name of the site from a swinging site to an adult site of whatever name,to make it more lucid to anyone looking for a sex site.
Never going to happen because of branding. But salad cream is changing its name as many other products have done, so just maybe.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I were single and looking for one-to-one sex, my starting point would be a dating site, as was the case 15 years ago. I prefer to have a ‘date’ prior to sex, and I dislike this Fab thing about meeting for a coffee social which I regard as decidedly unerotic. That being said, if I were to find that guys from dating sites objected to me having multiple partners, then I guess i’d have to use a swingers site instead and hope to find the guys who are willing to date me and not get jealous. But it’s all hypothetical because I’m not single.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not on any other sites.
Originally my reasons were complex but probably more just about sex and a diversion from the ordinary day to day stuff. Then I discovered the forums...
Now it's even more complex and probably a lot less easy than when I first joined. Sex can be easy, but sex in a vacuum with no connection now feels more than a little bit soulless.
And those connections can make it so complicated....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm here because I went on a date (didn't know it was one until the middle of it) and I shat it when the guy suggested going back to his. I joined to get sex out the way but it turns out I can't even do that either
What do you mean to get sex out the way?
I've never been on an accidental date before. What did you think it was?
I've been with the same guy for 17 years and the thought of it terrifies me
I've known the guy for a few years and he said fancy a drink.I have male friends so I thought he meant just that. Out of the blue he said your funny this is a really nice date
Aww that's really sweet.
What? That I find sex scary
Ha.. no! That he was having a nice time.
And you weren't even trying to impress him (like people often do on first dates)- he liked the 'real' you. "
Well he never flinched when I snorted my drink back in my glass when he said it was a date so he must have done |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I look on here because many men are ashamed to be looking for sex on a site like this and so will be more likely to be discreet.
An ashamed man won't be admitting to his mates that he fucked some slag of a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not on any other sites.
Originally my reasons were complex but probably more just about sex and a diversion from the ordinary day to day stuff. Then I discovered the forums...
Now it's even more complex and probably a lot less easy than when I first joined. Sex can be easy, but sex in a vacuum with no connection now feels more than a little bit soulless.
And those connections can make it so complicated....
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Agree. Wish I knew where the middle ground was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look on here because many men are ashamed to be looking for sex on a site like this and so will be more likely to be discreet.
An ashamed man won't be admitting to his mates that he fucked some slag of a woman. "
Slag is an awful word. Being sexually liberated doesn’t make anyone a slag, whichever gender. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I look on here because many men are ashamed to be looking for sex on a site like this and so will be more likely to be discreet.
An ashamed man won't be admitting to his mates that he fucked some slag of a woman.
Slag is an awful word. Being sexually liberated doesn’t make anyone a slag, whichever gender. "
Agree. But their words not mine.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m here because all the dating sites are like shag sites... and I don’t want a relationship at the moment.. Also I have a kinky side and want to explore things sexually.. so on here you don’t have to pretend to be something your not and can do all those things without pretending to date or go through the rigamoral of having a ‘first date’ and all that entails!!!
I also am enjoying the social side and making some friends!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tried dating sites and found them more frustrating than here, at what point can you drop in the conversation that you like sex in my experience I either get them running for the hills or assuming I’m easy. It’s easier to sort the sex bit here and potentially the dating bit too  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?"
Because we are a couple and looking to swing together is I was on a dating site and she didn't know I might not be having sex ever again (depends on how good the surgeon was) |
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Well, I'm on the dating sites as well, but I joined this and the other place beginning with F because I'm curious and open to expanding my horizons.
Seeing as I get bored after about 5 swipes and hardly ever message anyone though, I'm probably not giving myself very decent odds... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd invest time after meeting someone on a conventional dating site, to find when you finally got them into bed that sex was a huge anti-climax. I resented the wasted time! There's no pretense here; everyone understands the motivation. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"Because I love sex and hate the lies and lines to get you into bed.... on this site our intentions are clear without the subterfuge "
Yep, this is me too.
However, I did join a dating site today, it’s swipe based, but only the woman can message first. I feel the need to dip in now and again to see if I’m missing anything, it doesn’t last long |
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"I'd invest time after meeting someone on a conventional dating site, to find when you finally got them into bed that sex was a huge anti-climax. I resented the wasted time! "
Haha, yeah me too, I started to think I was never going to have decent sex again!! That's when I caved in and finally said yes to some handsome young buck who swore he'd 'Fuck me properly'..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On POF the men wanted tea/dinner/drinks etc before or after sex.
Although I quite like a drink before I fuck I got the impression they wanted it so they didn't feel bad about having casual sex with a stranger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe i'm old fashioned, i don't know. But i have always regarded dating sites as sites to look for a date that might lead to a relationship. I don't want a relationship and havn't wanted one since my wife died. I do want sex though, this is the perfect place for me because it works. We all know what we are here for, no need to bullshit and no need to tippy toe around a woman because she is looking for the same as me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like sensual sex and exploring, without the complications of a committed relationship. Bizarrely I achieved that for a while on a dating site because I was always upfront about exactly what I do and don't want and that sat well with a couple of ladies for a good while. I rather naively thought finding that would be easier on here, but not so... |
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way?"
Unfortunately dating sites seem not to cater for couples , otherwise we would look for sex on them too |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Why are you looking for sex on here and not a 'dating site'?
Do you find that people treat you differently on different types of sites? If so, in what way?"
Because we aren't looking to date ...happily married (wife also on here) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex is definitely better on here! I prefer the open-ness you can have with fab, especially as part of a couple. Also not quite as judgey and we’re much less likely to be recognised! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because putting that I want to tie a woman up, blindfold her and do lots of naughty stuff to her with toys, my fingers and cock would probably get me reported on m@tch.com |
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